"I'm married, how did I get here?" Am I the only one who feels this way?

[Rainyday]

I dated my old schoolmate, life with her was comfortable and regular, and it move along like a row boat going gently down the stream. Then she started pressuring me about getting married, then her family joined in. First it was once a month then it became once a week then it became once in a few days. And friends will always ask 'so when's your turn' 'she's good for you' 'you're both good together' 'you're both suitable for each other'

Then I began to think why not? What am I waiting for? There's nothing wrong with her. If I break up with her now, the next gf could be better but could also be worse. There were small issues but I told myself they would clear up after marriage. Her parents are great etc etc. Do I love her? Yeah I guess, I know I don't NOT love her.

Slowly the doubt was drowned out by my own reasoning, the sound of her nagging, and other practical considerations then BANG. Here I am married and still doubtful.

I still look at girls and wonder why my wife doesn't care about her figure, I meet other girls with whom I have great friendships and excellent chemistry. Sometimes I even wonder how life would be if I married them instead.

Any Samster bros like this? Nothing very bad to complain about but not very happy either. How do you deal with it?

I don't really care if I have sex with her regularly or not-nice to have but ok lah. Sex with her is more of an emotional thing, i can't say i find her body attractive. Instead I jerk off almost everyday fantasising about other girls... Fortunately I can do both in one day too.

I'm sure other bros must face some point in their marriage like this, would like to hear what and how you deal with it? Any stories? Advice? Care to share?

[TonyStarkMK8]

Hey bro, I'm also married at a young age when I was 21. The main reason for getting married at such a young age is because of housing problems. My dad is bankrupt due to gambling and my mum divorced with him long ago. I did NOT marry my wife just because of housing problems. I love her, even until today, I still love her very much.

Here's the problem, quite alike to yours. She was already not in perfect shape before marriage, about 55kg and 162cm. After awhile in our marriage, she became 64kg. Her size didn't affect my love for her at all. Its just the sexual desire towards her dropped drastically. I used to fap to porn occasionally. That quite helped me to curb the urge.

As time goes by, I got touched by the devil. I started to look for other girls. The very first one was a WL in GL. The feeling was extremely good man. Its like trying the best cut steak for the first time in your life. I was very confused with myself that time. I felt guilty for such an act but also good at the same time. It definitely didn't just stop there. Now here I am, moved on to not just WLs in GL, but also FLs on the various FL Domes.

I guess it isn't exactly a bad thing. I still love my wife very much. As contradicting as it might sound to you, I actually love her even more. Just be sure you don't fall for anyone else and stay faithful(in your heart) towards her. You can't control your small brain. You might be able to now but you can never control it forever.

Just my 2 cents

[singmarine]

It is true most if not all wives dun care about their figures/looks. Bascially they feel after marriage all these apperance thingy is not important. They start to dress behave towards like aunties making themshelves old.

I call it a self-fulfilling prophecy. That's why many men stray.

[HCKing]

reminds me of a wonderful joke...

The World's Shortest Fairy Tale:

Once upon a time, a guy asked a girl 'Will you marry me?' The girl said, 'NO!' And the guy lived happily ever after and rode motorcycles and went fishing and hunting and played golf a lot and drank beer and scotch and left the toilet seat up and farted whenever he wanted.

THE END

[maxsee]

Don't fret over ur marriage too much...u r not alone on this...there are tons of guys out there who regretted getting marriage and only a tiny handful of guys that enjoys marriage life.....

One thing for sure though...i would rather die than ever get married...

[hamsapkwai]

Any time you find yourself in a shit hole situation , always rewind and reflect.

There was always a point where you were allowed to choose and to say NO or STOP!

But you chose not to, hence you are where you are.

And in that dreaded ceremony where u lose your freedom , i am sure you said something to this effect.........

to be my (wife/husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health,whether you lose your figure or not.....

[organiser]

Originally Posted by Rainyday

I dated my old schoolmate, life with her was comfortable and regular, and it move along like a row boat going gently down the stream. Then she started pressuring me about getting married, then her family joined in. First it was once a month then it became once a week then it became once in a few days. And friends will always ask 'so when's your turn' 'she's good for you' 'you're both good together' 'you're both suitable for each other'

Then I began to think why not? What am I waiting for? There's nothing wrong with her. If I break up with her now, the next gf could be better but could also be worse. There were small issues but I told myself they would clear up after marriage. Her parents are great etc etc. Do I love her? Yeah I guess, I know I don't NOT love her.

