40+ Single Men... Question For You

[lotsfits80]

I'm thinking of being single again and become a player instead of committed, but I'm worried that I will get lonely when I grow old and cannot fuck anymore. How do you deal with this issue? Will it be lonely? Or the freedom is great?

[ColdBlood99]

I'm thinking of being single again and become a player instead of committed, but I'm worried that I will get lonely when I grow old and cannot fuck anymore. How do you deal with this issue? Will it be lonely? Or the freedom is great?

Ppl always think that when u get married you will step in the tomb, but I do not think this way.

What the point of fucking all the gals world wide? You don't received any medal "best bonking player"

Find a good gal and marry, give each other a freedom. Your parent are waiting for this day to arrive。 创忠接代。 Hopefully the 1st word is correct haha

[allbustyboobies]

Ppl always think that when u get married you will step in the tomb, but I do not think this way.

What the point of fucking all the gals world wide? You don't received any medal "best bonking player"

Find a good gal and marry, give each other a freedom. Your parent are waiting for this day to arrive。 创忠接代。 Hopefully the 1st word is correct haha

I agree with you..no medal no nothing. If she is the one for you, why let her go? People say bcos of one tree let go the whole forest...kinda crap. If she put in effort in all little details for you..the answer is there already.

I have a childhood friend, is a ultimate chiongster..everywhere anytime can find girls to bonk..but settled down get married last year and now planning for 2nd home and baby liao.

Don't live in regrets bro..all the best.

[lotsfits80]

Ppl always think that when u get married you will step in the tomb, but I do not think this way.

What the point of fucking all the gals world wide? You don't received any medal "best bonking player"

Find a good gal and marry, give each other a freedom. Your parent are waiting for this day to arrive。 创忠接代。 Hopefully the 1st word is correct haha

Only one life, live for self or for parents?? Someone who likes food will want to try many food, someone who likes sex will want to fuck many girls...

[ColdBlood99]

Only one life, live for self or for parents?? Someone who likes food will want to try many food, someone who likes sex will want to fuck many girls...

But if there is no parent will you been in this world? Since you already know what you want then what the point of this thread?

[look]

there is too much girl to fuck if you just focus on the sex part , and there is no possible for us to chieong forever , we will need to eventually settle down .
I think it feel more better when you win the one you love than you spent $$$ fucking the hottest girl

[Flinger2]

There is a difference between , " Fucking all the girls of the world" and getting married.

Fucking is all about lust...pleasure...new experiences... enjoyment.....

Getting married is about emotions, companionship , living together and experiencing life up and down as the life keep going without stopping, aging together etc....

When you get confused and think both they are one and the same , people often make disastrous decisions.

You got to ask yourself . What do you want and go for both or only the one you want.

Once you can differentiate them and have a clear mind, you can them make a good decision for different needs .

[lotsfits80]

Then let me tell you our story...

http://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/25xfe9/how_can_i_31m_break_up_without_hurting_her_29f/

Let me know if you insist that I should marry or give up, after you have read this.

[lotsfits80]

But if there is no parent will you been in this world? Since you already know what you want then what the point of this thread?

I'm not saying i'm not thankful to them, but just be honest it was never my decision to be brought into this world. I still love my parents but how I live my life is still my choice.

there is too much girl to fuck if you just focus on the sex part , and there is no possible for us to chieong forever , we will need to eventually settle down .
I think it feel more better when you win the one you love than you spent $$$ fucking the hottest girl

Problem is, I love her, but we're almost totally not sexually compatible. And I don't want to cheat. How?

There is a difference between , " Fucking all the girls of the world" and getting married.

Fucking is all about lust...pleasure...new experiences... enjoyment.....

Getting married is about emotions, companionship , living together and experiencing life up and down as the life keep going without stopping, aging together etc....

When you get confused and think both they are one and the same , people often make disastrous decisions.

You got to ask yourself . What do you want and go for both or only the one you want.

