Regret raising son of wife's Ex.. How?

[joscklee]

One of my bro married a PRC (divorcee with 7yo son) last year, now wife on LTVP+ and son on student pass.

Problems now:
1. the more look at this son, the more my bro thought how his wife got f++k thousands times by ex...
2. taking over wife's ex father duty (which some people scolded my bro stupid)
3. wife and son spoilt and bad tempered
4. financially overstressed
5. now wife pregnant (hopefully is my bro's), still some worry on that

Any bro out there has solution to at least 'get rid' of wife's ex son?

[ah rat]

Originally Posted by joscklee

5. now wife pregnant (hopefully is my bro's), still some worry on that

Can go DNA

[<<totally>>]

Originally Posted by joscklee

Any bro out there has solution to at least 'get rid' of wife's ex son?

That is a human life we are talking about. You want get rid then get rid meh? My only suggestion is to send the son for oversea study. Good for both the father and the son.

[joscklee]

Originally Posted by <<totally>>

That is a human life we are talking about. You want get rid then get rid meh? My only suggestion is to send the son for oversea study. Good for both the father and the son.

Hi Bro

Thanks for suggestion.

My bro enrolled this ex's son for P1 next year, I talk to him c any way send him back PRC further his study.

Another potential problem, my bro bought current 3-room flat with his own bro and also rent out one of the room for additional income (which means my bro, wife, wife's ex son and future kid will be squeezing into one room.. pathetic right..) He think sooner or later PRC wife will ask to out her name in this flat.. if she ever get PR. Any good excuse not to include her name?

[see see only]

TS,

Your this bro has enter into an "agreement" often called marriage in such case, with his PRC wife, and one of the term & conditions is to raise her son .....

Maybe without much consideration and checking before acceptance, he had accepted it nevertheless . Now he found out that the truth which he should find out earlier ... is in doubt.


So now he should decide to fulfill his agreement or terminate this agreement. His intention to change the term may ended up into a very bad relationship with the wife.

So in the end, your bro may have a very sour marriage life and be unhappy

[cohen]

Bro maybe can suggest leave son with maternal grandparents in china?

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Originally Posted by joscklee

One of my bro married a PRC (divorcee with 7yo son) last year, now wife on LTVP+ and son on student pass.

Problems now:
1. the more look at this son, the more my bro thought how his wife got f++k thousands times by ex... - This is the most funny comment of the year. When he married with a Buy 1 get 1 7year old free, of cos he cannot expect the son to look like him and even if no thousand times, also got hundred over bonks la.

2. taking over wife's ex father duty (which some people scolded my bro stupid) - Well, please don't blame the PRC wife or anybody cos your friend knew what he was getting into when he made his choice and decision to marry her. He should know if head not big, don't wear such a big hat mah

3. wife and son spoilt and bad tempered - Same as point 2 answer

4. financially overstressed - Same as point 2 answer

5. now wife pregnant (hopefully is my bro's), still some worry on that - What a fuckup marriage

Originally Posted by joscklee

Any bro out there has solution to at least 'get rid' of wife's ex son?

早知如此, 何必当初呢? Too late for regrets liao loh

"Get rid" of his "stepson"? Please la, using his head la, you think his wife will let him do that? He not afraid of 家变? Whatever happened to the heroic promises he made when he proposed to his PRC wife?

What your friend can do now is pray hard, try his best to cultivate and connect with his stepson. This type of connection doesn't happen instantly and automatically. Your friend will meet strong resistance from his stepson. However with patience comes result, hopefully he can win his stepson trust, connection and love eventually without breaking his bank. Just ask him to be wary of his wife ex-hubby. Sometime such loser will come to beg for money, food or trying to sway his stepson away from him. Really....早知如此, 何必当初呢? Good luck to him, he will need all the luck from all of us

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Originally Posted by joscklee

Another potential problem, my bro bought current 3-room flat with his own bro and also rent out one of the room for additional income (which means my bro, wife, wife's ex son and future kid will be squeezing into one room.. pathetic right..) He think sooner or later PRC wife will ask to out her name in this flat.. if she ever get PR. Any good excuse not to include her name?