Slowly the doubt was drowned out by my own reasoning, the sound of her nagging, and other practical considerations then BANG. Here I am married and still doubtful.

I still look at girls and wonder why my wife doesn't care about her figure, I meet other girls with whom I have great friendships and excellent chemistry. Sometimes I even wonder how life would be if I married them instead.

Any Samster bros like this? Nothing very bad to complain about but not very happy either. How do you deal with it?

I don't really care if I have sex with her regularly or not-nice to have but ok lah. Sex with her is more of an emotional thing, i can't say i find her body attractive. Instead I jerk off almost everyday fantasising about other girls... Fortunately I can do both in one day too.

I'm sure other bros must face some point in their marriage like this, would like to hear what and how you deal with it? Any stories? Advice? Care to share?

had a buddy whom like u just got married. he hates it and its more of a responsibility than liking. he partonises joints and like girls. he hates his life which seems like a 40 yr old marriage

[organiser]

Originally Posted by HCKing

reminds me of a wonderful joke...

The World's Shortest Fairy Tale:

Once upon a time, a guy asked a girl 'Will you marry me?' The girl said, 'NO!' And the guy lived happily ever after and rode motorcycles and went fishing and hunting and played golf a lot and drank beer and scotch and left the toilet seat up and farted whenever he wanted.

THE END

HC king u wanna try ang moh not hard lah. its a matter of u pay or u dont.

[sane]

Originally Posted by maxsee

One thing for sure though...i would rather die then ever married...

Im with you on this. Its the best not to marry out of pity n ruined the life of the gal. Its' not that they r stupid, just they choose to suffer in silent.

[SushiJiro]

Originally Posted by TonyStarkMK8

As time goes by, I got touched by the devil. I started to look for other girls. The very first one was a WL in GL. The feeling was extremely good man. Its like trying the best cut steak for the first time in your life. I was very confused with myself that time. I felt guilty for such an act but also good at the same time. It definitely didn't just stop there. Now here I am, moved on to not just WLs in GL, but also FLs on the various FL Domes.

I guess it isn't exactly a bad thing. I still love my wife very much. As contradicting as it might sound to you, I actually love her even more. Just be sure you don't fall for anyone else and stay faithful(in your heart) towards her. You can't control your small brain. You might be able to now but you can never control it forever.

Just my 2 cents

Thanks for the honest sharing of your story

[Spikerman]

Wife is a companion to have and hold and cherish till end of days. Main requirements are best friend, good communication and understanding. Hot bod + horny slut is always a bonus but life isn't always fair / ez peasy ...

Hope you figure out your bottom line ... I think most importantly ... do you love her ? If she loves you for all that you are ... then you're a lucky man

[Sen5eS]

Originally Posted by TonyStarkMK8

I guess it isn't exactly a bad thing. I still love my wife very much. As contradicting as it might sound to you, I actually love her even more. Just be sure you don't fall for anyone else and stay faithful(in your heart) towards her. You can't control your small brain. You might be able to now but you can never control it forever.

Interesting Share Bro

[anthonyKKW]

TS bro, I married my wife the same way as you did. I don't NOT like her, and don't know whether next one is better or worst. Made the scientific and rational decision to married her at the age of 23. Now married for 17 years.

Sex life is no longer satisfying. One of the reasons why I am on SBF. Initially go interested in porn sites, next went on to massage with HJ. Gradually tried WLs, occasionally overseas and very very rarely in SG. Now trying my best to stick to HJ service and clean hair spa like MTW. Both venues can experience chio bu and GFE, safely.

At home, I am committed and responsible to my family. It's like my family is 90% of me and playing outside is 10%.

Bottom line: you are not alone. Whatever you do, family always comes first.

[stillgottheblue]

I just know if there is any trouble, any problems with me, my wife is always with me and for me, when all relatives, best friends and associates left you. Isn't it enough to know this one thing?

You have to experience bad patches to know what a gem your wife may be.

[FallenLove]

Originally Posted by stillgottheblue

I just know if there is any trouble, any problems with me, my wife is always with me and for me, when all relatives, best friends and associates left you. Isn't it enough to know this one thing?

You have to experience bad patches to know what a gem your wife may be.

Well said bro.
But again, it's just human nature never to be contented....