Do your friends abandon you when you have hardship? [Archive]

charlestan666

15-01-2021, 08:40 AM

Hello again my fellow Samsters, did you ever exp frds abandoning when you exp hardship such as divorce, breakup or bankruptcy?

I exp it once a long long time ago. Is brotherhood dead a long time ago or Singapore society is really a "you die your own business"? Sorry, not trying to open old wounds here, just want to hear the general opinion and experience.

There is a difference between an Associate and Friend.

Many people likes to address one another "brother" just to make the relationship sounds not so formal. Dunn expect them to treat you as brother just because they called you "bro"......

iluvbreast

15-01-2021, 08:42 AM

Hello again my fellow Samsters, did you ever exp frds abandoning when you exp hardship such as divorce, breakup or bankruptcy?

I exp it once a long long time ago. Is brotherhood dead a long time ago or Singapore society is really a "you die your own business"? Sorry, not trying to open old wounds here, just want to hear the general opinion and experience.

Some did, when I needed help to borrow some cash etc., most stick around.

I guess I am quite lucky, my old man advised me to choose my friends carefully, we may call everyone, friend, bro and so on but really keep in contact those that would stick around.

HonkyTonkyMan

15-01-2021, 10:38 AM

Naka_Timo

15-01-2021, 10:57 AM

It will depend. Some talk about money will siam far far.

Of course they may have some bad encounter before.

EtherC

15-01-2021, 11:49 AM

Never expect people to bail you out of trouble, even if you have done them favors or helped them in the past. I have seen a good number of snakes who bite the hand of those who helped them before. Sometimes people refuse to help because of this reason. Also there are a lot of selfish entitled people around who just look at their own needs /misfortunes (many times arising out of their poor decisions) but neglect to think why others “need” to help you pay for the consequences. If one does’nt invest in your friendships & just call when you are in need it will be tough to get help.

sammyboyfor

15-01-2021, 12:00 PM

squiggle

15-01-2021, 12:46 PM

Your friends even if they are good, they at most can only give you advice. They might not be able to help you to resolve your problems or giving you free money. Rely on no one but yourself, nobody will always be by your side.

I myself don't have much friends.

LooksLikeJesus

15-01-2021, 02:30 PM

I gone thru a divorce, remarried, bankruptcy , jobless for years do the occasional odd jobs here and there to pay the bills, slowly rebuild everything myself never needed friends or relatives help...most just show up throw comments here and there....I am a hard man now...don't believe in seeking help nor helping anyone...

I think your case is as bad as mine, if not worse. No pun intended. I am in the process of rebuilding my life, though facing some very difficult hurdles.

There is a difference between an Associate and Friend.

Many people likes to address one another "brother" just to make the relationship sounds not so formal. Dunn expect them to treat you as brother just because they called you "bro"......

I can tell the difference. 1 thing for sure, if I ever suspect someone with problematic character shows up for friendship. Definitely, I'II squash it.

It will depend. Some talk about money will siam far far.

Of course they may have some bad encounter before.

Never expect people to bail you out of trouble, even if you have done them favors or helped them in the past. I have seen a good number of snakes who bite the hand of those who helped them before. Sometimes people refuse to help because of this reason. Also there are a lot of selfish entitled people around who just look at their own needs /misfortunes (many times arising out of their poor decisions) but neglect to think why others “need” to help you pay for the consequences. If one does’nt invest in your friendships & just call when you are in need it will be tough to get help.

I never ask for money, only support

LooksLikeJesus

15-01-2021, 03:01 PM

Hard lessons I learnt:

1) Pick your friends wisely when young, becoz once we hit middle age it's different. People tend to have commitments and find making new friends a chore. Besides, all relations take time and effort to grow

2) Water tend to seeks its own level

3) Never give unsolicited advice and help of significance. Most people, least in SG will never even say "thank you".

4) Been around several developed countries. Fast paced and $ focused environment makes people pragmatic, friendship is a luxury.

5) Never tell your personal problems to them. Somehow, I find that certain majority race in SG has an attitude/psychological disorder and would love to see their own kind fall hard in the face. It is a self-loathing race, including their country of ancestry.

This is my perception, pretty sure I am right and I make no apologises for that.

6) The duration of the friendship does not matter, people can just walk out due to convenience. Doesn't matter if you helped them many times in the past. In fact, I never ever brought them up nor use them as an emotional blackmail.

