Should i carry on with him ?

heartbreak · #1 21-04-2010, 02:23 PM

I've been with him for 3yrs +,when we 1st started he's a two timers, he knew that girl before me.. i have forgiven him for the 1st time.
Half a yr later, i found out that he patronize prostitute. Confronted him, his reason is curious & he promised he wont do it again then i had forgiven him the 2nd times. . i've totally lost trust in him ..from then already 2yrs, in this 2 yrs he do put in effort to gain back my trust i can see the improvement in him too .. unfortunately last week, to my surprised i found out that he visited porn site ..a site which you can find new prositute arrival & hp no for you to call if you are interested (something like sammyboy)
... speechless & heartbroken when i saw that .. i really wanna noe why men would want to do such thing .. we are getting married in July this yr.. what should i do ?

sammyboyfor · #2 21-04-2010, 06:49 PM

Dump him and get yourself another man.

However, I have to warn you that your new boyfriend could well be even worse than the one you have now.

AmericanExpress · #3 21-04-2010, 06:55 PM

sorry may we ask if u neglected him sexually?

PEACELUVER · #4 21-04-2010, 06:59 PM

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Originally Posted by heartbreak

I've been with him for 3yrs +,when we 1st started he's a two timers, he knew that girl before me.. i have forgiven him for the 1st time.
Half a yr later, i found out that he patronize prostitute. Confronted him, his reason is curious & he promised he wont do it again then i had forgiven him the 2nd times. . i've totally lost trust in him ..from then already 2yrs, in this 2 yrs he do put in effort to gain back my trust i can see the improvement in him too .. unfortunately last week, to my surprised i found out that he visited porn site ..a site which you can find new prositute arrival & hp no for you to call if you are interested (something like sammyboy)
... speechless & heartbroken when i saw that .. i really wanna noe why men would want to do such thing .. we are getting married in July this yr.. what should i do ?

sis, how u maintain the 2yrs without trust with him?

and u dont have to know what you should do. only one way out, change a new guy and hope for the best

natsuki · #5 21-04-2010, 07:02 PM

If there is no 'trust' in a relationship, then what is the point of carrying on?
Move on bah... All the best... =)

Take care.

heartbreak · #6 21-04-2010, 07:38 PM

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Originally Posted by AmericanExpress

sorry may we ask if u neglected him sexually?

No, i didnt neglect him... we only did on weekend, weekday if i wan he will reject for sure .. mayb i do not have a sexy figure like others..

heartbreak · #7 21-04-2010, 07:44 PM

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Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

Dump him and get yourself another man.

However, I have to warn you that your new boyfriend could well be even worse than the one you have now.

why men like to patronize prositute even they are married / attached? 难到没有好男人吗。。。 dont they noe that it very hurting if their partner know about it ..

plsfloodme · #8 21-04-2010, 08:38 PM

Can you accept the fact that he had lied to you again and again? Also, are you prepared for the lies that he might tell you in future?

Otherwise, suggest that you move on as there will be better men available.

Juled Verne · #9 21-04-2010, 09:45 PM

Sis sad to her abt your predicatement. But looks like its time to move on with your life.

yangguo · #10 21-04-2010, 10:57 PM

Nowaday it is very normal for guys to visit porno site on internet.

Maybe he is looking for ways online to improve his love making techniques with you.

Give him one more chance lah.

aLinux · #11 21-04-2010, 11:16 PM

3 yrs plus is not a short time and you already forgave him twice.
furthermore,going to marry this July,i think should give him one last chance.

babyrex16 · #12 21-04-2010, 11:34 PM

Hey Sis, you've wasted 3 yrs to understand your man. Would you like to spend the rest of your life living in regrets with him??

Do consider k. All the BEST!!

limchuanpoh · #13 22-04-2010, 12:00 AM

ALL MEN FUCK ARD. Whether they want to admit is another thing...

QQ.[B]lurry · #14 22-04-2010, 12:20 AM

Hey sis heartbreak,

Firstly, take a deep breath and cool down. You should be smiling in the first place. Wanna know why? Because you in love with someone. It's true right? If not you won't even care about him in the 1st place. Not everyone in this world have the opportunity to love a "special" person other than our parents and friends.

2ndly, 3years of relationship is very long. I might not know the exact same way as how you are feeling but at least 50% i can understand because from my experience i do have a 3yr relationship before. It's normal to react in this way for a lady like you. It's part and parcel of love life. It would sounds silly if you telling me you didn't feel sad or disappointed in ya bf at least once for the past 3years. It's normal. You don't have to feel very bad about it. Just take it as a "pitstop" along the road where you will eventually hop on to the road and continue ya journey again.

3rdly, as for the cheating incident(timers + prostitutes). It might be a mistake of him or both parties depending on the situation in the 1st place. He might did stupid stuffs by cheating on you because 1) you did something wrong which force him to do so; 2) you neglect him in some ways by rejecting sex or otherwise; 3) you are always busy and got no time for him; 4) you level of appearance went down and he find you kinda boring at times so he might wanna look out for some fun elsewhere. Trust me guys won't cheat on their gf for no reasons. There must be at least one.

4thly, as for the porn site, i guess is normal for guys to do that. Even a 12yr old kid does that nowadays. Maybe it's wrong for you but you won't know that might even be a hobby to him even before he knows you. It's normal. I guess 75% of guys in Singapore watches porn except for disabled, old man above 60 and small baby boy. You should be happy at least his normal.

Lastly, as a humble opinion from me, i guess the answer is in ya heart. Follow what your heart says. We only can advice you but u're the one that makes the decision. Whatever decision you makes in future, just pray and hope that you won't ever regret it. Believe it or not, life is simple. It just how you look at things. All the best for you. Good luck.

(All these are my opinions. I hope i don't offend anyone.)

heartbreak · #15 22-04-2010, 12:48 AM

Thanks everyone for your good advice, i really appreciated that.. May god blessed all !