Why do men stop being attentive to their wives after kids arrive?

[Lingeringly]

Why is it that the spark, romance & passion go out of the marriage after kids arrive? How do the married ones here keep up the communication & spark? Mid 30s & Xian of the lack of communication with hub...

[larue]

The question could quite easily also be 'why do women stop being attentive to their husbands after kids arrive'.

I suppose it varies from individual to individual, but it takes effort and sacrifice from both to keep things fresh and interesting after so long, especially when everyone is busy with a million other things, especially kids.

Not everyone is willing to do what is necessary to prevent the familiarity from turning into contempt.

Marriage really isn't easy at all.

[middleofnowhere]

Originally Posted by larue

The question could quite easily also be 'why do women stop being attentive to their husbands after kids arrive'.

I suppose it varies from individual to individual, but it takes effort and sacrifice from both to keep things fresh and interesting after so long, especially when everyone is busy with a million other things, especially kids.

Not everyone is willing to do what is necessary to prevent the familiarity from turning into contempt.

Marriage really isn't easy at all.

Yup, I agree that both parties could have contributed equally to this.

[hongkongdoggy]

LOl...easy mah.....if a woman behave and dress like old aunty of course man will go look elsewhere!

[sammyboyfor]

If your wife looked like this would you still be attentive?

[w00f]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

If your wife looked like this would you still be attentive?

Is this that ah soh who kpkb at a handicap food court cleaner? i wanna puke ler!

[demonhunter]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

If your wife looked like this would you still be attentive?

I would popping Viagras like M & M's

[Xyberduke]

This is because kids are attention grabbers. And both parent has to pay attention, and thus lesser attention is left for each other.
It is important to manage this or your marriage will fall apart once your kids are independent.

[AAAPRC888]

Originally Posted by Lingeringly

Why is it that the spark, romance & passion go out of the marriage after kids arrive? How do the married ones here keep up the communication & spark? Mid 30s & Xian of the lack of communication with hub...

Maybe because of insufficient sex

[ringo6668]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

If your wife looked like this would you still be attentive?

FUCK...lan Jiao also buay upp man.

[Gaofar]

Hey sis TS,

Sorry to hear that about your story. How I wished my ex-wife is thinking like you when we are still together... 😓

Well, my situation is the exact role-reversal of yours.. I was the one trying to savage our marriage by trying to go for datings, movies, tours, even like last time when we literally fuck anywhere kind of mentality.. She's ice-cold to all these and just brushed off to say simply that she is tired and want to rest, every single time... It became so bad that she treats me like air and never greets me back even when I greeted her when she came back home..

The later part of my life story involves me being real stupid and silly to get involved with an FL, but that's for another day lah.. 😁😅 Now thinking back, I believe that what I should have done is to seek counselling from support groups or medical groups..

Anyway, do hold fast for your husband and your family as it is exactly these moments that will makes you weakest and easily do foolish things..

[Gaofar]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

If your wife looked like this would you still be attentive?

Seriously loh, to me now even if my wife looks like that but she's willing to do anything I ask for and to always wants to partake any sweet nothings between ourselves, I don't mind she looks like that loh.. Of course lah, keep healthy is important and can do a couple exercise together mah.. 😁😁

[porscheclub]

Originally Posted by Lingeringly

Why is it that the spark, romance & passion go out of the marriage after kids arrive? How do the married ones here keep up the communication & spark? Mid 30s & Xian of the lack of communication with hub...

Sis, both parents must always take some vacations without the kids to spend some private time together. Fall in love again with the same partners, an uphill task but it takes both hands to keep the romance burning.

Men are visual creatures so remember to maintain yourself alright.

[D-joker]

Last time i with you only. You are my 1 and only. Of coz i give you 100percent attention lah. Now we got another baby, so i split half lah.
Then hor you are an adult should be able to take care of yourself mah. So i give another 10percent to the kid.
Then hor the kid definitely more adorable then you the mah. So another 10percent.
Then hor, after giving birth, your figure out of shape liao mah and cannot make love. So i give another 10 to my kid.
Then hor, you start to nag and kpkb, so another 10 more to the kid. And if you are going to make life more difficult for me. I will just take the kid. You can go off, its ok, i cant get another gal de.

The question here is why are you not able to make your hubby attentive to you instead of asking why we are not attentive to you.

Its the same as asking what can you do for the world instead of asking what the world did to you.