7) Never tell the truth, even if you try to be as tactful as possible. Smile, give a general PC one-liner and leave the scene asap. Always expect the other party to behave the same.

8) Never, ever be afraid to say "NO". Even if your friend is a gorgeous chick/stud/whatever [ insert appropriate term ].

9) Do not expect reciprocation in a friendship, no matter how long the friendship duration. Give what you deem appropriate and be done with it. For my case, I would never give anything again.

10) I was young, naïve and stupid, but never again. :D

pearlnjewel

15-01-2021, 06:44 PM

There is a difference between an Associate and Friend.

Many people likes to address one another "brother" just to make the relationship sounds not so formal. Dunn expect them to treat you as brother just because they called you "bro"......

Agree, those guy and girl who call others bro without really being close friends are very inauthentic, hair stand; Sound very fake. Especially some alpha guys wannabe who just met through friends who want to act very outgoing and want to chamxiong like close with everyone. Everyone knows what's their agenda, sibei disgusting.

Female who call you bros are those who just want to get what they want, super turn off from a human being. These girls just want to draw the line that they need help don't expect anything else. I'm sure if they want to be more sincere they can just address by name. Before calling other bros they never think what good things have they done for the 'bros' they calling.

fallen11

16-01-2021, 12:35 AM

of course have!
Who wouldnt?
Its actually good as this is one of the times to weed out all the fake friends.
But hor
even true friends help you also got a limit one ok
if you are under difficult times but didnt ask for help. No reason for any friends to abandon you
if you ask for help, only true friends will help you
but if you ask for too much. even true friend will abandon you.
too much like. Those gambling addicts. Ask to borrow a thousand. lose liao few days later borrow a few thousands more from you. Never ending one and never pay you back. Even if you true friend also will cut him loose.

HonkyTonkyMan

16-01-2021, 09:42 AM

I think your case is as bad as mine, if not worse. No pun intended. I am in the process of rebuilding my life, though facing some very difficult hurdles.

Dun worry when you hit rock bottom, there is only one way to go...and that up..;)

Iceman11

16-01-2021, 10:22 AM

Well said for these particular 3 points.

Point 3 - I found it really hard to understand why is that so difficult for people to say “thank you” and “sorry” these days, especially for those that are even closer, is the society really sick ?

Point 6 - speaking on own experience, the more you help the more they start take things as granted and when you reduce help, they start to blame you.

Point 9 - personal experience again, helped a long time close Friend by bringing him to same company work directly under me after he lost his previous job, protected him like own brothers and made him shine, at the end he turned around and said to me “you can be at where you are now all because of me making you look good” :rolleyes:

My conclusion is ... there is still true friendships ... but perhaps these are “Dinosaurs” (mostly extinct) :D

Hard lessons I learnt:

3) Never give unsolicited advice and help of significance. Most people, least in SG will never even say "thank you".

6) The duration of the friendship does not matter, people can just walk out due to convenience. Doesn't matter if you helped them many times in the past. In fact, I never ever brought them up nor use them as an emotional blackmail.

9) Do not expect reciprocation in a friendship, no matter how long the friendship duration. Give what you deem appropriate and be done with it. For my case, I would never give anything again.
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BoLiang

16-01-2021, 01:51 PM

last time i tried to help a bro, he disappeared with my 7k.

guess 20 years of friendship is only worth 7k.

incognitoboi

16-01-2021, 02:27 PM

friendship dont involve money.

LooksLikeJesus

16-01-2021, 04:40 PM

Point 9 - personal experience again, helped a long time close Friend by bringing him to same company work directly under me after he lost his previous job, protected him like own brothers and made him shine, at the end he turned around and said to me “you can be at where you are now all because of me making you look good” :rolleyes:

D

My guess your "friend" is same as my "friend". Though, I am don't have such position nor power to help a friend. This one I helped him to fix his computer many times ages ago. No money req FOC completely, my only condition is to do it on my convenience. Never even say "Thank you". There are there to extract value.

When my long term relationshit ended and I still wanted to hang out as per normal. This guy told me to F off. And no, my ex and him are not in the same circle of friends.

Iceman11

16-01-2021, 05:34 PM

It’s ok bro, look at this way at least u see the true face.

So move on.... and bingo... your Pt 10.... life is forever learning anyway.

Cheers ! 🍺

My guess your "friend" is same as my "friend". Though, I am don't have such position nor power to help a friend. This one I helped him to fix his computer many times ages ago. No money req FOC completely, my only condition is to do it on my convenience. Never even say "Thank you". There are there to extract value.

When my long term relationshit ended and I still wanted to hang out as per normal. This guy told me to F off. And no, my ex and him are not in the same circle of friends.

Greenfrog

16-01-2021, 11:24 PM

5) Never tell your personal problems to them. Somehow, I find that certain majority race in SG has an attitude/psychological disorder and would love to see their own kind fall hard in the face. It is a self-loathing race, including their country of ancestry.

This is my perception, pretty sure I am right and I make no apologises for that.

Point 5 is spot on.

Chinese don't like people to be better than them.
Chinese girls don't like to see their friends marry a good guy. （嫁的比自己好）

CaptAm

17-01-2021, 03:17 AM

Hard lessons I learnt:

1) Pick your friends wisely when young, becoz once we hit middle age it's different. People tend to have commitments and find making new friends a chore. Besides, all relations take time and effort to grow

5) Never tell your personal problems to them. Somehow, I find that certain majority race in SG has an attitude/psychological disorder and would love to see their own kind fall hard in the face. It is a self-loathing race, including their country of ancestry.

6) The duration of the friendship does not matter, people can just walk out due to convenience. Doesn't matter if you helped them many times in the past. In fact, I never ever brought them up nor use them as an emotional blackmail.

8) Never, ever be afraid to say "NO". Even if your friend is a gorgeous chick/stud/whatever [ insert appropriate term ].

10) I was young, naïve and stupid, but never again. :D

“It’s not that we have more patience as we grow older, it’s just that we’re too tired to care about all the pointless drama” - quote from online

last time i tried to help a bro, he disappeared with my 7k.

guess 20 years of friendship is only worth 7k.

I had the same situation as you, 8 years of friendship is only worth $900.

pakpak2001

17-01-2021, 10:24 AM

last time i tried to help a bro, he disappeared with my 7k.
guess 20 years of friendship is only worth 7k.

猪狗朋友 many out there

everyday call u brother, then when u in trouble, they not only siam u but still talk bad (false things) about u behind your back

1 bro (whom I lend $ to him FOC so many times and never even pay me back 1c cent) even block my number

when i cum out of changi bangalow & bump into him at amk, he ecen pretend not to know and see me

friends and bros!

HonkyTonkyMan

17-01-2021, 01:25 PM

LooksLikeJesus

17-01-2021, 01:51 PM

Merged with another post

LooksLikeJesus

17-01-2021, 01:54 PM

猪狗朋友 many out there

everyday call u brother, then when u in trouble, they not only siam u but still talk bad (false things) about u behind your back

1 bro (whom I lend $ to him FOC so many times and never even pay me back 1c cent) even block my number

when i cum out of changi bangalow & bump into him at amk, he ecen pretend not to know and see me

friends and bros!

This is the general behaviour of most Singaporeans. That's why I am distancing myself from most and people of our ancestry.

The past does not account for the present. Just start over and move on without them, m8.

one thing must learn is relatives or friends add in lending or borrowing money don't go well together..

This is generally true. Only loan if you are comfortable with the idea. But never loan more than you can afford, if you entertain that idea.

cocky1234

17-01-2021, 02:24 PM

pakpak2001

17-01-2021, 02:51 PM

I have people that i treat as friends, that abandoned me, even worse still add insult to me by saying negative things just to make me looks inferior in comparison to them.

Learn a hard lesson, never trust people 100 percent.
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this guy whom i always buy him free wine in ktv, even lend him $ FOC
when i'm down & out, he not even blacklist me, he even tell friend he should not have accept my wine and loans as all this are dirty $, come from dirty biz.

u are right, now i trust my neighbour's dog 97%, prostitutes 2.9%, people 0.1%

LooksLikeJesus

17-01-2021, 04:03 PM

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this guy whom i always buy him free wine in ktv, even lend him $ FOC
when i'm down & out, he not even blacklist me, he even tell friend he should not have accept my wine and loans as all this are dirty $, come from dirty biz.

u are right, now i trust my neighbour's dog 97%, prostitutes 2.9%, people 0.1%

Actually, I am a part volunteer feeding cats around my neighbourhood. The cats are quite happy to see me. Even made a cardboard house for one, she uses it quite often.

