Intimacy issues with BF

[Sensual8725]

BF and i have a normal sex life. I enjoy the sex and intimacy very much and sex with him is one of the best sex i ever had. Usually we have sex twice a week, which i think can be further improved but he is always tired. I also spice up our sex life by wearing sexy lingerie everyday and costumes to arouse him. I bother to give blowjobs and different positions and have suggested outdoor sex. But our sex is still limited to a fixed schedule, I know when it will happen on the very 2 days every week. Sometimes, I try to arouse him by touching him and stripping into my sexy lingerie, but he gets irritated instead because it is simply not the day for sex, says he is tired, not in the mood and gets irritated. He therefore forbids me from touching his vital parts during the “non-sex days” which angers me.

Don’t ask me why. But I am very sure there is no third parties or affairs or FL activities. Let’s just factor this out. BF does watch porn and DIY, I know it because he doesn’t bother to delete the history. He is also into lan games and spend hours after work on them. There was a few months straight I didn’t have sex with him and he did not initiate either. He told me the lack of sex is due to wearing condom, so now we don’t wear a condom and sex frequency is normal.

I really don’t understand why. I am a 25yo attractive woman with good figure (I am a C cup with slim waist) and features and many men will be dying to have me touch them like that or being naughty. Why does he gets irritated instead? I always feel sexy but after my advances were rejected, I felt he is bringing my confidence down. He only likes me to arouse him when he wants sex, and I think it is damn selfish because I don’t even have the rights to touch him? This fills me up with much anger and resentment and now when guys ask me out, I go ahead because I felt pissed (no betrayal involved though and not interested in other guys.) Why does BF have an intimacy issue during “non-sex” days? This is really frustrating and getting to me. We do not have other relationship problems other than this lack of intimacy .

Thanks bros in advance for sharing your opinions. Sorry for the long message.

[madness88]

Hmm maybe sometimes he is really tired ? from what u describe I am sure many guy would willing be your bf he is really a luckly guy hope he will treasure u

[asdfghjkl]

i used to have an ex like him.. he is a self employed trader at home.. every time i tried to touch him while he is trading.. he would whack me..

[Javanoob]

becos he is sian of you already la.. you know the answer you still ask.

[Likeucare]

Originally Posted by Javanoob

becos he is sian of you already la.. you know the answer you still ask.

even when its a pretty babe?

i also feel my bf dun want to do it anymore... dont think theres fl or prostitution too.. =( he treats me very well in all areas except this.. he still holds my hand n try to touch me at times.. but thats all.. he can go on few months w/o sex is that normal..and no i am not bad in bed cos i used to have an ex who cant have it enough with me.. we could do many times each time and still find it kinky

gaming is his life

all gamers dun like sex that much ha? or really bored le?

-___- like that very soon all the gers will start a sammygirl forum le HAHAHAHA

[Xgenre]

Whose idea was it to have designated sex and non-sex days? When you strip to sexy lingerie, is it possible to have sex at that time and location? Is it private enough for sex? The long term solution to tiredness is actually exercise. He's not going to get fitter as he age unless he exercises. Perhaps you can go exercise with him. What does he do for a living? He sounds like he has a physically energy zapping job.

How do you touch his private parts? You didn't actually describe in detail? Touch from outside of his pants? Touch in public? (take mrt sometimes can see some girls who aren't shy) As a guy, it's sometimes quite frustrating to be aroused without the possibility of a release. Touch until he got to walk around with an erection, that's quite uncomfortable for guys. There is also the issue of respect. He may be your bf but his body is still his. Imagine us guys fingering our gfs whether the ladies like it or not because the ladies are our gfs. Ladies will be pissed off too right?

Meeting other men for confidence boosting doesn't solve the problems between you and your bf. If anything, it adds more problems. Does physical intimacy equate to love for you? Is there any non-physical way that he can show you that he loves you? Some girls I know like their bfs to send them 1 or 2 periodic sms each day to ask how the day is for the lady. It's like a confirmation that the guy got think of her. Will that work for you?

[nstern]

In the relationship, how are u like? Are you as demanding as well in other areas? I'm not saying ur sexual appetite is bad. Ur behavior in other areas might turn him off sex. No matter how sexy u are.

