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xilverzap

20-02-2008, 08:54 PM

She stays at phetchabun, 3hrs northeast of bangkok. anyway, the family had already started building and spent about 300k (that's what she said). I am going over this weekend to take a look and do the sums. The house is for her family which consists mum, dad, 2 sons & 2 brothers. Supposedly 4 bedrooms. The costs of building materials have gone up and the pay for labour should come up to at least 100k for the entire project. Well, I have to go and see what had actually been done.

She is the type that wants everything fast, including getting a husband I suppose. I don't suppose that she would listen to her parents or brother. I am however vulnerable to emotional blackmail. Just have to take one step at a time.

Sorry, it is strange that the family starts ordering for a house to be built before or after you guys got married? If its before, it would be strange that they want to built a house on that kind of pricing without knowing if they got someone to foot the bill? If its after you are married, then it is also strange that building the house cost how much, you are not consulted and expected to fork out these money or she'll go back to the trade???

Take heart that everyone goes throough some form of emotional blackmail. However, love is lost if girl places material things above you. Family already are priority above you. Friends, for some, already above you.. now material things as well.... where do you stand in the end?

xilver

pussyman72

20-02-2008, 09:11 PM

The costs of building materials have gone up and the pay for labour should come up to at least 100k for the entire project. Well, I have to go and see what had actually been done.

yes i know the building materials have gone up quite alot. compare to last yr. i actually went with my ger to ask for the price for this things.

unlike u we have our uncles who help us do the house. so we just provide them lunch n dinner and few bottle of liq it good enough.

i suggest u go down with ur wife to the shop n check out the price of the thing u are buying. sometime u get cheaper in other shop. some really over charge.

as for blackmail. im not sure what u going to do. but bear this in mind if everytime she wants something n always use going to work again. is it fair to u.

Thai girls is like this when they want it they want it fast. that in build to them why cos their husband are not thai. they know they can get what they want. but there are thai girls who understand also.

cheers

rapebill

20-02-2008, 10:38 PM

yes, she has 2 sons. From what I know, one is her natural while the other is adopted. The problem with her is that she does not want me to know everything because the past was all unpleasant. If you ask me how much I know about her, seriously it is still a mystery. If knowing her past will help me understand her better, I has to settle for nitnoy bit and pieces.

well her family had done some homework wrt the housing project. From what I had gathered, her existing house, which only has 1 bedroom, is already 15 years old. So to me, she said that she has this dream of providing a new house for her family. And I had told her numerous times that we should get married only AFTER the house is built but somehow she chose to get married first. Anyway right from the start I had told her that I do not earn much nor have any savings although I did bought her a lot of items initially. That could have led to wrong impressions.

I don't think I will have any legal rights although her family had promised that they will take care of me whenever I am there. Not that I have that money to throw again, but the only legal papers they have is the title deeds to the land.

actually my main gripe is that she is priao (sour) and not waan (sweet) towards me and I am not used to such GFE. You know, she does not even like to kiss me and claims that she does not like kissing. Still scratching my head but now has a growing gnawing feeling that I am more of a paper husband whose mere functions are to provide money to her family. Wondering when I will be completely overwhelmed by this feeling.

I am not hoping much for a success story. Just want to follow my heart (as what a bro advised) and hope for the best.

Anyway, I will be going over this week. I thank all bros for their well wishes.

xilverzap

21-02-2008, 12:36 AM

Well bros

While it is ok to follow the heart, sometimes it is hard to swallow when things start to take a turn. Knowing a thai girl initially and wooing them is always a challenge and fun too. In the end, you get her... the 1st few months surely is nice. But when things settle down, you will discover that this girl wasnt the same girl you once wooed. Where has all the GF feelings gone?? Has she gone bored with me?? I think it happens to a lot of us too.

Not wanting to kiss, not showing much signs of romance after a while I think is normal cos you are getting to see the REAL person in her. But since you have married her, you'd have to try and accept with whatever she has become. Or at least try your best to.

Becareful rapebill, this growing gnawing feeling is not a good sign and if not kept in check... might explode to something very nasty. Things you are left to do now is to go up and access the situation there and like bro Norikasan55 says, see if you can find out more about WHOSE name the land belong to and talk with your wife that if you going to pump in so much money into the house. The least you wanna see is that you wife gets to OWN it in some sense.

xilver

pussyman72

21-02-2008, 02:11 AM

I don't think I will have any legal rights although her family had promised that they will take care of me whenever I am there. Not that I have that money to throw again, but the only legal papers they have is the title deeds to the land.

taking care is always there since u are the provider for the family if u understand what i mean.

actually my main gripe is that she is priao (sour) and not waan (sweet) towards me and I am not used to such GFE. You know, she does not even like to kiss me and claims that she does not like kissing. Still scratching my head but now has a growing gnawing feeling that I am more of a paper husband whose mere functions are to provide money to her family. Wondering when I will be completely overwhelmed by this feeling.

is it right from the start or after u are married n wanted to do the house later then she behave this way?

then u proberly have to rethink and maybe have a talk with her. the rest is up to u.

I am not hoping much for a success story. Just want to follow my heart (as what a bro advised) and hope for the best.

is good to follow our heart but if is a one sided then i think u should rethink.

pussyman72

21-02-2008, 02:19 AM

Knowing a thai girl initially and wooing them is always a challenge and fun too. In the end, you get her... the 1st few months surely is nice. But when things settle down, you will discover that this girl wasnt the same girl you once wooed. Where has all the GF feelings gone?? Has she gone bored with me?? I think it happens to a lot of us too.

i agree on this. always the initial affection kill the guys. cos the girls give u alot of attention blah blah blah. after sometime we dont get what we want from them anymore then we start thinking do they still love us? is she seeing anyone. blah blah blah.

well we just have to deal with this. not said they dont love u but we just have to accept their true char as what xilver said.

but also must see lar. something must be wrong if she become cold to us. sometime the girls also behave the same way as us. when we go steady with them, we give them lots of love n the later we have no time to shower them with love they also think what we think. so it both ways.

Gixer

21-02-2008, 02:54 AM

The house is for her family which consists mum, dad, 2 sons & 2 brothers.

Bro, no offence, but are you sure the 2 brothers are really her brothers and not her husband/ex-husband or boyfriend or what ever? I did not read the whole story, but its always very suspect when they ask you to build a house straight away. Most families will even give back the sinsod to the couple.

xilverzap

21-02-2008, 03:01 AM

Guys

I just want to say that as you read through these postings, we have been making some noises about how bad or why are thai girls like this or that.

I have something to let us all think a little. Let's turn this table around. These girls, be they previous FLs, decent ones or whatever, that 1 girl that eventually became your GF or Wife... What do they want in life? What are their priorities? Why are they not thinking in the same wave length as you? What is "wrong"?

We can say its culture differences. Yes. So, their culture is wrong and ours is right?? Is there such a thing?? A totally wrong culture??

I think sometimes we need to see it from their angle in order to understand them better for the betterment of ourselves.. (wa cheem..hehe)

I think they are the product of our doings. We treat them well in the first place. We take care of them inthe first place. We happy gum guan give them all we have IN THE FIRST PLACE.

So in all fairness, ITS OUR FAULT TOO. I know many may not agree. But give it a thought.

I love them thai ladies. They are so wonderfully crafted, so loving (if they wanna be). And as time go along with you being their only man in their life. I believe 1 day, you will be able to get to the top of their list of priorities. It takes time.

There are bad relationships and there are wonderful ones. Perhaps we should see the good things they bring when marrying a thai girl instead of making noise and cry why why why we are the victims. Arent they victims too when they cant get what they want?

Yes there are scammers and cheaters... they are in every other countries as well. Just look at PRCs thread. So nationality is no different. I guess when these thai girls, when they fall in love with a foreign man, they are also gambling that this man is a good man and able to provide for her and her closest and most important in their lives. Their family have been with them since BIRTH. You are with them when you just MET.

So I feel we should be a little fair to them.

Just my thoughts.

xilver

beauthaiful

21-02-2008, 05:17 AM

1 advice before you get KC.

Love don't cost a thing. Love is priceless

If girl start asking for cash $, ask yourself, "does she really love me? or my money?"

beauthaiful

21-02-2008, 09:07 AM

Haha.. you are everywhere!

So have you ever get KC? Did I miss reading your posting? Your tahan skill must be level 10/10.:p

I am only in threads that are constructive... :)
My tahan skills 10/10??? :confused:

theUnforgotten

21-02-2008, 10:16 AM

Guys

I have something to let us all think a little. Let's turn this table around. These girls, be they previous FLs, decent ones or whatever, that 1 girl that eventually became your GF or Wife... What do they want in life? What are their priorities? Why are they not thinking in the same wave length as you? What is "wrong"?

I agreed bro,

anyway Keep up the constructive postings on this thread.

I just want to say : managing one's expectations is the key, successful relationships may not always be measured in tangible yardsticks

I have had my share of ups and downs , WLs and non WLs relationships with TG ,PRC , Viets as well as the odd local SG gal. In the end ,there's something I still prefer about thai gal as wife or GF, they have that quality about them that's special compared to other gals of other nationalities ( it's an acquired taste)

I don't encourage or suggest we go looking for them in the bars of Soi cowboy , Nana entertainment plaza , Poseidon ,Catherine , Emmanuel MPs or FLs(full time or PT) from Okts. There's plenty of presentable Non-wls in thailand looking for the right guy too, except if you get tied down prepare for "jail" sentence , hehe:)

Having a relationship is not just only the happy parts , having one means taking the bad with the good times. Its about managing ones expectations and weathering the bad times. Though one must always use big head to think ( not that one down in our pants)

yinyang

21-02-2008, 10:55 AM

Love don't cost a thing. Love is priceless. If girl start asking for cash $, ask yourself, "does she really love me? or my money?"
Sure, we get your drift. But hor, money also can buy love 1:p
...love them thai ladies. They are so wonderfully crafted, so loving (if they wanna be).
Our archiles heel hehehe:D
...bad relationships and there are wonderful ones. Perhaps we should see the good things they bring when marrying a thai girl instead of making noise and cry why why why we are the victims. .
....scammers and cheaters... they are in every other countries as well. Just look at PRCs thread. So nationality is no different.
..when these thai girls, when they fall in love with a foreign man, they are also gambling that this man is a good man and able to provide for her and her closest and most important in their lives.
Yo, only fair and balanced view of the positives too (maybe like yours or PM's success story) ..not just negative vibes on pitfalls. Gal also taking a calculated (lifetime?) chance with you
..Take heart that everyone goes throough some form of emotional blackmail. However, love is lost if girl places material things above you. Family already are priority above you. Friends, for some, already above you.. now material things as well.... where do you stand in the end?
Soft parachute down to bro rapebill here. On emotional blackmail thingy, it comes in all forms and sizes. Been there and done it.. kns, I got out out of my LDTR to keep my sanity (and shallow pockets). Peace of mind's also priceless. Jury's out there for bro rapebill, but doesn't sound too good with cold (sour?) reception either. I mean, isn't r/s a 2 way traffic? Like some1 else said here, it's also about (mis)matched expectations

Fiery dragon

21-02-2008, 07:25 PM

After reading thru the various postings in this thread and was wondering how it feels like to have a Thai gf. My chance of experiencing it came recently...but unfortunately she is a Thai FL under the stable of one of the OKTs advertising in SBF.

I've bonked many pretty Thai FL b4 and had never fallen in love or develop any feelings with them before as i have the "Fxxk & Forget cheonging principle". However, this Thai FL somehow made me totally forget about my "cheonging principle". I shall perhaps call it "Love at first sight" and it applies to both of us as we had a wonderful time together for tat session as it felt like we have known each other for a long time.

Soon, I made the 1st mistake by asking her to send me her live pics in her hp and the 2nd mistake by exchanging hp no. with her. She subsequently smsed me to accompany her for supper and shopping in the night(Mustafa Centre) and i made the 3rd mistake by agreeing to it. We were holding hands whilst walking & shopping and hugging & kissing like a couple whilst in her hotel room. She did the same thing the following day by asking me to accompany her for shopping again with her Thai FL friend. Btw, she did not treat me as a "Cai Tou: Carrot head" at all as she always picked the least expensive items whereby she knew tat i wld be paying. Spent only $8 for the 1st day of shopping on chocolates and $15 on bracelets on the 2nd day. She told me tat she made one of her customers bought 2 bottles of perfumes for her costing over $100.

After the first 2 days, we were sending "I miss u" & "Gd Night" smses to each other for the next 3days. I decided to book her again on the 4th day for a night slot(i never bk night slot in my life b4) to give her a surprise as i missed her alot. She was pleasantly surprised to see me on tat night but i did not enjoy my time with her at all on tat night coz she kept telling me what her customers had bought for her...one even promised to book her for a whole day so as to bring her around S'pore...how the customers treated her friends(Thai FLs from same stable). I did get better services from her this time but I already don't have much mood to bonk her after hearing all that(jealousy overcame me). She kept asking "Why"...as my didi became hard one moment after her bbbj and softened after awhile for a few times for a gd 30mins(coz i kept thinking whether she treats 1 or 2 of her customers the same as me and her "time" with her customers). Performed a catbath on her and decided to stop after bonking her missionary for 10mins...no mood to continue.

Was initially thinking tat i could perhaps accompany her longer by booking a night slot as this would be my last time booking her but sadly..she received an sms from her okt tat someone had booked her for the next 12am slot and i have no choice but to leave with abt 8mins left. She sensed tat i'm angry and kept asking me to call her OKT to do something abt it(How to do anything abt it when her customer wld be arriving in 5-10mins time??). I then paid her and wanted to leave immediately...but she grabbed hold of my right hand and then hugged me tightly and called my "Darling, don't be angry". She then gave me a kiss on my lips and told me "Gd nite darling, see u again next time"....whereby i replied "This is my last time coming here and no more next time" and then walked away angrily.

She smsed me "I love u" in the next morning but i've decided to call it an end to this fruitless relationship by smsing her "Please forget me & don't love me" in both English & Thai as its actually very tormenting to have a Thai FL as a gf. Can't stop thinking of how she spends her "time" with her customers...be it bonking or shopping.

Just feels like sharing my experience here esp to bros who are thinking of getting a Thai gf or wife(be it an FL or non FL)...u better think twice. The "sense of security" is just not there...its like a common thing for Thai girls to be an FL and it seems like they don't feel shameful at all.

Exciter101

22-02-2008, 08:34 AM

Let put it this way....
To love someone or even like someone, u will have to accept for who she is.
No more talking about the past, only the future.
Their culture and ways of life do differ from ours, well learn about it and understand it.
To embark on a relationship with a thai ger, it is a challenge which most of us can't take it. Coz it takes alot of effort and time.
Most importantly it is about patience, perserverence, love, trust and understanding.
I wish all the best to all who are either in or thinking of starting a relationship with a thai ger.
Cheers.

FL Lover

22-02-2008, 10:01 AM

Well, Bro Fiery_DRAGON. You did the right thing. I remembered one of the bros had mentioned that there is no right or wrong when going for a Thai ger.

True. But if you are going for a Thai ger, would it not make any sense to go for someone who is not in the FL line. Some bros had mentioned to love someone is to forget her past. Easy to say than do hor.... So many pple had FXXKed your ger before your turn.. u dont mind meh... We are living in a real world, friend where pple judged you by your actions.

Not saying thai ger are bad. This goes the same for any part of the world. Just that, for bros who are seriuosly going for any ger working as FL before, becareful of KC TRAPS. They might give, shows u love but remember friend... HUMANS ARE WICKED. There is no free lunch. Give u abit but later must pay back with interests.

If by all means, go for a NON FL GER be it Thai, PRCS. At least you have peace of mind when showing your ger to your friends, relatives. :)

What I have just said is only for your reference but it is you who make the judgements. Rem We are living in a real world and esp in SG, our sociaty is still not as open as Thailand. One silly mistake can make u regret forever.:D

theUnforgotten

22-02-2008, 10:41 AM

Well, Bro Fiery_DRAGON. You did the right thing.

True. But if you are going for a Thai ger, would it not make any sense to go for someone who is not in the FL line. Some bros had mentioned to love someone is to forget her past. Easy to say than do hor

If by all means, go for a NON FL GER be it Thai, PRCS. At least you have peace of mind when showing your ger to your friends, relatives. :)

I agree bro, Nice even handed reply .

If u want to choose a gal as GF or wife , by all means choose a Non FL or ex FL or even any kind of WL ( KTV, G club , AGG , MP, FL). Non working gals whether PRC or thai are a different kettle of fish . Some words of wisdom, cheong and enjoy but don't go looking for "love" in the wrong places.

WL or FL ,excel in making a Man feel good about themselves , They can do more than just physically stroke our "little bros", the good ones excel in stroking our Egos and make us feel like a "million bucks or in love" with sweet words . That is their job, period!

Having a Non FL gF or wife , comes with different set of issues, though that is less severe than those encountered by most of us here in a commercial sex forum. But here's a frank observation , most of those successful cases of relationship with thai girls and local men , usually the girl is Non FL or non ex FL. There's plenty of opportunities to know non WL or FL girls from thailand /prc too, just dont look for them in KTV,discos , bars , yahoo OKT grps :)

Hi bro fiery dragon , I am glad you saw the signs and got out before it got more serious. There's plenty of opportunities to know thai girls who aren't FL or Ex FL , in fact not all of them are bad, most are more well mannered and well bred that most local gals i have come across.

pussyman72

22-02-2008, 10:49 AM

i think there is no point saying who can do it or who cannot do it.... right to do or not right to do

just make it very simple. cannot forget then don't do it, can forget willing to take the risk then do it.

happy gum wan then dont complain get cheated. why bcos we ask for it. if we wanna forget n go for it then good luck on what we doing.

if turn out bad LL if turn out good. good for you. :D

the only thing we are here for is to help the bros here to see a bigger picture when they are involve with their girl. example having problem or other things.

Fiery dragon

22-02-2008, 04:19 PM

Let put it this way....
To love someone or even like someone, u will have to accept for who she is.
No more talking about the past, only the future.
To embark on a relationship with a thai ger, it is a challenge which most of us can't take it. Coz it takes alot of effort and time.

Bro Exciter101, appreciate ur comments. Initially...i was able to take it when she mentioned that she gt a customer coming soon as she just reached S'pore not long ago and would be around for 2 weeks. The next few days, when i met her again for my "RTF"...i just couldn't take it when she confide in me what had happened to her for the past few days(just like what my ex-gf(S'pore) used to say to me during our courtship) ...the last straw was when she kept mentioning to me that this customer gave her this present and that customer promised to take her out someday. Cultural difference...maybe...as its a norm for a Thai Man to be his wife's mafu back in Thailand and also seen in S'pore. Don't think any S'pore Man would be able to take it...it just feels terrible. It might be turn out to be a different story if she decides to quit FL scene for me.

Well, Bro Fiery_DRAGON. You did the right thing.

Easy to say than do hor.... So many pple had FXXKed your ger before your turn.. u dont mind meh... We are living in a real world, friend where pple judged you by your actions.

Bro FL Lover...thanks for the encouragement. Its really "easier to say than do"...those who are in the same situation as me...pls think twice b4 u take the "unreturnable route"...by making the further mistakes of deciding to visit her in Thailand and subsequently deciding to marry her and "her family members or even relatives as mentioned by someone her".

Some words of wisdom, cheong and enjoy but don't go looking for "love" in the wrong places.

Hi bro fiery dragon , I am glad you saw the signs and got out before it got more serious. There's plenty of opportunities to know thai girls who aren't FL or Ex FL , in fact not all of them are bad, most are more well mannered and well bred that most local gals i have come across.

Sad to say...i did not even look for "love" when i tried her services for the 1st time. I always go cheonging with the "Fxxk & forget principle" but somehow the feelings came and developed naturally. She is "special" to me as from the -ve FRs which were posted in FL Dome against her sometime ago...it goes to show that she clearly treats me differently from her other customers...which made me more in love with her. I decided to call it an end to this fruitless relationship early the moment i heard her calling me "Darling" and received the "I love u" sms from her. I just don't wish to fall deeper in love with her and that's why i chose to sms her "Forget me and don't love me" and ignored her further smses. Once bitten twice shy...no more Thai girls for me...be it FL, non FL or potential FL(i believe that most Thai girls wld suck ur cock the moment u promise to give them $$$).

