Pregnant KTV girl!

[NDSTRKT]

Hi, met my friend last night who asked for my advice. I did not know how to answer him and would like to seek the advice of the crowd here.

He met this KTV girl beginning of the year and they started a relationship. The girl was on a study pass, but since then had a fake marriage with another Singaporean man. He accidentally came inside her once, and 2 weeks later the girl said she was pregnant. Subsequent clinic testing proved her right. He was amazed as she seemed to know so quickly, and only after one shot during her "safe" day and of course suspect its not his. He gave her 2k for abortion but she did not abort. Later came to ask for more money 2 more times with some sob story about family problems, medical problems etc. When he did not give her money, she threatened to show up at his doorstep with the baby after give birth. He refused again.

What can my friend do?
1. If the baby is his, can the girl just dump the baby to him (he not married), as she is in a fake marriage? She threaten to do that and then run off back to her own country and never come back.
2. Should he report her to authorities now, given that she is staying in a sublet flat with many other ktv girls, and is also in a fake marriage?
3. Should he try to dangle 10k in front of her and ask her to abort before it's too late to abort?

Please do not post insulting or judgmental comments. Sincere and helpful advice (especially on the legal side) is appreciated. Thank you.

[volcano]

why give money???


bring the gal to the hospital and abort it

[Risis]

So if I read correctly, the situation is:

1. The KTV girl is in a sham marriage with another Singaporean - not your friend.

2. The girl is pregnant and your friend isn't sure if it is his to begin with.

Based on this, the answer is fairly obvious correct?
They will want money non-stop and will never abort willingly. Girls from China have very different values and will use a kid to tie a guy down for perpetual money, not family love. Get this in your head and decide.

You can either - Draw a line and offer a sum to her and end things totally or you can choose to get sucked into a bottomless pit of money dishing for the rest of your life for a kid your friend isn't even sure - is his.

anyway, if your friend is single and has no family - then he can simply walk away without paying anything. But if he has family - pay and settle it one time and be firm. Else the beginning of the end is here for him

Hope this puts things in perspective.

[guygaga]

TS not sure if the "he" is referring to u?
Anyway, my advice is stay clear cut from this KTV lady. Change or off the HP number for a while until she backed off. Don't think this lady will have the address unless he brought her back to own house, then GG! I doubt and suppose if 2 weeks is so fast for her to know that she is pregnant unless she knew she was pregnant with someone else and trying to find another Robert. Hopefully my logical thinking helps some advice.

Anyway, all the best for 2014 and happy new year!

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Happy New Year one & all. It is sad to see local men endlessly being SNOOK by whores. Too much theory learn in school till practical, REAL LIFE situations dunno how to handle.
Advice for ur friend, totally non judgmental:
1) Is he ready to accept the fact that maybe that baby is his?
2) A woman has the right LEGALLY not to abort a baby even if the man wanted her to
3) Sham marriages r very common, but it is also ur key advantage
4) Is ur fren ready to destroy her "LEGALLY" just to fix this case?
5) Ur fren 放得下 or not?
If so, very simple, POH MATA!

[Starlight85]

Em correct me if I'm wrong, abortion cost about 400, y give 2k?

Happy new year
all of us
HUAT HUAT HUAT AH!!!!!!

[Castrol]

Originally Posted by Starlight85

Em correct me if I'm wrong, abortion cost about 400, y give 2k?

tips and shark fins etc what...

[Mavrick69]

Originally Posted by Starlight85

Em correct me if I'm wrong, abortion cost about 400, y give 2k?

Happy new year
all of us
HUAT HUAT HUAT AH!!!!!!

It is more than 400 SGD for sure

[Mavrick69]

Originally Posted by Castrol

tips and shark fins etc what...

Hahahaha, true

[Ken79]

wa your fren so daring dare to have unprotected sex with her, like what other bros suggested bring her to the hospital directly for the abortion.

[psgboy]

Originally Posted by Risis

So if I read correctly, the situation is:

Girls from China have very different values and will use a kid to tie a guy down for perpetual money, not family love. Get this in your head and decide.

Apply for those that come here to work in KTVs/GL/FLs...

Those really rich ones will not use this method...

[dandandandandan]

Originally Posted by NDSTRKT

Hi, met my friend last night who asked for my advice. I did not know how to answer him and would like to seek the advice of the crowd here.

He met this KTV girl beginning of the year and they started a relationship. The girl was on a study pass, but since then had a fake marriage with another Singaporean man. He accidentally came inside her once, and 2 weeks later the girl said she was pregnant. Subsequent clinic testing proved her right. He was amazed as she seemed to know so quickly, and only after one shot during her "safe" day and of course suspect its not his. He gave her 2k for abortion but she did not abort. Later came to ask for more money 2 more times with some sob story about family problems, medical problems etc. When he did not give her money, she threatened to show up at his doorstep with the baby after give birth. He refused again.

What can my friend do?
1. If the baby is his, can the girl just dump the baby to him (he not married), as she is in a fake marriage? She threaten to do that and then run off back to her own country and never come back.
2. Should he report her to authorities now, given that she is staying in a sublet flat with many other ktv girls, and is also in a fake marriage?
3. Should he try to dangle 10k in front of her and ask her to abort before it's too late to abort?

Please do not post insulting or judgmental comments. Sincere and helpful advice (especially on the legal side) is appreciated. Thank you.

Since your friend is not married, things get much simpler and straightforward.

[JoLim]

Hi TS

Chances are the child doesn't belong to your friend or the girl is not pregnant. Personally bring her to clinic for checkup again.
IMHO she is cheating money.

[SuArEzZ]

Originally Posted by Starlight85

Em correct me if I'm wrong, abortion cost about 400, y give 2k?

Happy new year
all of us
HUAT HUAT HUAT AH!!!!!!

400? I don't think you can get that kind of price now unless it is a backlane abortionist type of operator. Even the neighborhood GP charges minimum of 500 for simple abortion and can go up to 1K depending on the length of pregnancy.
I know specialist gynaes who does abortions will not do it for less than 1K.

[sherrry]

To the TS,
I firmly believe that this KTV girl is all out for $ and she's playing her cards very well. Who knows how many guys are suffering from her pregnancy harressment by now?

It is safe to say that any girl who walks down this road, is almost guaranteed that they are not mentally, emotionally, financially ready to settle down. Almost 90% of them will have enough reasons to film a cannes award winning movie.

If he firmly believes that he's the one-and-only; that she's consented to unprotected intercourse with him, and permitted him to unload his seeds inside her, surely he's got to be kidding himself.

If he is certain that he did his math correctly, he doesn't have to concern himself with her raided womb.

Solution: Ignore her harressment. If she does make a scene at his residence, get the police to remove her.

Lesson 1: I've had encounters where girls have requested for my seed inside them, no words can describe that temptation. But when I imagine them to be calling me from whichever corner of the world, asking for allowance for diaper, milk powder & other maintenance, the figures can snowball to be something impossible to manage.

Bonk with small head, but use the big head to choose where you unload.

Lesson 2: Benefit of doubt given that the girl truly wants a relationship...
1. She will have her own issues & burdens sorted out, without even having you meddle with her mess.
2. She will remove herself from the environment without you asking.
3. She will do her due diligence to ensure her health condition is prestine, and revert to normal human lifestyle.
4. She will be willing to discuss future plans, family plans, goals & dreams, milestones.
5. She will look forward to a proper marriage before ever thinking about intercourse, let alone unprotected intercourse.

P.S.: If any part of 1-5 isn't fulfilled, each is worth 20% chance that she will come haunting in the aftermath