Sexual harrassment.. At work

[babycath]

I've been facing a problem of having to deal with sexual harrassment at work with my superiors. Not just one guy, but three. Its only verbal stuff though.

My manager will ask questions like "Are you a virgin? Do you want to see my dick? Wanna help me masturbate?" and the other guys will chime in and play along. This happens every single day.

In another incident, another guy, who's a chef, went "Hey I'm going to USS with my daughters. We're staying overnight in the RW hotel." When I replied "I wanna go to USS too", he'd say "Sure, let me know which night you're free and I'll bao you."

They'll often comment on my looks and criticize my figure, and make conversations filled with sexual innuendos. Its a f&b establishment and its quite impossible to chide them for it as I need to be on good terms with everyone in the workplace.

It seriously makes me feel very harrassed but other than this, they treat me really well and are pretty nice to me.

Is there any way I can make them stop making sexual references when they converse with me? This doesnt really happen to my other female colleagues. *troubled*

[1nottiboy]

guys wouldnt normally do things like this. did you do anything to lead them on?

just thought i would share. a fren of mine would always be telling me guys in the office are hitting on her. always asking her out and buying her dinners. anyway one day, i asked to catch up and she was wearing a top with a lot of skin exposed. easy down blouse with her c cuppers.

[TehGaDai]

WHAT company is that?? Do you always dress very sexily to work?? The image you portray also impt. Guys are very easily visually aroused.
In my company, heard got rumours, a top female Sales mgr, did 'slept' with her clients at times. I heard only...
Saw her before, everyday wear tight dress (one piece type). either black/white/red... (bey tahan... )

[pussyslime]

Sis, you're going to get more sexual harassment here

[onlyhuman]

Originally Posted by pussyslime

Sis, you're going to get more sexual harassment here

so true!

[Rasta Marley]

Originally Posted by pussyslime

Sis, you're going to get more sexual harassment here

Absolutely!!

[FRATERNITY]

Seriously wonder what company u working in. Anyway, I too do it to all hot female colleagues but nothing too overbroad like in your case and i dun ask questions in pervertic way. Try take it as a compliment or play along if u want. If really cannot tahan just change job. Last thing u wanna consider is to report to hr.

Btw unless u are damn chio, i wont be making those hints. Can post some of your pics u wear to work (censor ur face)?

[littlepok]

it should be your dressing (if u are not in uniform), the way u mingle with them. u know some gals talk and laugh and hit guy shoulder blah blah. u might have some body contact with them unwittingly or give them the impression u are quite open (or brotherly) to them, hence they try to go 1 step further and test the limit.

it is understandable u need to be on good terms with everyone, be it f&b or wherever. i wonder if u are married. anyway u can try the below:

1. if they say it again, just tell them your bf/husband did not like what they said when u told him about the conversation. Afraid of trouble, they will most prob apologise and refrain from doing it again. say in a nice but firm tone in order not to piss them off

2. in your daily conversation, mention more about your bf/husband. even if u have none, cook an imaginary one. for eg, tell the guy with family that your bf is bringing u to USS next sat, what is fun there ah... (he will get the hint). If ask u to see their dick and masturbate them, say nicely u are doing it for your bf and want to keep it that way.

guys are naturally afraid of such trouble, especially if he is married or may jeopardise his work (don't ever shit in your own backyard). they are just trying their luck as they might have gotten the wrong hints (dressing, manner that u carry yourself, u took all the shit they said to u etc).

i'm sure with time, they will change their attitude of harassment.

PS: this is assuming u are not interested with any guys at your workplace. seriously i doubt if there is anyone decent there as u should be the main topic during smoking/tea break. how big your boobs are, how u look with dick in your mouth, how loud u moan etc, how nice u look from doggie style etc. pardon my language but seriously that should be the type of topics, hence the mass sexual harassment.

They might say things like my dick is bigger than ur bf la if not u try. just reply u love your bf and u will only be intimate with him, thanks for the offer but your bf will not like it. (say he is sign-on commando lor. all siao kia one)

hope my 2 sperm thoughts help.

[Optimus_Prime]

Originally Posted by littlepok

They might say things like my dick is bigger than ur bf la if not u try. just reply u love your bf and u will only be intimate with him, thanks for the offer but your bf will not like it. (say he is sign-on commando lor. all siao kia one)

hope my 2 sperm thoughts help.

Good reply. My 9 pts to you

[ImperialLegacy]

You must be chio la. Post your pics here so we can advise you further. Men seldom waste time if you are ugly.

[littlepok]

Originally Posted by Optimus_Prime

Good reply. My 9 pts to you

thanks bro, will return upz soonest

[demonorc]

I guess that there is nothing much you can do. The only way is to move to the next resturants or hotel F&b outlets.

Anyway,based on the work you say,you should not be worry abt the lack of job,rather on the working hours and the hardship.

Should be not of an issue if you decide to change job.

Originally Posted by babycath

I've been facing a problem of having to deal with sexual harrassment at work with my superiors. Not just one guy, but three. Its only verbal stuff though.

My manager will ask questions like "Are you a virgin? Do you want to see my dick? Wanna help me masturbate?" and the other guys will chime in and play along. This happens every single day.

In another incident, another guy, who's a chef, went "Hey I'm going to USS with my daughters. We're staying overnight in the RW hotel." When I replied "I wanna go to USS too", he'd say "Sure, let me know which night you're free and I'll bao you."

They'll often comment on my looks and criticize my figure, and make conversations filled with sexual innuendos. Its a f&b establishment and its quite impossible to chide them for it as I need to be on good terms with everyone in the workplace.

It seriously makes me feel very harrassed but other than this, they treat me really well and are pretty nice to me.

Is there any way I can make them stop making sexual references when they converse with me? This doesnt really happen to my other female colleagues. *troubled*

[iNut]

Get a good mini recorder and secretly record the crude conversation down. Approach the higher management and report them with it or simple 999

[hunted]

I do believe there could be afew scenarios here...

1. You are too much of a "guy" there. You tend to be very open with your conversations.
-eg. I used to have afew ladies working for me. They treat me as a sister, I treat them as brothers. We can "suan" and talk everything under the sun. Just an example..;.. "I say Fuck!" they will just open up their legs and say come... tell me when and where!..

But we know its all for good fun! (or to just piss me off)

2. You are actually a very closed person but want to show that you are very social. So you try hard and you succeed. Now you are troubled!

3. You are very pretty and the guys there are just to get in your pants.

From what I read you are either 1 or 2. Cos guys don't really say such things to ladies unless they treat them like "bros".

[spidey7]

Sis who is ur employer? Dis is indeed sexual harrassment. U muz b chio. Unless u disregard e consequences u can make a police report.