Another word of advice to the cheonging bros...don't ever exchange hp no. with a Thai FL during or after the session.

vmtech

22-02-2008, 08:19 PM

Bro Exciter101, appreciate ur comments. Initially...i was able to take it when she mentioned that she gt a customer coming soon as she just reached S'pore not long ago ....

When someone said, if u love someone, forget her past.
I agree totally, but tt only applies when she has already stopped what she is currently doing.

It doesn't mean "acting" as if u dont know what she is currently doing.

2 very different matters.

to those bros that are currently with thier wifes now, doesn't matter what she has done in the past, so as long, she is not doing it now, and wont do it again, its worth it. and i dont mean those that are currently in a r/s with a FL. Having a r/s with a current FL and a girl tt USED to be a FL/WL wadever is very different.
better get that clear..

dream888

22-02-2008, 09:35 PM

To me, there are always success stories and unsuccessful stories, so whenever U befriend any girls to be ur gf, there is always a risk, how could U also guarantee that U would not be able to resist other ladies in the future. To me, this is not an issue of just marrying a Thai ger but also on whether U want to marry or not.

Hi Fiery dragon
My signature says it all. I think U got it also.

Fiery dragon

23-02-2008, 02:04 AM

When someone said, if u love someone, forget her past.
I agree totally, but tt only applies when she has already stopped what she is currently doing.

It doesn't mean "acting" as if u dont know what she is currently doing.

2 very different matters.

Bro vmtech..thanks for ur reply. She actually told me that she wld not come to S'pore to work as an FL anymore(its her 1st time comin to S'pore) and she is not an FL back home. My mind was quite confused initially with regards to the "2 different matters". To accept her 'Present' status as an FL and continue seeing her?? or to accept her 'Past' after she has stopped working as an FL?? The answer is...i couldn't even tolerate her "Present" status let alone to forget her past(esp when some bros here had mentioned b4 tat most of the Thai girls(esp an ex-FL) wld do something unfaithful to her S'pore bf/husband when he is not around). I don't like to do things that i know i might regret in future...tat's why i chose to end it. Feels devastated to hurt her this way but i think its better for her in the long run as she wld feel more hurt if i chose to leave her oneday after marrying her.

Hi Fiery dragon
My signature says it all. I think U got it also.

Bro dream888...too bad i seldom/never see u post in FL Dome. Coz ur principle of "Never give contact number" did not come across my mind at all when i was cheonging at tat time. Hope its not too late to include this in my "Cheonging Principles" now. :D

Fiery dragon

23-02-2008, 02:41 AM

Just a HO...

I think most man are concern whether his wife was bonked by many or after get together still bonk by others? It is not so much of nationality or race.

I think when the love is so real enough, what in the past can be forgive and try to forget.

For the girl maybe she should only have me as her all time sex partner? haha I know this is selfish but thats all man dignity and pride I think?

Very difficult leh this topic haha. Ok lar most important my wife only for me to bonk after when get together.

I really do not wish to know or find out that my gf/wife was bonked by others before & after we get together coz i have the dignity & pride as a S'pore man. Guess...the same applies to the majority of the gf/wife.

To the ladies esp in S'pore...they might try to forgive if she found out that her bf/husband is "eating out" but they wld never forget! It's like a SCAR to either party and might become a "hurtful weapon" that one of the parties might use in future when they are quarelling/fighting over other matters...end up...contributing to the already high divorce rate. :( So...i wld rather choose to tell "white lies" to my gf/wife for sex-related matters than to tell her the truth.

vmtech

23-02-2008, 05:47 AM

Bro vmtech..thanks for ur reply. She actually told me that she wld not come to S'pore to work as an FL anymore(its her 1st time comin to S'pore) and she is not an FL back home. My mind was quite confused initially with regards to the "2 different matters". To accept her 'Present' status as an FL and continue seeing her?? or to accept her 'Past' after she has stopped working as an FL?? The answer is...i couldn't even tolerate her "Present" status let alone to forget her past(esp when some bros here had mentioned b4 tat most of the Thai girls(esp an ex-FL) wld do something unfaithful to her S'pore bf/husband when he is not around). I don't like to do things that i know i might regret in future...tat's why i chose to end it. Feels devastated to hurt her this way but i think its better for her in the long run as she wld feel more hurt if i chose to leave her oneday after marrying her.

of course definately you are unable to accept her present because that is where she is still! wait till she isnt, den you think about it man..

and also, honestly, we are all in this forum because of 1 thing, we kio kuay, we aint much better, although we say " different because we are guys"
why? because guys by nature are egoistic, they can accept the fact that guys can fuck around but girls cant.
however, think on a girl's POV, you are a girl and u know ur man goes out eating different pussies every time. u can tahan? i dont think so. and honestly, how many girls now are virgins by marriage? most of them already lost it somewhere in btwn thier journey of life!

The fact is.. if u cant accept it.. dont think about it... because somewhere along your path of marriage, should a big quarrel brew .. there'll be a chance you'll blurt out the issue of her being a wl before.. and when that happens, you're seeing ur wife for the last time..

many of us here are professional decent working adults, but how many here are married and "eating out"? :)

theUnforgotten

23-02-2008, 09:03 AM

Well said bro vmtech, putting the POV of the lady.

dignity & pride as a S'pore man. Guess...the same applies to the majority of the gf/wife.
So...i wld rather choose to tell "white lies" to my gf/wife for sex-related matters than to tell her the truth.

Dude, if you don't mind me for being blunt, We have all been through this stage at sometimes in our cheonging lives before, It's how you weather this "storm" and learn your lessons as well as put some faith back into other ladies not use the same brush to tar the rest of ladies from same country just because you have only known them through FL or cheong career .

I do know that at present there's many doubts and thoughts about trusting or falling into another "KC trap". do some other hobbies to take your mind off these thoughts, since it's over between u and her..no point thinking ,make future plans that involve less FL cheonging, I know it's easier said than done.

Live for the present and Not in the past.

pussyman72

23-02-2008, 11:06 AM

ok letz make it very plain simple.

WL they told their so call darling what they have been doing with other customers. we feel no good blah blah blah. I think given to any guys who wanted or just started with them hearing what they said will feel sucks about it.

But dont forget. they are in the trade they had to do that inorder to get return customers and not all customers they treat them well only those that they are comfortable with then they do that.

Also what makes we think they love us. After one 2 time seeing her = love then i think it crap. how much have we know the girl that she love us blah blah blah. do u think the girl will think the same way or have confident that we love them after seeing them twice.

It overtime when the girl really feel that u really wanna to be with them then they start to throw their hearts to u. dont forget the girls also get shit from men like us. play play fark them for fun n fark off. on the bed we said we love them, care for them.. all the shit that we can grap hold of her to make us song on the bed. after that we just kick them out n find new one.

so if we said the girl cheat us blah blah blah think is all the same man also do that.

Oso what make us think the girl should quit for us when she havent know whether we really wants to be with them. dont forget they trying to earn a living to feed her family. if she quit then she do what.

there is girls can bcos of love they quit everything n be with the guy they want to be with but first they would wanna see if the guy really serious about her or not. they too are worried. they too wanna get out of this kind of shit.

Again no woman love to be bonk by so many men and enjoy sex with so many men. it just a work to them they just do it without thinking who the men is on them. there is no feeling at all when making with this men.

anyway i can only said if really want to be with a WL or FL girl then do it if the person is sure the girl are true else better dont get involve. else u either be crying over this or blaming this n that about her. it will never end seen too many of this pple. some even crazy till start cheating WL girl money.

Triple-X

23-02-2008, 11:17 AM

It might be turn out to be a different story if she decides to quit FL scene for me.

Bro,how can she quit earning money because of you after knowing you for only a few sessions and in this short span of time?She might also had her obligations right?Vice-versa,if she were to say "Ok,i'll quit this only if you can think of a way to let me raise funds for me to build a house for my family who are staying with friends or relative cos they have no house of their own?" How then? Then you'll start to think "Ok,she's trying to KC me to build a new house for her family." This also cant,that also cannnot.....lol

I think you've surpassed your expectations of her without understanding the expectations of both sides.Or perhaps its just simply from the way u post it is you're scared of getting emotionally hurt again. :rolleyes:

Another word of advice to the cheonging bros...don't ever exchange hp no. with a Thai FL during or after the session.

Frankly speaking,its quite hard to talk about love when you've known her only for a few sessions,in the span of few hours and the initial encounter was how you get to know her is because of the motive -SEX only.

My 2 cents honest opinions,no offence intended.Apologies should anyone misinterpret them;);)

Triple-X

23-02-2008, 11:20 AM

But dont forget. they are in the trade they had to do that inorder to get return customers and not all customers they treat them well only those that they are comfortable with then they do that.

Also what makes we think they love us. After one 2 time seeing her = love then i think it crap. how much have we know the girl that she love us blah blah blah. do u think the girl will think the same way or have confident that we love them after seeing them twice.

Preceisely! Right on the dot on how i feel too bro! :)

pussyman72

23-02-2008, 02:39 PM

if she were to say "Ok,i'll quit this only if you can think of a way to let me raise funds for me to build a house for my family who are staying with friends or relative cos they have no house of their own?" How then? Then you'll start to think "Ok,she's trying to KC me to build a new house for her family." This also cant,that also cannnot.....lol

you're scared of getting emotionally hurt again. :rolleyes:

for a few sessions,in the span of few hours and the initial encounter was how you get to know her is because of the motive -SEX only.

getting involve with a WL. many of us will be worry of getting shit from them. I believe many have read in sbf, other forums, seen angmo posting about them getting cheated blah blah blah. it not just thai girl do that. even a decent sgp girl also do that. i have 3 friends who got their saving clean out by their local gf.

im not trying to stress about what decent girls can do. im just giving an example.

what is the real motive when u are with her. Sex why we are coming back to her again. comfortable and good sex, then one will think if i keep visiting her again n again maybe i can get something out of her. well Greater Sex and may raw on her maybe or maybe "free" fark when she is not working.

even u really get into this kind of relationship, are u able to accept when ur girl decide to quit n ask u to liang (Feed) her if she dont ask n try to get a decent job but she have trouble coping with her family problems then are u going to try feeding her?

If the girl ask u some money to help her family. will u think otherwise that she is actually trying to kc ur money. well many questions on this and never ending story on this. most of the girls come out is to work for a living they dont desever to be call bitch or a bloody whore that have so many cock banging her.... remember one thing. without the WLs we maybe pccing at home. they are also human being. no ones deserve to be call such a name.

try living with them n u see for urself how poor are they and how they spend their money. of course we are in the modern world everyone of us who earn extra will buy things to pamper ourself. same for them, they earn they feed the family n then if have extra they too will enjoy themself.

i know a girl who is 22 yo this yr .she stay in my girl's villiage. she came out 2 yrs ago selling herself why. step father is ill, mother dont have money to take care of her younger sister n father. what she do. she came out n sell her own body so to take care of her family.

she manage to save some $$$ and let her mother to do some small business selling food in fun fairs but still not enough for her father medical. she now work in apnam. talk to her do her mother know. she said yes. she said no choice she doesnt want her sister follow her footstep. she a very sweet girl. every now n then comes back home n take care of her family.

when she just started work in this line. there is onecustomer play her feeling. making her believe that he love her very much n wanna marry her. she was so green that she believe n got herself preg. after that what happen. the guy left her when he know. she cry for a week. after that she had to abort it n carry on working. now she doesnt believe what guys said to her. she scared that she will be cheated again in term of love.

so u see we cannot just said this girls are bad when we men are also an asshole wanting to have greater sex with them. we play all sort of shit to the girls to make us feel song when in bed with them. make them willing to give us what we want from them on bed.

just sharing my experience with the bros here. Cheers

pussyman72

23-02-2008, 03:29 PM

maybe this should not be posted here since this thread is all about marry a thai ger.

just post a little info about GL girls. since we talk about WL. we always sees them bloody whore, bitch, love to get fark by so many cock and so on...

to be frank this is not true. They dont really wanna get screw by so many men in a day. to them is disgusting, girl working in this place need alot of courage to work in GL why they have to serve diff kind of men.

I been playing GL till i lost count. talk to many girls n they actually willing to open up n tell me how they feel about working in GL. I not said im the best or able to get info from girls but i always treat them like a girl and treat them well from the heart. they can see for themself.

they tell me about men visiting in GL booking them. some men are so crazy they wanna do this pattern do that pattern. wanna lick their pussy, want the girls to suck their dick hard. want them to lick asshole blah blah blah.

some asshole guys, drunk, bian tai or thinking paying 40sgd they can have what they want n if the girls dont do good they either fark them up or give them a slap. Do this girls desever this? i dont think so.

this girls working in GL actually suffer alot too. they have back injury due to so many sex pattern. cb become sore and get pain still endure n work.
by the time they go back most of the time they cb already having problem. they have to deal with back pain and cb problem.

yea is good money but they suffer also. so do they desever to be call "names" i dont think we should do that.

There is one girl i been getting her services for 7 mths. she came on feb n went back on sept last yr. she is a very nice girl. well u can call me an asshole but im one lol inorder to get good sex, i treat her very well till she fall for me. she never go nite booking. how sure am i, well i know the okt very long n his a friend of mine now. the only nite booking she do is me. my friend okt always said cb u only u she go nite booking others is no. i diam diam pai sei like fark....

she never ask any money from me or ask me buy her things. even she really need something when im there she will pass me $$$ n go buy for her. what happen to her. she got a back injury after 4 mths working in GL. and her cb getting very painful reason she not use to this kind of work.

now she is back in thailand n she in out of hospital bcos of the back injury. what she earn have gone to her medication.

im not asking the bros to pity WL girls but at least show some respect to this girls who is trying to service us. we should not be calling them names. want to be involve then dont kp said girl bluff u. bcos u had to ask urself why u wanna start this.

also if u mind having this girls as gf or wife then ask urself in the first place how u got to know her n get involve in this relationship. y now start looking down on them.

also one very good note to all bros who have start a relationship with a WL or still ongoing. "Never bring out her past during the quarrle" u are asking for trouble. they will never forgive u and u hurt their feeling very badly" this will spell something the end of relationship.

Cheers

Triple-X

23-02-2008, 04:06 PM

so u see we cannot just said this girls are bad when we men are also an asshole wanting to have greater sex with them. we play all sort of shit to the girls to make us feel song when in bed with them. make them willing to give us what we want from them on bed.

Well bro,good point.I can see that some in the process of trying to get better services from these WLs/FLs,while trying to KC them to do so,they themselves fall into the pit of love.And when everything does not turn out they expect to be,they do get bitter.
For me,i myself is not ashamed to deny that i myself try this to a WL 3 years back,but after a period of time,i step back and realise too for everything to click,it takes two hands to clap.I try putting myself in their shoes and consider their actions and thoughts.

pussyman72

23-02-2008, 04:34 PM

Well bro,good point.I can see that some in the process of trying to get better services from these WLs/FLs,while trying to KC them to do so,they themselves fall into the pit of love.And when everything does not turn out they expect to be,they do get bitter.
For me,i myself is not ashamed to deny that i myself try this to a WL 3 years back,but after a period of time,i step back and realise too for everything to click,it takes two hands to clap.I try putting myself in their shoes and consider their actions and thoughts.

yea bro that is the problem with us cheongsters. get song we happy get cheated buay song curse n curse. what is the point really dont understand why blame others when one wanna get into shits.

Fiery dragon

23-02-2008, 04:35 PM

Wow...glad to see so many replies esp the replies from bro pussyman72. I accept all sorts of replies be it supportive/sarcastic...because sometimes the bystander knows more than the parties involved and could give a better/different viewpoints to all sorts of matter.

Well, guess that many of us have the initial thought that ALL Thai girls are working as an FL in S'pore to support their families in Thailand. She actually told me that she is not working in S'pore to support her family...just to earn some pocket $$$ either to buy expensive items or maybe open a small shop in future. Btw...all these "heart-to-heart chatting" happened not during my session with her...its another day after 12a.m(no customers wld be coming) whereby she invited me to her hotel rm after shopping with her.

How to tell tat its not a KC trap from her...the complaints that she received almost everyday telling the OKT tat her services sucks whereby she don't even give a damn abt it as her job(not FL) in Thailand is enough to support herself and she does not need to support her family. The expression on her face when she looked at me and the way she talked to me during my 1st session with her and the next few days with her. She initiated hugging and kissing my lips on the 5th day with her...she don't even allow her customers to kiss her lips let alone the frenching i got from her. The $$$ she tried to save for me whilst shopping with her compared to the expensive items she asked her customers(Cai Tou) to buy for her. Moreover, she did not call me "Darling" or send "I love U" sms from the start...its only after a few days being with her. Most of the KC trap used by the Thai FL happens during the first session with the customer...not after.

Well...like wat a bro has stated...ITS ALL OVER. My experience is just solely for sharing purpose....coz i saw many FRs from FL DOME whereby some of the bros had commented that this FL treated him differently from others and said "I love u" to him during the session...wants the bro to be his bf...bla...bla...bla..some had RTF the same FL 2-3 times...some even stated that he promised that he wld be visiting the FL in Thailand someday. Oh my god...these are the so-called KC trap when compared to my experience.

For ur info, i'm currently single with no gf/wife at the moment and i did not bonk a single FL after this encounter. I'm already considering retiring from cheonging scene. So..gd luck to bros who are thinking of either getting a Thai gf or are marrying a Thai girl. Hope more bros who either has a Thai gf or wife would share their experiences here.

Fiery dragon

23-02-2008, 05:08 PM

to be frank this is not true. They dont really wanna get screw by so many men in a day. to them is disgusting, girl working in this place need alot of courage to work in GL why they have to serve diff kind of men.

this girls working in GL actually suffer alot too. they have back injury due to so many sex pattern. cb become sore and get pain still endure n work.
by the time they go back most of the time they cb already having problem. they have to deal with back pain and cb problem.

There is one girl i been getting her services for 7 mths. she came on feb n went back on sept last yr. she is a very nice girl. well u can call me an asshole but im one lol inorder to get good sex, i treat her very well till she fall for me.

also if u mind having this girls as gf or wife then ask urself in the first place how u got to know her n get involve in this relationship. y now start looking down on them.

Great sharing from u bro...appreciate it a lot esp with ur experience with the GL FL. Guess we were in the same boat once for treating the FL nice & with respect and thus making them feel v.comfortable with us which eventually led to them falling for us.

To some Thai FLs esp inexperience/1st timer in S'pore..."Peer influence" plays an important part coz its a common thing in Thailand for a girl to be a FL(be it part/full-time) and they told me that they do feel disgusted to have sex with ugly/fat/bad breath/hairy/dark complexion guys and some even gotta act as if they enjoyed very much.

As for sex-related injury...its true as i've assisted one of the Thai FLs to buy some chinese medicated plasters(Tiger Balm) for her thighs and back. Bros who like to book late night slots(after 11p.m) for Thai FL....for ur info....they hate to do night slots as this is the time they go around chatting with their Thai FL friends and go out for supper/late night shopping(Mustafa) together. If u get lousy services from them...really serve u right!