[hamsapkwai]

So how many PM you got already to volunteer to stand in for your bf non sex days?

[alan0338]

Originally Posted by Sensual8725

He therefore forbids me from touching his vital parts during the “non-sex days” which angers me.

tis part made me rofl ...

[Likeucare]

Originally Posted by Xgenre

Whose idea was it to have designated sex and non-sex days? When you strip to sexy lingerie, is it possible to have sex at that time and location? Is it private enough for sex? The long term solution to tiredness is actually exercise. He's not going to get fitter as he age unless he exercises. Perhaps you can go exercise with him. What does he do for a living? He sounds like he has a physically energy zapping job.

How do you touch his private parts? You didn't actually describe in detail? Touch from outside of his pants? Touch in public? (take mrt sometimes can see some girls who aren't shy) As a guy, it's sometimes quite frustrating to be aroused without the possibility of a release. Touch until he got to walk around with an erection, that's quite uncomfortable for guys. There is also the issue of respect. He may be your bf but his body is still his. Imagine us guys fingering our gfs whether the ladies like it or not because the ladies are our gfs. Ladies will be pissed off too right?

Meeting other men for confidence boosting doesn't solve the problems between you and your bf. If anything, it adds more problems. Does physical intimacy equate to love for you? Is there any non-physical way that he can show you that he loves you? Some girls I know like their bfs to send them 1 or 2 periodic sms each day to ask how the day is for the lady. It's like a confirmation that the guy got think of her. Will that work for you?

ha ha quite true bo dai ji anyhow touch , touch aready dun want do. feel like slapping also

[Ecuader]

Most probably your bf is a bi sexual. and slowly turning into a gay. that happen to 1 of my fren who told me he found female nipples disgusting. now he's a complete and have a hunk bf. lol

[Sensual8725]

Originally Posted by Likeucare

even when its a pretty babe?

i also feel my bf dun want to do it anymore... dont think theres fl or prostitution too.. =( he treats me very well in all areas except this.. he still holds my hand n try to touch me at times.. but thats all.. he can go on few months w/o sex is that normal..and no i am not bad in bed cos i used to have an ex who cant have it enough with me.. we could do many times each time and still find it kinky

gaming is his life

all gamers dun like sex that much ha? or really bored le?

-___- like that very soon all the gers will start a sammygirl forum le HAHAHAHA

Same as u, BF still holds my hands, touch me, hug, kiss etc and tells me he loves me very much everyday. There was once we argued and he did admitted that the lack of initiation of intimacy is due to addiction to gaming, which is a killer to me. After improving for awhile, now he rather play games than let me touch him. Well, I don't initiate very often but just those times I initiated, he rejects me which angers me. Am I less attractive than a video game? So now i decided not to initiate anything anymore. He is so selfish. For the times he wanted sex, sometimes I just finish doing heavy household chores, he want it means he want it no matter how tired I tell him I am and I will give to him.

Xgenre, I go out with other guys not to boost my confidence. I am a confident woman but i do it because i need to keep myself occupied. i feel lonely in this relationship although on the surface, there is nothing wrong at all. At the same time, the way BF is behaving is putting me off.

It is his idea to have the designated days or rather, he didn't voice it out but he will only do it on those 2 days and it cannot be too late. i just don't think a sex life should be so designated as sometimes i want it to be passionate and let things fall into place and not just a schedule. i usually initiated in bed so definitely its private enough and its around 9pm obviously he is not going to sleep yet. then he tells me he is tired. if i don't initiate, he will be at his computer playing games and sleeping much later. he is only 3 years older than me, so i don't see how his energy for sex will be nil. at the same time, pls note that he watches porn when i'm not around. so he does feel horny but rather watch porn to release.

Thanks for replies.

[Likeucare]

u all living together ah? haha is he into diablo 3? coming out soon. u can say bye bye to sex n his soul very soon le

so how haha one day we should find one handsome stud and service us haha

=X

[Bigbadken]

Hi TS, look On the brighter side. At the very least (according to u), he is not out there fooling ard.

[jimz]

Originally Posted by Likeucare

u all living together ah? haha is he into diablo 3? coming out soon. u can say bye bye to sex n his soul very soon le

so how haha one day we should find one handsome stud and service us haha

=X

hahahaha DIABLO 3 ROLEEE