Is it egoism? Or Chauvinism? Or both?

Charmaine · #1 17-04-2009, 06:26 PM

I've got a pretty interesting question I would like to ask all men out there, at the same time take a straw poll to form some preliminary conclusions.

If a man exhibits the following traits:

- want (or feel a need) to know what his girlfriend's daily schedule is, and expect her to be telling him that herself without him asking everyday, if not she "doesn't love him enough"

- expect to keep in touch everyday, expect her to miss him most of the time, and get angry whenever she fails to call him at his desired frequency

- pains him to know that she's had, or slept with, 6 guys before him, and always harping about her dating history because he's so hurt by it

- lose his temper whenever she goes out and gets drunk, even when she was just having fun with her girl friends, and claim that she's "not a good girl"

- get mighty pissed and overly possessive whenever he saw his girlfriend get all touchy with his guy friends, even though you know for sure there's nothing fishy going on between them and it's just a bit of fun

- not accept his girlfriend loving him less than he loves her? In other words, what he does for her she must reciprocate, or at least appreciate, if not "she doesn't love him"

- not accept giving more than receiving in a relationship

- expects his girlfriend to change certain things for him, attempting to mould her into his "desired personality in a girlfriend", rather than accommodating himself to her

is he just governed by egoism? Or chauvinism? Or both? Or is this about chauvinism at all? What would you call a man who exhibits all of the above traits?

Discuss.

BigR · #2 17-04-2009, 06:44 PM

No need to discuss...

The guy is behaving like a girl..ask him to start wearing a skirt....

Or what is it that he is insecure about? His small package?

pewpew · #3 17-04-2009, 06:49 PM

Thats how i expect a relationship to be when i was in Sec, but now, its all just selfishness, there are no such thing and it doesn't exist...

liberatte · #4 17-04-2009, 07:00 PM

That ain't a man... If you label him as a girl, it will shame all girls...
Labeling him as a prick is too good...

egoism or chauvinism? IMHO, neither... he's worse than both added up together

Confederate SA · #5 17-04-2009, 08:35 PM

Over possessive bordering on psycho. Come to think about like what some of the others said... very psycho chick behaviour.

procodin1 · #6 17-04-2009, 08:45 PM

this is not a man.perhaps shuld be call a boy instead.behaving like such a kiddo

Erasure · #7 17-04-2009, 09:08 PM

I too was once like that....shame to say...

Its nothing to do with ego or chauvinism, its about maturity....when a person displays such traits, he simply just need to grow up, that's all....

TheSting · #8 17-04-2009, 09:31 PM

- lose his temper whenever she goes out and gets drunk, even when she was just having fun with her girl friends, and claim that she's "not a good girl"

- get mighty pissed and overly possessive whenever he saw his girlfriend get all touchy with his guy friends, even though you know for sure there's nothing fishy going on between them and it's just a bit of fun

These 2... when together.. is a recipe for disaster....

Fusion · #9 17-04-2009, 09:36 PM

Your Bf is what he is due to you.
Have you as a girlfriend is his mishap.
He should treat you as his FB instead.

Look at yourself and think of what you are doing before you blame
him.
If you write this, mean you do not love him at all.
Do a good deed, have a good fuck with him and let him go (breakup with him).

Why are you with him? Financially he is helping you?
I can do if you want to be my FB... And I will not behave like him because
you are only my FB.

flux · #10 17-04-2009, 09:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Charmaine

- want (or feel a need) to know what his girlfriend's daily schedule is, and expect her to be telling him that herself without him asking everyday, if not she "doesn't love him enough"

Sorry. I didn't bother to read the rest cos the first statement says it all. He is just a insecure young boy who needs to grow up. By leaving him, you are doing more good for him.

fattyman · #11 17-04-2009, 09:54 PM

He is a petty sissy, not man, also nothing to discuss further

Fusion · #12 17-04-2009, 09:58 PM

TS,

You are a guy....
So this must be you writing about yourself.
Dump that girl....
Give her one last screw...
Screw her ass...
Then dump her...
Be a man.... You are a better man...
She is making you to be a petty man...the fault not yours.

bh69 · #13 17-04-2009, 10:01 PM

Obsessive love

geckoSG · #14 17-04-2009, 10:15 PM

I label the guy as a loser and the gal as a bitch.

Why bitch U may ask.

She goes around touchy with all his friends, sooner or later she goes lay
around in bed with all his friends... look at the number of such postings
here and U will know... The force is strong among us...

Nothing is harmless, just doing things adult normally do, shag babe yeah!

HCKing · #15 18-04-2009, 01:26 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by pewpew

Thats how i expect a relationship to be when i was in Sec, but now, its all just selfishness, there are no such thing and it doesn't exist...

u r right man, its plain selfishness. this kinda person has a self centred character whereby he would expect the other party's life to be centred around his. basically he is much more concerned abt his ego, his feelings, his needs and his face etc when in a relationship. his notion of love means the other party 'belongs' to him and must accomodate herself to his lifestyle and expectations in order to 'deserve' his love.