Only downside, I am surrounded by lao kuey bus instead of chio bus:o.

I am also on quite ok terms with a Japanese dude as acquaintances. I usually get along better with Japanese and Koreans, despite speaking none of their languages. Don't mind me asking, you got trouble finding jobs with your record? Can dm me, if you want to talk abt it.

pakpak2001

17-01-2021, 04:33 PM

LooksLikeJesus

17-01-2021, 04:44 PM

[QUOTE=LooksLikeJesus;20429066]Don't mind me asking, you got trouble finding jobs with your record?
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i have no trouble finding jobs, maybe becas i do cleaning dish or clearing rubbish jobs, house painting (sit gondo up high paint block outside)

last time b4 covid work waiter also cover cashier, ok until local supervisor know, then stop me from cashier, then all colleaks all siam me

You can consider using your SkillsFuture credits to get a heavy forklift license. Pay not bad, $2K++ but long working hrs, per day like 12hrs ++. Or get a crane operator license, pay is abt $3K++ (The last time i checked)

If you don't know how to claim SkillsFuture credits. Ask me.

As long as it's private company. Best don't declare and don't tell your colleagues even when you are drunk or you fucked one of them (women tend to have big mouths).

pakpak2001

17-01-2021, 08:36 PM

[QUOTE=pakpak2001;20429107]
As long as it's private company. Best don't declare and don't tell your colleagues even when you are drunk or you fucked one of them (women tend to have big mouths).
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think HR inform the supervisor (male)
he then tell all workers incldg dishwasher
they all give me that "even dog see u down" look after this
wat to do? the supervisor think he v upright, clean and religious, always say "o mi tor fo & gan-en"

LooksLikeJesus

17-01-2021, 09:01 PM

[QUOTE=LooksLikeJesus;20429124]
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think HR inform the supervisor (male)
he then tell all workers incldg dishwasher
they all give me that "even dog see u down" look after this
wat to do? the supervisor think he v upright, clean and religious, always say "o mi tor fo & gan-en"

This is quite the normal attitude in SG culture. In Australia, if I remembered correctly in state of Victoria. People with assault charge can serve in police force, LoL!

If you ever considered my advice and took up any of the license. Life will be much easier for you. In fact, now is the best time to take up the license. Coz most foreigners are stuck in their own countries. Think about it. Depending on your record, minor offences can take up a position in SCDF as well. But that is up top their own discretion and you die die must declare.

Beretta

18-01-2021, 12:55 AM

Greenfrog

18-01-2021, 08:53 AM

LooksLikeJesus

18-01-2021, 03:23 PM

My theory is that secondary school is probably the last chance to make real friends. there is still a bit of goodness in all of us.

army ? nah. there are no friends in army.:):)

secondary school ->I severed ties with them

national service -> I severed ties with them

There were too many red flags. Everything, fb, email, phone, U name it. This was after the big crisis I had. I learned to read people much better after that. The above mentioned 2 grps, some of them I already outgrew them, some were disappointments, some were out to associate with me for benefits.

ilovepantyhose

18-01-2021, 08:51 PM

one thing must learn is relatives or friends add in lending or borrowing money don't go well together..

This is the general behaviour of most Singaporeans. That's why I am distancing myself from most and people of our ancestry.

The past does not account for the present. Just start over and move on without them, m8.

This is generally true. Only loan if you are comfortable with the idea. But never loan more than you can afford, if you entertain that idea.

only loan money that u can afford to lose. and to sidetrack slightly: never be a guarantor, u don't know when u might be screwed over :eek:

I have people that i treat as friends, that abandoned me, even worse still add insult to me by saying negative things just to make me looks inferior in comparison to them.

Learn a hard lesson, never trust people 100 percent.

some people like to talk shit so that they feel more superior, to your face somemore :o

Ladyrain

21-01-2021, 06:16 PM

No such thing as best friends.
Its always about how much useful you are to them being with you.
Be very rich.
Depend on yourself.
End of the day, Every body and Every one leaves you.
The only person sticking around is yourself.

hotguy2468

24-01-2021, 05:43 PM

Friends? Mine are all Bros....:D
Everyone will approach me and call me "bro" when I had money to burn...... :)
But all of them avoid or pretend dunno me when I am down and out.....:rolleyes:

So now my only true friend or buddy is Yusoff Ishak..... which I keep tightly in my wallet and bank accounts.

hotguy2468

24-01-2021, 06:06 PM

In this modern society people are very pragmatic especially so here in SGP.
I learnt from a very young age while in primary school there are no real friends in life..... only people who become your "friend" for the benefits and connections by being associated with you. It was drilled into me by my grandpa & family elders never ever to trust anybody.... only trust myself.