I felt ashamed for looking down on 'her' for a few times....esp having asked myself how i get to know her in the 1st place. Already slapped my own face twice for that coz i've always treated FLs with respect. :(

pussyman72

23-02-2008, 05:21 PM

well happy gum wan then what to say :D as one bro mention takes 2 hands 2 claps ^^

vmtech

23-02-2008, 08:56 PM

shinnn

24-02-2008, 01:47 AM

its been so long since i came here already. got some experience to share too.

yeah, our big boss sam is right, theres no free lunch in this world man.

i've got to know this thai gal from those FL section, n i have to agree wif fiery dragon bro, the 1st session wif the gal compared to rtf sessions wif the gal was a complete diff case, they tend to find u more comfortable after the rtf.

well for my case, i rtf this gal 4x, on the way to my 4th time which is my last session wif her, i received a msg from her, funny thing is, i m always very discreet wif strangers, dont anyhow exchange no.s, but how the hell she know my no.?

at 1st, i didnt bothered to entertain the messages, but until i got to the room for my sessions then i realised it was her, she was suprised to see me, as she thought my 3rd session wif her was e last, so she got my no. from the okt, to jio me out.

cut the story short, she came to work for a week n decided tt its not suitable for her, n yea, peer influence from her FL fren who wanted her to come wif her, so she followed along, she gave me lots of complaints abt watever bad stuff she had received from her previous sessions n stuff.

so i thought since she wana auto come close to me, no harm returnin the favour, so i went out wif her for 2 days while on the 3rd day i send her to the airport.

since she left, we exchange emails n chatted for around 2 weeks daily, those i love u n i miss u, i did entertain her, but i nv think so much, as all of which i sent were for fun.

on e 3rd week, she suprised me by coming back, hmm yeah, so continue to hang out frequently for a few days. it seems kinda weird, becos this gal always wana eat at restaurants n nv had the idea tt things here in sg r fairly more expensive compared to thailand. i didnt really cared much becos she always paid up all e bills, so watever blows ur dress darling...

we went out for 2 n 1/2 weeks, n i nv spent more than $20 on her, c'mon, like seriously, if ur slightly wealthy, u dun hav to work FL. so i never really understood whats on her mind, but that 2 weeks, she sure spent roughly or more than 3k on me, all those checkin into hotels n food expenses, transport expenses, those over night necessities with her, she paid for them all. its like i m the FL here n shes my customer... i bonk her for money... what the fuck?...

all i can say is shes very nice, theres was once she found out abt my FR on her in this forum, her fren seems to show it to her, she was kinda devastated but... hell.... thats wat all bonksters do right? so she forgave me.

the day when she left, after her 2nd visit for me. we stil stayed in contact, but we had lots of disputes, minor n lame ones. n tts the time i knew i have fallen for her, becos shes really god damn nice to me, even my current gf wouldnt b so nice to foot all the bills, free bonks anytime anywhere, everything seems to b set for, waitin for me to enjoy.

1 or 2 weeks later after she left, she found out shes preggy... duhz... i was thinkin, well, couldnt b mine, as main factor, she never ask me for responsibilities, she say she wil settle herself, but no abortion, n wouldnt giv me problems. wow... i was like ... shes an angel man...

since she dont want me to care so much, so i dont care lor... but more i tink abt it, the more i find it weird... mayb its not mine, mayb she did it wif some1 else, i startin to feel a lil jealous, becos i startin to love her already.

so i tried to ask her who gave her the child, she said it was me ( could be mine, as i did some calculations myself on the menstrual cycle + all the bonks wif her on the 2nd visits, i nv wear umbrella, n i shot in her a couple of times lucky nv tio STD... )

as i get more suspicious of her actions, i of cos called her up more often n frequently to question all her actions she had done for me n if she had any motives, well of cos she finds me iritatin, so we quarrel more often lors...

in the end both of us cannot take it, she hates me very much for thinkin her so cheaply, then we went separate ways just last week.

i suddenly feel i have lost something, like a gem, becos shes really a very nice person. all the way i hang out wif her, she nv ask me to buy expensive stuff for her, she knew i m a student, so nv demand alot.

kinda regret now man, mayb for the bonks, mayb for the kindness she gave me, or mayb both, i really wished i could turn time back. she never mind abt my gf, never mind abt alot of stuff but still... i treated her like a dirtbag...

well... she said she wil bring the child for me to see after the baby is born, duno true or not.

even after break up, she die die also say the baby is mine, mayb wana make me feel more guilty or wat, duno..

but yeah, no free lunch, i paid her wif my emotions instead of money. even now, i still missed her ocassionally... i really do man... fuggin emotions takin over me... but still, my life has to go on...

btw, shes a student back in LOS

doubtful points: since i m a student, y i have money for 4 rtf, 100x4= $400+, some were from my own pocket, the remainings were from my own personal winnings, just nice can rtf 4x

n both of us were together for around 3mths+ startin from november last year until feb now

i feel fortunate to meet some1 like her... rather... but i duno how to cherish her... so guys, if u hav a nice wife at home who cared alot abt u, dont go out n chiong, must cherish wat u hav now, later gone already then come n cry... too late...

she hate me so much now, that she dont even wana sms me back when i ask how is she n the kid...

thanx for readin, n i hope that it wil b helpful to u

Fiery dragon

24-02-2008, 06:01 AM

BTW, i would disagree with you linking up FL with thai gfs and thai wifes. Another case of generalising thais = whores = fls.
I have a thai wife, and so do many others here, and we're showig u the things we encountered. most of that u stated, in fact, i dont konw what you want.
Do you want us to give u advices on your current r/s ? or are you just interested in knowing more about how other people cope with thier thai wifes? or which bro's wife used to be a WL?

from wat i see.. you're a person tts easily emotionally swayyed. so, might as well tell this straight since you generalised things . Thai girls not for you, look for sgp girls from your workplace or social circle.

Bro vmtech..i sincerely apologise to u for giving u the thinking that i'm "generalising thais=whores=fls" whereby u might feel a little offended. Frankly speaking, i don't have this mindset at all. I just feel that its too common to see alot of Thai girls ended up being an FL either for family or for material gains. I would have despise them if i'm thinking this way and would not have gone thru the trouble of learning to speak Thai at all.

U've pointed out my weakness(easily emotionally swayed). U'r right that Thai girls are not for me..maybe for now. Who knows that i might be posted to work in Thailand and get to know more abt Thai culture and subsequently get a Thai gf or even marry one in future.

I'm sharing my experience of having a Thai FL gf which i think would help to generate some useful inputs to bros who are looking for a Thai gf or are going to marry one. What i want actually is views & experience sharing from other bros esp those with Thai gf/wife(be it an FL or non-FL)...hoping for someone to tell/prove to me that i'm right/wrong in thinking this way with their own experience also. Glad tat i saw one from bro shinnn...its just like the next episode of my real-life story..if i continue to see her. Because she actually wanted me to see her off in Changi Airport and she mentioned that she wouldn't be coming back to S'pore to work as an FL anymore but would be back to visit me someday.

Fiery dragon

24-02-2008, 06:37 AM

i've got to know this thai gal from those FL section, n i have to agree wif fiery dragon bro, the 1st session wif the gal compared to rtf sessions wif the gal was a complete diff case, they tend to find u more comfortable after the rtf.

cut the story short, she came to work for a week n decided tt its not suitable for her, n yea, peer influence from her FL fren who wanted her to come wif her, so she followed along, she gave me lots of complaints abt watever bad stuff she had received from her previous sessions n stuff.

so i thought since she wana auto come close to me, no harm returnin the favour, so i went out wif her for 2 days while on the 3rd day i send her to the airport.

so i tried to ask her who gave her the child, she said it was me ( could be mine, as i did some calculations myself on the menstrual cycle + all the bonks wif her on the 2nd visits, i nv wear umbrella, n i shot in her a couple of times lucky nv tio STD... )

all the way i hang out wif her, she nv ask me to buy expensive stuff for her, she knew i m a student, so nv demand alot.
she hate me so much now, that she dont even wana sms me back when i ask how is she n the kid...

Thank u so much for sharing bro! Wow...we've got so many similar experiences..."she never ask me to buy expensive stuff for her", "she gave me lots of complaints abt watever bad stuff she had received from her previous sessions n stuff" and "since she wana auto come close to me, no harm returnin the favour, so i went out wif her for 2 days".

Think over it bro...whether u wanna be with her and acknowledge her child or to regret for making this decision for the rest of ur life. Girls sometime tend to like to talk in "opposite" manner. "I don't wish to see u anymore"....means "How i wish i could see you everyday" in their heart.

U've made the 1st mistake of not using CD whilst bonking her...2nd mistake by making her pregnant...and the 3rd mistake for denying that the baby is yours. U've really hurt her damn DEEP man. Perhaps if she loves u deep deep till today....she might forgive u for that.

Triple-X

24-02-2008, 11:17 AM

thanx for readin, n i hope that it wil b helpful to u

No offence intended,pardon me for being straight.but i kind of find your thoughts and actions towards this gal seems abit selfish.No more elaborations on this,i guess others can see.:D

And if u were to make a woman preggy w/o acknowledging or even aborting it,thats the worst - 人在做，天在看 Very very suay for both of u if abortion is done,no joke.Been there,done it,regretting it.

vmtech

24-02-2008, 11:24 AM

norikasan,

lol i think a new thread need to be started, but anyway, for those that had such experience.. hope its understood, nothing is free.
You shiok shiok enjoy GFE, den suddenly accidently impregnated her, end up we are bringing another life into the world, and if you cant or dont have the abilities, you end up bringing that life into a poor social life cycle, like norikasan said.
like my wife is making noise also for a bb, but told her not until she gets her ltsvp or anithing, i dowan the kid to grow up without me by the side

for those that have a r/s with thais, i would say, treat it the same as sgp gfs, there's nothing speicla having a thai gf, korean gf, angmoh gf den a sgp gf!
all same same! today's sunday times, if u all read the papers, check out what the survey on singaporean women said. if people here say having a thai gf/wife is jialat, haha.. i cant imagine thier lifes with such singaporean women liao..

anyway, this thread abit digressed too much liao... but nvm la haha. we're not here to critisise anyone, but hope to learn more from past experiences.

we dont talk about going thailand to stay with our wifes, unless you have a contructive plan or a fat account to fund your future. Talk about having ur wifes brought here, it's already very mahfun, and it's a commitment. If cannot commmit, dont start.. for those that expericed the troubles like myself and some bros here... im sure you would agree!
Not a fantastic smooth riding process, but lovin' EVERY MOMENT of it.

shinnn

24-02-2008, 11:47 AM

yeah, i m a selfish, i never spare a thought for other people, thats y i always had more flings instead of a steady r/s. i ended my current r/s a few days back.

my gf deserves some1 better than a jerk off like me.

i gotta re-think my life, n start to change my character, after this gal left me, i realised that wat a jackass i m to the kindest person i ever know... now, i put all my heart n soul into my work n studies.

Even my peers n lecturers discovered a huge change in me, the usually sloppy n lazy jerk is gone, n now i m a more efficient worker.

im also learning to change my attitude, learn to put myself in others shoes, dont always ask what others can do for me, but ask myself wat i can do for others 1st.

Seriously, the 1st gal i wld ever shed tear for, wld b this FL, n i'm not kidding, i hate myself for hurtin her, n also hated myself for screwing myself up. when i think abt her, n coincidentaly i hear some love or sad song playin by the background, my eyes wil get a lil watery.

i dont dare to confide in my peers becos they always see me as a strong person, nothing seems to get me, if i cry n confide wif one of my male or female buddies, they wld fuggin laugh their ass off, while thinking if its for real.

fuck human emotion shits

ok, firstly, i dont think the baby will end up in the streets begging, that gal has lots of spending power, u never go shoppin wif her, u duno, she can afford those branded wallets bags n shoes, she likes it, then she buys it...

i think the family quite wealthy, cept she kena peer influence, so she come here FL... btw, its like fate man... shes my 1st FL i ever tried...

2nd, its not i dont wana wear rubber... or mayb yes... i did ask her if she wanted me to wear or not.. she say listen to me... so... nevermind lorz... heh...

i've read somewhere in this thread where some1 said those thai gals when they love the man very much, they dont mind gettin preggy for them? is that so?

if she love me so much, y she hate me until now? i popped her a msg ytd after 7 days of separate ways... she dont wana reply... juz a simple fren to fren msg, like how r u doin? very hard to reply meh...

but i have to admit, shes a strong person, i ever did ask her b4, durin her 2nd visit, she told me she wld b alright on my own, if i ever made her preg n dumped her, becos right at the start, she knew i had a gf, so canot hav too much commitment.

in conclusion, breakin off wif her isnt so bad, atleast it brought about a change in me. i have decided, if one day she really come back wif my child, i wil try my very best to woo her back, yes woo her, i will see her as any other gal, no more discriminations.

so as i pray, may she one day come back to me wif my dearest child.

shinnn

24-02-2008, 11:51 AM

And if u were to make a woman preggy w/o acknowledging or even aborting it,thats the worst - 人在做，天在看 Very very suay for both of u if abortion is done,no joke.Been there,done it,regretting it.

i know its very suay 1, fucking suay, my frens told me the ghost of the baby wil come n haunt the mom n dad or somethin... thats fuckin sick stuff...

oh my god... i hope she keep the baby man, the most nex time i finished ns n found a job, i try to pay the baby's living expenses....

shinnn

24-02-2008, 12:07 PM

Thank u so much for sharing bro! Wow...we've got so many similar experiences..."she never ask me to buy expensive stuff for her", "she gave me lots of complaints abt watever bad stuff she had received from her previous sessions n stuff" and "since she wana auto come close to me, no harm returnin the favour, so i went out wif her for 2 days".

Think over it bro...whether u wanna be with her and acknowledge her child or to regret for making this decision for the rest of ur life. Girls sometime tend to like to talk in "opposite" manner. "I don't wish to see u anymore"....means "How i wish i could see you everyday" in their heart.

theres once we went shoppin at town, n i saw a really nice necklace from swarovski, i asked her if she tink that necklace is nice, she said yeah, then i told her i wana buy it for her, she said no, even if i wana buy, she wld made sure it goes to my gf, so kind...

regarding the girls say the opposite of wat they think... i dont tink it works for me, the previous day she broke up wif me, she never ans my calls, last few times when we quarrel until sibeh jia lat, gona break already type, she would off her phone to cool off, then call me nex thing in the morning, or when i ask her if we shld break up, she wld immediately call me or sms askin for the reason. but this time, she only sms me to b frens... so i tink its game over... she really hated me to the core.

there was once she told me she loved me dearly, but she hate the way i think abt her... so she asked us to b frens. but my heart stil has some lingerin feelin for her... really pains me alot.

vmtech

24-02-2008, 12:31 PM

ok, firstly, i dont think the baby will end up in the streets begging, that gal has lots of spending power, u never go shoppin wif her, u duno, she can afford those branded wallets bags n shoes, she likes it, then she buys it...

i think the family quite wealthy, cept she kena peer influence, so she come here FL... btw, its like fate man... shes my 1st FL i ever tried...
...

if she has such spending power, it only means her "wealth" will deplete faster den anyone. and when that happens, only 2 things can happen. Depend on her family since you said they are wealthy, or go back to FL biz..
what makes you think the kid will live a good life?

...
oh my god... i hope she keep the baby man, the most nex time i finished ns n found a job, i try to pay the baby's living expenses....

wah how old are you?
Haiz.. nowadays young people do thing really hiong.. + nv think.

shinnn

24-02-2008, 12:56 PM

I want to point out is.... why you don't wear condom? Putting risk to yourself is one issue, but making her preggy is most terrible! I think you should go ask her do a DNA test after the baby born to see if the child is really yours....

Don't mind me saying... I know its gona feel sucky...but if she really got your son or daughter in her tummy, can you imagine they grow up begging on the street of Thailand or become a child worker or worst a FL when grow up?

Anyway you got no $ to give her also. You got not much to lose except your time and heart.

So never do RAW.

i dont think it is necessary to do dna test, she nv asked me for any responsibilities. moreover, we already broke up.

one of the main reasons we broke up is becos i kept questionin her if the child is mine, n whether is it she hav been fuggin around. i mean.. c'mon, if u dont trust the person, y the fug u wana be wif him/her right? its torturing to keep thinkin if he/she hav been sleepin around...

even til the day we broke up, she still insisted the child is mine.

i dont think tt some1 who is dyin wil stil wan to lie right? so he/she can feel the esctacy( duno how to spell ) after he/she dies?

same logic being applied here... i guess... unless she likes to go around lyin to ppl that the child is theirs... i really see no point in tt...

vmtech

24-02-2008, 01:05 PM

i dont think it is necessary to do dna test, she nv asked me for any responsibilities. moreover, we already broke up.

one of the main reasons we broke up is becos i kept questionin her if the child is mine, n whether is it she hav been fuggin around. i mean.. c'mon, if u dont trust the person, y the fug u wana be wif him/her right? its torturing to keep thinkin if he/she hav been sleepin around...

even til the day we broke up, she still insisted the child is mine.

i dont think tt some1 who is dyin wil stil wan to lie right? so he/she can feel the esctacy( duno how to spell ) after he/she dies?

same logic being applied here... i guess... unless she likes to go around lyin to ppl that the child is theirs... i really see no point in tt...

the way i look, maybe i eye talay, but anyway, the way i look at it, is you're giving urself excuses.

1 moment say "oh how i wish she is with me, and keep baby"

another moment say "duno bb mine or not, because she is FL, so she fuck raw with me, must have fuck raw with someone. maybe not mine"

i ba.

Triple-X

24-02-2008, 01:11 PM

theUnforgotten

24-02-2008, 01:13 PM

i dont think it is necessary to do dna test, she nv asked me for any responsibilities. moreover, we already broke up.

even til the day we broke up, she still insisted the child is mine.

Like she said , She doesnt need u for the Money. So either way you are screwed.

If the Kid is really yours , Then You are major trouble big time ( Technically she can get the law on her side, there are legal avenues for her to seek redress on this matter )

If the Kid isnt yours, She too has officially screwed you in your head, by planting these doubts n "matters" in your Mind.

Anyway You are just another , KID, dont you think you should bugger off and do your school work, Since you got a GF why in the first place ,do you need an FL for?

You can't even TAKE care of yourself , why do you think you can take care of Others , Let alone bring another LIFE in this world.

My suggestion : Go back to your studies
Call her up in a few months, Make what ever arrangement you can to have a DNA test to confirm paternity. If confirmed liao.

Do whatever it is necessary to ensure the baby is well taken Care of, even if you don't marry her or both of you cant be together. Next Since you are and I assume a Minor ( TELL your parents!) , You got the guts to make the Baby , I am sure you can find that "courage" to acknowledge it.

Good Luck!

vmtech

24-02-2008, 01:15 PM

sorry double post

shinnn

24-02-2008, 01:16 PM

if she has such spending power, it only means her "wealth" will deplete faster den anyone. and when that happens, only 2 things can happen. Depend on her family since you said they are wealthy, or go back to FL biz..
what makes you think the kid will live a good life?

wah how old are you?
Haiz.. nowadays young people do thing really hiong.. + nv think.

i dont wana reveal too much info abt her, but she certainly wont go back to FL, i m sure of it, her family got some biz back home. her dad sponsored her sis n her to open some boutique.

if she really desperate for $, she wld hav gone n kc the other customers n not stick wif me.

not say i wana boast her until she all that high my mighty, but i personally believe she is a kind n simple person by nature.

vmtech

24-02-2008, 01:19 PM

i dont wana reveal too much info abt her, but she certainly wont go back to FL, i m sure of it, her family got some biz back home. her dad sponsored her sis n her to open some boutique.

if she really desperate for $, she wld hav gone n kc the other customers n not stick wif me.

not say i wana boast her until she all that high my mighty, but i personally believe she is a kind n simple person by nature.

if you so sure about her background, you wont be unsure about whether the kid is urs or not :)
with those in red. you have just shown how young and naive you are. situations pertaining to survival, she is preg, has a kid to feed, need money.
Almost every family in thailand has a biz, you just only have a surface view on things in general, u obviously dont care how she would fare with her kid in the future.

like triple-x said. you should stop. you're disgusting us.

shinnn

24-02-2008, 01:29 PM

sorry double posted

shinnn

24-02-2008, 01:37 PM

the way i look, maybe i eye talay, but anyway, the way i look at it, is you're giving urself excuses.