No matter what happens, tell your friend to remember:

Blood is Thicker than Water 血浓于水

He can have many wives in this lifetime but he only have 1 brother in this lifetime. Don't try to drive his brother out cos of a woman

[sta1100]

Originally Posted by joscklee

One of my bro married a PRC (divorcee with 7yo son) last year, now wife on LTVP+ and son on student pass.

Problems now:
1. the more look at this son, the more my bro thought how his wife got f++k thousands times by ex...
2. taking over wife's ex father duty (which some people scolded my bro stupid)
3. wife and son spoilt and bad tempered
4. financially overstressed
5. now wife pregnant (hopefully is my bro's), still some worry on that

Any bro out there has solution to at least 'get rid' of wife's ex son?

No offence, why did your bro get a PRC, what they want is to someone to support them only. as for PRC you fxxk them and dump them not to keep.

[porscheclub]

Oops. Too late liao.

What was going through his head when he accepted her & then the son. Sigh.

It will be cruel to send the son away & the wife won't agree anyway, PRCs will try all means to leave China so they'll not freaking go back. Looks like your friend will have to suck thumb & accept his fate then try to accomodate but draw a line on assets from now on or they'll soon head for divorce. Good luck.

[<<totally>>]

Originally Posted by joscklee

Hi Bro

Thanks for suggestion.

My bro enrolled this ex's son for P1 next year, I talk to him c any way send him back PRC further his study.

Another potential problem, my bro bought current 3-room flat with his own bro and also rent out one of the room for additional income (which means my bro, wife, wife's ex son and future kid will be squeezing into one room.. pathetic right..) He think sooner or later PRC wife will ask to out her name in this flat.. if she ever get PR. Any good excuse not to include her name?

I seriously think that at this moment, your brother is thinking a bit too far ahead. Like what the other bros mentioned, he should have realized the potential problems ahead. What he is doing is similar to the shit reach custom, then start to dig the shit hole. Lolz.

The fact that he is not willing to add the wife's name indicated that the marriage will not be able to last till the wife's PR status got approved. If that's the case, do you see any need to come out with excuses not to insert the name.

Btw I did suggested sending the son to study abroad. But sending back to china wasn't my intention. What I meant was boarding schools.
Examples: JFK INTERNATIONAL – SWITZERLAND, BRANKSOME HALL – CANADA

[purple001]

Hi TS,

Yr bro entered the marriage with his eyes open, knowing that marrying his prc wife comes with an additional little one in the so called "package". It would be v cruel to think of ways to get rid/ send back her son just because of the issues he foresee. Some more the kid is still v young, will not be too difficult to bond if yr bro is willing to.

In an woman pov, unless his wife is agreeable with the arrangement to move his son elsewhere.. Then its fine.. Afterall.. She will be the best person to decide which option is of the best interest.. If not, If pls be fair to the child.. Do not deprive him of his mummy.

[Greatking]

If you can't change e environment bcos of serious consequences.

Then you've gotta learn to love to live in this environment.

If a general uses his chess well, his soldiers will support him till death come.

Feed him well, care for him, give him education. Let him have e mindset that u r his father now. Years goes, you are old. He feed u. Generic case.

Don't feed him. Don't care for him, send him back. When he comes back, if e second child turn up to be daughter. Bcareful of revenge.

Send him back, you might need to send more monies back, and you have no mean to check or monitor on whether is it real.

Keep him here, you can monitor every moment. And breed a loyal soldier.

For the name change or opt out. She need not worry, tell your friend to tell her brother "Please reject the idea if me and she bring out the same time". Your brother knows u care bout his interests. You sextisfied ur wife curiosity.

[maxsee]

Tis happens to one of my friends once before also....i have to agree that the child is innocent....but at the same time...it must not be easy to take care of another man's child.....but now tat ur bro is already deep inside the marriage....i am not sure wat he can do but to stay on...if now he dun like the kid. If his wife ever bear him another son...the animosity between both parties will widen....So good luck to him...and hope he can work things out in the end....

[Apolloqq]

At this moment, not much can be done.