Losing interest when having sex...

[citibonk]

This problem happens to me more than 50% of the time I had sex.

Goes like this...
= Meets a new girl somewhere.
= ... ...
= Eventually brings her home for sex.
= The tension is heart-stopping. Extremely excited to see her strip and get naked, and to be able to screw her.
= The initial foreplay is good. Gets a great hard-on.

= 1 or 2 minutes after I penetrate, I totally lose interest. It's like I have already seen the body, and there's nothing about it. I have seen the flaws on her face and her body (example small marks on face, pores on nose, the boobs slant to the side, the body too short, weight loss stretch marks, teeth not clean or white enough, hair has an oily smell ... ...).

= These are trivial flaws but they cause me to lose interest right away. My mind starts to wander, and I think about football, or about another girl I should be screwing.

= I worry about whether this is normal. The only times I maintained sex interest from start to end is when the girl is great from head to toe (face or at least the makeup is flawless, face is beautiful, body is smooth and fair throughout, nails are done well, hair and body smells great)

= When this problem first happened, I will try with the girl another day. It usually gets worse. Can't even get hard!


I wonder whether it is abnormal not to be able to have sex with girls with trivial flaws. Will someone advise me? I am inclined to think I have a psychological problem.

I am nearing 30 this year. It's not ED, because I am able to maintain a good erection for an hour or so, and go 2 or 3 times with a girl I am interested in.

TIA.

[Oralcraz]

From yr post, I believe is totally psychological. Also, who is the girl? Someone u meet in PUBs/total stranger/WL/FL or colleague etc. This has a baring on performance simply b'cos......"the feel" is different.
Different people get arouse differently. Some easily, some more difficult. For me very easy one

Good luck.

[DarthRevan]

You're a perfectionist? I think even pornstars are not flawless

[HeadOn]

its more like a mindset thing i should say...subconsciously u have inprint something u really like n the thing is a must have....once u din see it or see something u dun really like, automatically ur brain tells u sian half way liao..

[silverblue]

you sure you enter the right hole?

[citibonk]

Thanks all for your comments.

Would you say I have a problem?
Or that I am normal, but a tad too picky?

[rank123]

Originally Posted by DarthRevan

You're a perfectionist? I think even pornstars are not flawless

Maybe watch too much porn so expect all girls to be flawless..

[idiotass]

Originally Posted by silverblue

you sure you enter the right hole?

Bro, this is a good one.

[cheongsterjon]

Your problem might be due to a variety reasons.

Is it because you have watched too much porn and then you expect every girl you up to have the perfect body, flawless skin and magazine-worthy face? Or is it because you have visited too many pros and thus you expect the girls to be that skillful in bed, can suck you dick like a lollipop and ass-rim you. No girl/lady is flawless. The working lady you visit in a health center might have too big boobs, making it look disproportionate with her body or whatsoever.

Put behind these great expectations (not asking you to up a hippo or ugly girl) and you can enjoy great sex.

[AirAsia]

Rest a while, do other stuff and the feel will be back...

[Oldmanliao]

TS, you just enjoy the hunt. I do too ! it is immaterial whether we screw her or not. Dun worry, you are not abnormal,you just ready to commit to someone.

[Conwy]

Your interest seems on the foreplay.
As for your case if you want sex, just go direct without foreplaying and that might help.

[pewpew]

Originally Posted by citibonk

Thanks all for your comments.

Would you say I have a problem?
Or that I am normal, but a tad too picky?

I believe u have the same problem with me...

Enjoy the moment of getting the girl in bed but not the moment in bed for the actual sex.

We, the special ones enjoy the fun of woo-ing the girl.
We, get fustrated when we fail but we never bend over to the failure.
We, try again and again with all sorts of excuses to get girls into our bed.
BUT!!!!!!
We, the moment girl laying on our bed naked, we have no desire to bonk with our mind wondering around the outer space.

[oOoLyRrAdoOo]

Maybe you wanna try to bonk gay to get the feel back ?

[Vadai]

I think it boils down to your chemistry with the partner and more importantly what ur goal... another reason we spend too much time over the finer points instead of the big picture in front of us. Be less picky/analytical and enjoy and have fun

Just my 2 cents