Not desirable?

[Sextimental]

Hello brothers and sisters,

I am married, 1.6m at 50kg, I am deemed by people as sweet looking or to some, even pretty. I am a full B cupper and decent butts too. But why does my husband do not find me desirable? We hardly have sex, once a quarter if I am lucky

Hubby always cite work stress as an excuse, I do agree with him but I have my urges too but he can't match my thirst for sex... Besides telling me he might be "fed" outside, which I think quite unlikely, is there any other reason/s why he does not want to have sex with me? I am lost and badly in need of "relief"...

[freezetheDB]

it is important for intimacy to happen (to re-establish the bonding).

your hubby might be really tired, and it would be good to sometimes just give him some special treats (like a nice blowjob leading to him unloading fully into your mouth), without him doing the work. Let him just relax and enjoy.

Let his mind slowly reabsorb and relearn the pleasurable feeling with you, and once the brain equates your presence with pleasure, he will be more easily turned on (rediscovery of you as his sexual object).

My 2cents as a male.

[Desiderata]

Hi Sis,
Please pardon me. Your avatar stated 'samster m'. Thought that you are a male.

Anyway wondering how long have you been married?

You may like to improve on your dressing meaning sexier to bring him to your attention.

Hope that this helps...

Cheers

[ah rat]

Originally Posted by Desiderata

Hi Sis,
Please pardon me. Your avatar stated 'samster m'. Thought that you are a male.

Bro,TS still in moderation period.

Originally Posted by Sextimental

Hello brothers and sisters,

Hubby always cite work stress as an excuse, I do agree with him but I have my urges too but he can't match my thirst for sex... Besides telling me he might be "fed" outside, which I think quite unlikely, is there any other reason/s why he does not want to have sex with me? I am lost and badly in need of "relief"...

TS U should tell yr husband that u have the urge to have more sex.

[hunter1222]

You could try watching some RA or porn together with him to build the mood?

[dirtyhairy]

Dear Sentimental Missy TS,
How long have you been married, my lass?
If as you say, you are attractive,
even after 10 years of marriage, sex for both should still be addictive
unless he's physically weak from an illness
or he's old and cant cope with the demands of a sex temptress
as to work-related stress, dont believe it
because sex is the antidote, and probably the best perk up kit
just imagine...slow, deep probing yet caressing of the pussy & the penis
so shiok, even the most tired but horny couples will be driven to sexual bliss
Perhaps you should do your bit,
dress sexily and seduce him whenever you feel like it...
after all both of you are married, so there's nothing to be shy about it...
good luck, enjoy each other more...you wont regret it

[MuffDiver69]

do you have kids? are you passionate and aggressive in bed? or are you a dead fish? does your hubby do all the work when you have sex with your hubby? or you actually participate in the love making? how fast can your hubby erect and how long can he maintain the erection?

the problem might not lie with you, your hubby might be one of those rare male with low libido or he might be impotent.

take a short holiday together, get him away from work for a few days and try to fuck him instead of waiting for him to fuck you...that might work.

[foursquare]

Maye he has more important things on his mind, like bread and butter issues regarding both of you. Sex is on the list, but maybe not a priority at this stage

[sleaguepunter]

maybe your partner have low sex drive lor.

maybe u can try to stroke/bj his didi while he is sleeping, once hard oreadi just sit on it and grind away. most men wont mind, at least i dream some woman will do it to me.

[Greendevil]

Hi Seximental, I believe your main objectives is to be desire again. There are many reasons that your husband is not active in sex. Since you have rule out the most worrying issues, getting fed elsewhere, let look at other areas;

1. Desires: Man and woman body hormone are behave very differently as we enter each age group. Man will have a sexual need and desires spike during puberty and early years of adulthood and decline rapidly as it pass 30 and 40. Woman on the other side, tend to grow more gradually and reaches it peak at a later age, following a gradual drop as well. So which age group does both of you fall into? You need to aware of the different body reaction of man and woman at different age.
2. Mental: stress and responsibilty have much impact on a man desire for sex. Are you working as well? Also is your husband undertaking a lot of physical and mental stress from his occupation? Another point is satisfaction. Is he getting both physical and mental satisfaction. He may be un satisfied with his decline performance if any ,resulting him to avoid facing his problem. Do you notice any difference in this area?

3.physical: in relation to above point, physical tiredness and inability to perform also matters. Some man refuse to seek medical assistance due to pride and social status and etc.

You need to re examine your issue to pick up all these tell tale signs.

Last is energy, your demands and frustration may have caused negative feelings towards sex on him. I urge you to now to go for a massage, relax yourself and give yourself and him some space to ponder over the matter

[patrickzapu]

Maybe you should start romancing yr hubby again......just like the gd old days, start by telling him how gd life was once a upon time and how u wished to reminisce them again.....hw u both fell in luv.....

I did, gd for maintaining the relationship, keeps all happy

[Frankiestine]

Surprised him with a bj when he is sleeping....no man can resist a good old bj...

[ah rat]

Originally Posted by Frankiestine

Surprised him with a bj when he is sleeping....no man can resist a good old bj...

Bro,She might get her hand push away for touching his private part
Like me,I try to touch my OC pussy this morning,got push away by her hand

[fendy]

Sis TS

Listen to Bro Frank, what he said is really true, no healthy male species can tahan being blown awake.

Just give your hubby a morning call / a wake up blow, your sex life will sure to blossom from then onwards

Wish you and your hubby have a sextifying life onwards

[KingEros]

Originally Posted by Sextimental

... BUT why does my husband not find me desirable? We hardly have sex, once a quarter if I am lucky

Being an older guy, I can only offer you the following possibilities ...
1) Are you a mummy yet? If yes, he could be having a phobia of becoming a father yet again
2) If you're not yet a mummy, then are you yearning to be one very badly? If yes, then this could be why he's avoiding you
3) While you are attractive on the outside, are you less imagnative when having sex? This could be why he could be getting "alternatives" outside
4) If none of the above is true, then your hubby may actually be sufferring from "impotency" of some sorts

Originally Posted by Sextimental

... BUT he can't match my thirst for sex.

What exactly do you mean by this?
When you do get it once every quarter, do you feel that your hubby was just delivering his assignment? Or do you get the feel that he's enjoying every bit of (the limited & infrequent) intimacy with you?

Ok, before you decide to stray ... may I know how far you've gone to seduce him into dropping his pants for you? What have you done to seduce him into wanting to bonk you there & then?