1 moment say "oh how i wish she is with me, and keep baby"

another moment say "duno bb mine or not, because she is FL, so she fuck raw with me, must have fuck raw with someone. maybe not mine"

i ba.

i think u guys mis-interpret wat i meant

1st thing, i realised that i m in the wrong, to hurt her so much, so i m tellin u guys, if u dont trust ur partner, just leave, dont keep questionin her like wat i did.

regardin the 1 moment "oh how i wish she is with me, n keep the baby thing"
i was statin it as one of the main reasons we broke up, becos i dont trust her, n she thinks tt everytin in my head about her is all sick stuff.

excuses.. i'm nt finding excuses, mayb i m... but i already made it a point in my previous post tt if i have the ability in the future, i wil try to help her out, dna or no dna test to confirm if the kid is mine... no big deal, if she needs help, n its reasonable, i wil definitely help her out.

to b frank, i did tell her if she hav any problems, she can tell me, i wil see wat i can do, altho i can do nth, atleast i can lend her a listenin ear, but she chose to go separate ways, i cant do anytin to stop her right?

i'm not tryin to run away from responsiblities, n rush to undo my mistakes, i only want to change for the better now.

sometimes, we just gotta be magnanimous. take everytin wif a pinch of salt, then mayb our lives wil b less hectic.

im not tryin to disgust all of u here, i just want to share experience only, for fiery bro. i will stop here.

theUnforgotten

24-02-2008, 02:00 PM

i think u guys mis-interpret wat i meant

It's also that we feel that there are "holes" in your story and contradictions , that is why we can misinterpret them. It's your prerogative anyway to tell it as it is. ( mai mi bpen haa). I ain't no saint myself to say this, but I feel that this involves an innocent party ( The baby who is coming into this troubled world) So i just have to write.

You cannot learn to undo the past or make up for your mistakes by just correcting your flaws. We all make mistakes in our Youth , since a baby is coming despite your present inability to provide any care, can you perhaps talk to your parents about it, just I have said , You have the "courage" of a man to make the baby and call FL , why dont have that "courage" to Talk to your parents or a trusted relatives , see what they can do to assist the mother and baby are well taken care of ( doctor visits, baby clothes, baby stuff)

What is most important to do is do , What is right. You can make excuses for your self , but if you can live with it, go ahead! It's your life anyway, You are still young and yet to develop other life skills.

That is all for now, I just hope you do the right thing mate

shinnn

24-02-2008, 02:08 PM

It's also that we feel that there are "holes" in your story and contradictions , that is why we can misinterpret them. It's your prerogative anyway to tell it as it is. ( mai mi bpen haa). I ain't no saint myself to say this, but I feel that this involves an innocent party ( The baby who is coming into this troubled world) So i just have to write.

You cannot learn to undo the past or make up for your mistakes by just correcting your flaws. We all make mistakes in our Youth , since a baby is coming despite your present inability to provide any care, can you perhaps talk to your parents about it, just I have said , You have the "courage" of a man to make the baby and call FL , why dont have that "courage" to Talk to your parents or a trusted relatives , see what they can do to assist the mother and baby are well taken care of ( doctor visits, baby clothes, baby stuff)

What is most important to do is do , What is right. You can make excuses for your self , but if you can live with it, go ahead! It's your life anyway, You are still young and yet to develop other life skills.

That is all for now, I just hope you do the right thing mate

thank u bros, i will contact her in a couple of mths later, when her mood is good, right now she is stil kinda pissed off wif me.

pussyman72

24-02-2008, 02:10 PM

pussyman72

24-02-2008, 02:13 PM

double post

Fiery dragon

24-02-2008, 09:07 PM

i think u guys mis-interpret wat i meant

1st thing, i realised that i m in the wrong, to hurt her so much, so i m tellin u guys, if u dont trust ur partner, just leave, dont keep questionin her like wat i did.

im not tryin to disgust all of u here, i just want to share experience only, for fiery bro. i will stop here.

Bro shinnn, don't get so worked up with the -ve comments. Sorry to make u come out to share ur "similar experience" for my sake and i'm grateful to u for doing that...it takes a lot of courage to share with others what we've been thru(we could have chose to keep quiet and sit back & relax and bombard those who post their experience with questions). Bro shinn, u've already helped me a lot by clearing the doubts in my mind. Maybe only those who were in the same boat as us before would know how we feel...we can't forsee everything and know what's gonna to happen next...that's why the dictionary has got a word called REGRET.

I hope tat by sharing our experiences here would help other bros in making wiser decisions in future and to learn from our mistakes as well. -ve remarks or comments to me would not deter me to share my other/future experiences in SBF but might deter others from sharing their experiences with bros here in fear of receiving -ve remarks(like disgusting) which they might not be able to take it.

It's also that we feel that there are "holes" in your story and contradictions , that is why we can misinterpret them. It's your prerogative anyway to tell it as it is. ( mai mi bpen haa).

You cannot learn to undo the past or make up for your mistakes by just correcting your flaws. We all make mistakes in our Youth , since a baby is coming despite your present inability to provide any care, can you perhaps talk to your parents about it, just I have said , You have the "courage" of a man to make the baby and call FL , why dont have that "courage" to Talk to your parents or a trusted relatives , see what they can do to assist the mother and baby are well taken care of ( doctor visits, baby clothes, baby stuff)

Bro, it's not that easy to put the experiences in WORDS. I myself was a little confused initially when trying to put it in words explaining my situation and thus gotta read what i've typed all over again b4 posting...esp with so many replies generated by different bros.

Lets all give bro shinn sometime to sort out his mind and to plan for his next action. I believe tat all your suggestions & some of the comments so far has been beneficial to him somehow or somewhat. :)

Guess not many newbies like me myself would dare to start a new thread on this in fear of being zapped to moderation by Senior bros if i stated something wrongly w/o realising it. Posted my experience here as i thought that it has relation to the subject "Marrying A Thai ger"...coz u gotta have a Thai gf first before marrying one(unless its a blind-date thru friends or relatives or arranged thru match-making agencies).

dream888

24-02-2008, 09:42 PM

Wow, a bit like reading movie script, sorry I think that this is quite unbelievable, if true, then good for U but U must be crazy to do raw with FL, pls go for medical checkout after 6mths later. Hopefully nothings comes out.

bkkguy

24-02-2008, 11:16 PM

Hi pussyman72,

How're you doing ???

Hope everything is going well with you. ;)

norice

25-02-2008, 05:51 AM

Norikasan55,

Did you marry your Tirak?

I just want you to know that in Thailand, daughters are responsible for well being of their parents while they are alive and sons are responsible after death of their parents! In other words, daughters must ensure that their parents are well taken care of while they're alive on this earth and sons are responsible for funerals, etc! Also, based on my individual interviews in the soapys, gogo bars and Karaokes, older daughters also take care of their younger siblings! Therefore, if you decided to marry a Thai girl, she has lots of financial responsibilites so they want to marry foreigners with lots of money so they could be assisted by their husbands. So, when I retire in Thailand, I hope to meet a nonworking college grad girl without parents or siblings. I'm being selfish but that's my goal but if I only meet girls with parents, thats okay too! I'll be in Bangkok from June 27 through July 13, so if any of Singaporeans married to Thai wants to meet for drinks and share ideas and advice of how to have a happy marriage to a Thai ladies, please pm and we'll find a place to meet.

Good luck

norice

25-02-2008, 05:58 AM

Hello,

Several years ago, I was a member of ASIAN WOMEN|ONLINE ASIAN DATING|ASIAN GIRLS|THAI GIRLS (http://www.sweetsingles.com) in Bangkok, my goal was to meet nice Thai gils for longterm relationship. I did meet and dated several college grad girls but it didn't work out. My advice is not to join dating agencies such as sweetsingles etc., majority of the girls just want to go out and party, practice English and spend your money! In meeting college grad, nonworking and attractive girls, it takes time and effort so just be patient and networking is the key!

norice

25-02-2008, 09:09 AM

Norikasan55,

The son is responsible for funerals after death, and so on. Under Buddhism, they have several death/funeral ceramonies after death so the son will be busy but not as severe as daughters. I'm just like you, if I marry Thai girl, I don't want to support the whole family, I just want to support the wife! So many of my friends' marriages to Thai girls end in divorce due to financial reasons, it's sad! Several of my married friends in Bangkok, still sends monthly funds to wife families in the North! It's sad, you usually marry someone for love and companionship but I guess under Thai culture, Thai girls marry foreigners for money! If I decided to settle down in Bangkok and develop a longterm relationship with a Thai girl, I shall take my time and really search for someone that will like me for my looks, personality and security!

Norikasan, don't worry, theres many fishes in the sea but when you're in love, it's very hard to lose your love one due to financial reason! Would you marry a Thai girl, if she was married before or have kids?

norice

25-02-2008, 09:18 AM

theUnforgotten

25-02-2008, 09:48 AM

Brothers,

Let say in Bangkok, you want to meet a nice educated, attractive and nonworking girl for possible longterm relationship, where is the best place to meet someone? My definition of nonworking girl is never received money for sex. Its okay is she is not a virgin but I can't handle if she worked as a prostitute, that's where I draw the line!

My number one place is in the gym or health clubs such as California WOW! Maybe in the Dental or Medical Clinics, shopping centers and hotels. Based on my research, to meet an attractive, educated and nonworking girl is through networking! Also, you must live there, as a tourist, it will ber very hard to meet a nice girl, you need to be there permanently!

Hi dude,

You can start now , try social networking sites such as Hi5 , Facebook ,Friendster. Many are already college educated and know some english.

It is true that the limited time one has on the ground as a tourist restricts our ability to know and cement a relationship with a non working thai girl, but i believe that Networking is the key , as well as managing expectations I have met a few this way and it did not work out so easily as well . It depends also on ourselves, what is our pirority ( sex/companionship or companionship/sex)

I Might be in bkk during the period of July 2008 , so if i am around , i shall inform you.

bkkguy

25-02-2008, 11:24 AM

vmtech

25-02-2008, 12:38 PM

Hi Norice,

PM me when you're in town, we can have kopi session together.;)
I'm married to a thai wife for the past 14yrs. We've 3 children, presently my family is living together with me in thailand permanently.

It true that if anyone of you're looking for a future good thai wife in LOS. Better start looking at the 'right place'. Don't think that you can change their thought after marrige, it will never happen.Most properly, they'll change you instate. haha !!

very correct! it's about meeting at the right place and/or making it happen correctly

i'm recently married too and pretty much enjoying every mment of it. for me lucky la, family all already settled, no need to "marry the whole family" like most people expect

vmtech

25-02-2008, 12:40 PM

I remember there is a thread or discussion on IDD calling cards.
Unable to find it using search.

So post here to ask if anyone tried buying IDD card from this website to call Thailand.

https://www.phonecard.com.sg/productslist.aspx?CategoryID=4&selection=14

I been using M1-1818.:o I always pay 10 dollar to buy the card but this website offer 8.50 only.

im using ezpay.com.sg to purchase 1818 too, it's 8.10 on my site leh. but anyway, my wife's friend (that's married and living in singapore) told me in GM they sell 1 card called ACE callback card, she uses it to chat with my wife in thailand for HOURS.
havent been free to pop into GM but i was wondering if anyone uses it too, she says its about 1hr avg $2, which is darn cheap!

Alkano

25-02-2008, 02:17 PM

very correct! it's about meeting at the right place and/or making it happen correctly

i'm recently married too and pretty much enjoying every mment of it. for me lucky la, family all already settled, no need to "marry the whole family" like most people expect

Congrats bro...
You are those lucky few who don't have to marry whole family....
Me on the verge of marriage soon..
Don't know what to expect coz her parents are divorced.
The only person she is looking after is her grandmother.
Hope i can one of those lucky few. :D

norice

25-02-2008, 02:43 PM

Hello,

Excellent advice! In regards to not marrying the family now because they're settled and financially stabled. What happens in couple of years from now, your wife tells you, honey, I need lots of money, my mother/father will lose the house of business due to loans of whatever, what do you do? Or if you honey tells you can you give me enough money to buy a truck for my brother or he can't start a business? This really happended to my friends in Bangkok! How can you say no to your wife!

norice

25-02-2008, 02:49 PM

norice

25-02-2008, 02:51 PM

Bkkguy,

Congratulation! You're a very lucky guy! Are you from Singapore? During my next trip to Bangkok, I would like to meet and have few drinks, so I shall pm you.

theUnforgotten

25-02-2008, 03:57 PM

the Unforgotten,

I agree with you, networking in Bangkok is the key in finding a perspective girlfriend for longterm relationship. Can you elaborate more in regards to Hi5, facebook and friendster?

Thanks

Check your PM mate!

Social networking sites are good way to sort out the personas , but ultimately the only way to sort them out is follow up eventually in real life, only few actually do make it to having a real meetup.

bkkguy

25-02-2008, 07:03 PM

very correct! it's about meeting at the right place and/or making it happen correctly

i'm recently married too and pretty much enjoying every mment of it. for me lucky la, family all already settled, no need to "marry the whole family" like most people expect

Which part of thailand your wife from ?

It ok to give occationally some monthly allowance to her parent but not her siblings. Once you have your own children, wife will put their own children above all others, that include her family side. :)

bkkguy

25-02-2008, 07:11 PM

Bkkguy,

Congratulation! You're a very lucky guy! Are you from Singapore? During my next trip to Bangkok, I would like to meet and have few drinks, so I shall pm you.

Yes, I'm from Singapore.
I can share with you my 14yrs of experience living with a thai wife when we meet up.:p

Btw, I don't cheong anymore.
A few hrs of kopi session in the morning will be just fine.

pussyman72

25-02-2008, 08:58 PM

Hi pussyman72,

How're you doing ???

Hope everything is going well with you. ;)

hehehe yoz im doing fine. how are u? in bkk now?

pussyman72

25-02-2008, 09:00 PM

Hi Norice,

PM me when you're in town, we can have kopi session together.;)
I'm married to a thai wife for the past 14yrs. We've 3 children, presently my family is living together with me in thailand permanently.

It true that if anyone of you're looking for a future good thai wife in LOS. Better start looking at the 'right place'. Don't think that you can change their thought after marrige, it will never happen.Most properly, they'll change you instate. haha !!

lol u always kopi ah later wife pull ur ear lei... joking bro when u coming back. come back give me a call we kopi. anyway planning to come up in apr to bkk so maybe we can meet up for kopi. long time no meet up in bkk kopi liao lol :D bring me to local kopi na hehehehe

bkkguy

25-02-2008, 09:01 PM

hehehe yoz im doing fine. how are u? in bkk now?

I'm fine.
Still in bkk.

bkkguy

25-02-2008, 09:07 PM

lol u always kopi ah later wife pull ur ear lei... joking bro when u coming back. come back give me a call we kopi. anyway planning to come up in apr to bkk so maybe we can meet up for kopi. long time no meet up in bkk kopi liao lol :D bring me to local kopi na hehehehe

As usual, I always keep my personal contacts a secret from her.:D

Let me know when you're in town.;)

tOmAski33

25-02-2008, 09:34 PM

Yes, I'm from Singapore.
I can share with you my 14yrs of experience living with a thai wife when we meet up.:p

Btw, I don't cheong anymore.
A few hrs of kopi session in the morning will be just fine.

Hi i am keen to settle down in thailand with thai gal.
Can we meet up to share your exp. when i am in bkk in the near future..
Thailand is a good place witsh good food and environment plus the hot weather and heavy traffic (Same like Sgp)

bkkguy

25-02-2008, 10:22 PM

Hi i am keen to settle down in thailand with thai gal.
Can we meet up to share your exp. when i am in bkk in the near future..
Thailand is a good place witsh good food and environment plus the hot weather and heavy traffic (Same like Sgp)

No problem ! I'm most willing to give out my personal advice to fellow S'poreons on thai relationships.

Just buy me a cup of kopi will do.;)

pussyman72

25-02-2008, 10:42 PM

No problem ! I'm most willing to give out my personal advice to fellow S'poreons on thai relationships.

Just buy me a cup of kopi will do.;)

hehehe got to charge pple consultation fee liao bro hehehe. 1 x apnam :D

give u a call this week need to check something with u anyway. one of the bro going to go cnx stay perm liao lol

xilverzap

26-02-2008, 12:39 AM

one of the bro going to go cnx stay perm liao lol

who ah? hehehe

Having a thai GF or Wife thread leh... anyway.. all said and done. Having a thai GF or wife is not as bad la.. There are just things between wife and husband that needs to be adjusted and sorted out individually. No one is right. No one is wrong. A lot of give and take ( some cases more give then take.. haha)

But which ever way it is, if you love someone, be it thai, viet, laos, myanmar or whatever. Treasure what you have. Marrying a thai is no much different then marrying anyother gal la.

If your intention is to find a soul mate, I think FLs will not be a good area to find them ba. But when love happens... or your so call KC traps comes in, you want to siam also cannot one lah. Emotions are never easy to control when your ego is stroke at the right way.

xilver

xilverzap

26-02-2008, 12:48 AM

Hi i am keen to settle down in thailand with thai gal.
Can we meet up to share your exp. when i am in bkk in the near future..
Thailand is a good place witsh good food and environment plus the hot weather and heavy traffic (Same like Sgp)

Many bros wanna settle down in LOS with a thai girl. So many have talked about and dream about this. However, it is not as easy as it seems.

We go Thailand for a holiday is VERY DIFFERENT from we go STAY in Thailand permanently. Once you are there, you got to live, talk, listen, watch, interact with ALL THINGS Thai EVERYDAY of your life!! Can you take it???

So, to all bros who are already there... stay sane and enjoy... to those planning to go up permanently.. all the best of luck !!!

xilver

xilverzap

26-02-2008, 12:53 AM

No problem ! I'm most willing to give out my personal advice to fellow S'poreons on thai relationships.

Just buy me a cup of kopi will do.;)

Are you in Bkk? hmmmm... perhaps someday will meet you for a chat. Its me that might be moving to Cnx soon as pussyman mentioned and I think I am gonna need as much advice and information I can get soon. I think there'd be lots of red tape and stuff before it really happen.

Cheers
xilver

pussyman72

26-02-2008, 01:54 AM

I think I am gonna need as much advice and information I can get soon. I think there'd be lots of red tape and stuff before it really happen.

u need advice de meh. cb got wife take care u song liao le ma. more over it 8hr drive to bkk lol how bkkguy advice u hehehehe.

sigh hope soon my turn la lol i wait unil neck long long liao. :p

pussyman72

26-02-2008, 01:58 AM

Many bros wanna settle down in LOS with a thai girl. So many have talked about and dream about this. However, it is not as easy as it seems.

We go Thailand for a holiday is VERY DIFFERENT from we go STAY in Thailand permanently. Once you are there, you got to live, talk, listen, watch, interact with ALL THINGS Thai EVERYDAY of your life!! Can you take it???

hehehe very true. havng fun there n working there is really very diff. dont forget we not thai that is already a problem. doing business thereor getting a job there are not ez.

unless our company send us there else very hard to move there unless u wanna go into teaching one mth 8k baht.

vmtech

26-02-2008, 03:42 AM

Which part of thailand your wife from ?

It ok to give occationally some monthly allowance to her parent but not her siblings. Once you have your own children, wife will put their own children above all others, that include her family side. :)

mines not from thailand, shares same culture though, shan girl from kengtung. we still give the parents allowance sometimes, not monthly though, occasionally when we do visit them (wifey's studying in bangkok) back in maesai. siblings.. nah, they still young, give also give pencil box and schoolbag only hahah

vmtech

26-02-2008, 03:43 AM

I think there'd be lots of red tape and stuff before it really happen.

Cheers
xilver

red tape nvm! buy black tape from pussyman72 ! he have alot! heheheh

pussyman72

26-02-2008, 02:02 PM

red tape nvm! buy black tape from pussyman72 ! he have alot! heheheh

wah u n xilver suan me ah. basket nobody to burn come burn me have pity on me lei. now i got one hand to type only lei :(

vmtech

26-02-2008, 04:15 PM

wah u n xilver suan me ah. basket nobody to burn come burn me have pity on me lei. now i got one hand to type only lei :(

guys dont fool around and let ur thai wife find out, arbo become like p72 :p left hand kanna dismembered, cannot pcc liao.

yinyang

26-02-2008, 05:28 PM

guys dont fool around and let ur thai wife find out, arbo become like p72 left hand kanna dismembered, cannot pcc liao.
Or risk (what I hear and see from thai media) junior sliced to feed ducks and worse (1 tg joked with me, kns).. make soup :eek:

PM72, sleep with that pack of ice ever ready hehehehe:p:o

Peter_North

26-02-2008, 10:16 PM

I need some help on pasah Thai.

