Can a marriage have zero sex?

[toyotom]

I have been lurking around to seek answers but cant find any.

My wife and i have been dating for 5 years and married for a year now and has not tried penetration sex even once. Reason for the marriage is my passing on grandparent, to let them see me get married.

Pior to this, i have no problem on bed as proven by ex gfs.

My current wife has zero sex drive and help handjob only because i requested. No sex as every time i tried with her, she is completely dry and she complains pain. Yes she is still a virgin.

During this one year, i have been patronising paid sex to fulfil my needs. I dont think this can go on further...

[waaaaaa]

Get some lubricant to help. Once u pop the cherry. Open her eyes to sex. No turning back

[bignehneh]

Originally Posted by toyotom

I have been lurking around to seek answers but cant find any.

My wife and i have been dating for 5 years and married for a year now and has not tried penetration sex even once. Reason for the marriage is my passing on grandparent, to let them see me get married.

Pior to this, i have no problem on bed as proven by ex gfs.

My current wife has zero sex drive and help handjob only because i requested. No sex as every time i tried with her, she is completely dry and she complains pain. Yes she is still a virgin.

During this one year, i have been patronising paid sex to fulfil my needs. I dont think this can go on further...

You marry her because you like her or your grand parents like her? Does she love you?

[tanman]

For this kind of cases, the most basic thing and minimum requirement is that you must know if your wife even love you. If she does not, then there is not much you can do which leads to the question why marriage in the first place. For that its your personal reasons which is not necessary to share here. Secondly, if there is love in the first place, what you should do is to make her feel loved without expecting sex at first. You have to make sure she feels bery good, even better if she cums. But all these while, pla dont expect to have sex . Slowly, when she is able to climax without you making penetrating love to her, she will come
Round eventually. Ask yourself, did you kiss her gd morning or gd night? Did you hug her from behind and kiss her cheek? Do you have romantic bath with her? Without expecting sex? If you can romance her at first without expecting sex, sex will come eventually. But of cos, there must be love and attraction in the first place. If you are just married and nothing romantic has occurred so far as i stated above, then you have to ask yourself why in the first place.

[silverblue]

Originally Posted by toyotom

I have been lurking around to seek answers but cant find any.

My wife and i have been dating for 5 years and married for a year now and has not tried penetration sex even once. Reason for the marriage is my passing on grandparent, to let them see me get married.

Pior to this, i have no problem on bed as proven by ex gfs.

My current wife has zero sex drive and help handjob only because i requested. No sex as every time i tried with her, she is completely dry and she complains pain. Yes she is still a virgin.

During this one year, i have been patronising paid sex to fulfil my needs. I dont think this can go on further...

Is your wife hot and pretty? Can u show us her picture so we can understand the situation better?

[I Love Boobs]

Another dysfunctional relationship.
Divorce is imminent

[Capricorn69]

Just need to give her training. You can find willing trainers here

[sexcision]

Wow, unbelieveable....
Maybe ur wife had some dark past whereby she was sextually abuse?

It is virtually not possible for 2 person of the opposite sex who love each other, to be be sleeping next to each other without any sexual tension.

Or she had some release outside all these while, while you are thinking that's she's still a virgin?

How is it even possible for you to restrain raping her for the past 5 years?

I think if she won't talk to you dispite being married for so long. There's definately something going on.

[hatyaiking]

Get into a romantic bath and show her the power of your tongue-fu.
Get her wet and hungry for more.
If it doesn't works, please look for a sex therapist .

[throwawayournam]

Originally Posted by toyotom

I have been lurking around to seek answers but cant find any.

My wife and i have been dating for 5 years and married for a year now and has not tried penetration sex even once. Reason for the marriage is my passing on grandparent, to let them see me get married.

Pior to this, i have no problem on bed as proven by ex gfs.

My current wife has zero sex drive and help handjob only because i requested. No sex as every time i tried with her, she is completely dry and she complains pain. Yes she is still a virgin.

During this one year, i have been patronising paid sex to fulfil my needs. I dont think this can go on further...

Hey bro, I'm in a similar situation to you... been dating the gf for 5 years and only recently have tried to have sex. Before, she was very scared of pain and the idea of sex but finally decided to try. But even though she's willing to try now, her hole is damn small and she used to say painful even when it was one finger (much less my dick). At first I was quite upset la, but after dating for some time now at least she willing to try. Been working our way up to it from one finger, to two fingers now and sex seems like an achievable target. Her sex drive even seems to be growing a bit! It might not be in the next week, or even the next month but I'm willing to hang in there.

I'm sure many of the experienced bros here will find this story laughable la, I think. But if you love your wife for the other 95% of things in life that aren't sex - as long as she's willing to work on it too you can be patient and think of it as something to work on together.

[yowtf]

How is it possible to sustain a relationship without sex?

[afterburn]

Originally Posted by yowtf

How is it possible to sustain a relationship without sex?

It's possible when the couple grows old

[Greenfrog]

Originally Posted by afterburn

It's possible when the couple grows old

some guys can still go even at 60..

ladies is another story.

[alea]

What are both your thoughts on having children? If both of you want children, then at some point you would have to consummate your marriage.

[nothuman]

Yes! I’m marriage for nearly 6years and we still haven have sex.
Hopefully I wont die as a virgin 😭