please help me

[funnylove]

I hesitate to write this but I am very confused.

I am married for 8 years. My relationship with my wife is not perfect. Sometimes I felt she is more like a companion than a wife. Sometimes I do not know if I still love her. We had no kids because my wife cannot have intercourse. This also means that I had never had sex for this period. I have high sex drive but my wife sex drive is low. Despite that she did not help me in any way to release my urge. I end up having to masturbate most of the time when I am having urge. Like one of the brother here, I snore during sleep. So for the past years, we slept separately in 2 different room. Our intimacy is really to the minimum.

It is until 3 months ago, I chance across FL PRC in this forum. I tried a few to release my urge. Some good some bad but I always left unsatisfied even after a good fuck.

Then in July, I got to know this PRC FL. We got along quite well and I end up visiting her almost every week (sometimes just chit chat no sex). Somehow, I realize that I am not only wanting sex. I wanted love. My feeling for her grew and I told her about it. She told me she wouldn't believe these things as she had been hurt before. One day, she asked me if I am married and I did not want to cheat her, so i said yes. I could see tears flowing down from her eyes and she said 'why, another one?' My heart sank.

She told me if I wanted to carry on this, many close ones will be hurt by my decision and I have to be aware. She also asked me what is the thing that I like about her. We still meet after that and during our chit chats, we will talk about her family in china and sometimes i will tell her about my marriage.

I really like her and think of her everyday even at work. I hate my marriage which I felt should end a few years ago during one of the hundreds of big fight but i still care for my wife. I had to, we are still married.

Last week, I couldn't take it anymore and for the first time. I told my wife that I did not love her anymore and am taking care of her due to the paper signed. We both cried. It is not easy, I lost several nights of sleep thinking of this. She said she will change but actually my heart is no more here. Things had not be better after that. We grew even further apart now.

I do not know what to do; shall I go for divorce?
I might end with nothing as I do not know if the PRC FL will accept me.
Having heard of so many cased of brothers cheated by PRC, is my r/s with her true?

I am really very confused.

[TohYH]

You should love your wife

[HoWT]

Don't divorse. divorse is very expensive.

Moreover it is not 100% that the 2nd marriage will turn out perfect.

Then it is your choice

[Canon246]

Just go and live a new life with the PRC FL. I got frens who happily married PRC And Thai FL, having good life now with kids and a loving wife. You never try you never know...
You and your wife sex life already got problem before kids....imagine got kids how? I think completely no sex life liao....

人生有多少个几十年?

Good luck with your newly found path...

[fictionman]

How can u even think of leavin ur wife for a FL!!!!...

[Johnbass]

Then in July, I got to know this PRC FL. We got along quite well and I end up visiting her almost every week (sometimes just chit chat no sex).

I do not know what to do; shall I go for divorce?


Question to help answer your divorce question...
Do you pay $$$ to have chitchat-no-sex session with your PRC FL?
:cool:

[prettymannequin]

Whether you're divorcing your wife and whether you get together with the FL should be two different matters.

Divorce your wife if sex means that much to you, and you totally cannot see a future with her anymore. Neither of you deserve to be trapped in a loveless marriage just because of a paper.

The FL issue... I'm sure you know of many bros' encounters. Tread with caution.

[James Porn]

You need a break from both your wife and your PRC lover. Call it a cooling period and go somewhere (I am not sure of your resources, it is for you to work it out) just be alone to sort out your feelings and thoughts. Give it a few weeks, even months if need be, until you feel unbearable to be separate from .. is it your wife or the PRC lover?

I think you owe it to yourself, your wife and your lover to find out. Chances are, you could head back to your wife of 8 years. Sex is not everything, you just need to work it out in the best way (your own way)

Good luck!

[steelhorn]

Bro, your wife did u no wrong from your story. You guys never know about the 'problems' before marriage? Never slept before until marriage? If these problems starts surfacing recently, then talk it out. I'm sure we could reach some concensus if both of you are serious about this relationship. Having divorce your wife for an FL is concretely, definitely not an option in my context. She done u no wrong dude! Some form of constructive communication channels is seriously needed here between the both of you. Becos is almost on the brink of separation.
Making love connect husband and wife dearly,
But is not everything in a marriage.
TALK IT OUT DUDE!

[Hurricane88]

TS - what kind of help do you need...:confused:

You willing to divorce and go for a whore...:confused:

Any divorce in sinkie, women charter apply...if you dun understand then read up...:)

[Bninja]

7 years of Itchines,yours is 8.So if you married the PR girl also will back to square one.Either way you will suffer dude,divorce or not.So sort out the best solution to your life and move on.My friend is marrying a Viet wife soon,hes 53 yr old,gal 24 yr old.Wtf doesnt he even know the consequences after he signed paper...just like you do.

[funnylove]

It's been very tough the last 2 days. She hated me for what I said and things never improved. Last night, we talked again. I told her about the problems and she do not want us to split. She said she is willing to change and she regretted taking me for granted. I agree to patch up with her but deep inside I felt I still cannot let go of the PRC FL.

Even though I agree to continue with my wife, my heart is no longer with her. This shows as I am unable to treat her the way like last time. I spoke to her again just an hour ago. We cried again. She said she didn't want to leave me and willing to be a better person. I felt so helpless and I do not know what to do. She begged me. If I would told her about the PRC FL, I think she will hate me and be stronger to face it but I didn't. At the end, I told her I would give ourselves a chance. I'm not sure if I can forget the PRC FL.

God help me please.

[HappyOwl]

It's been very tough the last 2 days. She hated me for what I said and things never improved. Last night, we talked again. I told her about the problems and she do not want us to split. She said she is willing to change and she regretted taking me for granted. I agree to patch up with her but deep inside I felt I still cannot let go of the PRC FL.

Even though I agree to continue with my wife, my heart is no longer with her. This shows as I am unable to treat her the way like last time. I spoke to her again just an hour ago. We cried again. She said she didn't want to leave me and willing to be a better person. I felt so helpless and I do not know what to do. She begged me. If I would told her about the PRC FL, I think she will hate me and be stronger to face it but I didn't. At the end, I told her I would give ourselves a chance. I'm not sure if I can forget the PRC FL.

God help me please.

Bro. funnylove, a woman who spend almost half a lifetime of yours, to be with you. Now she is begging you. What more do you want from her? :(

[funnylove]

The marriage is rocky from the start even during the courtship. We married 8 years and the first 3 years we quarrel and fight every now and then till neighbors can hear. There are a few instances I nearly commit suicide, in fact i did commit suicide once during courtship due to the pressure of meeting her demands. My wife told me during that period, she too went for divorce seminar and many consultants there ask her to leave me but she told me she believe in our marriage so she decided to change her ways and carried on.

Many of you ask me why would I leave for a PRC FL. What I can say is that she is just the trigger point. It is with her that I realize how much I had been giving and sacrificing my needs for my wife. I want to be selfish for once. There are things that she can never give me. What I want is to go out there and give myself another chance. To see what I had been missing.

[HappyOwl]

My wife told me during that period, she too went for divorce seminar and many consultants there ask her to leave me but she told me she believe in our marriage so she decided to change her ways and carried on.

How true can her words be? Some women used it as a means to tame down their egoistic husband? Some women used the wrong approach trying to bring back the original man whom she used to love? She didn't believes in the whole marriage for the sake of the marriage, she believes in you. :)



Many of you ask me why would I leave for a PRC FL. What I can say is that she is just the trigger point.

Do you think this is an act of spike against her for what she had done to disappoint you, out of emotions?

Would you consider it will be better to clear off from any woman first? Clear your thoughts well alone, before making a logical decision? :)

[funnylove]

I believe what my wife told me. We were quite bad that period. We even had physical fights. It is that bad.

It is not a spike but to be honest sometimes I still did hate her for what she did to me during that period (and all thanks to her, I got downgrade for my ns due to the injury i sustain during the suicide.). Like I mentioned in my first post, I tried PRC FL to try sex as I had never had. My meaning of sex is penetration. I didn't know I end up having a liking for this PRC FL. We spend hours together and most of the time, she didn't mentioned about money even though I did place the money on her table when I left. I knew she need the money to pay rents as she sometimes reject calls to be just with me. I also knew that things change a little after I told her that I am married, I knew she doesn't want to be hurt again. I told her about my marriage too. I cried as i told her the pain i gone through.

[prettymannequin]

I want to be selfish for once. There are things that she can never give me. What I want is to go out there and give myself another chance. To see what I had been missing.

The seed has already been planted... It's hard to turn back now. I know there are bros who disagree with me and will tell you to keep working on the communication and marriage, but I'd say to not waste your wife's time any longer.

I wouldn't advocate getting together with the FL either. But I don't think you'll take any advice like this to heart lol.

[funnylove]

I wrote here because I wanted views. Views that may come from different background so I can have a better look at my problems.

[sentence]

I know there are bros who disagree with me and will tell you to keep working on the communication and marriage, but I'd say to not waste your wife's time any longer.

I wouldn't advocate getting together with the FL either. But I don't think you'll take any advice like this to heart lol.
Well, I'd agree with you. If there is no sex in a marriage, then I think it's totally worthless. Love and sex come together and compliment each other in a marriage.

However, a strong word of advice: TS should find out more about his PRC FL if she is really sincere and dedicated to him before jumping the gun.

[immunity]

Bro, get ready to be hurt for a 2nd time if you choose to divorce your wife and go with the fl. When that happen, you will be more painful, broke and probably on your knees to beg her take u back like your wife did before.
三思，三思。

[joscklee]

Well, I'd agree with you. If there is no sex in a marriage, then I think totally worthless. Love and sex come together and compliment each other in a marriage.

However, a strong word of advice: TS should find out more about his PRC FL if she is really sincere and dedicated to him before jumping the gun.

Maybe some bros out there can share any experience of good outcome after marrying FL? and give TS practical advice

[hamsapkwai]

life with a whore should be interesting , never will there be a dull moment .

go for it brother :p

[funnylove]

I felt that sex is part of marriage, it connects 2 person spiritually and physically like what i had with the PRC FL. My wife and I tried sex before marriage but didn't work out. It is something I thought I can forgo when I am with her but after 8 years I start to have doubts. The experience with the PRC FL is something that I had never felt before. I do not know why I felt it with her as I had some good bonks with other PRC FL before her but felt nothing.

I do not know if I can be happy and love my wife as much. I do not think things will get better, I'm sure she doesn't trust me as much now after this. To be fair I ought to give my wife another chance if we can work things well and this is what I am doing now. I hope God can give me strength.

[saabking]

Don't divorse. divorse is very expensive.

Moreover it is not 100% that the 2nd marriage will turn out perfect.

Then it is your choice

Apparently, 70% of second marriage failed..i.e., after you divorce and remarry..the chance of failure a second time is extremely high..

[voka_blue]

bro ... in marriage is not just abt sex, there's alot other things to create spike and the river flows. it may be hot with that prc accompany you the moment you needs, right timing right place but after divorce, seeing yr ex with someone's arm makes you feel you are stupid. wise man will not encourage divorce ... life is short, treasure your present bro :)

[porscheclub]

Bro. First of all, you need to sort out your marriage. We are outsiders & hear only one side of the story and it is fortunate that you don't have kids.

The PRC. She's a prostitute, she fucks men for money and will show more love for regulars to make more money. Spend one day outside her room & tell us again how you feel after seeing all the men visiting her.

So, are you going to marry her after divorce? Can you accept that your wife had paid sex with hundreds and thousands of men? How does it feel while you're making love to her & images float across other men fucking her? Will you suspect her betraying you when you can't provide for her or when she has the urge? What happens if your parents find out? These thoughts will send you to a mental hospital. So, don't do it.

It is perfectly humane to fall for a woman who gives you sexual pleasures, similarly a FL will love her client. We all visit pros, ONS, mistresses to fulfill the vacuum that wife cannot fill. A void, that lust, those heart to heart chats just like pak tor....it's a wonderful fantasy isn't it? There's no family woes, no housing, auto loans or daily chores to stress unlike your wife.

But in reality, marriage is more than sex & sex is just 25% of it. If your relationship has been so traumatic then you failed. You don't know what you want in a marriage. So far, she seems to be accomodating so in order to blossom your marriage. First, you must forget about that prostitute then your suicidal past & all the negatives. Look forward to building a love nest with your wife. BUT, if you cannot completely forget about the past then divorce. Free yourself & wife of this torture.

FYI, i had 2 mistresses & 2 wives, another scum but im doing my best for the family now. Feel free to PM if you need a ear.

"Sorry to those ladies for calling you a prostitute but it's a term necessary to wake fallen men who strayed & it's a noble job that provides instant love to men who can't find it, thank you"

[funnylove]

You are spot on in every way. Many things you mentioned are what I had been thinking. And like u said i am going mental. First of all, it takes a lot of courage and trust to accept the prc fl together. I knew that. I can accept her for what she is doing now, but not after if we get together. Initially i wanted to talk to her on this if she can quit this job and find another job. I knew she had some other skills but might not earn as much. I thought of many things. However all these did not happened as I felt I had to settle my problem with my wife before committing to another. I do not want to hurt the prc fl. I had to leave my wife first. This also means that I might end with nothing if the prc fl rejects me. I am prepared for it. In any case, she is the trigger point to my thinking of pursing for my new happiness. I do not know if I will end up marrying the prc fl too.

Yesterday night, I could see a change in my wife. I can really see her trying very hard. I felt more relax with her and I would be willing to give it a try. Also I had to forget about the past which is haunting me. The only problem now lies on me. Whether I can carry on without sex and also how to manage my feelings for the prc fl.

[doubletap]

I hesitate to write this but I am very confused.

I am married for 8 years. My relationship with my wife is not perfect. Sometimes I felt she is more like a companion than a wife. Sometimes I do not know if I still love her. We had no kids because my wife cannot have intercourse. This also means that I had never had sex for this period. I have high sex drive but my wife sex drive is low. Despite that she did not help me in any way to release my urge. I end up having to masturbate most of the time when I am having urge. Like one of the brother here, I snore during sleep. So for the past years, we slept separately in 2 different room. Our intimacy is really to the minimum.

being married for 8 years is no easy feat. no doubt both of u got no kids, but at least both of u lived together in times of good and bad. I've got frds married for more than a decade wout kids n not much sex too. and sleeping separately further destroy the relationship. masturbating is not much of a comment, cos many of us here also pulls ourselves.

It is until 3 months ago, I chance across FL PRC in this forum. I tried a few to release my urge. Some good some bad but I always left unsatisfied even after a good fuck.

Then in July, I got to know this PRC FL. We got along quite well and I end up visiting her almost every week (sometimes just chit chat no sex). Somehow, I realize that I am not only wanting sex. I wanted love. My feeling for her grew and I told her about it. She told me she wouldn't believe these things as she had been hurt before. One day, she asked me if I am married and I did not want to cheat her, so i said yes. I could see tears flowing down from her eyes and she said 'why, another one?' My heart sank.

She told me if I wanted to carry on this, many close ones will be hurt by my decision and I have to be aware. She also asked me what is the thing that I like about her. We still meet after that and during our chit chats, we will talk about her family in china and sometimes i will tell her about my marriage.

I really like her and think of her everyday even at work. I hate my marriage which I felt should end a few years ago during one of the hundreds of big fight but i still care for my wife. I had to, we are still married.

haven't u read enough from this forum tat many bros here aso felt good fucking none other than their wives? haven't cats do wanna eat outside fish everyday? including me, and many others, we always felt good after eating an outside clam.

next, which prc ever tells us we are jerks? they come here for only one simple n obvious reason! I dun need to elaborate more, right? in every relationship, dating is always the best; having each other to talk it out n recall the old days of childhood. but after tat, it ll be sex........ ultimately, it ll be "wat time r u coming? what else can we dine besides the usual BKT n nasi goring?". things ll come to a stagnant point when everything else ll seems back to square one. until the next lady appears.........


Last week, I couldn't take it anymore and for the first time. I told my wife that I did not love her anymore and am taking care of her due to the paper signed. We both cried. It is not easy, I lost several nights of sleep thinking of this. She said she will change but actually my heart is no more here. Things had not be better after that. We grew even further apart now.

I do not know what to do; shall I go for divorce?
I might end with nothing as I do not know if the PRC FL will accept me.
Having heard of so many cased of brothers cheated by PRC, is my r/s with her true?

I am really very confused.

u r huting yr wife! she wasted 8 yrs on u. then now u have met w a new conversation partner, then u wanna dump her away. she should have met with another guy, then dump u away instead. now I can see yr sense of insecurity. u wanna make sure tat the TKB is there for u when u divorce yr wife, n shd the TKB walks out on u, u hope u can rekindle yr wife. do u think u r very selfish? though I fuck around all these yrs, I have never thought of a newer relationship ll be better than my wife n kids. wat's NEW can a new relationship be? but u r destroying the memories u built with yr wife. now yr wife asks u for a chance for her to change, yet u are this forum to lend u guts. no way divorce, MORON!

how I reply u through different fonts n colors, is exactly the same way how yr wife goes through thick n thin with u all these years!

[ben2011]

I hesitate to write this but I am very confused.

I am married for 8 years. My relationship with my wife is not perfect. Sometimes I felt she is more like a companion than a wife. Sometimes I do not know if I still love her. We had no kids because my wife cannot have intercourse. This also means that I had never had sex for this period. I have high sex drive but my wife sex drive is low. Despite that she did not help me in any way to release my urge. I end up having to masturbate most of the time when I am having urge. Like one of the brother here, I snore during sleep. So for the past years, we slept separately in 2 different room. Our intimacy is really to the minimum.

It is until 3 months ago, I chance across FL PRC in this forum. I tried a few to release my urge. Some good some bad but I always left unsatisfied even after a good fuck.

Then in July, I got to know this PRC FL. We got along quite well and I end up visiting her almost every week (sometimes just chit chat no sex). Somehow, I realize that I am not only wanting sex. I wanted love. My feeling for her grew and I told her about it. She told me she wouldn't believe these things as she had been hurt before. One day, she asked me if I am married and I did not want to cheat her, so i said yes. I could see tears flowing down from her eyes and she said 'why, another one?' My heart sank.

She told me if I wanted to carry on this, many close ones will be hurt by my decision and I have to be aware. She also asked me what is the thing that I like about her. We still meet after that and during our chit chats, we will talk about her family in china and sometimes i will tell her about my marriage.

I really like her and think of her everyday even at work. I hate my marriage which I felt should end a few years ago during one of the hundreds of big fight but i still care for my wife. I had to, we are still married.

Last week, I couldn't take it anymore and for the first time. I told my wife that I did not love her anymore and am taking care of her due to the paper signed. We both cried. It is not easy, I lost several nights of sleep thinking of this. She said she will change but actually my heart is no more here. Things had not be better after that. We grew even further apart now.

I do not know what to do; shall I go for divorce?
I might end with nothing as I do not know if the PRC FL will accept me.
Having heard of so many cased of brothers cheated by PRC, is my r/s with her true?

I am really very confused.

8 years later, you will post a same story, just different "wife" only.
Divorced 2nd time? 3rd times?

No love still can be husband and wife, this happen to most after married for years....

Think carefully using your big head.

[funnylove]

Thanks for all ur views but I would suggest reading all the post in the thread before concluding as many more details of my marriage are shared. I understand many ppl are mad at me. It's no point scolding and zapping me as what I am facing is much more than this. I'm hoping for views and some sharing if possible from your own accounts so that I can look at it in more angles.

[porscheclub]

Yesterday night, I could see a change in my wife. I can really see her trying very hard. I felt more relax with her and I would be willing to give it a try. Also I had to forget about the past which is haunting me. The only problem now lies on me. Whether I can carry on without sex and also how to manage my feelings for the prc fl.

大丈夫，拿得起放得下！

You're still blaming her for issues since NS days? Don't know how old are you now but don't be petty.

In the first place you need to understand marriage & find that soulmate who may or may never appear. I believe all women need sex, you just need to find that key to unlock her.

There's thousands of prc fls in this forum, some very beautiful & wonderful in bed (according to FRs) so go make love with a couple hundreds more then tell us again.

If you don't wise up, no women can give you a happy union & it's better to be a bachelor.

[demonhunter]

It's been very tough the last 2 days. She hated me for what I said and things never improved. Last night, we talked again. I told her about the problems and she do not want us to split. She said she is willing to change and she regretted taking me for granted. I agree to patch up with her but deep inside I felt I still cannot let go of the PRC FL.

Even though I agree to continue with my wife, my heart is no longer with her. This shows as I am unable to treat her the way like last time. I spoke to her again just an hour ago. We cried again. She said she didn't want to leave me and willing to be a better person. I felt so helpless and I do not know what to do. She begged me. If I would told her about the PRC FL, I think she will hate me and be stronger to face it but I didn't. At the end, I told her I would give ourselves a chance. I'm not sure if I can forget the PRC FL.

God help me please.

Fuck the Whore off !!!, Who the fuck in the right mind loves a public toilet ???

Now is the time , your wife would be giving you the best fuck of your life ...

anal , cim , cof , deepthroat ...the full works cause shes trying to repent .

:D

[demonhunter]

as she sometimes reject calls to be just with me. .

CCB !!! now I know why I cannot get a slot with her :mad:

[tomyumgong]

Dont leave yr wife for a FL. Not worth it.

Leave her if u thin( u no longer love her, no more feeling. N that you wont regret if u dump her. ThiNk if she has done anythingbgood to u, n that whether she sacrifiCes anything for tge marriage.

Be yrself. After divorce than think if u should marry the FL. Two different issues.

[chenpaul]

life with a whore should be interesting , never will there be a dull moment .

go for it brother :p

Agree. Interesting till TS will be suck dry and got ditch:p

[nihabaashi]

TS....seems like you are just waiting for someone to post a successful happily ever after story with a FL.

You are waiting for that story to support your stance in leaving your wife and going with the FL.

[funnylove]

I would like to say thks to those who wrote & help expand my views, good or bad i appreciate them. If u had followed and not just read 1st page, u would have know that my wife and I had talked it out 2 nights ago. We cried. We knew since day one that our r/s is tough. We had too much differences and I had been drained trying to make it work for the last 8 years. I admit that I am in the wrong wishing to give up and take the selfish route to find my new happiness but I didn't. Nobody will know how our 8 years had gone by and the pain that we are consistently in to the extend that we have to see a doc at times. That is also one reason why we did not attempt to try for kids through means like IVF. We did not want our kids to suffer in case we really split.

Like I mentioned in my 1st post, I never had sex before as my wife had some health issues. You would laugh it off but I really didn't. I only did after I stepped into the PRC FL scene just a few mths ago. I also mentioned that i am always left unsatisfied after each session with a PRC FL NOT because I did not enjoy but I always left feeling worse & puzzled. I only realize what I really want when I met this PRC FL who somehow clicks with me not because she gives me a good bonk but after a good chat sharing our views and values, I felt I finally found a good match. To me, if there is really love & trust, marrying a PRC FL who is deemed by some to be 'dirty' is fine for me. I can accept her. Fantasies like some said. I agree to some extend.

I am not here to wait for someone to share their happy ever after story to help my decision because i personally seen good cases, I knew a PRC FL who love this guy so much that she decided to deliver him a baby only to be deserted. I felt sad for her but I admire her for the scarification she did for the men, for the love. I agree to some extend that maybe 99.999% of the PRC are out for money. But I also believe that there could be 0.001% out there who long for true love and came here for some reasons. If she is treated the same way as the 99.999%, i am quite sure she will join the group of the 99.999% in no time. I am not saying to believe all of them but to tread them with caution like some here said. I also wrote in my first post that I hesitate to pen my feeling here because i knew forums are never a good outlets for these issues, in most cases you will be insulted, abused and labelled but i still did as where else better than here can I find all the cheongsters who had seen the world. Sad to say, not many willing to share their experience and stories. I can understand perfectly why, just scroll up this thread, see what people wrote and have a look at my points. Not everyone is open minded, not everyone reads well enough, not everyone can accept. To be honest, some comments surprises me. I find them very twisted and ironic. I wouldn't elaborate more as there is no point to it, everyone has their own views and that is perfectly just what I need.

[nihabaashi]

Hey TS...no offence on what i posted earlier.....maybe you and your wife can see a marriage councillor.

I too had my share of kena trapped experiences....twice in fact.....i was looking for a excuse to support that the affair was worth going on....but both were out to drain my bank....somehow i wise up and cut loss.

No doubt there is a 0.01 % chance of meeting a FL that will bring u true happiness....but the odds are really against us...the 99.99% camp of FL relentlessly pursuing their goals.

Now i just enjoy the continuous pool of supply of FL offering massages and bonks at ave 100 buck or so a pop in this forum ......saves money for me.

[Johnbass]

TS, u also very the geng lor... 8 years never piak... Then u marry for F?
Now u finally tasted piak outside... Again u want to marry for F?

You need to go out and get some fresh air instead.

:D

[maxsee]

Marriage without sex is extremely unhealthy...But then again getting married coz of great sex is a major NO NO....:D:D:D

[real_king]

Sex with FL / Sex with FB / Sex with wife.

All are different issues leh. hello. please wakeup your idea.

[discordpiggy]

Sex with FL / Sex with FB / Sex with wife.

All are different issues leh. hello. please wakeup your idea.

u sexpert_KING hor!!! FL is your MAJOR in Sexversity! :D

[imdestinyz]

so right now have u gained enough advice on what to do and how to handle?

I hope you realise what the btm of the issue and what needs to be resolved first.

Good luck

[Yakuza]

Wow .. DH getting work up ... TS .. better think clearly n stop being so immature fickle minded ... all d samsters here hv already advised u to go back to ur lovely wify .. so .. wat's there for u to decide ... small head still itch for more pussies??

Who the fuck in the right mind loves a public toilet ???
I love 5 star hotel toilets .. everybody need it, unless u in deepest part of the Amazon ... :D

Now is the time , your wife would be giving you the best fuck of your life ...
anal , cim , cof , deepthroat ...the full works cause shes trying to repent .:D
How are abt BDSM ..:p

[WhenYouKissMe]

Marriage without sex is extremely unhealthy.

This is very true :(

[Greendevil]

having say and commented much by all the samster here, i must say i respect TS to be able to endure for 8 yrs on her sex needs. i guess a lot of bro here will already gotten their KTV/OKT VIP member card if their wife did not give them sex for 8 yrs. but i will not want to use your hse toliet for sure, can't imagine how much sticky spider web you have created on your toliet ceiling and wall LOL

[speed0]

What effort have you put in to make the marriage work? Why not do something more to spice up the marriage?

Those PRC are here for one obvious reason, you will be like a sugar daddy to them and they have no reason to reject you, once they suck you dry you will be left alone.

Don't be a dick head and remember your marriage VOW!

[lasupkia]

Not sure what health issue yr wife has for not having sex unless she is Rock Lady石女。
There's a right way to solve yr problems as mentioned by bros here but there could also be a "more right" way. Ultimately it is yr life to live so choose with yr big head n not the small one.
I myself divorced after 10 years and now remarried.

[KiaMLX]

Hi TS

If you have reason to love her before marriage, you should love her now for same reason

[milkandcookies]

Please talk to your wife first. Keep divorce as the last option.

[hunkyripples]

Just go and live a new life with the PRC FL. I got frens who happily married PRC And Thai FL, having good life now with kids and a loving wife. You never try you never know...
You and your wife sex life already got problem before kids....imagine got kids how? I think completely no sex life liao....

人生有多少个几十年?

Good luck with your newly found path...

I agree with Canon bro. Your wife cannot have intercourse as you said. Is it her medical condition or just pyschological (low sex drive)? Since you have no kids, then it is easier and divorce is clean although expensive.

But you must check your future wife's background..visit her family in China. Just make sure she is not a gold digger. Dun jump to a deeper shit-hole after exiting one :)

No risk, no rewards right? Think about it....Hope you found happiness, whichever decision you choose.

[funnylove]

My wife can't have intercourse due to medical condition.

As for the future wife, I'm not thinking about it as I do not think it is fair to give false hope unless I can get a clean break with my wife which I do not have the heart to do it. I had given up really. Sick of the days of crying and looking at how my wife suffers. I will stay on for the 责任 and hopefully find love in my next life.

[KiamTeoZap]

Wish you love your wife and your wife love you

My wife can't have intercourse due to medical condition.

As for the future wife, I'm not thinking about it as I do not think it is fair to give false hope unless I can get a clean break with my wife which I do not have the heart to do it. I had given up really. Sick of the days of crying and looking at how my wife suffers. I will stay on for the 责任 and hopefully find love in my next life.

[sky58589]

The marriage is rocky from the start even during the courtship. We married 8 years and the first 3 years we quarrel and fight every now and then till neighbors can hear. There are a few instances I nearly commit suicide, in fact i did commit suicide once during courtship due to the pressure of meeting her demands. My wife told me during that period, she too went for divorce seminar and many consultants there ask her to leave me but she told me she believe in our marriage so she decided to change her ways and carried on.

Many of you ask me why would I leave for a PRC FL. What I can say is that she is just the trigger point. It is with her that I realize how much I had been giving and sacrificing my needs for my wife. I want to be selfish for once. There are things that she can never give me. What I want is to go out there and give myself another chance. To see what I had been missing.

I just got out with a PRC gal as well, they can be very heartless ones. Imagine when she came to singapore to work as a ktv gal, she told me she was cheated by her bf and currently in debts thats why she had resorted to this line. I told her to stop working and I clear her debts for her. Then when she said that she wish to let her son to study in singapore, I made it happen again and trust me the fees are freaking ex but still, I squeezed and make her happy. Now she left me and said that now she debt free and her son is stable, she nothing to worry anymore.

In short, 欢场无真爱。戏子无情婊子无义 is very true

[sunhuan-con]

TS why cant u live without a woman?? Be a freeman and dont KC the PRC FL....the ending will be still devastating . Concentrate on your career and makes more money. This is more practical.

[ColdBlood99]

no wonder PRC say singapor guy very kam lan, now i know why :D

[demonhunter]

I just got out with a PRC gal as well, they can be very heartless ones. Imagine when she came to singapore to work as a ktv gal, she told me she was cheated by her bf and currently in debts thats why she had resorted to this line. I told her to stop working and I clear her debts for her. Then when she said that she wish to let her son to study in singapore, I made it happen again and trust me the fees are freaking ex but still, I squeezed and make her happy. Now she left me and said that now she debt free and her son is stable, she nothing to worry anymore.

In short, 欢场无真爱。戏子无情婊子无义 is very true

Aiyo ... you should have posted in SBF before spending your money ..

Anyway , I hope you screwed her good ya ?

Treat it as a premium Fuck ....:D

[prettymannequin]

My wife can't have intercourse due to medical condition.

As for the future wife, I'm not thinking about it as I do not think it is fair to give false hope unless I can get a clean break with my wife which I do not have the heart to do it. I had given up really. Sick of the days of crying and looking at how my wife suffers. I will stay on for the 责任 and hopefully find love in my next life.

"stay on for the 责任", are you fucking serious. You married her for a reason. So if you want to stay in the marriage, then do it because of the very same reason, work on YOUR marriage.

Don't give such a shitty excuse about responsibility; let another man be responsible for her if you can't love her properly.

For a grown man, you are embarrassingly thoughtless.

[Yellowman]

The reason why you fell for this FL is simple. You talked to her about your problems with your wife and she listened and empathised with you. To you, that was probably something that you never felt with your wife. Of cos the sex certainly clouds your judgment further.

Knowing why you fall in love with the FL is important. Because you now know what makes you fall in love in the first place. So you can see that the FL could have been anybody who offered great sex and a listening ear.

Now since it is obvious to me that you have already chose to stick to your wife as you have not told your wife about the FL yet, then give your marriage another shot. However, if you truly want your marriage to work, then I am afraid you will have to come clean with your wife about the FL since you did cheat on her.

You are not missing out on sex, you are missing out on intimacy. I don't think intimacy is limited by any medical conditions.

[siri]

Briefly read thru and I can only say...

if it's been 8 years and both of you are not happy in this marriage, better sign the paper and move on.

the fact that you had thought of divorce and the fact that this PRC had cause a change in your heart to stay on with your wife. . you got your answer.

I know I shouldn't be encouraging divorce but seriously, if I am your wife and I know I've lost your heart, I wouldn't wanna stay and make both of us suffer. What for when I sleep next to you and yet all you can think of is another woman?

sex aside, I believe you are already emotionally bounded to the PRC. I'm not encouraging you to go after the PRC cos honestly that's a stupid move. But if signing the divorce paper makes you feel better, just go do it. Your wife will thank you for it when she realised the true reason of you doing so, and that's you falling out of love with her.

[Ahxi]

1. No children
2. No happy moments I presume and both parties unhappy everyday.
3. She beg and say want to change, has she changed? and did she changed willingly or she resent the changes?


Option 1
cut the marriage short since the two fo you are unhappy every day.

For the 责任, make it up to your wife by not scrimping on the alimony even if you have to live like a beggar.

For the PRC, gauge if she is willing to marry you even if you are not well to do and has a commitment to pay alimony to your wife. Call girls are also human.

Option 2
Go on a long honeymoon. talk things over with your wife, at the honeymoon. Find out if the two of you still care about each other.

Talk about your constraints and needs, as well as her constraints and needs. See if there is any compromises. (Like eating outside but coming home every night or you can sacrifice the sex)

Option to adopt kids or get pets as a bonding element.

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I suggest that you choose the path that gives everybody a chance at happiness instead of dragging along a situation where everybody just resent and regrets.

[FallenLove]

The reason why you fell for this FL is simple. You talked to her about your problems with your wife and she listened and empathised with you. To you, that was probably something that you never felt with your wife. Of cos the sex certainly clouds your judgment further.

Knowing why you fall in love with the FL is important. Because you now know what makes you fall in love in the first place. So you can see that the FL could have been anybody who offered great sex and a listening ear.

Now since it is obvious to me that you have already chose to stick to your wife as you have not told your wife about the FL yet, then give your marriage another shot. However, if you truly want your marriage to work, then I am afraid you will have to come clean with your wife about the FL since you did cheat on her.

You are not missing out on sex, you are missing out on intimacy. I don't think intimacy is limited by any medical conditions.

Where's the "like" button?

[NottiSex]

I do not know what to do; shall I go for divorce?
I might end with nothing as I do not know if the PRC FL will accept me.
Having heard of so many cased of brothers cheated by PRC, is my r/s with her true?

I am really very confused.

Suggest you go for marriage counseling first

[anthonyKKW]

Bro,

you got no kids...things are easier. If $$ can solve problem, then it is not that bad.

we have the right to choose away from a path which is clearly wrong. But no one can guarantee the new path is the correct one..

good luck.

If it comforts you...I got kids. Stucked. You are in a better situation then me.

[korean]

Ts, there is quite some similarities between ur stories and mine. Can I ask you what will happen to your wife if you divorce her? For me this part is important for the decision making. Take care!

[chanster]

Faster , marry the prc FL !! How much tears she had dropped? "Another one?" Prove that you are not ! Be a man , do the right thing , later prc dont believe you more worst, you lose 2 girls

[prettymannequin]

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[sunhuan-con]

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Seems quite selfish analogy...Meaning keep both the husband and lover..One day will sure get into trouble too. No ending.

[stillgottheblue]

Having a fling and getting married and living together is totally different altogether. Many don't take this into consideration.

[prettymannequin]

Seems quite selfish analogy...Meaning keep both the husband and lover..One day will sure get into trouble too. No ending.

Er Idk if we're quite getting the same message, because I don't read it as keeping both husband and lover. In fact kingjaffejoffer never provided a solution of what to do, but only advised what should be avoided.

[fion.18]

Er Idk if we're quite getting the same message, because I don't read it as keeping both husband and lover. In fact kingjaffejoffer never provided a solution of what to do, but only advised what should be avoided.

Hahah that's what I tot too babe. But I like his advice ESP the last part. The I'm not telling you not to cheat part. Kinda reminds me of the 80/20 rule used in dating. There's never gonna a 100% perfect fit. And if it already fits 80% is it then worth risking that for the missing 20.