What is "aroon dee" ? I know 'dee' is good. And what would be the context when a female says "aroon dee" to you ?

xilverzap

27-02-2008, 12:50 AM

I need some help on pasah Thai.

What is "aroon dee" ? I know 'dee' is good. And what would be the context when a female says "aroon dee" to you ?

Sounds like "arom dee"?? That would mean good mood.

Xilver

Peter_North

27-02-2008, 11:34 AM

Sounds like "arom dee"?? That would mean good mood.

Xilver

Thanks, Bro.

theUnforgotten

27-02-2008, 12:28 PM

Or risk (what I hear and see from thai media) junior sliced to feed ducks and worse (1 tg joked with me, kns).. make soup

PM72, sleep with that pack of ice ever ready hehehehe

then I will think it will be a great idea to get a small ice box by the bedside, the kind u bring to picnics to keep beers ice cold.:)

By the way , I am just curious . anyone got idea what is the procedure for giving birth and registering the baby in Thailand, whether married or unmarried.

Don't flame me hor , I always wear 'raincoat' one, so It's got nothing to do with me. I am enquiring for future planning purposes:)

Exciter101

27-02-2008, 12:38 PM

Hi all, i have a query.
Does thai ger get jealous easily?
Thks. :D

pussyman72

27-02-2008, 01:26 PM

then I will think it will be a great idea to get a small ice box by the bedside, the kind u bring to picnics to keep beers ice cold.

By the way , I am just curious . anyone got idea what is the procedure for giving birth and registering the baby in Thailand, whether married or unmarried.

Don't flame me hor , I always wear 'raincoat' one, so It's got nothing to do with me. I am enquiring for future planning purposes:)

wah another 2 more bro suan me liao. :( si YY u nothing to do ah. go book FL la lol :D

lol ask our bro xilver ba lol he expert on babies lol.

pussyman72

27-02-2008, 01:30 PM

Hi all, i have a query.
Does thai ger get jealous easily?
Thks. :D

lol if ger ger no jealous not call ger ger liao lei :p unless she kc u then no care la but still will cos wanna own u ma lol.

joke aside yes they do get very jealous. lol dont play play they get very very jealous or mad when u and other girls very close. if they really siao u they really very very siao.

lol my dear told me that if i run home she wont quarrle with me. she will wait at nite i sleep n cut it off lol:rolleyes:

xilverzap

27-02-2008, 02:17 PM

By the way , I am just curious . anyone got idea what is the procedure for giving birth and registering the baby in Thailand, whether married or unmarried.

Don't flame me hor , I always wear 'raincoat' one, so It's got nothing to do with me. I am enquiring for future planning purposes:)

Well, giving birth is quite simple in Thailand. My son was born in Cnx, McCormick Hospital. Once confirmed pregnant from test kit, you can go to any hospital to get your wife/Gf registered. You will also register yourself and both of you will need to go for blood tests. Following that will be the usual once a month checkup and weekly checkups after 8th month.

You'd also be asked if you want to followup with the same gynae, which means paying a bit extra ( around 5kbaht ), to follow through your baby's development through the entire pregnancy and giving birth and after.

Overall cost works out to be about 1/3 of what will cost here in Sillypore.

Once given birth, you'd have, I think 14 days, to register your child to the local authorities. Go to your district office, bring your passport, birth papers (from hospital) and your wife's housing documents and name him and register him. They will issue you birthcert immediately.

Do note that with this birthcert, you or your wife MUST bring along when leaving or entering Thailand the first time. After that, the immigration in Thailand told us no need to bring along, but we play safe.. we bring along whereever we go.

Finished, come back here, go to ICA, repeat process.

In Thailand, you dont need ROM cert of to register your baby. In Singapore, you have to have ROM cert.

Guess that's about it. Hope it helps. any bros with any other info, do input.

Cheers
xilver

xilverzap

27-02-2008, 02:25 PM

wah another 2 more bro suan me liao. :( si YY u nothing to do ah. go book FL la lol :D

lol ask our bro xilver ba lol he expert on babies lol.

Bro, we dare not suan you la. You so expert in this field leow we have to call you Pi Pussyman leh. ^o^ You so famous here leow.

I am no expert on babies la. Only gone through this once... so far... and there are so many other bros that have MORE babies then me.

We all live and learn from each other ba.

xilver

xilverzap

27-02-2008, 02:31 PM

Hi all, i have a query.
Does thai ger get jealous easily?
Thks. :D

Every girl get jealous la. We also mah... BUT easily or not is individual leow.

Also when you say easily jealous, do you think is a good thing or bad thing? Overdose of anykind is also bad. It will be become more possesive then just being jealous. If they get jealous easily, we'd think they are too sticky, if they dont get jealous, we think they dont care enough for us. How? ^o^

Most of the time, we need to talk things through with our wives/GF that we still love them no matter what. So if you are able to reassure them once a while, I guess its boils down to trusting you will not fool around ba.

xilver

pussyman72

27-02-2008, 03:13 PM

I guess its boils down to trusting you will not fool around ba.

wah u no fool ard meh lol. oh oh lol not fool ard only liang many many puss lol

i no expert in this field la. i also kanna bbq lei i kanna bbq till cooked liao lei. :p

norice

27-02-2008, 03:47 PM

Brothers,

This is an excellent forum to share ideas and give advices on how we can meet and date nonworking college educated Thai girls for possible longterm relationship. Dating agencies, internet and nightclubs are fine but we need advice on how to meet those girls in a normal environment. I was told by several Thais that networking is the best and sure method, if you want to meet a good girl.

My story:

About 8 - 9 years ago, I met an attractive Palazzo Hotel concierge and she gave us a tour of the hotel and its amenities. During next 20 minutes, we clicked and I made her laugh several times and we felt very comfortable with each other. Next day, my friend told me she couldn't stop talking bout me so I guess, she kind of like me. But I didn't pursue her but we still became friends. Every year, I usually give her several boxes of chocolate candies from Hawaii. When I retire in Bangkok, permanently within 23 months, I shall ask her out if she is still single. If she is married, I will ask her if she has any friends that I could meet. This is a perfect example of networking in Bangkok. Since she knows I'm a nice guy, she will not hesitate to introduce her single friends to me for possible longterm relationship. That's my goal and I hope the plan works out and will be benificial! Also, she is college educated and able to speak fluent English, Chinese and Thai! I'm willing to give her more expensive gift from Hawaii but I feel uncomfortable because she could be married by now! I don't know if she is single or married. Should I bring more expensive gifts to her? Need advice!

xilverzap

27-02-2008, 04:06 PM

Should I bring more expensive gifts to her? Need advice!

Well, my take is there is NO need for expensive gifts for her. Gifts are fine. But do they need to be expensive to attract a girl's attention?? I think "its the thought that counts" still hold some truths even in Thailand. Get her something simple and meaningful would be much better I guess.

Just my thoughts (counts?) :p
xilver

xilverzap

27-02-2008, 04:10 PM

wah u no fool ard meh lol. oh oh lol not fool ard only liang many many puss lol

i no expert in this field la. i also kanna bbq lei i kanna bbq till cooked liao lei. :p

Sorry, I am not able to "liang" anyone anymore... I not print $$ one. hahaha

Maybe no expert but your experience certainly enriches us bros when it comes to wether or not we going be bbq, smoked, steamed or microwaved. I guess you have the spot on eye when bros come here to share their sad stories when they start KC with any thai ladies.

xilver

vmtech

27-02-2008, 04:29 PM

Well, my take is there is NO need for expensive gifts for her. Gifts are fine. But do they need to be expensive to attract a girl's attention?? I think "its the thought that counts" still hold some truths even in Thailand. Get her something simple and meaningful would be much better I guess.

Just my thoughts (counts?) :p
xilver

Agreed :) hehe it's the thought that counts, but den.. she has to understand that meaning and in your same frequency.. if not.. den different story lo :P

pussyman72

27-02-2008, 04:39 PM

Should I bring more expensive gifts to her? Need advice!

i agree with what bro vm n xilver just said. another thing dont ever give all ur money to ur girl be it a non working or working girl when u are retired there. it is safer to be with u then giving to another person to safe keep for u especially ur love one.

norice

27-02-2008, 04:42 PM

xilverzap

27-02-2008, 06:06 PM

Xil&VM,

Not too expensive, rather than giving her chocolate candies over the years, I want to give her makeup, perfume or watch with my face on it! ha ha ha ha Seriously, I want to give her that's more meaningful, maybe vitamins.

Hi Bro

Well, if its not too expensive then it's fine. Maybe when you meet her you can buy her chocolates for her AGAIN and tell her how sweet she is that you cannot think of anything else to get for her. ^o^ (old school.. haha)...

Watch with your face on it would be funny one. There are some stuff that guy are NOT suppose to get for thai girls. Well, these are what I heard from some FLs or bros... Perfume, slippers or shoes and I cannot remember the rest.. Sorry I am getting old.. hahaha.. I do know that it is a NO NO for Chinese to buy clock for one another. I am not sure if this applies to thais?

We are all envious you'd be retiring in Thailand in the coming future. Hmmmm... isnt Hawaii quite happening too?? Bet the girls there are beautiful and tanned like those in the movies?? Haahaha...

1 last question. May I ask, if you dont mind. Why do you choose to retire in Thailand and not any other places?

xilver

Exciter101

27-02-2008, 09:27 PM

If she is wearing one, then she might have a boyfriend or already married.

Does wearing of ring on either hand finger mean anything?
Like wear right hand index finger, any meaning?
Or wear lift hand index finger?
Hope u can shed some light.
Many thks.

GLHunter

27-02-2008, 10:08 PM

Watch with your face on it would be funny one. There are some stuff that guy are NOT suppose to get for thai girls. Well, these are what I heard from some FLs or bros... Perfume, slippers or shoes and I cannot remember the rest.. Sorry I am getting old.. hahaha.. I do know that it is a NO NO for Chinese to buy clock for one another. I am not sure if this applies to thais?
xilver

Who is it abt the perfume? i bought some for my gf & she neber says anything leh.. ?

Exciter101

27-02-2008, 10:15 PM

Who is it abt the perfume? i bought some for my gf & she neber says anything leh.. ?

Long time no see, how r u?
Things going well, i hope....

xilverzap

28-02-2008, 12:21 AM

Who is it abt the perfume? i bought some for my gf & she neber says anything leh.. ?

Well, when I was with my previous GF in Bkk, everytime she asks me to get her perfume from our airport she insist that she pays for it. It does not matter that she does not pay the full price for it but as long she pays for it.
Then when her good friend, another girl came over, her friend tried that perfume on herself and her friend had to pay her 1baht for usage. She told me then that it would make 2 person seperate if perfume is bought and given as a gift or lent to use for fun. Anyway, that was what I experienced with perfume thing.

Shoe is considered as a "lowly" item as it relates to a lady's feet. They think it is not good for a man to buy shoe for a lady.

But this taboos are practiced by some thai ladies only. I also encountered those that dont bother. As long as you are paying they are happy. hahaha

xilver

xilverzap

28-02-2008, 12:29 AM

Does wearing of ring on either hand finger mean anything?
Like wear right hand index finger, any meaning?
Or wear lift hand index finger?
Hope u can shed some light.
Many thks.

Nowadays, wearing rings on any fingers dont really mean much, except the wedding finger. Anywhere else I guess its just jewelery and does not mean anything. Wearing lots of GOLD rings and bracelets and necklace... ah... that means this girl like to show their village people that she have made it.

xilver

vmtech

28-02-2008, 05:51 AM

Does wearing of ring on either hand finger mean anything?
Like wear right hand index finger, any meaning?
Or wear lift hand index finger?
Hope u can shed some light.
Many thks.

doesnt actually mean much now in the new generations. but according to customs, normally is 男左女右

Exciter101

28-02-2008, 08:50 AM

doesnt actually mean much now in the new generations. but according to customs, normally is 男左女右

What i heard from some bros here is that it is not necessarily mean that...
Kinda confused....

Peter_North

28-02-2008, 12:30 PM

doesnt actually mean much now in the new generations. but according to customs, normally is 男左女右

It's the finger nearest to your last finger that counts. Now the issue is left hand or right hand.

For marriage, regardless of male or female, it's always on the left hand. If a girl wears one on the right hand, it means she is engaged.

However, some or in fact many don't understand the significance, so they may just suka suka wear anywhere.

norice

28-02-2008, 01:08 PM

pussyman72

28-02-2008, 01:56 PM

Yalor, as long she is not wearing a ring on the wedding finger, then 50% chance she is single!

now aday girls also wear wedding finger lei that does not mean she is marry also mah. :)

pussyman72

28-02-2008, 02:01 PM

What i heard from some bros here is that it is not necessarily mean that...
Kinda confused....

lol there is nothing to confuse about. so what u see her wearing rings be it silver, gold or diamond rings. does it mean anything on which finger she wear and even she wear on the wedding finger can we said that she is married?

as what vm said new generation pple now a days dont care. in singapore i see most girls wear on the wedding finger but still single and married woman dont wear ring at all does that mean she not married?

well there is a way but depend she whether she report to her amper about her marriage. if she do then 2 things u can see. if i remember cleary first her household book will change to mrs and her ic will change to mrs.

Thai IC and passport are renew every 5 years.

pussyman72

28-02-2008, 02:08 PM

Hello,

In Thailand, thousands of married women doesn't wear wedding rings and attractive girls with boyfriends doesn't wear rings like western ladies so it's very confusing! You really can't tell if Thai girls/ladies are single or not! So, lets use our brain and experience, how can we tell if Thai ladies are available for foreigners like us?

sad to said we never will know by checking unless u get close to her. she can tell u she is single and got no bf or husband. it up to u to believe her. even u are very close to her that does not mean u get the true answer also.

i assume u are a farang? be it a farang or asian. just dont forget one thing we are Foreigner in thailand hehehe so open ur eyes and ears big big.

yinyang

28-02-2008, 02:38 PM

sad to said we never will know by checking unless u get close to her. she can tell u she is single and got no bf or husband. it up to u to believe her. even u are very close to her that does not mean u get the true answer also....be it a farang or asian. just dont forget one thing we are Foreigner in thailand hehehe so open ur eyes and ears big big.
Agree, well said (personally vouch for this). As I also mentioned in other bkk thread -there's also passive lies ie suppressing truth: what you don't know don't hurt:p:D And not just limited to marriage status, if I may add
well there is a way but depend she whether she report to her amper about her marriage. if she do then 2 things u can see. if i remember cleary first her household book will change to mrs and her ic will change to mrs.
Right, passport show marital "mrs". :p

PM72, see I not just engage in cheeky tcss with or suan you;) Yours is straight advice

pussyman72

28-02-2008, 02:45 PM

PM72, see I not just engage in cheeky tcss with or suan you;) Yours is straight advice

lol YY we like ying yang lei. we book fl close to each others time lol now even posting u are close to me lei. hehehehe

oh mean if i tcss u suan me liao lor :mad: never mind heheheh u are ying i yang how :p

OceanEleven

28-02-2008, 03:49 PM

Agree, well said (personally vouch for this). As I also mentioned in other bkk thread -there's also passive lies ie suppressing truth: what you don't know don't hurt And not just limited to marriage status, if I may add
Right, passport show marital "mrs". :p

Master YY, had enough papaya pok pok to gather such info. :D
Jokes aside, some gals got married ceremoniously but without any legal document to prove. ie marriage is not recognized by the law but people and relatives all know she is married to this guy. So theoretically she is married but legally she is not. This is a common practice in Thailand among some of hi-so classes, this is to safe guard against the richer ones to a certain extend.:cool:

yinyang

28-02-2008, 04:05 PM

...had enough papaya pok pok to gather such info. ..married ceremoniously but without any legal document to prove. ie marriage is not recognized by the law but people and relatives all know she is married to this guy. So theoretically she is married but legally she is not. This is a common practice in Thailand among some of hi-so classes, this is to safe guard against the richer ones to a certain extend.
Another good insight. So bro Norikasan, are you now more confused (or scared)? Going back to school to tackle your childhood sweetheart maybe your only way out liao... poot leng (only joking), na.:p

Bro Ocean11, so perceptive ... factual intel from my dalliance with ex ldtr and few side dishes. I lived to tell, kekeke:o:D

Peter_North

28-02-2008, 04:11 PM

Hahaha.. looks like identifying single girls is as hard as identifying trans!

I think its kind of scary since they might be married but they can tell us they are not!

Who the hell will go around showing their ID card or passport?

Even if the girls ONS with you, that doesn't mean she is single also!

I think the best is...... lets all go back to school and study!

Norice, how about you retired in Thailand, you just go and study in any college or thai local uni as a self enhance learning? From there you can get to know alot of nice young girls which probably are single!!! Or maybe if you are qualified enough can become their teacher!!! OMC~ The bangkokpost reported farang teacher married their student become a trend in Thailand. Okok enough of jokes.

It's not exclusive to Thailand. Singapore women are just as much guilty.

The issue is not if she doesn't wear a ring she is single. It's more about if she wears one, then it's likely she is not single. At least you can sift out the irrelevant ones from start and not having to waste more money or time.

pussyman72

28-02-2008, 04:13 PM

Hahaha.. looks like identifying single girls is as hard as identifying trans!

I think its kind of scary since they might be married but they can tell us they are not!

Who the hell will go around showing their ID card or passport?

Even if the girls ONS with you, that doesn't mean she is single also!

I think the best is...... lets all go back to school and study!

Norice, how about you retired in Thailand, you just go and study in any college or thai local uni as a self enhance learning? From there you can get to know alot of nice young girls which probably are single!!! Or maybe if you are qualified enough can become their teacher!!! OMC~ The bangkokpost reported farang teacher married their student become a trend in Thailand. Okok enough of jokes.

lol provided we know how to read thai even they show us their doc. as one bro just said in thailand most pple dont rom or registered in amper so there is still no way to know if she married.

i do agree on this cos to them rom or no rom is not important. most important it is recong. by the parents, relative and thier villiage that she is married to this person in the villiage.

getting more confuse lei hehehehhe :confused:

vmtech

28-02-2008, 05:33 PM

in the city of bangkok, it's prolly much easier den in the provinces. IMHO
the amphur is so near, in bangkok , they can just pop in and register anytime they want to and it'll cost u no more den 500thb for eveyrthing. haaha.

Even my marriage cert can be photoshopped if i wanted too lol.

since this thread is about marriage, here's how the cert looks like in orginal. and if you want to have it certified and translated so it's recognised in sg, it looks like this.

original
http://i11.photobucket.com/albums/a197/vmtech/certthai.jpg

translated certified true copy stamped by SG Emb
http://i11.photobucket.com/albums/a197/vmtech/certifiedtruecopy.jpg

xilverzap

28-02-2008, 05:38 PM

WoW WoW Vmtech

Nice attachement!! Sweet!!

Exciter101

28-02-2008, 07:50 PM

Thanks for showing us the cert.
Now at least we know how it looks like. :D
Thks bro.

norice

29-02-2008, 12:00 AM

Brothers,

This is an excellent forum, I'm learning alot! What if I met an attractive Thai girl for possible longterm relationship, do I have to marry her? If I just tell her that I want you to be my permanent longterm girlfriend and I will take care of you for rest of your life but I don't want to marry you. What is your opinion regarding my proposal? Would Thai girls accept my proposal or do they want permanent committment?

I've heard so many horror stories when foreigner tried to breakup their relationship with a Thai girl. I guess, don't make a hasty decision when you decide to get married! Does Thai girls accept long engagement?

I did extensive research in budgeting for fooling around in Bangkok, If I have a llived-in female companion, her usual going rate for monthly salary will be approximately 20,000 to 30,000 per month. As a butterfly, I will be spending approximately 40,000 to 50,000 per month, which consist of going to soapys, gogos, gel/lotion massage, FLs, and karaokes. I have several friends in Bangkok and Pattaya that pays 20,000 to 30,000 per month to their lived-in girlfriends. But their girlfriends were fomer gogo dancers! My longterm girlfriend will be 110% nonworking girls!

pussyman72

29-02-2008, 03:07 AM

I doubt educated girls in thailand is willing to so call marry someone without official paper done up, maybe like you said those girls from bar and soapies don't mind afterall they just want pp to takecare of them and give them money.

To the thais they dont really care about rom it just a paper to them. what they want is the custom married. to them this is the actual legal thing there.

only those that marry non thai then maybe they will go sign paper with them. reason being they wanna go oversea and stay with their hubby.

normal or working girls are the same. it makes no diff to them whether or not to sign the papers. i have decent, educated thai friends who family are quite wealth off. they too married without rom only custom married. to them this is very important.

a very good question is why do we need to rom in thailand when we can marry in our own country. one of the reason most of the pple wanna stay in thailand in the future.

especially farangs they love thailand and wants to stay there perm with the with the thai wife help. unlike last time we can rom and then throw in 15k sgd to the bank n show proved that we have 15k sgd in the bank every yr inorder to get a spouse visa. now no. min 40k baht per mth either ur wife is earning per mth or u had to show proved saying u have this income coming to u.

my dear's cousin marry a farang he from UK. to him he never go amper register he just did the custom married and that is it. he have plans to move that in the future once he save enough $$$. now every 6 mths he have to go back to uk n work 6mths b4 coming back n stay 6mth in the villiage.

pussyman72

29-02-2008, 03:31 AM

This is an excellent forum, I'm learning alot! What is your opinion regarding my proposal? Would Thai girls accept my proposal or do they want permanent committment?

well bud u can learn from forums. u can listen to what ur friend tell u about stories. pple like us will share our experience but when comes to the real things u will face it and had to deal with it not know what is coming to u.

well there decent girls who do not wanna engage or marry just long term relationship for how long god knows. soo hard to answer ur question. 2nd going after decent girls is like going after a girl u like. makes no diff at all.

unless u talking about working girl to them. if u willing to feed them they more then willing to be with u. again god know how long will they be with u. if u know what i mean. there is good working girls who really dying to be married if they are very serious with u.

I've heard so many horror stories when foreigner tried to breakup their relationship with a Thai girl.Does Thai girls accept long engagement?

well yes especally farang. pls go download the virgin trade in one of the thread about thai movies.

some links for u.

FRT - Farang Rak Thai (http://blog.nationmultimedia.com/poomjai/2007/10/25/entry-1)
Phen Chaloemphol Noy Chaloemphol Bangkok Thailand Prostitute you need to beware of (http://www.phenchaloemphol.com/)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BalLrSG-xIU&mode=related&search=
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rcDE06NTzeI&mode=related&search=

think i have answer ur question on long term engagement.

I did extensive research in budgeting for fooling around in Bangkok, If I have a llived-in female companion, her usual going rate for monthly salary will be approximately 20,000 to 30,000 per month. As a butterfly, I will be spending approximately 40,000 to 50,000 per month, which consist of going to soapys, gogos, gel/lotion massage, FLs, and karaokes. I have several friends in Bangkok and Pattaya that pays 20,000 to 30,000 per month to their lived-in girlfriends. But their girlfriends were fomer gogo dancers! My longterm girlfriend will be 110% nonworking girls!

well feeding a ex working girl may not need to be very costly. provided she really love u. we men are an asshole we wanna give them the best and show them we have money.

to be frank a family living expense are very low is about 4k baht. u can basically feed 4 to 5 mouth in the family for 1 mth.

of course that only put food on the table if they have more they will buy motor, make bigger house.

there is alot of things to said about living in a villiage. anyway to me 10k baht a mth is more then enough. as for non working girls no comment this u have to find out more on urself since when u are there then u able to know u can do it or not.

vmtech

29-02-2008, 05:42 AM

Waseh~

This is the most useful pictures in this forum other than nude pics of chiobu.:p

Really good for you to show us how it look.

But have to say the translate piece really like like an ordinary A4 paper.

If bring the cert back in sg can ROM again to get a proper sg cert?

Hmm..Bro... remember to buy 4D ok? The photo alot of number, i think this weekend one of them might tio beipio!

Proper sg cert i duno leh, as for the numbers, yes i bought the week i came back. haha jump number consecatively for 1 week!

didnt kanna but well, i tried :P

theUnforgotten

29-02-2008, 12:53 PM

IMHO , If u arleady registered in thailand , You dont need to go ROM again to get singapore cert. You may only required to get a certified translated copy.

For ICA purpose, the cert in Thailand and certified translated copy are acceptable.

Btw if u (touch wood) happen to get seperated and divorced, If u have thai cert u can seperate under thai laws, With Singapore ROM cert u be subject to women's charter provisons.

norice

29-02-2008, 03:22 PM

Norikasan,

Your right once again! Theres no way that I'm going to settle down with a former working girl because they already have a taste for money and fast life. If I decide to settle down, I definitely will settle down with an educated, conservative and humble Thai girl, if I can find one! I'm Korean and I feel that Asians have definite advantage over Caucasians in marrying a nonworking Thai girl due to our color, culture and demeanor! I'm not prejudice over Caucasians but based on my experience, Thai girls are more keen on marrying Asians over Caucasians. Therefore, in Bangkok, majority of my Caucasian friends are married to former bar girls! I don't stand out in Bangkok because I'm Asian, but if Caucasion walks with a Thai girl, lots of Thais will stare and ridicule at the girl because they think she is a prostitute!

I said before, I have insomnia and I have hard time sleeping. So I'm very familiar with sleeping pills and I want to answer some of your questions. In Bangkok, you can't buy sleeping pills from legitimate Pharacys due to police interaction and FDA law! You must visit hospital or clinics for Dr's prescription. I believe before 2002 or 2003, you can legally purchase sleeping pills from Pharmacys in Bangkok. Strongest sleeping pills you can purchase in Bangkok is Dormicom. I would recommend you trying Halcion sleeping pills. Three years ago, I had lasik surgery at Rutin Eye Hospital in Bangkok and I had hard time requesting Dormicom sleeping tablets from my eye surgeon. She wanted to see my passport, before prescribing Dormicom! Currently, my favorite sleeping pill is Ambien CR.

norice

29-02-2008, 03:29 PM

Pussyman,

Well I'm not a rich man but I have money aside to assist my longterm girlfriend monthly if she really need. I don't mind giving her 20,000B per month. I hope to find a fulltime working girl (nonbar) and I want to supplement her income because we all know Thai pay scale is very low. I would say, over 90% of my married friends in Bangkok still gives wifes' families 10,000 - 30,000B a month.

dom01

29-02-2008, 09:08 PM

Thanks for the info, brudders... Very informative. :D

norice

29-02-2008, 11:13 PM

Norikasan,

I believe the Doctors in Bangkok charges 600 - 900 for an office visit!

Color of skin doesn't matter to me, I want my mate to be attractive, slim, nice legs and not flat chested.

Cyberspace Nerd

01-03-2008, 12:53 AM

Norikasan,

Your right once again! Theres no way that I'm going to settle down with a former working girl because they already have a taste for money and fast life. If I decide to settle down, I definitely will settle down with an educated, conservative and humble Thai girl, if I can find one! .

not all ex working girl are like what you think. at least not the one I know. :p know this girl for a couple of years and finally went with her to her home town to meet her family. I have read many horror stories here that when u go dinner with them, they will kutok u jialat jialat, esp if they had been a working girl before and they will also ask many people to join in (including her "pii chai"). Their brothers and sisters and mom and dad will also ask you for money and gifts. Luckily for me no such horror stories. Her family is a decent lot, brothers and sister also very nice and respectful. She did gathered many people to have dinner, like about 10, including sister's bf family, wtf... and as a guest, i thought they are supposed to treat me but made me pay instead. Luckily only like 1500B ....so cheap....met another girl (decent, educated uni girl) in BKK, her mom gave her $$ ask her to treat me dinner.... guess this is the difference between a well to do family and a not so well to do one....

norice

01-03-2008, 11:41 AM

Norikasan,

How can you handle the Bangkok's awful smog? I will check out the bus system in Bangkok when I retire there permanently. My choices of meeting girls are health clubs, schools, hospitals and shopping centers, when I retire in Thailand. But the best method of meeting an attractive educated Thai girl is through networking! I have 4 more trips to Bangkok before I retire so I must get busy and start networking!

Peter_North

01-03-2008, 12:15 PM

Hey pp, I think the origin of the thai girl also make a difference. Like if her family from bkk or from some farm villages etc. I think their culture will be slight different also.

Your description seems to point towards the upbringing of the girl. The threat of poverty is real with some of the girls, so don't blame them if they happen to adopt a pragmatic attitude towards foreigners. For these girls, security comes in the form of "money", so it's difficult for them to have developed the refined notion of love during their early years. That is to say, if you don't mind at all that the girl is with you because you are able to provide her with material assurances, then I think the emotional part would have been taken care of.

As for Bro Norice, his criteria are reasonable with the supply of girls in Thailand, except for the boobs thingy. I think you may have to send her to doctors for a boob job.

Cyberspace Nerd

01-03-2008, 03:17 PM

:Sometime, I feel like keeping a map of bangkok in my pocket to act as innocent tourist just try to talk to them and ask for direction in the bus since the jam take quite a while.

that is a great way to meet girls. just ask Jun|ch|!

one time when i was there at the airport, knn want to take public bus but the dunno which bus to take so see which nice airport girl there waiting for bus also just ask her. knn she also dunno so anyhow go up one bus. all the bus goes to the city anyway...hehe...

then when alight from the bus, saw some chio bu and ask for direction to MRT in english...knn they dont understand what i am talking about so have to speak thai...hehe...

then got one time nothing to do just hang around shopping centre. need to top up my mobile so just target one of the chio mobile sales girl and bought one top up card from her....pretend to ask her to top up my mobile phone...hehe...so many ways to meet girls!!:p no need to go agogo or massage parlor to meet girls!!

vmtech

01-03-2008, 03:59 PM

that is a great way to meet girls. just ask Jun|ch|!

one time when i was there at the airport, knn want to take public bus but the dunno which bus to take so see which nice airport girl there waiting for bus also just ask her. knn she also dunno so anyhow go up one bus. all the bus goes to the city anyway...hehe...

then when alight from the bus, saw some chio bu and ask for direction to MRT in english...knn they dont understand what i am talking about so have to speak thai...hehe...

then got one time nothing to do just hang around shopping centre. need to top up my mobile so just target one of the chio mobile sales girl and bought one top up card from her....pretend to ask her to top up my mobile phone...hehe...so many ways to meet girls!!:p no need to go agogo or massage parlor to meet girls!!

speaking of that, i remmebered too 1st few yr ago , i was on the way to jatujak market with a friend on holiday, was at thai cultural subway, den saw this girl and her friend quite cute. so i grabbed my friend's cam and walk to her, ask her if she could help takea picture of me and my friend (bluff la, subway got wad nice to take lol)

after that, i took the cam back and asked if u could take her pic! she giggled n yea i did. after tt engaged in small chat and found out she alos on her way to jatujak, so instead of 2 person we go 4 people. end of day got her number and kept in contact for a while. Happened tt she is a uni grad in accounting working at SM tower for microsystems lol.

after a while we got together for around 2 mths only.. haha after which i still decided to choose my current wife..

anyway tts also a way to know girls!

<<<SUCHINDA>>>

01-03-2008, 04:30 PM

Calling bro everywhere.......KIV this thread for future reference.....you are getting to this step soon :rolleyes:

vmtech

01-03-2008, 05:19 PM

So how??? When take picture how close can we get or is appropriate? Like can I put my hand on her shoulder? or waist? stand close to her? or just stand that like a log? I think maybe whoever friend taking photo for me and her should auto say "come stand closer, close up".:D Good idea leh but that is if got friend lar. but if alone also can i think.. ask her take for me alone and then i volunteer to take for her alone and then say "hi, very nice pic of you. maybe i can send the pic to you later?" haha. GIME your contact number now! So being a tourist we do have some advantage.

Ok come another serious talk... so bro during that 2 months with her, how close did you get with her? Did you both hold hands? kiss? sex? involve money?

only money involve is cab fares and movies and dinners lo LOL
this 2 months only hit jackpot once nia haha, and tts towards the end of the r/s :P
we're still good friends now though, occasionally i'll pay her a visit at her office at prompong and have lunch whenever im there (ofcuz without my wife knowing la, just in case she gets jealous over no reason)

yinyang

01-03-2008, 05:44 PM

...KIV this thread for future reference.....you are getting to this step soon
For some, maybe too late..:D

Oh well, maybe 2nd chance or mia noi?:o

pussyman72

02-03-2008, 06:06 AM

For some, maybe too late..:D

Oh well, maybe 2nd chance or mia noi?

mia noi :confused: mai dee na :p

mee mia neng khon paw liao na :o

vmtech

02-03-2008, 06:27 AM

You mean the r/s ended because of the jackpot? Hmm... so they are quite open minded.:confused:

no la, i mean i only pia her once. now modern times liao leh, and we're talking about bangkokians, maybe if u know a decent girl from the village and the only time she goes out of the house is go market, den different story la lol

mia noi :confused: mai dee na :p

mee mia neng khon paw liao na :o

paw ki lan :P

Pussyman72 owgan ber neung!

pussyman72

02-03-2008, 02:54 PM

paw ki lan :P

Pussyman72 owgan ber neung!

wah :( u u u scold me ah :mad:

pm72 rak faen yer yer na lol :D

vmtech

02-03-2008, 03:59 PM

wah :( u u u scold me ah :mad:

pm72 rak faen yer yer na lol :D

rak faen yer yer chai, gor kon zhao shoo chai mai? :P

pussyman72

02-03-2008, 06:10 PM

rak faen yer yer chai, gor kon zhao shoo chai mai? :P

lol shhh mai kui na. khun vm khon dee na :p

after tuesday i bo eng post here later my dear know lol going to wipe out history lol

vmtech

02-03-2008, 07:56 PM

lol shhh mai kui na. khun vm khon dee na :p

after tuesday i bo eng post here later my dear know lol going to wipe out history lol

ahhaa liddat really going to miss you 2 weeks lo hahah

Exciter101

02-03-2008, 09:14 PM

One thing about thai ger is that they are quite respectful towards elders.
Everything is elders lst which is a good thing.
This is one thing which most sin gers lack extermely!

pussyman72

02-03-2008, 10:15 PM

koo-toot(Kor thor).....Paa saa ang grit!!! rao mai kao jai~ paa saa tai:(

hehehe learn thai good ma stand a better chance to know thai girls that cant speak english or chinese.

villiage girl virgin virgin hehehe poot paa saa dtaang bpra-tet mai pen na :D

pussyman72

02-03-2008, 10:17 PM

ahhaa liddat really going to miss you 2 weeks lo hahah

not so long she here for 4 days after that had to go back work. after that i free man lol

pussyman72

02-03-2008, 10:51 PM

Agree its good to learn thai.:D But hor must come with explaination.:o else wait kana slap by thai girls wahahaha.

Like you watch Jap AV alot of kimuchii~(Shiok or SongSong gao jurong) yamete~ (stop!) haha you don't learn those and talk to jap girls right? Ok lar maybe during bonking can practice those haha. Kimuchii?:p

lol girl wont slap u la they just laugh n laugh. then u ask them why u laugh my friend teach me lei then she said wrong meaning then u oh n become friend liao lor lol:p

norice

03-03-2008, 01:34 AM

<<<SUCHINDA>>>

03-03-2008, 02:30 AM

I think financially secure + sexually active is also important. :p

I agree, if you got these two most impt qualities then the other 'flaws' they are prepared to overlook :p

norice

03-03-2008, 03:02 AM

Norikasan and Suchinda,

Please elaborate more on sexually active part from female point of view? I believe, it's very important from male's point of view but not from female!

pussyman72

03-03-2008, 05:38 AM

poot arai rak
poot arai rak jin jin
poot arai aa yoo tao rai
poot arai chop puying gloom tao rai
poot arai kohor
poot arai kor dai

phom mai kao jai. mee tang kor rak mai mee tang poot arai kor mai dai mai rak.

mee tang kor teerak ja rak tur tee soot rak tur khon dieow na. tam mai teerak mai maa meuang thai kit teung teerak mak mak na

tam mai puying chop kon cha raa. kon cha raa mee tang kor rak. kon cha raa mai chai kon noom na puying rak kon noom.......... sigh............

:confused::rolleyes::cool:

Peter_North

03-03-2008, 11:50 AM

Hello,

What is an ideal age difference between you and your girl? Several girls told me age difference is not a big deal as long as boyfriend is not a heavy drinker, gambler, womanizer, beatup his girlfriend and has a kind heart! So, what is the truth?

My ideal age for longterm girlfriend is between 29 - 33 years old! Does age really matters in a relationship with a Thai woman?

It really depends on individuals and their upbringing. There are lotsa young divorcees, Thai girls who married at 18 or 20 to Thai men who are "heavy drinker, gamble, womanizer.." only to divorce or separate at 25. To this group of girls, they're more likely to appreciate good character and mee taang (being rich).

But if you're looking at those yet to marry, I think it's the same everywhere. They would prefer guys of their age group so that they could 'pai tiao' (have fun) along.

But if you compare across the board, Thai girls have less inhibitions over age difference, as in 10 years or more, especially the age difference is marked by a proportional difference in wealth.

Sometimes I feel this persistent topic about Thai girls putting their family first and that if you marry a Thai girl you've to take care of her family, her parents, her brothers ... are just bulls put up by Thai girls to fleece more money from foreigners. The truth is they practise double standards. Every divorcee that I've met, they complained that Thai men are 'ki keat' (lazy), and reasons for the divorce ranging from drinking to womanzing. With being lazy to drinking and womanizing, I don't suppose those ex-husbands of their used to take care of their (Thai girls') parents and siblings. Only foreigners are subjected to this Rule of Thumb.

pussyman72

03-03-2008, 01:11 PM

Sometimes I feel this persistent topic about Thai girls putting their family first and that if you marry a Thai girl you've to take care of her family, her parents, her brothers ... are just bulls put up by Thai girls to fleece more money from foreigners. The truth is they practise double standards. Every divorcee that I've met, they complained that Thai men are 'ki keat' (lazy), and reasons for the divorce ranging from drinking to womanzing. With being lazy to drinking and womanizing, I don't suppose those ex-husbands of their used to take care of their (Thai girls') parents and siblings. Only foreigners are subjected to this Rule of Thumb.

well what can they do if they marry a thai man that can only provide to their own family.

if they really get a chance to marry a foreigner their mind will think this men are better wealth off n have the $$ to take care of their family. the word we need to remember is we are "foreigner"

be it a thai, viet, laos, cambodia... etc it going to be the same.

Cyberspace Nerd

03-03-2008, 02:25 PM

Norikasan and Suchinda,

Please elaborate more on sexually active part from female point of view? I believe, it's very important from male's point of view but not from female!

r u serious? u still living in the stone age? :confused:

norice

03-03-2008, 03:24 PM

pussyman72

03-03-2008, 03:43 PM

sigh bo peng kong jiao wei alot.........:rolleyes:

pussyman72

03-03-2008, 03:53 PM

If I do settle down with a Thai girl, I don't mind supporting her for rest of her life but I have second thought of supporting her family for rest of their life. When can I stop? I'm hoping to meet someone without large family or from a well to do family. But why would a girl from well to do family wants to settle down with me?

By that time, we'll be tired of butterflying and wants to settle down with a nice Thai lady! Everyone are welcome to join our fraternity!

well as i just posted not long ago we are "foreigner" so u cant do away that kind of thinking be it a decent or WL. there many things to talk about marrying decent and their expectation. marrying a rich thai girl have a diff set of thinking.

also what make us think that they like older man. what they like about older man....

anyway since u have friends who stay in thailand they can help u to network some decent girls to link u up with long term relationship without marrying. as one bro said take care of ur money. u seems to stress alot about supporting the girl alot when having a relationship.

when a person start thinking about willing to support her $$$ then be prepare..... :x

chokdee na krup

pussyman72

03-03-2008, 04:04 PM

an average thai wedding are about 200,000 baht. some even cheaper depend how big the wedding is.

sinsoot about 100,00 to 200,00 baht
5 baht gold = 55 to 60k baht
3 days wedding with about 300 pple attend cost about 50 to 80k baht
photo shoot about 20k baht
wedding clothes, makeup, monk blah blah about 50k

the last time i attended a thai chinese wedding the bride groom have to pay sinsoot about 600,000 baht, 10 baht gold plus wedding dinner n he is a thai.

norice

03-03-2008, 04:36 PM

Pussyman,

Yes, I agree with you 110%! I must prepare to dish out lots of money if I decided to settle down with attractive college educated Thai girl! They say, money talks and shit stinks!

Cyberspace Nerd

03-03-2008, 05:06 PM

Pussyman,

Yes, I agree with you 110%! I must prepare to dish out lots of money if I decided to settle down with attractive college educated Thai girl! They say, money talks and shit stinks!

Thess attractive college educated thai girl want a handsome guy who is good/active in bed. Do you fit their criteria? :D

Are you in bangkok? You can try the girl I saw at Pantip plaza. You can find her inside Bangkok bank on the ground floor. Very chio with model looks and figure. You can show her your money there! hahaha

Cyberspace Nerd

03-03-2008, 05:09 PM

I hope, when I retire in Bangkok, all the single brothers who resides in Bangkok, will meet regularly for drinks to discuss about ways and means of meeting nonworking girls for possible longterm relationship! By that time, we'll be tired of butterflying and wants to settle down with a nice Thai lady! Everyone are welcome to join our fraternity!

For a start, you can try stop visiting agogo bars and massage parlours. :p

pussyman72

03-03-2008, 05:27 PM

Thess attractive college educated thai girl want a handsome guy who is good/active in bed. Do you fit their criteria? :D

able to speak thai like them n understand what they want on bed lol :p handsome thai young men many many why choose old man when can find a young dick that kind do better then older man :D

OceanEleven

03-03-2008, 06:38 PM

Mee taang, mee rak.
Mai mee taang, klai rak khun.:cool:

FL Lover

03-03-2008, 06:54 PM

So far, the only cases I have seen are those that have asked their tiras to stay with them in Singapore. Have some friends who are happily married to their thai ger and with kids.

Those who sent $$ to their tirak in Thailand... sad to say... Most of them ended up being dumped for another bigger dicks, younger boys etc... or ended up "SHARING" the thai gers with other bros like u and me.

So if you are sincere and your ger is sincere to go through that extra mile, make the arrangement for them to stay with you in sg. Dont think your tirak will be faithful to you when she is in THAI and U IN SG.

Good luck to bros who are thinking of marrying their tiraks but letting their tiraks stay in BKK... :D I can only hope that you will not come back to SBF and starts acting like a sad fucker when your tirak dumped you for some reasons.....

pussyman72

04-03-2008, 12:18 AM

So if you are sincere and your ger is sincere to go through that extra mile, make the arrangement for them to stay with you in sg. Dont think your tirak will be faithful to you when she is in THAI and U IN SG.

Good luck to bros who are thinking of marrying their tiraks but letting their tiraks stay in BKK... :D I can only hope that you will not come back to SBF and starts acting like a sad fucker when your tirak dumped you for some reasons.....

do agree with u on this. really wanna together then bring back home n stay together else no point. sure have problem no matter is it a decent or wl.

it a long distance relationship sure problem alot.

well sad to said alot pple love to complain they get cheated blah blah blah.. sharing is good but not like what u said act like a sad fuck n start blaming the girls.

once again i had to said "takes 2 hands to clap."

pussyman72

04-03-2008, 12:26 AM

Mee taang, mee rak.
Mai mee taang, klai rak khun.:cool:

hehehe pee mai mee kaao mee tang yer na. ao puying suay suay ao puying narak ao puying mee oo dom seuk saa

puying chop khun mai mee kao mee tang yer. ao tang ao tang khun mai mee kao mai mee tang laew puying kor haai laew. :p

Peter_North

04-03-2008, 12:29 AM

well what can they do if they marry a thai man that can only provide to their own family.

if they really get a chance to marry a foreigner their mind will think this men are better wealth off n have the $$ to take care of their family. the word we need to remember is we are "foreigner"

be it a thai, viet, laos, cambodia... etc it going to be the same.

That is precisely my point - that this whole shitload of filial piety of Thai girls are only applicable to FOREIGNERs!

When a Thai girl marries a lazy drinker, gambler and womanizer, which Thai girls often do, the Thai girl will have to support the lifestyle of her lazy husband. So in the meantime, the father and filial piety will have to eat grass.

It's like the equivalent of Foreign Business Act for marriage with a foreigner.

Peter_North

04-03-2008, 12:54 AM

Peter North,

Thanks for your insightful information. If I do settle down with a Thai girl, I don't mind supporting her for rest of her life but I have second thought of supporting her family for rest of their life. When can I stop? I'm hoping to meet someone without large family or from a well to do family. But why would a girl from well to do family wants to settle down with me?

I hope, when I retire in Bangkok, all the single brothers who resides in Bangkok, will meet regularly for drinks to discuss about ways and means of meeting nonworking girls for possible longterm relationship! By that time, we'll be tired of butterflying and wants to settle down with a nice Thai lady! Everyone are welcome to join our fraternity!

I think as another Bro has pointed out, you've been harping on the same slogan about having the financial to means to support her. Your thinking is very logical, and I'm very sure it will work to perfection in Singapore. But Thailand ?

The dimensions are different. There is a natural affinity between Thai girls and Thai men. This is not something that you can break apart and ease yourself into a relationship. Yes, money will provide the necessary lubricant, but bear in mind that when you use money as a lubricant you may end up attracting girls you detest. You may not only have to support her family; you may have to support her boyfriend as well.

If a girl can fake orgasm in bed, she can fake anything including gentleness and demureness. You use shrimp as a bait, you get fish. You use money as a bait, you know what you will get. She will fake anything for you.

There is another factor. You've talking about retirement. If you're going to do it after your retirement, exactly at what age are you going to make your move to hitch a Thai girl ? By which time, what is the age group of Thai girls will you be considering ? Again the dimensions differ according to the perimeters that you set.

If you're considering a well educated Thai girl with good background, your money is less likely to have as much an impact vis a vis a poor village girl struggling in BKK. You will have to supplement your wealth with good looks, something which most Singapore men are not famous for.

pussyman72

04-03-2008, 01:13 AM

I think as another Bro has pointed out, you've been harping on the same slogan about having the financial to means to support her. Your thinking is very logical, and I'm very sure it will work to perfection in Singapore. But Thailand ?

There is another factor. You've talking about retirement. If you're going to do it after your retirement, exactly at what age are you going to make your move to hitch a Thai girl ? By which time, what is the age group of Thai girls will you be considering ? Again the dimensions differ according to the perimeters that you set.

If you're considering a well educated Thai girl with good background, your money is less likely to have as much an impact vis a vis a poor village girl struggling in BKK. You will have to supplement your wealth with good looks, something which most Singapore men are not famous for.

well said bro. agree with what u said :D

pussyman72

04-03-2008, 01:20 AM

When a Thai girl marries a lazy drinker, gambler and womanizer, which Thai girls often do, the Thai girl will have to support the lifestyle of her lazy husband. So in the meantime, the father and filial piety will have to eat grass.

It's like the equivalent of Foreign Business Act for marriage with a foreigner.

sigh sad to said this wont change their mindset. i know some bros wife do not ask for anything when marry and even they setup a family in sgp they never really send money back to take care of the parents.

the girl's parents also never ask for anything. but my friend just help to build a house for them after few yrs later.

sadly not alot will be like this. :(

Peter_North

04-03-2008, 06:28 AM

sigh sad to said this wont change their mindset. i know some bros wife do not ask for anything when marry and even they setup a family in sgp they never really send money back to take care of the parents.

the girl's parents also never ask for anything. but my friend just help to build a house for them after few yrs later.

sadly not alot will be like this. :(

Much will depend on the foundation on which the relationship is built. If you start with "I'm able to take care of your livelihood better than your poor Thai men" nothing will ever change because you laid the cornerstone of the relationship on the same principle as the girl.

On the other hand if you think you've a good character and you're going to use your good character to truly win the heart of the Thai girl, chances are you will run into a brickwall. You will truly need the elements of 天時，地利，人和 These 3 elements are essential for success in anything, not just relationship. In a foreign land, these 3 elements are even harder to come by, especially if you don't speak their language.

It's much easier to use money to buy a relationship with a Thai girl, then you don't need the 3 elements. A Thai girl can use filial piety to "sweet coat" what is essentially a business transaction and make her act of fleecing from her foreign husband a motherland virtue. The foreigner buying a relationship will need to psycho himself too and not think of it as a business transaction.

vmtech

04-03-2008, 06:41 AM

blhblahblah

hey bro how's life in bkk so far ? :)

FL Lover

04-03-2008, 09:57 AM

Well.... the point that we are stressing over here is to tell bros who are really wanted to marry their tiraks .... be mentally and finanically prepared to support the ger in whatever she wants.

1) Communication is already a problem to some bros who have a half past 6 thai and some thai gers dont even know english at all. Do you want your wife to start teaching your kids to speak thai?

2) Social acceptance of thai gers in SG. If you marry a thai ger, there will be pple gossiping on the background of the ger and how u know the ger etc. If your friend marry a thai, dont you ask your friend how he met and dont you start guessing what she is working as perviously? You cant avoid this kind of thing.

3) Culture difference. Some bros had pointed out that mindset of thai gers when they got married to a foreigner. They always had this mindset that my RICH RICH husband can support my ENTIRE FAMILY which can include RELATIVES AND EVEN CLOSE FIRENDS... yes close friends which they often call SISTERS.

4) Jobs. Marrying a thai ger in sg means that the ger most likely had to stay at home unless she is highly educated enough to fget a work permit in sg. In SG, even got couples complaining that life is tough with both spouses working. Life might be stressful if you are the only sole breadwinner. Sad.

Unless you want to tell me you are going to stay in BKK forever, then the problem might not as bad as what I had said over here. Thier society and their lifestyle are quite opened. But you ended up with 1 more problem.

Since the thai society is so opened, would you not worry that your future daughter will end up as a FL or WL in sg..... hahahhaaa.... I really cant imagine that.

I have upped WL or FL who told me that their father is a sg chinese man.... quite sad to hear that but that's their life.

Of course, I am not saying marrying a thai is 100% total failure. I have seen cases which works. But lots of commitements on both sides are required.

OceanEleven

04-03-2008, 11:13 AM

1) Communication is already a problem to some bros who have a half past 6 thai and some thai gers dont even know english at all. Do you want your wife to start teaching your kids to speak thai? .
May be true but depends on where the kids are raise really, in Sing no one taught us Hokkien or Canto but still we managed thru the years.

2) Social acceptance of thai gers in SG. If you marry a thai ger, there will be pple gossiping on the background of the ger and how u know the ger etc. If your friend marry a thai, dont you ask your friend how he met and dont you start guessing what she is working as perviously? You cant avoid this kind of thing. .

It is always the case be it PRC, Viet, or even M'sians but more for Thai I guess. But again, this is my wife we are talking about, you may talk but just dont let it get to my ears.

3) Culture difference. Some bros had pointed out that mindset of thai gers when they got married to a foreigner. They always had this mindset that my RICH RICH husband can support my ENTIRE FAMILY which can include RELATIVES AND EVEN CLOSE FIRENDS... yes close friends which they often call SISTERS.

Not unusual, it would be mainly what backgroud did the girl come from? If we are talking about ex WLs then the tendency of having a unusual "large" family is possible. But in general, many girls from decent family will unlikely face such problems. It is a matter of perspective, what girls are we talking about here.

4) Jobs. Marrying a thai ger in sg means that the ger most likely had to stay at home unless she is highly educated enough to fget a work permit in sg. In SG, even got couples complaining that life is tough with both spouses working. Life might be stressful if you are the only sole breadwinner. Sad.

More of a what you want in life. Many couples who are both working, having a nice car, HDB Exec with 100K reno and a maid, wants 2 Europe holidays a year, frequent spas, facials etc and yes this is stressful and I am for sure life is indeed tough.

Unless you want to tell me you are going to stay in BKK forever, then the problem might not as bad as what I had said over here. Thier society and their lifestyle are quite opened. But you ended up with 1 more problem.
Since the thai society is so opened, would you not worry that your future daughter will end up as a FL or WL in sg..... hahahhaaa.... I really cant imagine that.
Of course, I am not saying marrying a thai is 100% total failure. I have seen cases which works. But lots of commitements on both sides are required.
Try not counting the chicks before the eggs hatch, life not as bad and such problem unlikely to happen unless you really sucks at being dad.;)

Peter_North

04-03-2008, 11:28 AM

hey bro how's life in bkk so far ? :)

Life is obviously much better compared to Singapore. Once I touched down on Suvarnabhumi Airport, I was immediately upgraded to the upper middle class society :) In Singapore, struggling lower middle class.

BTW, I'm told by my VISA RUN agent that when I go for my 30-day extension at Suan Pluu, they will add another 30 days to my expiry date on the passport, and not according to the date I present my passport, so that it makes no difference even if I go one week earlier.

norice

04-03-2008, 01:45 PM

FL Lover

04-03-2008, 02:31 PM

Bro OceanEleven, marrying a thai ger is not as simple as you claimed to be.... anyway it is up to ... if u choose to marry a thai ger... its yuor life, not mine. :D

Just to get some bros to give it a thought about marrying thai ger. We are not living in this world alone. Pple judge you by your actions... hahaha... For example what can you do when pple starts talking about the thai ger that you have married and you overhead it? You cant stop them and you cant do anything about it..... That's life... my friend.

Also who dont want a better and stable life. If your wife can help your life become more stable and better for your kids in future... dont you want it? Two pair of hands earning $$ is bette than all of your family waiting for YOU TO BRING $$ BACK. tio boi tio?

Would it be better if you and your wife can communicate better? Less quarrels and less misunderstanding. It's like a chicken and duck talking if your wife had a half past 6 english n she does not understand chinese.

So what I have just said it to let other bros know what are the pros n cons about marrying a thai ger in SG. Definitely not a discrimination against bros who are going to marry thai ger.... We are in a forum to share and not to sweet talk about anything.

It is better to get real and start thinking about all these if your future wife is a thai..... rather than regret later... No one will suffer except you. :p

_AXL_

04-03-2008, 03:25 PM

Just to get some bros to give it a thought about marrying thai ger. We are not living in this world alone. Pple judge you by your actions... hahaha... For example what can you do when pple starts talking about the thai ger that you have married and you overhead it? You cant stop them and you cant do anything about it..... That's life... my friend.

ya, but do u want to care about these ignorant people (me included, 1st perception lah...) who stereotype thai gers as confirmed WLs???:confused: it is always better not to get angry with stupid people, no?:D

Also who dont want a better and stable life. If your wife can help your life become more stable and better for your kids in future... dont you want it? Two pair of hands earning $$ is bette than all of your family waiting for YOU TO BRING $$ BACK. tio boi tio?

u r stereotyping, my friend... my guy friend got married to a thai girl recently and he settled in bangkok right after that. i know the thai girl cos she was previously my colleague before she moved to another company. she has a masters degree from the chulalongkorn university in language and deals exclusively with the japanese market. no, not FL but investment consultant who makes more than USD150k a year. if it were u, can u tahan??? ;)

Would it be better if you and your wife can communicate better? Less quarrels and less misunderstanding. It's like a chicken and duck talking if your wife had a half past 6 english n she does not understand chinese.

love will keep us alive, no???:confused:

but like u said, just sharing and no offence meant.

vmtech

04-03-2008, 03:26 PM

Life is obviously much better compared to Singapore. Once I touched down on Suvarnabhumi Airport, I was immediately upgraded to the upper middle class society :) In Singapore, struggling lower middle class.

BTW, I'm told by my VISA RUN agent that when I go for my 30-day extension at Suan Pluu, they will add another 30 days to my expiry date on the passport, and not according to the date I present my passport, so that it makes no difference even if I go one week earlier.

ur agent must be sleeping or dont understand what u mean.
i remmebred clearly i went 3 days early because the expiry of mine passport was on a monday and that monday was a holiday, so i went on a thursday (thursday was a holiday also, so LL i go back on friday)
and i was extended 30days as of friday, not monday.

naemlo

04-03-2008, 03:26 PM

If you're renting an apartment, what area do you live and approximately what is your monthly rent?

For me ratachada, not because of MPs there but because of location and best of all MRT.

vmtech

04-03-2008, 03:30 PM

Peter North,

If you're renting an apartment, what area do you live and approximately what is your monthly rent?

I will be moving to Bangkok permanently within 22 months, so I'm just curious where everyone lives.

i think he mentioned he was kindda my wife's neighbour lol around param9 area

For me ratachada, not because of MPs there but because of location and best of all MRT.

i agree, i got my wife's apartment 5mins walk into pacharatpbamben road which is opposite hwaykwang market. also it is 5 mins away from the subway, 1 station from Carrefour, robinson and esplande.

everything can be done there and here! no need to even go to sukhumvit to watch a movie . to me that area is more or less the best location and also it isnt very far away from town . Pattanakan and srinakarin is good places to live in too but for me it is too far awy from town, and transport around there are not very goood, the place i used to stay in (suk 101/1) i need to take songteaw out to the paksoi and den take a freakin motorcyc just to get to on nut bts. tts already 40thb, + another 40 to town via train. make no diff to take a taxi.

FL Lover

04-03-2008, 03:53 PM

Bro AXL, how many bros can be so heng to get a thai ger like your friend? How many can make it to come to sg to work and get a work permit to settle down?

Do you know that thai degree holders are not that "valuable"? The senerio I am talking about is for bros who intend to marry a thai ger and settle in SG....The way you are talking about is just a few lucky ones who got married to a rich or capable thai gers.... but how many can be so heng?

Most of the thai gers still depend a lot on the foreign husband.... even though they can be degree holders or what.... Also love can keep u apart... FOR how long can love keep u apart when you are faced with different thinking and cutlure differences from yuor thai wife?

U never hear of such phrases... when the tree falls, the monkey run. When the nest drops, both birds fly.....

This is not sterotyping... just mentioning the facts of life. Sad but true..bro.

Of course if you are saying that you are going to move to BKK forever with yor wife... then it is a different story. The living standard OVER IN BKK is so much lower than living standard in SG.

pussyman72

04-03-2008, 03:56 PM

ah ya no need to said who mind who lar.

if u like the girl then fark care what pple said. u cant stop pple saying it their mouth.

if u mind pple talking about how u know ur girl, ur girl must be blah blah then fark it. dont commit it at all.

just one question here. we can saying thai girl thai girl. so meaning if u marry a decent, educated "thai" girl n pple said she a working girl that how u know her or pple think she must be a working girl meaning u very mind liao ah.

this is not about thai girl is about whether she is a wl or non wl. nothing to do with thai itself.

if so mind i only suggest to bros here better dont get involve with thai cos u cannot handle the shits whether it a thai wl or thai decent.

example i give u. u marry a sgp girl and she love to cheong disco. pple see ur girl hug friends does it mean ur wife have sex with other men. pple maybe behind u said wah this so n so guy wife hugging guys. u hear liao then buay song and scold ur wife having sex with other men ah?!?!?! LPPL

so again i had to stress cannot handle then dont go into it. full stop

naemlo

04-03-2008, 03:57 PM

i agree, i got my wife's apartment 5mins walk into pacharatpbamben road which is opposite hwaykwang market. also it is 5 mins away from the subway, 1 station from Carrefour, robinson and esplande.

Ideal location at least for me. :rolleyes: Although I have a car in BKK, but I still travel often by train. IT stuffs in Fortune and Central Lat phrao few stops away.

Peter_North

04-03-2008, 04:34 PM

Peter North,

If you're renting an apartment, what area do you live and approximately what is your monthly rent?