Once you can differentiate them and have a clear mind, you can them make a good decision for different needs .

I'm not confuse between the two paths. That's why I'm in a dilemma because I don't want to marry and regret it, nor do I want to break up and regret it.

I have high sex drive and she almost has none. I don't blame her, but how can I solve this issue without cheating??

[ColdBlood99]

Then let me tell you our story...

http://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/25xfe9/how_can_i_31m_break_up_without_hurting_her_29f/

Let me know if you insist that I should marry or give up, after you have read this.

Bro, your gf can be a good wife in future, you should get marry, I understand that the issue is because of 1 party high sex drive and 1 party low sex drive, what I can think of is try to talk to her about it and hope she understand, un-slash out her potential.

You better marry a gal who is low drive then a high drive, if is high drive in future if you can feed her well she will go out find guy.

Base on the story, marry her and think about it, but worst to worst the last solution is to eat outside which I don't recommend.

Gd luck

[maxsee]

If I were you, I would break up with the girl...marriage is not about just finding a nice girl and settling down with her...it is about finding the woman whom you see yourself spending the rest of your life with her and vice versa.....never settle for anything less.....:D:D:D

[KaniNababe]

Ppl always think that when u get married you will step in the tomb, but I do not think this way.

What the point of fucking all the gals world wide? You don't received any medal "best bonking player"

Find a good gal and marry, give each other a freedom. Your parent are waiting for this day to arrive。 创忠接代。 Hopefully the 1st word is correct haha

..is 传宗, not 传种or 创忠 ok

[Johnbass]

Problem is, I love her, but we're almost totally not sexually compatible. And I don't want to cheat. How?


I read a bit of your story... The gist is in your question above right?
If u see marriage as just sex, then don't marry bah.
Go find many piaks until u song song, maybe years later you will be ready for marriage... Provided you still can find a partner to marry then.

Fast forward many years...
My friend de friend de friend... Bachelor... Retired... Always go find piaks piaks last time... Parents no longer around... lives alone... Nowadays sexlife low liao... Always look for my friend/khakis for dinner or go casino.

:D

[ColdBlood99]

I read a bit of your story... The gist is in your question above right?
If u see marriage as just sex, then don't marry bah.
Go find many piaks until u song song, maybe years later you will be ready for marriage... Provided you still can find a partner to marry then.

Fast forward many years...
My friend de friend de friend... Bachelor... Retired... Always go find piaks piaks last time... Parents no longer around... lives alone... Nowadays sexlife low liao... Always look for my friend/khakis for dinner or go casino.

:D

I thought you have wifi Liao? :eek:

[lotsfits80]

Bro, your gf can be a good wife in future, you should get marry, I understand that the issue is because of 1 party high sex drive and 1 party low sex drive, what I can think of is try to talk to her about it and hope she understand, un-slash out her potential.

You better marry a gal who is low drive then a high drive, if is high drive in future if you can feed her well she will go out find guy.

Base on the story, marry her and think about it, but worst to worst the last solution is to eat outside which I don't recommend.

Gd luck

I agree with what u said. She can be a good wife. This morning while she's preparing to go to work I just sat down and looked at her. She looks so beautiful to me I thought "I love her. I love this girl" then she saw me and said "oi...crazy ah? See what?" Hahaha she's so cute.

I read a bit of your story... The gist is in your question above right?
If u see marriage as just sex, then don't marry bah.
Go find many piaks until u song song, maybe years later you will be ready for marriage... Provided you still can find a partner to marry then.

Fast forward many years...
My friend de friend de friend... Bachelor... Retired... Always go find piaks piaks last time... Parents no longer around... lives alone... Nowadays sexlife low liao... Always look for my friend/khakis for dinner or go casino.

:D

Thanks for sharing. For me I never agree that marriage is just about sex, just like life is not about money. But with enough sex it makes the marriage wonderful don't you think?

I think before marriage I will have a serious sit down discussion with her, on both our expectations toward each other. Of course we love each other but love is not just a saying but it is comprised of many things that make it work. Household management, respect, caring, honesty, communication, and many things. Sex is also one of it. Sex is physical and intimate, the only factor that differentiates a friendly love with a marriage love. Without good sex life how can one says that a marriage is successful??

[Johnbass]

I thought you have wifi Liao? :eek:

Told u it's my friend de friend de friend liao...
I got many friends.
I friend u ok?

:D

[Johnbass]

Thanks for sharing. For me I never agree that marriage is just about sex, just like life is not about money. But with enough sex it makes the marriage wonderful don't you think?

I think before marriage I will have a serious sit down discussion with her, on both our expectations toward each other. Without good sex life how can one says that a marriage is successful??

If u really considering marriage... Go for marriage counseling bah.
Otherwise it's only your POV vs her POV.
Gets you no where.
Both of you may see the real problem from a 3rd party's POV.
:cool:

[rtmFRs]

I'm thinking of being single again and become a player instead of committed, but I'm worried that I will get lonely when I grow old and cannot fuck anymore. How do you deal with this issue? Will it be lonely? Or the freedom is great?

one question
whats the use of pussy if u can't fxxk
you can always buy drinks for your buddies if you are lonely

[Wintermelontea]

I am not in that age range but I do know one thing:

All relationships need nurturing.


Turning player or what is just a choice. Please do not confuse yourself.

[lotsfits80]

I am not in that age range but I do know one thing:

All relationships need nurturing.


Turning player or what is just a choice. Please do not confuse yourself.

We have been 8 years in a relationship and 4 years of it closely together. We will only be 20s once, 30s once... like Wayne Lai said "人生有多少个十年"?

After the years are gone, do you think I can say "hey, this is not working, let's turn back the clock to 10 years back and try another path"

[Johnbass]

We have been 8 years in a relationship and 4 years of it closely together. We will only be 20s once, 30s once... like Wayne Lai said "人生有多少个十年"?

After the years are gone, do you think I can say "hey, this is not working, let's turn back the clock to 10 years back and try another path"

You also tio the YOLO syndrome ah?
Life choices are never simple.
There is no user guide to a perfect marriage.

Even if everyone vote-who-they-say-they-will-vote come year 2016...
Will FTs be lesser?
Will inflation be lower?
Will sex be better?

:D

[ColdBlood99]

Told u it's my friend de friend de friend liao...
I got many friends.
I friend u ok?

:D

I thought you have more enemies than friends? :eek:

[ColdBlood99]

I agree with what u said. She can be a good wife. This morning while she's preparing to go to work I just sat down and looked at her. She looks so beautiful to me I thought "I love her. I love this girl" then she saw me and said "oi...crazy ah? See what?" Hahaha she's so cute.



Thanks for sharing. For me I never agree that marriage is just about sex, just like life is not about money. But with enough sex it makes the marriage wonderful don't you think?

I think before marriage I will have a serious sit down discussion with her, on both our expectations toward each other. Of course we love each other but love is not just a saying but it is comprised of many things that make it work. Household management, respect, caring, honesty, communication, and many things. Sex is also one of it. Sex is physical and intimate, the only factor that differentiates a friendly love with a marriage love. Without good sex life how can one says that a marriage is successful??

We have been 8 years in a relationship and 4 years of it closely together. We will only be 20s once, 30s once... like Wayne Lai said "人生有多少个十年"?

After the years are gone, do you think I can say "hey, this is not working, let's turn back the clock to 10 years back and try another path"

You must be a good guy and that why your gal is together with for 8 years. Try sit down with her and talk to her your problem. Every problem can be sort out.

[Johnbass]

I thought you have more enemies than friends? :eek:

Was just watching "Ender's Game" yst... got this quote... SMLJ
Whatever it means... lol
:D
Ender Wiggin: In the moment when I truly understand my enemy, understand him well enough to defeat him, then in that very moment I also love him.

