help!

darthvader · #1 21-01-2012, 03:31 PM

i am not sure if this is the correct place to post, but anyway i have a worrying problem i would like to share, and hope to receive help from fellow samsters..

please do not judge me based on what you are going to read..

yesterday, i visited GL for the 1st time, hooked up with a prc lady and got a room.

we undressed, bathed and dried ourselves

she told me to lie down, and before long, she was sucking my nips.. it was my 1st time lying beside a naked woman, felt kinda nervours..

after few minutes, my cock began to errect, and she slipped on the condom on him.. she began to give me a handjob.. however hard she tried, i just couldnt cum..

As i have a strong fetish for feet, (have been fantasizing about licking and smelling women feet since 10).. i told her that i would suck her toes, she agreed.. while she laid down, i licked and sucked and worshipped her feet like a goddess from what i saw in those porn clips.. it tasted slighly salty.. her feet felt very squeezy, and nice to rub.. but i felt that i needed to explore other parts of her..

i came up to her shoulders level, she continued her handjob, but still, every after getting a taste of feet for the 1st time, i still do not have the urge to errect.. i went on to lick and suck her nipples, and bit them tenderly.. felt as if they would burst anytime.... i could really suckle on those nipples for all eternity..

Still, i did not cum.. she asked me "if i am cumming soon" i told her that theres no feel..

i told her to intensify the handjob, by rubbing harder and faster.. but still no avail..

so i used 1 finger to search for her pussy, as i have never studied biology or saw what a real pussy is like, it took me a while to find the hole.. i wanted to ask her if that was the pussy.. but when i saw her moan, i knew i was in the right hole.. i fingered her to the depth of my 2nd segment of my index finger.. as i fingered around her moist and warm pussy, she was holding on to my hand, as if she was stopping me from something.. i inserted the 2nd finger and twirled in circle around the walls of her pussy.. felt very new to me..

as she moaned, she commented that i was a fake virgin, but i told her, that it was really my 1st time (just that i had many theory and visual lessons at night alone) so i knew what to do when i saw a naked woman..

but still i didnt cum...

after the last 5mins of the session, the condom was still dry..

quite dissapointed with myself..

i have been masturbating regulary twice to quad times daily... but my masturbation technique is different from what we see in the porn clips..

i would lie face down on the bed, with the back of my hand near the thumb rubbing the bottom area of my penis till i ejectculate and not like the conventional technique of having the entire hand grasping my penis rubbing it up and down..

i wonder if my masturbation technique is normal.. could someone please advice me on this? would abstaining from masturbating for a week allow me to ejectculate from the conventional masturbation technique (whole hand covering the penis and rubbing up and down)?

Thanks

sedulous · #2 21-01-2012, 03:47 PM

Why didn't you fuck her?

darthvader · #3 21-01-2012, 04:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sedulous

Why didn't you fuck her?

it was my 1st time, kinda scared.

5ag1_Boar · #4 21-01-2012, 04:27 PM

Hmmm... Most virgin guys worry about premature ejaculation. You are the opposite.

Sounds like the girl is quite patient.

Your technique is certainly unusual, but nothing wrong with that.

All I can recommend is not to stress yourself out.... Just lay back and enjoy the sensations... You should cum eventually. By the way, not all girls can give a good hand job or blow job.... Not unusual not to cum from that. Even the good ones can't make all guys cum.

Don't focus on "I'm taking too long to cum". Just focus on pleasuring the girl and her reactions, etc. Naturally proceed to fucking and getting her to cum as many times as possible. Eventuallyvthe physical stimulation will make you cum.

Av_lover · #5 21-01-2012, 04:40 PM

Bro darthvader, u need to cut down on masturbation from daily to maybe 2 days 1 times or 3 days 1 times or better yet 1 week or 2 week 1 times.

darthvader · #6 21-01-2012, 04:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 5ag1_Boar

Hmmm... Most virgin guys worry about premature ejaculation. You are the opposite.

Sounds like the girl is quite patient.

Your technique is certainly unusual, but nothing wrong with that.

All I can recommend is not to stress yourself out.... Just lay back and enjoy the sensations... You should cum eventually. By the way, not all girls can give a good hand job or blow job.... Not unusual not to cum from that. Even the good ones can't make all guys cum.

Don't focus on "I'm taking too long to cum". Just focus on pleasuring the girl and her reactions, etc. Naturally proceed to fucking and getting her to cum as many times as possible. Eventuallyvthe physical stimulation will make you cum.

is there a way i can change technique? i tried to do the conventional technique.. but no use, not aroused

so if the girl gets horny and orgasm..i will eventually cum too?