Real life stories...

[BustLover]

We asian always think that the AngMo are very liberal & free with SEX. Is it really true? If you are those who go innocent girls for free sex, I strongly suggest read some of these real life stories attached here:-

You better believe it that if you engaged in premarital sex, it will happen to you. You may escape STDs or pregnancy, but emotional scars will be there for sure. So think a thousand times before you want to do it, no matter how tempting it looks right now, you will regret it, because of this truth that sin never delivers what it's promised.

Please take time to read these testimonies and I hope you can learn much from it and don't repeat the same mistakes because it's very costly.

Story 1:

One teen explained the effects of her sexual involvement in these words:

… Having premarital sex was the most horrifying experience of my life. It wasn't at all the emotionally satisfying experience the world deceived me into believing. I felt as if my insides were being exposed and my heart left unattended…I know God has forgiven me of this haunting sin, but I also know I can never have my virginity back. I dread the day that I have to tell the man I truly love and wish to marry that he is not the only one, though I wish he were…I have stained my life—a stain that will never come out.



Story 2:

Another girl described her experience this way:

After you've done it, you're really attached to that guy. It's as if he's your life; you feel really vulnerable. [When the relationship ended, I felt] really awful. I can't describe it. About a week after we had sex, we broke up because I found out he was dating other girls. It really hurt.



Story 3:

One woman wrote: I wish I could tell every young adult in America that you truly will reap what you sow. Cohabitation may seem wonderful initially (sin is so deceiving!), but eventually it creates more problems than you can imagine.

I lived with my boyfriend for two years before we got married. I knew I was breaking my parents' hearts, as well as my Heavenly Father's heart! My boyfriend was not a Christian, but I figured I could change him if we moved in together.

The "this-is-yours, that-is-mine" mentality that enabled us to "successfully" live together completely unraveled once we got married. We had become too separate and too selfish, making it nearly impossible to become "one flesh." The honeymoon was over before the wedding day ever arrived.



Story 4:

Alicia

At the beginning of this year, I had a friend named Rick. Rick and I would talk forever. We became so close that our feelings developed into more romance than just a friendship. We started dating, and one thing led to another. I often wondered how far was too far, but I had decided I could stop whenever I wanted to.

Whenever I was at Rick's house, we would always go to his bedroom to be alone. He had such a large family that his room was the only place we could talk. Innocently, we would sit on his bed. After we started dating, it was harder to just sit there with each other. Kissing came first, and we found it harder and harder to stop there. Even after we became involved in heavy petting, I still believed I could stop before we actually did it. After a few months of this, I found that I didn't want to stop. Then one night it happened—we had sex. It was worse than I could even imagine. I felt dirty and very separated from God. I hated myself for doing something I've grown up believing was so wrong. I had the guiltiest feeling I've ever had.

Rick walked me to my car and asked me what was wrong. I burst into tears. I told him that I hated it. I never wanted to do it again. Then Rick told me that he loved me, and the weirdest thing was that I couldn't tell him I loved him back. I had no feelings for him anymore. We sat in front of his house for a long time. We both cried. We knew what we did together was wrong.

I didn't see Rick for three weeks because he was out of town. During that time I prayed about it, not knowing what else to do. While we were separated, I realized what a real Christian relationship should be like, and I also realized that the relationship Rick and I had was the total opposite. I learned what was right and reassessed my morals. I asked God for forgiveness and started my life over. I still care for Rick, but I know if we are to have a relationship, it must be based on God.

Now I know that "too far" doesn't mean only intercourse, but also the stages leading up to it. Too far is when you crave the physical more than the spiritual. Too far is when sexual thoughts take over your relationship. Too far is when you don't want to stop. It can be different for different people; it can be holding hands, kissing, or hugging. With God's help, I can be pure from this day on.

Please let me know your feeling on this? If you like more stories like the above, I will continue to add some more. 10Q....

[DieCorkStand]

Hi Bro, I have to agreed that hurting a girl or woman is a very bad thing to do for their age below 25. I am assuming that woman get more mature and responsible for themselves at the age of 25 after knowing so many ladies out there.

But love & sex and marriage has nothing to do with the damn religion. Pls do not preach in the web site as I dislike too religious people taht they forget where they come from and what they are.

This world will have more peace without religion. This is very true if you do not open your eyes , open it now.

There is no such thing as damn god, it is an ibject created by man for power and greed to lead the blind followers ... Common people need to be more intelligent to see things that they don see through, "Human agreeds" = GOD.

I am just trying to save the world from been falling into non-existing hole.

[orbit_beer]

Pls do not preach in the web site as I dislike too religious people taht they forget where they come from and what they are.

wtf u talking about?telling ppl not to preach in the website and u youself discouraging religion?by the way,i'm a free thinker,pls dun criticize other's belief and religion,its entirely up to them.

[jdi813]

So what's the point of these real life stories ??? That these interviewd christian gals are really sad, repressed and totally brainwashed people ??? Ur title is misleading enough ... but the religious propaganda underlynig these stories has to take the cake man ...

This is not really the right place to preach the "morality of premarital sex and the negative effects it has on marriage".

In my opinion, it all boils down to the maturity of the individuals involved, regardless of their religious beliefs. Some people can handle it some can't, same as any other obstacle encountered in the course of life.