Lucky for you to have such good advice from young.

Mine was the exact opposite.... from young it was drilled into me to uphold the meaning of "Brotherhood"... one for all and all for one.... from my lion dance troupe, kungfu martial art koon, NS days and workplace... everyone spouted brotherhood and even prayed to Kwan Ti.
Yes.... everyone was a "brother" in those times of abundance and easy money.... but when times are bad.... where are those so-called "brothers"?
It become as every man for himself.... you die is you own business.

"Brotherhood" and friends are non existent in this society..... the only friend you can count on nowadays is Yusoff Ishak..... :)

BoSongSnr

24-01-2021, 06:45 PM

There is a difference between an Associate and Friend.

Many people likes to address one another "brother" just to make the relationship sounds not so formal. Dunn expect them to treat you as brother just because they called you "bro"......

There's one member who address me "bro, bro". Borrowed $$ from me but got return la. After that he stab me at the back. Just for info, most bros here call him "the pilot" lol :D

pakpak2001

26-01-2021, 04:15 PM

the only friend you can count on nowadays is Yusoff Ishak..... :)
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make sure its purpur yusoft ishake, not th red or blue

LooksLikeJesus

27-01-2021, 06:09 PM

Sometime have a lot money... also no true friends :( because when you 风光 time, have something they see n like? they chat you up. Few reasons actually... either they wana learn from you or they wana suck from you etc.

People living a good life and have style usually have that "+ve aura" which also attract others. So if someone living a bad life hard life and have very jialat style..... they see that as "-ve aura" and stay away from it.

when someone is at bottom of their life drowning away.... you gave them the only lifeline and raise them up..... very soon they also forget about it. :(

Actually teaching them the ropes for me is ok. Extracting $ is not.

Pictionary

28-01-2021, 12:07 AM

secondary school ->I severed ties with them

national service -> I severed ties with them

There were too many red flags. Everything, fb, email, phone, U name it. This was after the big crisis I had. I learned to read people much better after that. The above mentioned 2 grps, some of them I already outgrew them, some were disappointments, some were out to associate with me for benefits.
Can i ask are u doing a very useful full-time job or just working to pass time?

I dun think it is really good to read ppl much better. Yes, there is some toxic colleagues, but if they hold an important job position how?

There is a correlation between your career and your socialisation with ppl. Let's face the facts of life. I have seen how socialisation helps a bit in the career progression.

If u have a good and stable career, then u can make enemy with anyone. But if u dun have, then i dun think i can agree with what u say.

LooksLikeJesus

29-01-2021, 05:15 AM

Can i ask are u doing a very useful full-time job or just working to pass time?

I dun think it is really good to read ppl much better. Yes, there is some toxic colleagues, but if they hold an important job position how?

There is a correlation between your career and your socialisation with ppl. Let's face the facts of life. I have seen how socialisation helps a bit in the career progression.

If u have a good and stable career, then u can make enemy with anyone. But if u dun have, then i dun think i can agree with what u say.

My previous statements only concerned about my personal life, my professional life have nothing to do with this. I can smile in the face of people that I don't like , drop them some small favours and feel nothing. I'II entertain you since I have time.

It is always better to have a skill @ reading people than none. This is to guard against them, if possible strike pre-emptively.

Good question: "Yes, there is some toxic colleagues, but if they hold an important job position how? " -> What happens if they don't like you to the core despite all your sucking up, how are you gonna cope with it?

Also, high power individuals tend to stick with their own, it's called water seeking its own level. Same goes for the type of woman you have for a wife. Speaking of which, you must be married with least 1 child to feed?

Even low level employees have feuds (albeit petty, and I don't give a shit about these stuff and people).

Good statement but not entirely correct: "If u have a good and stable career, then u can make enemy with anyone." -> Unless you're in a position that able to get close to the board of directors, have insider trading info or in a high civil servant position (Hats off to you and congrats, if you are one). It is a matter of time that anyone can replace YOU.

