Husband rejected me

[mangostickyrice]

212am, lying next to my husband and feeling super angsty that i can't even fall asleep. He rejected me for the first time today.

To be frank, our sex life has been pretty boring ever since after marriage. It always start with a blowjob and he will just penetrate me straight. If im lucky, i get some boobs grabbing or licking. Sex life was so much better before marriage.

Sigh, is it true that as guys age their sex drive drop? He is 10years my senior and im still in my mid twenties.

Feel so lonely and dejected tonight.

[Ntspannar]

Can imagine your inbox is gonna be full of messages soon lol

[Bestwife]

My wife just wanted me to lick,squeeze n suck her boobs before I insert. Nothing abt me.

[Rickey]

Originally Posted by mangostickyrice

212am, lying next to my husband and feeling super angsty that i can't even fall asleep. He rejected me for the first time today.

To be frank, our sex life has been pretty boring ever since after marriage. It always start with a blowjob and he will just penetrate me straight. If im lucky, i get some boobs grabbing or licking. Sex life was so much better before marriage.

Sigh, is it true that as guys age their sex drive drop? He is 10years my senior and im still in my mid twenties.

Feel so lonely and dejected tonight.

Quite a familiar situation & story tat we are reading & hearing abt all the time here in tis forum from u wifeys about yr sex wif yr hubbies...Hmmm..mid 30s & still lidat ???...still very young man leh ..no I dun tink so men's sex drive goes lower with age unless they reach their 70s or more...there may be other problems like work related issues or other kinds of daily stress which may affect his libido..spicing up yr sex life wif him is wat u shd do...dun need to wait for him to initiate..you can start by seducing him by wearing sexy lingerie b4 bedtime action or do kinky roleplays wif each other which makes many couples enjoy their sexing !! ...feel free to let me know if u want to know more details...

[tonyseng]

Babe, maybe yr hubby tired after work. Yr hubby is yr first bf?

[mangostickyrice]

Originally Posted by Rickey

Quite a familiar situation & story tat we are reading & hearing abt all the time here in tis forum from u wifeys about yr sex wif yr hubbies...Hmmm..mid 30s & still lidat ???...still very young man leh ..no I dun tink so men's sex drive goes lower with age unless they reach their 70s or more...there may be other problems like work related issues or other kinds of daily stress which may affect his libido..spicing up yr sex life wif him is wat u shd do...dun need to wait for him to initiate..you can start by seducing him by wearing sexy lingerie b4 bedtime action or do roleplays wif each other which makes many couples enjoy their sexing !! ...feel free to let me know if u want to know more details...

But but but. I've been initiating too. I dare say out of 10 times, i initiate at least 7 times. thing is we are pretty open with our sex life. I'm even open to mff but he thought its too much of a risk? Like he's afraid it will affect our marriage somehow.

[mangostickyrice]

Originally Posted by tonyseng

Babe, maybe yr hubby tired after work. Yr hubby is yr first bf?

Nope he isn't my first.

[leslielam]

Have you thought of getting a fuck buddy?

[guldon]

Well, mine is worst.
I've not have sex with my wife for years.
Think... About 4 years?!
To think that we man love sex. "Mostly"
When just married, sex life is good. Miss those days.
I still remember what my wife tell me the last time I ask for it.
Few weeks before the "incident "
When I ask for it, she was always tired. Then, got chance that she rest for 3 days. ( yes, she working ) I tell myself, good chance, I put my kids to sleep early, done everything nicely. And when the times come...... " I want to sleep"..... I was like.... "What the hell..!"... I was thinking Maybe she not good mode.. Few days later, finally we did it, but no..! We did it for 10 mins and she was like " still haven't cum?" And she just disengage and go bath. Guy might know the feeling... Then few days later, I ask for it again, she just give me a HJ with a Sian look... And finally, the last time I ask, she just said " do it yourself lah"... That's the last time I ever ask my wife.
Ppl might think my wife got affairs outside, but I dont want to think about that. I was always thinking of my kids before I act.
I'm just 40, but my drive for sex still high and I know, stress and physical stress will effect the mode for sex. Wish I got a fb... LoL...

[computerGuy]

TS, theres always ups and down.
Me, married 4-5years. Wife and me 20+. She "dropped" the idea of sex when our kid is out. "faster cum" is all she say ever since. Sometimes she dont even want to remove her top when we are on it.. And its been like 2 years since i get a bj?
im quite horny, need at least 2x a week(its everyday for the first year for me, lol)
But all in all, she give me at least 1x a week. Oh well, at least theres something.

Not sure about your case, maybe he's tired? try bringing up the mood or something?
And you mentioned its the first time only?

Cheers

[99099]

Originally Posted by mangostickyrice

212am, lying next to my husband and feeling super angsty that i can't even fall asleep. He rejected me for the first time today.

To be frank, our sex life has been pretty boring ever since after marriage. It always start with a blowjob and he will just penetrate me straight. If im lucky, i get some boobs grabbing or licking. Sex life was so much better before marriage.

Sigh, is it true that as guys age their sex drive drop? He is 10years my senior and im still in my mid twenties.

Feel so lonely and dejected tonight.

TS, you can always seek alternative? Really depends on yourself.

Either you have a good talk with your hubby about each other needs or seek alternative!

Both of you are just too young to talk about lower sex drive.

[Kelvyn]

If u r daring enough, im sure alot of guys here will b willing enough to fill your lonliness

[archer69]

Originally Posted by mangostickyrice

212am, lying next to my husband and feeling super angsty that i can't even fall asleep. He rejected me for the first time today.

To be frank, our sex life has been pretty boring ever since after marriage. It always start with a blowjob and he will just penetrate me straight. If im lucky, i get some boobs grabbing or licking. Sex life was so much better before marriage.

Sigh, is it true that as guys age their sex drive drop? He is 10years my senior and im still in my mid twenties.

Feel so lonely and dejected tonight.

I'm willing to fulfill his lacking, pm me if you are interested

[Ryoshohei]

I think many people here are mistaking sex with making love. And that for man, there is no need to take note of their emotional needs as well.

It is true that while man are more horny by nature, and that when they are horny, no other emotions are needed for sex. But for married couples, sometimes showing concern about a man's emotional needs can also go a long way in improving bed life.

My suggestion will be to show some care and concern, cook some good food, plan some activities to get into the mood (e.g. watching some romantic movie with steamy scenes or dancing with subtle teasing etc.). Tease your man! Make him crave for you

[5ag1_Boar]

I'm mid 40s, sex drive is still high, erections still rock hard, so its not an age thing. But it depends guy to guy. Sometimes low drive is due to stress, health, anxiety (about sex or other stuff)... many causes. He might be shy to talk to you about it. Or something about your sex life has affected him and its building up.

You guys got to talk. Is the rest of your relationship ok? Besides poor sex life, if the rest of your relationship also not as good as before?

Go for marriage counselling. Ya, some people think its useless, but give it a try. Sometimes couples need help to talk heart to heart. You don't have to start together. Check around for a good one (relationship forums, friends, Google, etc) go by yourself first and get started to sort your own feelings out first. At some point, the counsellor will teach you how to convince hubby to come along.