The success of a marriage is based on the ability of both individuals to communicate with each other, accomodate one another and compromise for the sake of both MORE than whether or not they fcuked before saying their wedding vows.

[Cheri_Popper]

Originally Posted by orbit_beer

wtf u talking about?telling ppl not to preach in the website and u youself discouraging religion?by the way,i'm a free thinker,pls dun criticize other's belief and religion,its entirely up to them.

I am also a free thinker. I totally agreeded with Bro Orbit Beer! You should not comdemn other ppl's religion.

All the religions preaches you to be filial to your parents, not to steal, not to kill...etc. There is not religions that tell you not to be filial, to kill...etc

We live in a multi-racial country. We must learn to respect each other ppl's choice of religion and not critised them!

[DavidCheng]

Originally Posted by DieCorkStand

Hi Bro, I have to agreed that hurting a girl or woman is a very bad thing to do for their age below 25. I am assuming that woman get more mature and responsible for themselves at the age of 25 after knowing so many ladies out there.

But love & sex and marriage has nothing to do with the damn religion. Pls do not preach in the web site as I dislike too religious people taht they forget where they come from and what they are.

This world will have more peace without religion. This is very true if you do not open your eyes , open it now.

There is no such thing as damn god, it is an ibject created by man for power and greed to lead the blind followers ... Common people need to be more intelligent to see things that they don see through, "Human agreeds" = GOD.

I am just trying to save the world from been falling into non-existing hole.

Clap clap clap. This is really full of CRAP!
Why 25 years old?
I am just trying to save ... HOW?
GOD bless U joker...

[Ah Paul]

not every female or male is the same...some can take it some cannot...

[butt]

Bro bustlover...
So wat is your point? Is this your way of articulating to us that angmo's also can fear sex? Even if so, i dun see how that affects us, and our perceptions leh. Wat you quote may be true, but is representative of perhaps a very small minority of the western population? Just a good way of showing that there is always a flipside to everything, i suppose.
Dunno wat im +++king also, because dunno wat you writing also...

[jokoto]

for once I thought this is a religious forum! how ironic! ... or else how to explain the purpose of the thread.

it would be interesting to hear what others say.

jokoto

[asdfghjkl]

reminded of the book: excuse me, are you a model?

[Pistone]

my view on premarital sex is this...

in this day and age...ppl are becoming more liberal...
especially women...

talk shows, women mags all project the image of the new-age woman
being able to flock in and out of relationships..
having sexual urges.. and being emotionally stable enough to satisfy those urges without being hurt in the end...

i myself have been lucky enough to satisfy a couple of women in that respect.... i have already been told, that as women, they have urges too.. and theres nothing wrong with having sex to satisfy it...

i mean honestly, most women can attract a man to bonk them easily... just show the correct signs and off they go.... the same is unfortunately not so for most men.. we have to work damn hard to get a non-committed bonk..

to me.. single women nowadays are just like men without dicks...
cos supply must meet demand.. if some guys are getting non-committed bonks.. there must be at least an equal amount of women enjoying the non-commited bonks as well...

bonk away bros.. just play safe..
keep the emotions off and the rubbers on...

cheers

[kosheen]

Originally Posted by DieCorkStand

There is no such thing as damn god, it is an ibject created by man for power and greed to lead the blind followers ... Common people need to be more intelligent to see things that they don see through, "Human agreeds" = GOD.

I am just trying to save the world from been falling into non-existing hole.

These remarks are uncalled for. We should respect other's religion.

To threadstarter,

So wat's your point in this post? All the experiences listed seem to be Christian girls. They do not represent every girl.

[Ethanas]

I actually wonders about the threadstarter intentions too.

This is afterall a commercial sex forum. And most of us "purchase" what that is willingly "sold".

So threadstarter you are trying to tell us to be a good Christian and stop bonking? Or trying to tell us not to bonk our gf unless we wanna marry them or we must marry them if we bonk them? (liddat hor I have like over 100 wifes liao sg law only allow me to have 1 wife leh)

Your intention is not too clear in this aspect please clarify. Thanks.

<Edited after rereading the threadstarter post 3 times, paiseh my english not too powerful>

I get it now... after 3rd read, threadstarter wans to confirm if the ang mo ladies are sensitive like our asian girls?

My answer is ang mos or asian all human mah, their up bringing is more liberal, but the christian families has a stricter morality, so they are just as if not more sensitive than our asian girls in this manner (sex educations morals reinforced with the backing of religion). I'll not argue about religion for as far as I know all religion teaches us to be good.

MY re-edited humble 2 cents

[DieCorkStand]

Hi Bros, I am here to apologise for the things I have said as in a no respect tone.
True I have friends and relatives that a re supertitious and religious, I have to "respect" them in a insincere way as I can't bring myself close enough that people can go without thinking in doing or believing something that does not exist.

Of cos wise and intelligent people knows the weakness of the blind follower , they believe in doing good, so it is in every religion.

Sad to say most of them are really blind follwer, some mixup the religion though.
I have such strong reaction is becos most of the Christians but not all, like to think that they are the only religion should exist and only way, so do you think they respect other religion ?
They "THINK" their regligion is the only soultion without given themselve a chance. I just pity their children , not given any opportunity and lost their human rights from the day they are born they are already blind..

[asdfghjkl]

sounds "Get Real"