Need Help! My bf's secret fetish on women's undies.....

[jaz99]

Hi, I am living with my bf of 3 years and I found out that he has a secret fetish on women's undies, namely g-strings and panties. About a year ago, I caught him wearing a g-string once. It happened when I walked into the room and he was wearing it. The G-string was not even mine! He never gave me an explanation on it and I just let it go and never mention about it again in order not to hurt his pride. Everything seems normal after that incident.

Recently, I found a ladies panty hidden somewhere in his wardrobe. I just put it back and acted as if nothing had happened coz I don't know how to question him without making him embarrassed. I don't know where he got that from as it doesn't belong to me and it really hurt me knowing that he is doing these things. Can somebody tell me what is he thinking?

[Johnston]

It just means he craves the feminine smell(ahem) and the feminine tastes present on women's panties.

On the bright side, it also means he probably loves to lick and suck pussy and u can ask him if he wants it straight from the source.

On a duller note, if he loves the smell and taste but he doesnt like YOUR smell and taste, you may need to do a self finger test and see a docter if your particular bouquet is overpowering.

[pewpew]

Originally Posted by jaz99

Can somebody tell me what is he thinking?

Its simple, he is curious if he is wearing a female's g-string about how it feels but... BUT.... if he wear it and keep looking at the mirror admiring himself... than he is starting to *ahem* *ahem*...

1st thing u need to do is to talk to him, ask him why and how he felt when he is doing these...

Lastly, accompany him to seek medical treatment...

If all fail, bring him to thailand for *the operation*...

Good luck~

[TewKowLeySam]

my view is of 2 folds. first, i think u hv a real problem now, ie. dealing wif a man who has such fetish. if u r those who simply cannot accept such fetish then most probably u wl end up hvg problem trying to accept him. but if u understand n appreciate d fact tat different ppl hv different type of fetish n perversion, u might b able to talk to him n help him out, one way or another. perhaps then your 'problem' might not b a problem anymore.

You see, in Japan, some men went to d Sex shop to buy worn undies, n they r prepared to pay a high price for them. they dun wanna buy new undies. they just like to buy worn undies n to smell them. But these worn undies give those Japanese men great satisfaction! Why? dun ask me, i dun hv such fetish n so i dun really understand why.

Secondly, i believe almost everybody has certain type of fetish n perversion. it is a matter of degree n whether how much d individual could suppress their feeling. those whose mind r not so strong will "give in" n therefore their fetish n perversion will b manifested more readily. u see, there r many guys who go around stealing ladies' bra n undies. i happened to know of a chap who is like tat. it must b a terrible thing when his wife found out d truth. but i think he can't help it. it is a disease of d mind.

Different people (whether man or woman) hv different type of fetish n perversion. As a gf or wife, do u throw him out when u found out his fetish or perversion? or do u stand by him, understand him n help him to deal wif such disease of d mind?

my view does'nt end here. it is a huge topic n there wl b many many differing views, i believe. lets hear from others here.

[mayday]

in reply to TS's qns...i think to find out wat yer BF is thinking, best is to ask him straight and direct of cos have to let him know that you are concerned and tts y u are asking him.

hope this helps.

[Hann899]

Dear TS.
If your BF is wear that undies .. chances is he might be selling to worn undies to other man .. Extra income mah ..

Check this out .

YouTube - smells like japanese panties

[blaskkin]

extra income selling ah?

[keelblk]

Hi Jas99,

There are as many fetish as you can think of in man thinking.

Importantly, does he love you and treat you as a girl.

Some fetish is just a kind of satisfaction. Cos panties and bra are the most intimate to women. Or he might just wear it for fun, and fetish is addictve.

Hopefully you must know that in the world, there is something called Cross dresser, or simply CD. Some man like to feel the femenine side of himself. Wearing panties is one of a form to express themselve.

Couple should not be hidding some fetish or strange behaviour. Be prepare yourself if you ask him this question, what is the reason for wearing? Go straight to the point in someway, Do you like CDing or are you a CDer? (can you accept a CD as BF) if you can accept, it will be good. It is very common nowaday. it also call hetrosexual.

If he confess somethings others, or just fetish, and you still love him, try buy panties for him. instead of stealing. Even stealing from others laundry is a serious offence.

You must sincere to your question. I don mean your BF is a CD, but CD themselve is very soft inside them.

[Oralcraz]

Hi jass, I second the views of "TewKowLeySam".

Just want to say that you should have a heart to heart talk with him when the next opportunity arise. After understanding the situation, then u can decide what to do. Pse keep us updated.

[jaz99]

Thanks everyone for your opinions. I really can't bring myself to ask him as I know this will really hurt his pride as he is a person who has a very strong pride. If I do that, it may backfire and will cause our relationship to worsen.

I just want to seek opinions on why is he doing that and what he is thinking. It's not like we don't have sex or what, we have a fulfilling sex life and I always try to do what he asks. I just don't know why he is still doing this. I believe he had stolen those panties as he couldn't have bought it since he has such a strong pride. If he just has a fetish and just keeps the panties, I can accept but why must he go and wear them? It really disgusts me a lot.

[bochapsing]

Originally Posted by pewpew

Its simple, he is curious if he is wearing a female's g-string about how it feels but... BUT.... if he wear it and keep looking at the mirror admiring himself... than he is starting to

Originally Posted by TewKowLeySam

i believe almost everybody has certain type of fetish n perversion.

agree... guess he's either curious or having fetish of lady undies...
actually it may become part of ur sex life too...
role playing, cross dressing etc etc...
there r plenty of people with much more weird fetish...
so TS, u need not worry, nothing is wrong with ur bf..
either u play along or u just let him to have this small secret to himself...

[incomplete]

Originally Posted by jaz99

Hi, I am living with my bf of 3 years and I found out that he has a secret fetish on women's undies, namely g-strings and panties. About a year ago, I caught him wearing a g-string once. It happened when I walked into the room and he was wearing it. The G-string was not even mine! He never gave me an explanation on it and I just let it go and never mention about it again in order not to hurt his pride. Everything seems normal after that incident.

Recently, I found a ladies panty hidden somewhere in his wardrobe. I just put it back and acted as if nothing had happened coz I don't know how to question him without making him embarrassed. I don't know where he got that from as it doesn't belong to me and it really hurt me knowing that he is doing these things. Can somebody tell me what is he thinking?

I guess when you first discovered it... you must be thinking WTF!!!

[apalucakap]

Probably he keeps this cd secret for fear of loosing you. If he still loves you dearly, if I were you, I will let him have this little fantasy as long as he doesn't go around stealing or cause harm. If you can't talk it out of him, it's best to play along with him....guarantee he will love you sum sum. Wearing undies are no big deal, as one of my mate wears his wife's undies, or rather they share undies. He claims them to be very comfortable. Me haven't tried, of course.

So long as he doesn't put on makeup, I think it is ok by me,as there are much worse fetish weirdos out there.

[HCKing]

wats the big deal? even superman also likes to wear his undies outside. diff ppl diff fetish lah.

[pewpew]

Originally Posted by HCKing

wats the big deal? even superman also likes to wear his undies outside. diff ppl diff fetish lah.

maybe her bf is superman... lol

Damn, u made my boss spotting me surfing sbf... @#$#@#$