BGR driving me crazy

[KCisBad]

Man i thought i am done with those Relationship BS when i stepped out of high school.

But here am i again.

What should i do?

Long story short.

I like this girl.
We msg very frequent like 1 msg every 30mins on avg the whole day!
Soemtimes 1 msg every 2 mins.

And its more to flirting already, and sometimes romantic, and caring.
But each time i ask her out, she finds an excuse.
I can feel it.

Then when another guy ask her out, she agrees.

What the F**K???!

I am so confused.


Need some advice or knock some sense into me guys.
Any opinions are appreciated.

[fulham]

playing hard to get?

[oxeso]

Originally Posted by KCisBad

Need some advice or knock some sense into me guys.
Any opinions are appreciated.

Ts,
since u said so,do excuse me for being blunt. Since it's pretty relative,i can only guess.
Maybe all she wants is d feeling of being courted.
Maybe she's juz another flirt.
Maybe she have better choices,thus keeping u as a spare.
Many possibilities tat i can pen,but i dun wanna be a bore.
Placed in ur position,i wouldn't persist. Life taught me to be more rational,take more turns to c wat's available at d next corner.(esp when it leads u to a blur,or nowhere.)
Do more ventures,diversify ur investments.My 2 cents n i hope it gets u there.
Gd luck ya..

[karoosel]

...perhaps she is just not into you..?

[Gentle Beast]

Take a chance and stop messaging her. Give short replies, like OK. If she is sincere about the relationship she will try to find out the sudden change in your pattern.

Don't go crazy over this; the one most emotional loses this game. If she is crazy about you, she will soon be eating out of your hands. Stay cool but if it doesn't work out, at least you know she is not that crazy about you. Take it as a lesson and move on.

[KCisBad]

Originally Posted by fulham

playing hard to get?

Yea, could be man..

Originally Posted by oxeso

Ts,
since u said so,do excuse me for being blunt. Since it's pretty relative,i can only guess.
Maybe all she wants is d feeling of being courted.
Maybe she's juz another flirt.
Maybe she have better choices,thus keeping u as a spare.
Many possibilities tat i can pen,but i dun wanna be a bore.
Placed in ur position,i wouldn't persist. Life taught me to be more rational,take more turns to c wat's available at d next corner.(esp when it leads u to a blur,or nowhere.)
Do more ventures,diversify ur investments.My 2 cents n i hope it gets u there.
Gd luck ya..

No worries.
No offence taken.
Its hard to know the full situation online.

Erm, she is a very "siwen" girl.
Not the kind that is "bad" in my image.
Maybe a spare..

thanks for ur input.

Originally Posted by karoosel

...perhaps she is just not into you..?

Maybe..

Originally Posted by Gentle Beast

Take a chance and stop messaging her. Give short replies, like OK. If she is sincere about the relationship she will try to find out the sudden change in your pattern.

Don't go crazy over this; the one most emotional loses this game. If she is crazy about you, she will soon be eating out of your hands. Stay cool but if it doesn't work out, at least you know she is not that crazy about you. Take it as a lesson and move on.

Ya, very good advice.
But i cant bring myself to do it.

because i have done it b4 in other situations with other girls and they just stop. lol

So part of me wants this and part of me is scared to find out the truth. (if its bad)

*i would give the same advice to a ffren though, but its harder to do it if im the one who wants it more. (i think)


But thanks guys.
Appreciate the inputs.

[Tai_zi21]

Just my pov

Why be so 犯贱 when the other party dun bother abt you? The reason why she always msging u is be cos other dun reply to her msg!

If she can choose to go out with other guy But not u obviously you are not potential bf to be already!

Many fishes in the ocean! Have fun catching

[KCisBad]

Originally Posted by Tai_zi21

Just my pov

Why be so 犯贱 when the other party dun bother abt you? The reason why she always msging u is be cos other dun reply to her msg!

If she can choose to go out with other guy But not u obviously you are not potential bf to be already!

Many fishes in the ocean! Have fun catching

Thanks for your tough love man.

though i dont agree with one part "The reason why she always msging u is be cos other dun reply to her msg! "
Becos intially i was the one who msged her.
And slowly she started "warming" up to me in text.

But still stuck at that stage.
Somehow she doesnt want to go out.


But thanks again.

[mevius]

Some girls play hard to get , bro , you try don't MSG or call her for 1 day , see her reaction test test water than u will know ... Quit hard ba , I believe she sian nothing to do than MSG with u to pass time ..

[KCisBad]

Originally Posted by mevius

Some girls play hard to get , bro , you try don't MSG or call her for 1 day , see her reaction test test water than u will know ... Quit hard ba , I believe she sian nothing to do than MSG with u to pass time ..

thanks bro.
Yea some can play hard to get..
Some fish just dont give you some slack to rail them in.




Thanks for the comments guys.
Really appreciate it.

[mevius]

bro i suggest u find another target , treat this girl as bonus .. like this u wont get hurt ... no 1st prize also got starter

[xpinkyx-moment]

Originally Posted by KCisBad

Man i thought i am done with those Relationship BS when i stepped out of high school.

But here am i again.

What should i do?

Long story short.

I like this girl.
We msg very frequent like 1 msg every 30mins on avg the whole day!
Soemtimes 1 msg every 2 mins.

And its more to flirting already, and sometimes romantic, and caring.
But each time i ask her out, she finds an excuse.
I can feel it.

Then when another guy ask her out, she agrees.

What the F**K???!

I am so confused.


Need some advice or knock some sense into me guys.
Any opinions are appreciated.

I can Understand Ur feeling bro ~
but wonder the other guys is her good /old friends or new friends ?

and sometyms u wanna meet her u dun last min msg her ba i guess ,
maybe she had plans on that day liao , then u missed the chances ..
sometyms they really busy ba .. u dun think too much ..


If she feels u are important , she will feel like running out and find u de lolz ~

[Ken79]

gals text chat, phone chat or go out with guys for many reasons for eg.
kill boredom
she's wants to know u better in terms of characters
she's sizing u up in terms of financials: where u bring her go for food, drive or dont drive, give her gifts on BDs or major PHs like x'mas or v'day.

the reasons she wont go out on a date with u is the reverse of upstairs.
the way u dress: women dont wanna go out with men who dresses like an uncle or caveman and then run into friends, colleagues or worse an ex on the streets.
your characters: women like men with charm n humor if they are going to look at them or talk with them for a long time they'd want to be entertained.

women enjoyed being pampered and any date in a mall for movies will certainly almost always precede with some shopping, a dinner in a restaurant and being sent home in a car. they hate slogging it out in a foodcourt or take a public transport.

then she'd want to know if u can take her for holidays regularly enough and no JB or batam dont count lol.

so guys rate a gals dating values based on looks n figure
gals rate guys based on characters n financials.

we are all in this rat race trying to impress and outdo each other until we find a husband/wife material and decides "ok we're in it for life now so lets be frugal as much as possible and save for our future".

[ShittyAss]

Another guy ask her out n she agreed?

Sorry TS.. But what's wrong Wif her going out with another guy? Probably just dinner etc? Not as if ons rite? Ai Zai abit..

Is she ur gf now? Even if she is ur gf.. She has her freedom for her friends..

N when she is out with the other guy.. U better dun flood her sms... If u do that.. I confirm n chop she will get bloody irritated n turn off..

Then again.. Can I ask what's ur age ah?

How come u didnt know your stand when u are going after a girl?? U r not her bf /husband yet.

She has her choice dude.

[KCisBad]

thanks bros.

You guys make sense no matter which angle you are coming from.

Whether its soft logical opinions or tough love shooting me.
They do all make sense.

And i really appreciate it.
(sincerely do)



Will slowly up you guys when i can.