I will be moving to Bangkok permanently within 22 months, so I'm just curious where everyone lives.

I don't live in a rented apartment. But I can answer your question. I believe many of our kind live around Huaykwang where you can rent a studio unit for less than 5,000 baht. I know of a foot masseuse living in Soi 14 of Ratchaphisek. She pays 2,600 baht for a studio unit. It's 5-minute walk from Huaykwang MRT station.

Peter_North

04-03-2008, 04:39 PM

.... Also love can keep u apart... FOR how long can love keep u apart when you are faced with different thinking and cutlure differences from yuor thai wife?

Did you get your phrasing right ? Or am I on the wrong frequency altogether ?:confused:

"love can keep u apart"...Arai ah ?

norice

04-03-2008, 04:47 PM

Naemlo,

I agree with you, my goal is to rent a decent one bedroom apartment in Rachada. Preferably nice secured clean place near MRT Station. I was going to purchase a 1 or 2 bedroom condo in Rachada but I changed my mind due to problems I don't want to discuss.

But someday, I might purchase a condo depends on my longterm girlfriend. Also, theres no way I can drive in bangkok,due to my short temper. I'm a nice guy and I don't have a temper but only when I drive, I lose my cool. If I started to drive in Bangkok, within a week, I would be killed by Thai driver. Therefore, I have to live near BTS or MRT. Rachada is my first choice then upper Sukhumvit!

norice

04-03-2008, 05:00 PM

Peter North,

My budget for an apartment is approximately 20,000 - 23,000 per month. I want to make sure that the apartment is fairly new, clean, secured and decent place to live. So far, my top three apartments in Rachada are Thanatawee Place, Krongthong Mansion and Oriental Suite. I want to thank Vmtech and Bluedragon for recommending those apartments.

Also, I don't want to live in a studio, I rather stay at one bedroom apartment.

yinyang

04-03-2008, 05:12 PM

Err, aren't there (at least 2) threads on bkk apartments -with fair bit of exchanges recently?

Peter_North

04-03-2008, 05:15 PM

Does anyone know the proper name for a poseidon-like entertainment complex called "Tawa ruamdee" ?

Friends brought me there, but I could mark the place with any landmarks nearby.

naemlo

04-03-2008, 05:40 PM

FOR how long can love keep u apart when you are faced with different thinking and cutlure differences from yuor thai wife?

I guess u meant, "love keep u together" instead of "apart". With same culture and similarity, breaking up n divorce is common in SG and anywhere on this earth.

Also, theres no way I can drive in bangkok,due to my short temper. I'm a nice guy and I don't have a temper but only when I drive, I lose my cool.

It is definitely frustrating initially, but after awhile I'm quite used to the traffic and the drivers there. :D Just relax n patience, read some news when encounter jams. I have to say I love driving in Thailand now. No pressure like in SG, speeding, red light camera and all those stupid minor senseless traffic rules to worry abt. In Thailand, no one bothers abt u even u turn at no turning sign. Even u r spotted by police, just take out 200B n within seconds u can drive off.

My budget for an apartment is approximately 20,000 - 23,000 per month. I want to make sure that the apartment is fairly new, clean, secured and decent place to live.

With that amount getting a decent comfortable, 1 rm apartment is easy. Comes with finger print access, security personal 24hrs, cable TV and all those luxuries. :D

OceanEleven

04-03-2008, 06:02 PM

Does anyone know the proper name for a poseidon-like entertainment complex called "Tawa ruamdee" ?

Friends brought me there, but I could mark the place with any landmarks nearby.

Is it Tarawadee that you are refering to?:confused:

_AXL_

04-03-2008, 07:20 PM

Bro AXL, how many bros can be so heng to get a thai ger like your friend? How many can make it to come to sg to work and get a work permit to settle down?

haiz... u got the story but not the point...

Do you know that thai degree holders are not that "valuable"? The senerio I am talking about is for bros who intend to marry a thai ger and settle in SG....The way you are talking about is just a few lucky ones who got married to a rich or capable thai gers.... but how many can be so heng?

there r many capable thai women in SG (on employment pass if not PR already) and in LOS. maybe not so powderful in terms of earning capacity, but nonetheless, they can hold their own, even in SG.;)

Most of the thai gers still depend a lot on the foreign husband.... even though they can be degree holders or what.... Also love can keep u apart... FOR how long can love keep u apart when you are faced with different thinking and cutlure differences from yuor thai wife?

true love can transcend cultural differences, different upbringing, no??? the very least, they r unlikely to act like the SG woman I saw this afternoon at an upmarket shopping mall parking lot, trashing out at the husband and behaving like a raving lunatic in perfect english...

U never hear of such phrases... when the tree falls, the monkey run. When the nest drops, both birds fly.....

heard that before... but u mean it is exclusive only to thai women???

This is not sterotyping... just mentioning the facts of life. Sad but true..bro.

more often than not, i see a better percentage of women from SG (money no enough), M'sia (other men got more money), Viet (family need money) or PRC (all of the above excuses) doing the "tree fall, monkey run" manoeuvre than thais. well, at least for some of my acquaintances whom i know married thai women, they are still happily married with children and definitely not complaining, cos i always see them smiling...:D kongtao???

Of course if you are saying that you are going to move to BKK forever with yor wife... then it is a different story. The living standard OVER IN BKK is so much lower than living standard in SG

sorry, i forgot to pre-qualify myself... i never had a thai gf (ok, YY, not yet!), unlikely to (never say never, right?) but actually, my point was simple. thai girls are generally nicer than girls of other nationalities and the stereotypes, very unfair although it is perfectly alright for u to do so... but then, girls of other nationalities leh??? do u accord them the same kind of stereotypes???:confused:

Exciter101

04-03-2008, 08:13 PM

Well said bro AXL...:D

Peter_North

05-03-2008, 01:59 AM

Is it Tarawadee that you are refering to?:confused:

I think so, where is it ? It seems to me it's located at the outskirts.

vmtech

05-03-2008, 06:27 AM

I think so, where is it ? It seems to me it's located at the outskirts.

tawaradee massage.
it's along pattanakarn road
:: Tarawadee Resort :: (http://www.tarawadee.com/)

dom01

05-03-2008, 06:33 AM

Are thai degrees not recognised in SG?

FL Lover

05-03-2008, 09:33 AM

Hahaah..... seeems that some bros had a different view on marrying a Thai ger...

I would said you have to open your eyes really big on if you are really in marrying thai. If not you would become another $$ tree for them unless you are marrying a wealthy thai ger.....

Just be prepared for more commitement on your part to the ger. Talking is easy and everything seems so OK but when you are going to marry and stay in sg.... then it is another issue in real life.

Just different views for each inidividuals.

As for the degree whether it is recognised in SG. Partly yes and no. Same as Malaysia. Some of the degrees are not recognised internationally. Have you ever hear of anyone from sg going to Thailand to complete their degree course? :rolleyes:

Exciter101

05-03-2008, 10:13 AM

Kanna zap for agreeing with a bro's comment....haiz..
This is a free to share forum, u can either agree or disagree..
Cheers. :D

OceanEleven

05-03-2008, 10:44 AM

haiz... u got the story but not the point...

Indeed, few will grasp the what we are talking exactly when we are discussing in terms of the general population and not the exceptional cases.

there r many capable thai women in SG (on employment pass if not PR already) and in LOS. maybe not so powderful in terms of earning capacity, but nonetheless, they can hold their own, even in SG.;)

Second to that, many have the ability to sustain themselves but given the general lower income status in BKK, one cannot fault them on earning capacity.

true love can transcend cultural differences, different upbringing, no??? the very least, they r unlikely to act like the SG woman I saw this afternoon at an upmarket shopping mall parking lot, trashing out at the husband and behaving like a raving lunatic in perfect english...

What can I say…more often than not we witness live drama happening on the busy street, where the guy vs girl standoff…..

heard that before... but u mean it is exclusive only to thai women???

Err….how about out our local products then?

More often than not, i see a better percentage of women from SG (money no enough), M'sia (other men got more money), Viet (family need money) or PRC (all of the above excuses) doing the "tree fall, monkey run" maneuver than thais. well, at least for some of my acquaintances whom i know married thai women, they are still happily married with children and definitely not complaining, cos i always see them smiling...:D kongtao???

Are you talking about YY? :D Generally, Thai gals are gentle and demure and many know their social status and willing to play second fiddle when outside with hubby as well, this is one thing that many will learn to appreciate, same as the Koreans I guess. ;)

Peter_North

05-03-2008, 12:07 PM

tawaradee massage.
it's along pattanakarn road
:: Tarawadee Resort :: (http://www.tarawadee.com/)

After scrutinizing the website, yes, it's Tarawadee Resort.

You're 'kaeng' ! :p

OceanEleven

05-03-2008, 12:26 PM

After scrutinizing the website, yes, it's Tarawadee Resort.

You're 'kaeng' ! :p

Right after the underground U turn if you are coming from Petchburi direction.

Alkano

05-03-2008, 12:38 PM

Kanna zap for agreeing with a bro's comment....haiz..
This is a free to share forum, u can either agree or disagree..
Cheers. :D

I have a thai gf so i know more or less the bros share here.
It do reflect the sentiments i feel.
However there are some who dis-agree.
No worries man...:D

yinyang

05-03-2008, 01:01 PM

Are you talking about.. :D Generally, Thai gals are gentle and demure ...many will learn to appreciate, same as the Koreans I guess.
My little experience and knowledge is only limited to the odd dalliance (or 2), not so fortunate to have proposed (life sentence?) to any tgs.. not to even mention of extending my family line:o

You not wrong on generalisation that tgs are demure and gentle.. but think it's all a facade. Beneath that, some can be steely too. Think kimchees no exception too. Like my ex who was jai ron.. ooops, self censorship:o:D

Little I know, for "gentle" koreans and japs... they rule the roost at home, even wages direct giro to their bank accounts. My poor Busan colleague even has to ask for some daily diet allowance for ciggies.. most happy when he has visitors in town, under guise of "entertainment".

Peter_North

06-03-2008, 01:53 AM

Bros who married Thai girls, can tell us the lumpsum amount paid to the girl's parents ? In Chinese it's 聘金。

naemlo

06-03-2008, 02:06 AM

Bros who married Thai girls, can tell us the lumpsum amount paid to the girl's parents ? In Chinese it's 聘金。

Depends on the background of her family. :rolleyes:

Evilectus

06-03-2008, 02:43 AM

It also depends on her current status i.e. single or divorced. Usually the dowry would be returned to you after the marriage. The large amount of dowry is more of a face thing. The larger the amount, the more face for the family.

Peter_North

06-03-2008, 02:50 AM

Depends on the background of her family. :rolleyes:

Of course it depends, that is why I want to hear from different Sg bros who married Thai sao.

pussyman72

06-03-2008, 02:54 AM

Of course it depends, that is why I want to hear from different Sg bros who married Thai sao.

mine 100,000 baht plus 5 baht gold...

as for my thai friend when she got married. her husband give sinsoot 200,000 baht plus 5 baht gold.

another sgp bro of mine never give sinsoot

think i share this not long ago.

what nalemo trying to said the sinsoot all depend the family well to do. i believe well to do family girls their parents will ask for more. sinsoot are shown during the wedding this to let pple know how much value her daughter worths. something like this. it for face lol....

think bro nalemo can tell us how much his sinsoot he come out. hiso sinsoot should be higher ba.

for normal villiage wedding sinsoot normally about 100 to 200k be it local or non local husband but also depend on the parents how much they want.

my dear cousin married to a thai old man. the guy sinsoot 300,000 baht

Peter_North

06-03-2008, 03:24 AM

naemlo

06-03-2008, 03:42 AM

Of course it depends, that is why I want to hear from different Sg bros who married Thai sao.

Hmmm u getting marry soon? How much they asking?? Chopping your head?

what nalemo trying to said the sinsoot all depend the family well to do. i believe well to do family girls their parents will ask for more. sinsoot are shown during the wedding this to let pple know how much value her daughter worths. something like this. it for face lol....

think bro nalemo can tell us how much his sinsoot he come out. hiso sinsoot should be higher ba.

Yes the richer they are, u will be having a bigger headache. Face is impt to them, when friends n relatives ask, they have face to shout it out the amt.:D Some parents will give back part or full sinsoot, or gift back to the couples. Mine?? Only daughter n it is the region of millions THB, actual sum, for u to imagine, for them to slaughter. :o Anyway we got back something as gift so lugi abit.

pussyman72

06-03-2008, 04:41 AM

I kinda find it hard to believe that the average Thai farmer or condo technician/security guard can come up with 2 sen for sinsoot, not to mention those infamous puchai gamblers and drinkers. Is that the reason why kig kig is so commonly practised among Thai people ?

BTW, what is 5 baht gold ? 5 ounce is it ? How much is 1 baht gold ?

normally this pple borrow money lol i dont know how they manage to get it. sinsoot most of the time are for show after the wedding the parents will usually pass it to their daughter but all depends anyway.

im not sure the baht is spell this way but anyway 1 baht gold = around 11k thai baht. think i last hear over the thai news couple days ago now ard 12 to 13k baht per baht.

anyway my sinsoot is that much but i actually bought a land for my dear and in the process of building a our house so the sinsoot is just for show n later i get it back. we will just give my mom in law 50k baht good enough the rest is ours. even her mother land have given to my girl.

pussyman72

06-03-2008, 04:44 AM

Yes the richer they are, u will be having a bigger headache. Face is impt to them, when friends n relatives ask, they have face to shout it out the amt.:D Some parents will give back part or full sinsoot, or gift back to the couples. Mine?? Only daughter n it is the region of millions THB, actual sum, for u to imagine, for them to slaughter. :o Anyway we got back something as gift so lugi abit.

hehehe agree with u. so long both happly married i think should be ok la. most of the time can get back the money from the sinsoot but had to see parents understand bo.

oh to the bros here try not to have a mind set thinking u can get back ur sinsoot or ask her parents back hor later ur dear will be piss off :)

vmtech

06-03-2008, 06:00 AM

Bros who married Thai girls, can tell us the lumpsum amount paid to the girl's parents ? In Chinese it's 聘金。

in thai it's sinsot
and what lol i must be damn lucky, my wife being the eldest girl with 3 younger sis and 1 elder bro, they didnt want any sinsot, just want me to take care her properly can lioa
phew!

norice

06-03-2008, 08:05 AM

rapebill

06-03-2008, 09:25 AM

Bros who married Thai girls, can tell us the lumpsum amount paid to the girl's parents ? In Chinese it's 聘金。

mine was 100k baht, along with some gold (amounting to about 40k).

pussyman72

06-03-2008, 11:59 AM

Vmtech.

Oh Oh, a warning light came on, your wife has 3 youger sisters, who will pay for their college tuitions? Most likely oldest sister's husband! For your sake, I hope you don't have to but you'll never know until your sisters ask for financial assistance from you in the future!

Good luck

lol why u get so work up when u read vm wife have 3 sibling and may need to support their education. the education are not very expensive compare to our education in sgp.

lol i suggest u better not to have a thai girlfriend why bcos u are worry about getting con and stop talking about how much u have and how u able to support ur girl.

poot arai kor mai ru. poot tham mai :rolleyes:

OceanEleven

06-03-2008, 01:23 PM

poot arai kor mai ru. poot tham mai :rolleyes:

Poot arai kor mai pen rai, pom mai dai yin kor paw laew.;)

_AXL_

06-03-2008, 02:40 PM

Kanna zap for agreeing with a bro's comment....haiz..
This is a free to share forum, u can either agree or disagree..
Cheers.

sorry about that bro. too bad i cant add u liao... will bear in mind to add u again in a few years' time.

Indeed, few will grasp the what we are talking exactly when we are discussing in terms of the general population and not the exceptional cases.

precisely. i m gonna get flamed for this comment but i have to do it. many people think that they have a few relationships with FLs and naturally they know thai women inside out. no offence, but while we r at it, can i also generalise that those who would sell their bodies for a living would usually not have good character and thus be unsuitable to be wife material??? i mean, do these people know that most thai girls r decent girls, just as smart if not more, confirmed prettier, better bred and definitely have better legs!!!:D

Second to that, many have the ability to sustain themselves but given the general lower income status in BKK, one cannot fault them on earning capacity.

ya... i went to the states n see idiots drawing USD70k a year, just for dressing up, get to the office and pretend to be hard at work. does that make any of us here lousier than these people??? i can safely say no lor... cos i m sure most people in SG r not that dumb, even if we try hard enough!!!

What can I say…more often than not we witness live drama happening on the busy street, where the guy vs girl standoff…..

always leave me wondering how the woman can tahan people sniggering at her and why the husband would stand there like a stoned-fuck and endure it... one is ill-bred and the other has no backbone!!!:mad:

Err….how about out our local products then?

were they voted the ugliest and most delusional (or was it demanding???) in asia???:confused:

Are you talking about YY? Generally, Thai gals are gentle and demure and many know their social status and willing to play second fiddle when outside with hubby as well, this is one thing that many will learn to appreciate, same as the Koreans I guess.

not YY lah... he is only interested in banging them and leaving them before these girls recover from their orgasms...

i wouldnt go so far as to say second fiddle but for god's sake, i mean they know how to behave lor!!! i wont have to fear that they will "siah-suay" me lor!!! as for korean, i have limited experience (only 1). but if she doesnt agree outside, she will ask me nicely to reconsider and i would know that she wants me to sleep on it. on the other hand, i have to say she behaves like i m a trophy hubby out in the open.

Little I know, for "gentle" koreans and japs... they rule the roost at home, even wages direct giro to their bank accounts. My poor Busan colleague even has to ask for some daily diet allowance for ciggies.. most happy when he has visitors in town, under guise of "entertainment".

not that bad, but to a certain extent. the good side of this, i managed to save more in the past 2 months than i did for the whole of last year!!!

hmm, maybe the only way for those bunch of fools running the japanese govt to get out of their rut is to appoint a female finance minister... kekeke... sorry, out of point liao...

norice

06-03-2008, 02:49 PM

Pussyman,

Fuck you to! You don't know what the fuck you talking about! You are the first guy made me pissed off!

Once again, Fuck YOu!

Peter_North

06-03-2008, 02:55 PM

Hmmm u getting marry soon? How much they asking?? Chopping your head?

Yeah, me thinking of marrying Pathongtae's sister. Don't know how much Khun Ying Potjaman will ask leh.:confused:

OceanEleven

06-03-2008, 03:20 PM

:cool:
precisely. i m gonna get flamed for this comment but i have to do it. many people think that they have a few relationships with FLs and naturally they know thai women inside out. no offence, but while we r at it, can i also generalize that those who would sell their bodies for a living would usually not have good character and thus be unsuitable to be wife material??? i mean, do these people know that most thai girls r decent girls, just as smart if not more, confirmed prettier, better bred and definitely have better legs!!!:D

Wah!! I thought I am the only one who realized about the legs, so you another one as well. Anyway, when we talk about the general population, people talk about the WLs to bring us down, when we talk about WLs, people say we stereotyped….very the hard leh….

always leave me wondering how the woman can tahan people sniggering at her and why the husband would stand there like a stoned-fuck and endure it... one is ill-bred and the other has no backbone!!!

Sometimes not because of no backbone but rather the fact that we prefer to remain silent for the sake of have a little inner peace, why bring yourself down to accommodate them and channel more fuel? Save the breath and energy for better cause is a wiser option.

were they voted the ugliest and most delusional (or was it demanding???) in asia???:confused:

I guess the next step will be global domination?

i wouldnt go so far as to say second fiddle but for god's sake, i mean they know how to behave lor!!! i wont have to fear that they will "siah-suay" me lor!!! as for korean, i have limited experience (only 1). but if she doesnt agree outside, she will ask me nicely to reconsider and i would know that she wants me to sleep on it. on the other hand, i have to say she behaves like i m a trophy hubby out in the open.

Pardon me for the wrong choice of words, you are right about this, they will discreetly express their disagreement and still respect your decision while all discussion is carried out behind closed door unlike local breed where brawling is their only way of communicating at the slightest unsatisfactory. :cool: