Single Parent

[erogirl]

I'm a 30-year old, divorced with 2 young kids. For the last 2 years of divorce, I've been spending all my time and energy on my kids. Recently, I've been feeling very drained and find my life getting very monotonous.

I do love my kids and enjoy spending whatever time I have, especially now they do not have a father figure in their life.

Thinking back, I don't know how I cope when my ex left the family, but 2 years on now, I'm moving on with my life and my priority is on my kids.

Sometimes I feel that all my time and attention is devoted on my kids and I hardly have any time for myself. Some days, it gets depressing when I think how I still have a long way to go being alone and facing challenges by myself.

Recently my gf has asked me if I would give dating another go. I find myself with a mixture of feelings:- I miss the feeling of dating and falling in love again, but at the same time, I'm afraid to try and get hurt again. Besides, I've 2 kids to consider and which man would consider a divorcee with baggage?

Even if fate has it that I find someone I have feeling for, what are the odds he will accept my kids and my kids will like him too?

I wonder if any single parents out there feel guilty at the thought of dating again? Already I find there's never enough time to juggle between work and kids - how do you find time to date without spending lesser time with the kids?

[autoroam]

erogirl

I have 2 childhood friends who were divorced, 1 got 1 kid and the other 3 kids.
The 1st lady got married again last year and had another baby recently.
The second lady friend have been dating her new BF for almost 2 yrs. Both their partners didn't mind their past and the extra burden......

Having said that, hope you will find your happiness soon:D

[fouredz]

jia you.
life goes on..
so what you felt is right, never look back and regret, never do this never do that..

[Wintermelontea]

Have you watched the movie Blended (Sandler and Barrymore)?

[Johnbass]

I have chiobu divorced fren with kids and re-married...
Go out, meet people, and keep your options open.
All the best!

:D

[hamsapkwai]

u come here to seek advice? most of us are lost and troubled souls

if we knew what to do with our lives we wouldnt be hanging around a sex forum looking for dont know what

:p:p

[SnowLeopards]

You must have been doing an excellent job raising the kids single handedly.

I know of men who accepted women into their lives although the women had kids from their previous marriage.

Everything happens for a reason.

Be strong and focus on what your heart tells you.

Pierre.

[demonhunter]

I have chiobu divorced fren with kids and re-married...
Go out, meet people, and keep your options open.
All the best!

:D

U got anymore chiobu divorcee to intro ?

:D

[Castrol]

Even if fate has it that I find someone I have feeling for, what are the odds he will accept my kids and my kids will like him too?

I wonder if any single parents out there feel guilty at the thought of dating again? Already I find there's never enough time to juggle between work and kids - how do you find time to date without spending lesser time with the kids?

the odds are better if you go for an older mature man.

at 30 with 2 kids by yourself, you have to be a super woman to be anything.

[Shapore]

I'm a 30-year old, divorced with 2 young kids. For the last 2 years of divorce, I've been spending all my time and energy on my kids. Recently, I've been feeling very drained and find my life getting very monotonous.

I do love my kids and enjoy spending whatever time I have, especially now they do not have a father figure in their life.

Thinking back, I don't know how I cope when my ex left the family, but 2 years on now, I'm moving on with my life and my priority is on my kids.

Sometimes I feel that all my time and attention is devoted on my kids and I hardly have any time for myself. Some days, it gets depressing when I think how I still have a long way to go being alone and facing challenges by myself.

Recently my gf has asked me if I would give dating another go. I find myself with a mixture of feelings:- I miss the feeling of dating and falling in love again, but at the same time, I'm afraid to try and get hurt again. Besides, I've 2 kids to consider and which man would consider a divorcee with baggage?

Even if fate has it that I find someone I have feeling for, what are the odds he will accept my kids and my kids will like him too?

I wonder if any single parents out there feel guilty at the thought of dating again? Already I find there's never enough time to juggle between work and kids - how do you find time to date without spending lesser time with the kids?


Amazing mother

[HappyOwl]

Sometimes I feel that all my time and attention is devoted on my kids and I hardly have any time for myself. Some days, it gets depressing when I think how I still have a long way to go being alone and facing challenges by myself.

Recently my gf has asked me if I would give dating another go. I find myself with a mixture of feelings:- I miss the feeling of dating and falling in love again, but at the same time, I'm afraid to try and get hurt again. Besides, I've 2 kids to consider and which man would consider a divorcee with baggage?

Even if fate has it that I find someone I have feeling for, what are the odds he will accept my kids and my kids will like him too?



Sis. erogirl, the beauty in you is the perseverance of getting things going regardless of how tough it has been for you. On average, a lady who is in your shoes may takes up to 5 years to be back on track. & since you already have a mixture of feelings to or not to date just after 2 years had already shown you are back on a fast & healthy track. :)

If you are looking at dating someone who can fit into the gap, be by your side, contributing by managing the family, kids, finances, etc... it may not sounds promising. You may even feel/ get disappointed unless he is someone who doesn't wants kids himself. He can loves you for who you are doesn't means he must have to love your kids. Can you draw the line between you & him versus you & kids?

If you are looking at a date with objectives in mind to settle down, you have unknowingly added new weights of pressure on yourself. But if you date with no objectives of settling down, it fears you to move one step forward because you know it is leading you to Holland. This is the dilemma you are experiencing. Did I understand you in this part?



I wonder if any single parents out there feel guilty at the thought of dating again? Already I find there's never enough time to juggle between work and kids - how do you find time to date without spending lesser time with the kids?

There is absolutely no sense of negative feel should you decided to date 1 boy, 5 men, 25 uncles, etc... as long that makes you happy. Just that by the time you are going to bring your date home, the kids should already be well mentally prepared that they are going to welcome a new 'visitor' be it he is the plumber, contractor, professor back to 'their' home.

How do you find time to date without spending lesser time with the kids? - I seriously have no idea. I can only think of not putting on a watch & not looking at the clock. Just joking. :p

[James Porn]

This is just a suggestion. Are there any activities that you can join where you can bring your kids to and meet single parents like yourself? My guess is chances are better that you can find a good match.

All the best!

[BiRd13]

I'm a 30-year old, divorced with 2 young kids. For the last 2 years of divorce, I've been spending all my time and energy on my kids. Recently, I've been feeling very drained and find my life getting very monotonous.

I do love my kids and enjoy spending whatever time I have, especially now they do not have a father figure in their life.

Thinking back, I don't know how I cope when my ex left the family, but 2 years on now, I'm moving on with my life and my priority is on my kids.

Sometimes I feel that all my time and attention is devoted on my kids and I hardly have any time for myself. Some days, it gets depressing when I think how I still have a long way to go being alone and facing challenges by myself.

Recently my gf has asked me if I would give dating another go. I find myself with a mixture of feelings:- I miss the feeling of dating and falling in love again, but at the same time, I'm afraid to try and get hurt again. Besides, I've 2 kids to consider and which man would consider a divorcee with baggage?

Even if fate has it that I find someone I have feeling for, what are the odds he will accept my kids and my kids will like him too?

I wonder if any single parents out there feel guilty at the thought of dating again? Already I find there's never enough time to juggle between work and kids - how do you find time to date without spending lesser time with the kids?

Sad to hear that... But well, you are still young. Should go for dating again. How old are your kids btw?

My ex wife is a single parent of 2 kids when we got to know each other as well. We went through up and down together, and was helping her all along as a good friend... We went out like couple, and family... However eventually we fell for one another, and even got married one day. We had another daughter together after marriage, but due to some mishap, we divorced last year...

What I'm trying to say is... Yes. There maybe many who can't accept the kids which are not theirs. But there are still some whom will. Not really you have to go into 'dating'. Can try go out as friends, and let natural goes. If both have sparks in between, who know? Maybe you will find your other half soon one day

[Watermelonn]

you are amazing as a mother :)

[Botakhead]

As amazing as you are now, gif yourself another chance at love life, gif your children another chance to have a father figure. Only downside is that you'll only know if that little lamb will turn into a lion after marriage or not, it's a gamble though.

There are real life cases which works out fine and there'll always be those that becums more sad than happy ending.

Any ways cheers to you.

[newyorker88]

I wonder if any single parents out there feel guilty at the thought of dating again? Already I find there's never enough time to juggle between work and kids - how do you find time to date without spending lesser time with the kids?

Kudos to you, for trying to bring up the kids. Of cos, when cupid comes knocking at your door, you will find a man again.

Remember that one day, your kids will grow up and have their own time especially when they are teens. It is important to teach them what happened between you and their father and not let them repeat.

A father figure is important in any kids life. Perhaps, you want to try someone who is older? Older man who may have not a family, may want to have a family to call his own too. If he does care for you, and don't mind the kids, it is best. Of cos, the kids have to like him as well. Some men who are childless, divorced, wife passed away, and so on. You never know when you will meet one.

Let your intentions to be known to friends. That is the fastest way. At least they would know the other party and not anyhow introduce someone who is of questionable character. Finding someone on internet? I am not so sure on that. Of cos, meeting with the person will be a better choice.

I am sure at your age, you would be able to decide if a person is right for you. No doubt there are scars of the past, but it would be better to let go of the past and find your own happiness. No man is perfect. There are sure to be short comings in everyone. Accept and live with it.

All the best and wish you the best in finding a suitable mate.

[Carmelina]

There are lots of way that you can spend enough time with your kids without sacrificing your lovelife. All you need is proper time management.

[porscheclub]

Hi Erogirl, glad to hear that you've come so far & welcome to the sinful forum :)

I met my current wife when she was a single mum as well & we started dating casually for a couple of months. However, before we went any deeper, she finally told me about her situation which I readily accepted because I have already fallen in love with her by then & the fact that I also have two kids of my own. We're happily married now with another wonderful kid & looking forward to a fifth daughter if possible.

At 30yrs old, you're still very young and have a long journey ahead. Your children will leave you when they're ready and by then you'll be quite lonely though it takes the right spouse to live happily ever after and some of us would swear that it's better to be single.

I understand your feelings now but you need to be realistic that younger men are defiinitely out of the question as they're too immatured for you. You'll have to cast your net wide to men as old as 50 including divorcees & widowers who'll understand and appreciate your situation. Also, single men will eventually face rejections from his parents about your background.

You'll also have to make sure that the man will love your children as his own & time is required to bear fruit.

You can try dating agencies and at 30, you still stand some chances but beware of web based sites as it's a mine field & best avoided.

Good luck & please visit other threads with plenty of rubbish but you'll find some highly educational & occasionally arousing stuffs :D

[Golden question]

u come here to seek advice? most of us are lost and troubled souls

if we knew what to do with our lives we wouldnt be hanging around a sex forum looking for dont know what

:p:p

bro,like your comment haha,up u liao

[Golden question]

u come here to seek advice? most of us are lost and troubled souls

if we knew what to do with our lives we wouldnt be hanging around a sex forum looking for dont know what

:p:p

sorry,dont have weiging scale how to up huh haha

[Dowell78]

TS

IMHO, work and kids are more important than dating.

Yours sincerely
Dowell78

[stillgottheblue]

Don't complicate your life by going into another relationship. I'm appalled by some who had many kids from different marriage! Their kids will grow up with defects mentally.

[Johnbass]

Don't complicate your life by going into another relationship. I'm appalled by some who had many kids from different marriage! Their kids will grow up with defects mentally.

Your view sibei fierce.
I disagree.

:cool: