Does a 20-year age gap between bf-gf matter?

[billgates]

I would like to know, for all those guys whose gf's are at least 20 years younger, what is your experience like? Is there a communication gap, difference in thinking, etc?

Thanks for sharing.

[RealEstateGuy]

Brother, it can work but your maturity levels and life outlook must converge. Is she as mature as you or you are as immature as she? Is this Viet? Thai? PRC? Brother, then you hae a case of cultural differences which need to be reconciled. Income and education basically current and future earnings power also play a role brother. List the facts and data an circumstances under which you met you honey below and we can analyze the situation for you brother.

[argus]

IMHO and IMPE not at all.

I am 42 and my wife (former gf, of cos) is 19...

[RealEstateGuy]

Originally Posted by argus

IMHO and IMPE not at all.

I am 42 and my wife (former gf, of cos) is 19...

Are these sexual relations only or do you have meaningful discussions/activities that you both mutually enjoy and stimulate each other mentally with? I mean brother, do you engage in discussions about topics such as world events, real estate, politics, philosophy, etc.

If we add +20 and shift into the future, what are your mutual expectations when your are 62 and she is 39? Is the sex better or worse and is that the foundation you expect going forward? This assumes the current foundation if based on mostly sex and in exchange you provider her a certain lifestyle?

Post your responses, and brother we will further analyze.

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by billgates

I would like to know, for all those guys whose gf's are at least 20 years younger, what is your experience like? Is there a communication gap, difference in thinking, etc?

Thanks for sharing.

The age gap is an issue for some but not for others.

[argus]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

The age gap is an issue for some but not for others.

Well spoken... but the "others" are those involved in such relationships, while the "some" are those that are not.

I do know of "some" becoming "others".

[billgates]

Actually that's my main concern. Some day I will be 60 with one foot in the grave. While she will be in her late 30s and possibly still an attractive woman. Will I be given the "green hat" to wear?

Originally Posted by RealEstateGuy

If we add +20 and shift into the future, what are your mutual expectations when your are 62 and she is 39? Is the sex better or worse and is that the foundation you expect going forward? This assumes the current foundation if based on mostly sex and in exchange you provider her a certain lifestyle?

No offense. But there's a Chinese saying, "that's like having said something and yet nothing has been said at all."

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

The age gap is an issue for some but not for others.

[Sweetprcbabes2]

Originally Posted by billgates

Actually that's my main concern. Some day I will be 60 with one foot in the grave. While she will be in her late 30s and possibly still an attractive woman. Will I be given the "green hat" to wear?

If you are 6 foot under, she is attractive, shouldn't you hope she moves on ?

[joew2005]

Quotes fr Forest Gump

- mama always said dying was a part of life

- I m not a smart man but I knw wat love is

- mama always said life was like a box of chocolates, u nvr know wat u gonna get

- sometimes I guess there is just not enough rocks

- when I m tired I slept, when I m hungry I eat & when I had 2 go u knw I went

- tat's all I hv 2 say about tat

- mama always said you hv got 2 put the past behind you b4 you k move on

- nw we ain't strangers anymore

- I don't knw if we each hv a destiny or if we r all just floating around accidental like on a breeze. But I think maybe it's both

etc .....

[dirtyhairy]

There's also an ancient Chinese saying about a man's love being strong
while a woman's love being long
put both of them together, and you will have perfect bond
But why bother, yo Bro Gates first named Bill
Just remember the wise words from that famous Bard also called Bill
Because when things dont work out,
Just proceed to console yourself by crying out loud
It is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all!

[argus]

Originally Posted by RealEstateGuy

Are these sexual relations only or do you have meaningful discussions/activities that you both mutually enjoy and stimulate each other mentally with? I mean brother, do you engage in discussions about topics such as world events, real estate, politics, philosophy, etc.

If we add +20 and shift into the future, what are your mutual expectations when your are 62 and she is 39? Is the sex better or worse and is that the foundation you expect going forward? This assumes the current foundation if based on mostly sex and in exchange you provider her a certain lifestyle?

Post your responses, and brother we will further analyze.

Of course sex is good...

But we do discuss real world matters. She's a graduate (Harvard) and has a 3.85 GPA, and works for her dad, who owns a NY Listed MNC. And YES, she's not from the 'usual' 'regional sources'.

Nevertheless, if she's with me for the $$, I doubt it. Although I have more $$, she does have her own $$. Further, she insisted and we signed a pre-nup.

But then, even if things change in the future, what doesn't? Just as The NOOSE said, the No. 1 cause of divorce is marriage. Whilst it's funny, it is nevertheless true.

[RealEstateGuy]

Originally Posted by argus

Of course sex is good...

But we do discuss real world matters. She's a graduate (Harvard) and has a 3.85 GPA, and works for her dad, who owns a NY Listed MNC. And YES, she's not from the 'usual' 'regional sources'.

Nevertheless, if she's with me for the $$, I doubt it. Although I have more $$, she does have her own $$. Further, she insisted and we signed a pre-nup.

But then, even if things change in the future, what doesn't? Just as The NOOSE said, the No. 1 cause of divorce is marriage. Whilst it's funny, it is nevertheless true.

Brother, and what kind of sheepskin do you have? I'm analyzing your compatibility.
Also, you state her dad owns a listed MNC. BTW shareholders own it. Is the the majority shareholder? Or you took the bait?
Why does a smart Harvard graduate who can meet men from school of similar caliber see in a man 2x her age? I'm not discounting your standing in SG society but have you asked yourself? Is your performance in bed that good to her? Be humble and realistic in your response.
Then we will analyze your situation some more.

[IdontKnow]

Originally Posted by argus

Of course sex is good...

But we do discuss real world matters. She's a graduate (Harvard) and has a 3.85 GPA, and works for her dad, who owns a NY Listed MNC. And YES, she's not from the 'usual' 'regional sources'.

Nevertheless, if she's with me for the $$, I doubt it. Although I have more $$, she does have her own $$. Further, she insisted and we signed a pre-nup.

But then, even if things change in the future, what doesn't? Just as The NOOSE said, the No. 1 cause of divorce is marriage. Whilst it's funny, it is nevertheless true.

YOU SHOULD START TO WAKE UP FROM YOUR DREAMLAND

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Originally Posted by argus

.....She's a graduate (Harvard) and has a 3.85 GPA, and works for her dad, who owns a NY Listed MNC. And YES, she's not from the 'usual' 'regional sources'..

Havelock or Harvard?

Havelock University also has got pretty much excellent grades, straight A's with a B once in a while but mostly C or C+



Btw, as a matter of fact, Bill Gates was a dropout from Harvard but he received an honorary degree from the university in 2007

[adventco]

no it does not matter. I actually have a gf (thai) and she is half my age. she just turned 22 and we celebrated her bday in macau.