"There is a correlation between your career and your socialisation with ppl. Let's face the facts of life. I have seen how socialisation helps a bit in the career progression." -> Is maybe true, but I hope you're aware that in certain fields, there're tons of psychopathic tendencies people around. Beautiful women included. :D

I personally witness and worked for one before, it's so fake that I can tell. It's been years so I am able to mimic some of their behavioural traits. And yes, I am a sociopath with antisocial traits. May luck be with you and not end up a sacrificial lamb :D

A read for you: https://www.businessinsider.com/professions-with-the-most-psychopaths-2018-5?r=US&IR=T

https://i.ibb.co/RYtXtsJ/image-2021-01-29-053624.png (https://ibb.co/KbBtBf8)

Pictionary

30-01-2021, 05:03 PM

My previous statements only concerned about my personal life, my professional life have nothing to do with this. I can smile in the face of people that I don't like , drop them some small favours and feel nothing. I'II entertain you since I have time.

It is always better to have a skill @ reading people than none. This is to guard against them, if possible strike pre-emptively.

Good question: "Yes, there is some toxic colleagues, but if they hold an important job position how? " -> What happens if they don't like you to the core despite all your sucking up, how are you gonna cope with it?

Also, high power individuals tend to stick with their own, it's called water seeking its own level. Same goes for the type of woman you have for a wife. Speaking of which, you must be married with least 1 child to feed?

Even low level employees have feuds (albeit petty, and I don't give a shit about these stuff and people).

Good statement but not entirely correct: "If u have a good and stable career, then u can make enemy with anyone." -> Unless you're in a position that able to get close to the board of directors, have insider trading info or in a high civil servant position (Hats off to you and congrats, if you are one). It is a matter of time that anyone can replace YOU.

"There is a correlation between your career and your socialisation with ppl. Let's face the facts of life. I have seen how socialisation helps a bit in the career progression." -> Is maybe true, but I hope you're aware that in certain fields, there're tons of psychopathic tendencies people around. Beautiful women included. :D

I personally witness and worked for one before, it's so fake that I can tell. It's been years so I am able to mimic some of their behavioural traits. And yes, I am a sociopath with antisocial traits. May luck be with you and not end up a sacrificial lamb :D

A read for you: https://www.businessinsider.com/professions-with-the-most-psychopaths-2018-5?r=US&IR=T

https://i.ibb.co/RYtXtsJ/image-2021-01-29-053624.png (https://ibb.co/KbBtBf8)
I understand what u mean, however it goes nowhere.

What can u advise for someone without any adequate knowledge and skills, and working in a company with selfish, toxic and high power individuals? I dun expect any good answers from u, just answer to the best of your knowledge, truthfully and practically.

LooksLikeJesus

30-01-2021, 09:00 PM

I understand what u mean, however it goes nowhere.

What can u advise for someone without any adequate knowledge and skills, and working in a company with selfish, toxic and high power individuals? I dun expect any good answers from u, just answer to the best of your knowledge, truthfully and practically.

I don't expect good answers from you either. You're just another chip off the block like any Sinkie. :D Those are psychological findings. Where else you just based entirely off your own personal opinions.

As ludicrous as your opinions are, I'II respect them as ludicrous as they are. :D And no, you don't understand what I meant, in the slightest sense.

Pictionary

30-01-2021, 10:47 PM

I don't expect good answers from you either. You're just another chip off the block like any Sinkie. :D Those are psychological findings. Where else you just based entirely off your own personal opinions.

As ludicrous as your opinions are, I'II respect them as ludicrous as they are. :D And no, you don't understand what I meant, in the slightest sense.
So u are a lone ranger with nobody to go out except yourself? I knew from the start that after u sever ties with everyone, you are a loser from your education, ns and work. So what benefits can ppl get from u when u have none? U have no right to lecture ppl if u are a loser, and of course u have all the time to read ppl's mind bec u are now jobless and liable to go for reservist.

If u want to be a winner and refuse to be sore loser, talk what u like and refuse to accept criticism, then so be it. Dun waste my time and dun bother to reply. It's not like u know how to play stocks and shares, do programming, banking etc. Just that u are too ashamed to tell ppl u are a taxi driver, a pimp and busy writing sbfsg forum.

LooksLikeJesus

31-01-2021, 06:53 AM

So u are a lone ranger with nobody to go out except yourself? I knew from the start that after u sever ties with everyone, you are a loser from your education, ns and work. So what benefits can ppl get from u when u have none? U have no right to lecture ppl if u are a loser, and of course u have all the time to read ppl's mind bec u are now jobless and liable to go for reservist.

If u want to be a winner and refuse to be sore loser, talk what u like and refuse to accept criticism, then so be it. Dun waste my time and dun bother to reply. It's not like u know how to play stocks and shares, do programming, banking etc. Just that u are too ashamed to tell ppl u are a taxi driver, a pimp and busy writing sbfsg forum.

u sever ties with everyone, you are a loser from your education, ns and work. -> I said from my private life, my professional have nothing to do with it. Did I strike a nerve that you resort to name calling? Learn to read dumb arse, must I specifically tell you that I only keep in contact with my colleagues? Learn to read, blind idiot

U have no right to lecture ppl if u are a loser, and of course u have all the time to read ppl's mind bec u are now jobless and liable to go for reservist. -> You lecture me 1st. Be a man, if you want to dish out, be prepared to receive. Let's say I am really a loser, then you must be a sore loser. I may cry, least I have the dollar notes to wipe my tears. :D

Just that u are too ashamed to tell ppl u are a taxi driver, a pimp and busy writing sbfsg forum. -> What I do is none of your business. Are you trying to tell me that you look down on taxi drivers, pimps and people who feq SBF forums? Woah, you're sure a shit stirrer. Don't like what I post on the forum just put me on ignore list. I didn't put a knife to your throat to read my post nor I need your invalid opinions. Have a good day ahead. :D

HEY MY FELLOW SAMSTERS WHO ARE TAXI DRIVERS/PHV, PIMPS and PEOPLE WHO SPENT ALOT OF THEIR SBF FORUMS, THIS FELLOW Pictionary LOOKS DOWN ON YOU!

sepp

04-02-2021, 05:33 PM

This separate the real friends and happy friends only.

firerock1

03-03-2021, 02:01 AM

So how do one develops the ability to read people :) curious in your approach

xylphz

04-03-2021, 03:04 AM

So how do one develops the ability to read people :) curious in your approach

Would like to know more on this too !

pakpak2001

04-03-2021, 03:30 PM

This separate the real friends and happy friends only.
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during good time they wave hands to me
during my bad time they wave me away!
show me their middle finger, point finger to nearby rubbish bin, cb mouth talk bad behind my back

good time call me bro
bad time call me dog
no joke! i really see thru this people

jackylee

19-05-2021, 01:42 PM

Actually be it male or female, the basis of human social interactions is all about what benefit an individual can produce for another.

Same like we chose our ministers and governments because we think they can bring progress and benefits to us. If a government brings disaster to a country overtime you honestly think the people will still choose them as leaders?

Same as be it families or friends except to parents (because they are your parents and you are their child and nothing can change this) it is all about what benefit one can bring to another. I've heard of cases even siblings fall out when there's just too much shit to help all the time.

Almost everybody's positive relationships in life is merely conditioned and held up by what they can provide at that time. For example... a man by chance or by hardwork is a working a seemingly good looking job, earns good money, relatively okay looking, performs okay in bed, brings the dough, willing to spend and takes effort to care for people around them... will definitely attract women who wants to marry him or "bros" who want to be friend with him.

But wait till a crisis struck him. Like a major illness... or loosing the opportunity at career... or just became too tired to care. Then he will start to see whose still around.

That is why i never place importance in whose in my social circle. There is one saying i have for myself... that is "Give free money and benefits who will not smile at you and say you good?"

There is nothing to be proud of about these false sense of approvals people give you. They only do so because you're an "idiot" giving them what they want easily.

Check out youtube channels in recent years it's a trend to film acts of good deeds as a theme. They have got millions of likes and subscriptions. But if you just do a brief calculation you'd know how it is all business.

There's one famous dude in Philippines that go around giving food or plain cash every other day. I mean just driving around and giving cash. He's got such a strong fanbase... making as if he is god himself reborn.

But just do the calculations... the amount of money he is generating in from his youtube channel + his business due to his fame; what he gave out in cash is only a fraction.. maybe only 10% of what he reaps in.

At first i also think wow there's such a nice guy in the world. But as the more i follow... the more weird i feel because sometimes if something seem too good to be true, it maybe not. How can any normal human go around giving gifts, foods, money, assistance every other day and with no attitude or temper?