[Flinger2]

I read your story and your predicaments.

All the below applies only if you TRULY LOVE your woman.

I can share with you what I have learned over the years :

It is rare or near impossible to find someone who will be compatible with you in all ways , so what you have to do is prioritize what is important to you to the least important . The problem with this is is that priorities change over time as you grow older so you have to be careful in making your decision.

These are the good points about her :

1) Based on your story, it seems she loves you emotionally and you are a priority for her. You want to be married to someone who loves you more that you love her. Trust me this is important when you have problems in your marriage.

2) She financially well to do based on her career as well as her family supporting her. She also knows how to manage finances well. This is key in every marriage and can help a marriage survive. You don't have to worry about finances like a lot of people do.

3) Based on your story, she will look after you when you are down with illness or bad times etc.... This is often hard to find , when bad times come, a lot of people run away. So finding such a person is important.

All these might not seem important now, but are key to married life that will lives forever.

The bad point about her :

1) She has low sex drive and not able to satisfy you.

2) You have disagreements on certain things and viewpoints. She is forceful to say her view is right.

So here is my logical practical thinking advice ( not necessarily moral according to society, but what gives society the right to judge anyone?):

1) For the bad points : Low sex drive, based on what you mention, she had never had sex, so after marriage, and her 1st taste of sex, she might actually change. BUT in case she doesn't, my advice to you is to outsource for the things you can't have. Not to cheat her with another woman ( this is emotional cheating and most woman cannot forgive), but to relieve your urges there are many places you can relieve your sexual urges.

Why do I say this? because over time, as you grow older , your urges will go down or your mind will be more powerful than your urges and thus be able to control it.

I think losing a good woman whom you LOVE just for lack of sex drive is a bad decision which will impact you for life. You might regret later.

Its very hard to find someone you truly LOVE. you can like a person, you can have a companionship but to find a person you truly LOVE is hard and when you do find the person, you should not let go.

You find a workaround for the bad points and the workaround for low sex urge is to outsource.

2) For the disagreements - This happens in every relationship, you just need to sit down and work out a solution for this. Disagreements come out for many reasons, most of times because of ego , pride etc....

Based on what I read about your girl, she seems to feel you are hard to trust based on your past. If you make her trust you, she might actually change quite a bit and you might have more freedom as you put it. =)

If you TRULY LOVE her with all your heart , then the sex drive and disagreement should not matter.

However, if you intending to marry just because you are getting old and you have been with her for so many years, or she has money etc... its the road to disaster. =)

[lotsfits80]

I read your story and your predicaments.

All the below applies only if you TRULY LOVE your woman.

I can share with you what I have learned over the years :

It is rare or near impossible to find someone who will be compatible with you in all ways , so what you have to do is prioritize what is important to you to the least important . The problem with this is is that priorities change over time as you grow older so you have to be careful in making your decision.

These are the good points about her :

1) Based on your story, it seems she loves you emotionally and you are a priority for her. You want to be married to someone who loves you more that you love her. Trust me this is important when you have problems in your marriage.

2) She financially well to do based on her career as well as her family supporting her. She also knows how to manage finances well. This is key in every marriage and can help a marriage survive. You don't have to worry about finances like a lot of people do.

3) Based on your story, she will look after you when you are down with illness or bad times etc.... This is often hard to find , when bad times come, a lot of people run away. So finding such a person is important.

All these might not seem important now, but are key to married life that will lives forever.

The bad point about her :

1) She has low sex drive and not able to satisfy you.

2) You have disagreements on certain things and viewpoints. She is forceful to say her view is right.

So here is my logical practical thinking advice ( not necessarily moral according to society, but what gives society the right to judge anyone?):

1) For the bad points : Low sex drive, based on what you mention, she had never had sex, so after marriage, and her 1st taste of sex, she might actually change. BUT in case she doesn't, my advice to you is to outsource for the things you can't have. Not to cheat her with another woman ( this is emotional cheating and most woman cannot forgive), but to relieve your urges there are many places you can relieve your sexual urges.

Why do I say this? because over time, as you grow older , your urges will go down or your mind will be more powerful than your urges and thus be able to control it.

I think losing a good woman whom you LOVE just for lack of sex drive is a bad decision which will impact you for life. You might regret later.

Its very hard to find someone you truly LOVE. you can like a person, you can have a companionship but to find a person you truly LOVE is hard and when you do find the person, you should not let go.

You find a workaround for the bad points and the workaround for low sex urge is to outsource.

2) For the disagreements - This happens in every relationship, you just need to sit down and work out a solution for this. Disagreements come out for many reasons, most of times because of ego , pride etc....

Based on what I read about your girl, she seems to feel you are hard to trust based on your past. If you make her trust you, she might actually change quite a bit and you might have more freedom as you put it. =)

If you TRULY LOVE her with all your heart , then the sex drive and disagreement should not matter.

However, if you intending to marry just because you are getting old and you have been with her for so many years, or she has money etc... its the road to disaster. =)

Thanks for your thoughtful input. Appreciate it.

I agree with you that priorities will change in life at different stages.

I can just hope that once we have settled down and started making more money and traveling around the world, she will also start to be not so tensed up and enjoy doing activities with me.

But you are right that I love her because she is not like other girls. She is not materialistic, not bitchy and shares the same worldview with me which I really love and I think it's hard to find.

[hoho99]

Hmmm, Ts, have you ever stop and wonder if its you who does not interest her in Sex?

Am sure you have come across many women who engage in sex freely in your encounter in workplace, social circle or even study course. Women nowadays are more empowered because of better education, better access to information and have better financial rewards in their workplace. Thus, you must have seen and know many who does not see herself as a weaker party when it comes to sex.

My point will be TS has to be extra careful in his relationship as he tried to protray his gf as the alpha in the relationship. If you accept the current lifestyle, then in the future don't be sad in anything crops up. Sex is not the only fuel in a couple's life but its a good fuel. But if you let sex run the show in your couple's life then it will soon turn into a nightmare for you too.

[lotsfits80]

Hmmm, Ts, have you ever stop and wonder if its you who does not interest her in Sex?

Am sure you have come across many women who engage in sex freely in your encounter in workplace, social circle or even study course. Women nowadays are more empowered because of better education, better access to information and have better financial rewards in their workplace. Thus, you must have seen and know many who does not see herself as a weaker party when it comes to sex.

My point will be TS has to be extra careful in his relationship as he tried to protray his gf as the alpha in the relationship. If you accept the current lifestyle, then in the future don't be sad in anything crops up. Sex is not the only fuel in a couple's life but its a good fuel. But if you let sex run the show in your couple's life then it will soon turn into a nightmare for you too.

Never had sex before. Not even with any girl. I don't know if it's just me that she doesn't want but I think I will give us more time now.

There were girls I know who actually flirted me, but I think I'm stupid or something I never went further. Once a next-class college mate whom I wasn't really close with, actually invited me to her apartment, alone. Then today I had this colleague msg me "miss u..." And ask me to look for her in her town next time as she is moving...

LOL. I think I have the "tu hua yun" but so far I only dedicate my life to my gf... Although I'm damn horny it's really a wonder how I kept my didi in my pants for so long.

[Johnbass]

Never had sex before. Not even with any girl. I don't know if it's just me that she doesn't want but I think I will give us more time now.

LOL. I think I have the "tu hua yun" but so far I only dedicate my life to my gf... Although I'm damn horny it's really a wonder how I kept my didi in my pants for so long.

U still virgin ah? That explains lah...
I know what medicine can cure you liao.
:D

[SnowLeopards]

Are you extending your WIFI as a remedy Johnny boy ? :D

Pierre.

[dyelook]

8years and not even 1 session. . I truely salute you.. if you still love her then I think you should stay until marriage ( at least you can piak her once on the 1st honeymoon night ).. then maybe after your first piak she'll turn into a sex devil and let you piak her everynite..

ps: 8years liao mah.. still got another 2years only 10years.. if really cannot work out then only consider the single life loh.. ;)

[hella21]

The quality of a relationship is a function of the extent to which it is built on a solid underlying friendship and meets the needs of the two people involved.

You get what you give. When you give better, you get better.

If you put your relationship in a win/lose situation, it will be a lose/lose situation.

Forget whether you're right or wrong. The question is: Is what you're doing working or not working?

There is no right or wrong way to fix a relationship. Find your own way that works. But recognize when it's not working and be honest when it needs fixing.

Falling in love is not the same thing as being in love. Embrace the change and know that it takes work.

You don't fix things by fixing your partner.

Intimacy is so important because it is when we let someone else enter our private world.

You don't necessarily solve problems. You learn how to manage them.

Communicate. Make sure your sentences have verbs. Remember that only 7 percent of communication is verbal. Actions and non-verbal communication speak much louder.

You teach people how to treat you. You can renegotiate the rules.

[newbie14]

i will marry her if i am in your position

she is a good wife material

1 negative (no sex) but so many positives about her!

what if the next girl you find, gives you unlimited sex but get cash from you everytime, behave like ahlian, no dream to pursue, hoping to be taitai.

[lotsfits80]

i will marry her if i am in your position

she is a good wife material

1 negative (no sex) but so many positives about her!

what if the next girl you find, gives you unlimited sex but get cash from you everytime, behave like ahlian, no dream to pursue, hoping to be taitai.

Yes you are right. I will marry her. ;)

[yaoyao1992]

Sex promotes intimacy, reassurance, the realisation that both parties are wanted and needed. Lack of sex in a relationship is a leading factor in break-ups. Once the sex goes, so many other problems follow. There is no doubt that a healthy sex life is one of the most important factors in a thriving and successful marriage.

[porscheclub]

TS, I suggest that you bail out.

I didn't read your full story but as far as my experience confirms, women give sex to have love & men give love to have sex.

When a woman loves you thoroughly, she'll do anything for you. Anything.

Now, I'm not just speaking of sex but when a couple comes together then procreation is a law of nature which means making love, having kids, building a family and growing old together. It encompasses a wholesome cycle lasting a lifetime of happiness, sadness, illness etc.

I don't want to curse you but have several personal friends who were longtime couples only to divorce within a shortspan after marriage. Somehow being in a relationship and marriage are two different situations because a marriage has a far deeper meaning especially when you have kids and the in-laws are involved. It's not just managing a woman but a family, finance, raising kids, relationships with immediate families plus others. Don't worry everyone will learn it along the way but you need an understanding spouse to pull this through.

Now, Sexual relationship is a natural balance for a happy couple & yours is strangely unnatural that's why you popped the question.

8 years & you guys never spoke of marriage/family planning?

Anyway, you're still a freaking virgin. Go lose it to someone meaningful or pay a professional $50 to pop you and excercise that poor little bro. Don't you know that our erection starts to tilt after 25yrs old?!

After a while, you'll realise that sex is like a sports which keeps us fit including ladies & scientists say it keeps us young too ;)

Don't end up like a 40yr-old-virgin & that'll be a real tragedy.

By all means please communicate with her but I have a feeling you're hitting eggs on a stone.

[KaniNababe]

I'm thinking of being single again and become a player instead of committed, but I'm worried that I will get lonely when I grow old and cannot fuck anymore. How do you deal with this issue? Will it be lonely? Or the freedom is great?

I just read your story . I think what the two of you should do is to have a good talk, let her know your expectation and needs. If she is still not willing to give in then seriously she may not be in love with you. Like somebody had mentioned here, women give sex to feel love. Women need to understand the sexual need of the guys and should try to fulfil it. Sorry to say that but i just felt your gf is selfish for ignoring your needs and pride, though most of the bros here advised you to marry her.
On a side note...why are you two considering marriage since you are not planning for kids? Frankly i dont see a point...

[Wintermelontea]

We have been 8 years in a relationship and 4 years of it closely together. We will only be 20s once, 30s once... like Wayne Lai said "人生有多少个十年"?

After the years are gone, do you think I can say "hey, this is not working, let's turn back the clock to 10 years back and try another path"


Let's not kid ourselves to think that something that's broken can be fixed back to it's original intention; especially where matters of heart is concerned. The human mind/brain is complex.

When I broke up with my ex of more than 2 years, I too find it difficult to accept but life goes on. We clearly do not have what it takes to bring us forward longer. Thus, why keep on keeping on? It will only bring us sadness, misery and worse constant bickering. How many 10 years do we have to keep doing this? Not many.

It is the same for you. Since you understand "人生有多少个十年", I am sure you do understand you and her likewise wanted happiness. After all, we should be happy daily (on top of other things) so that we find meaning and fulfilment to our lives, yes?

Breakup after long period of time together is indeed considered "wasted" but unless both can be happy together, I find it meaningless to carry on what you and your partner has.

Winter.

[PeteTsang69]

Yes you are right. I will marry her. ;)

don't do it

relationship is not is maths equation ...

why are you here in sex forum? its bcos u have high sex drive as claimed by you, and sex/physical is important ...:)

take it from a married bro, my sex drive is healthy ...married a low sex drive
didn't know what is good ...kids arrived, sex once only in 4 years at its worst ...out of respect i didn't force her ... but even doing, only one position, dont like kissing (too wet, too hard) don't like nipples sucked, forget oral, forget 69 ..,.

out of physical needs went to HC for release HJ ... for years

then meet a young gal, no not from hc, ...her sex drive healthy, not crazy high ...each session min 2hrs ...me can be hard easliy for 4+ hours ...outdoor sex etc spontaneous, cos like to hug ...

let me tell you the signs that make great bond...
i always hold hands, always hug, always kiss hello and goodbye ...didn't before this gal
and when we kiss ...can kiss long 10+ mins
and corny part is that each kiss feels so fresh :D ... even after 6years +

physical loving bond is purely magically ...until you experience it you don't know what your missing out on, just like me before ...

if want to maths ...do this

high sex drive + low sex drive = 2 unhappy people :(

[MrPleaser]

TS, have you talked about why she does not want sex?
Is it because of religious issues? Or is it something like wanting to have sex only after marriage?
Could it be that she has read that it will be painful and thus is fearful of sex? You need to talk to her about that.
Also, explain your high sex drive to her and see what is her reaction.

But really la, if you still virgin and keep on fantasize about sex, will definitely result in high sex drive.
What if u try liao and find out that your sex drive actually not that high? (maybe sex is not as shiok as you expected?)

Another point to take note if you are marrying your GF is that she is ALPHA.
Are you Alpha? Do you dislike always agreeing to her POV?

Marriage is a relationship where you need to give and take, and not just one person take all the shit.
If you keep on agreeing to her POV, she will not be happy when you disagree in the future.

I have seen a broken marriage partly due to the male being too compliant (keep on agree with wife because he know his wife will not back away from her POV)
This led to much unhappiness and ultimately, them being seperated.

To me, always sticking to your own POV and always not accepting others' POV is not a redeeming quality and I will not consider her for marriage.
But that's just me.

Most important thing is, do you think you can tahan years of always agreeing with your WIFE? (when your POV is not the same?)
My advice to you is not to marry her, unless you think you can spend the rest of your life agreeing to her POV even when it is ridiculous.

[Greenfrog]

TS, I suggest that you bail out.

I didn't read your full story but as far as my experience confirms, women give sex to have love & men give love to have sex.

When a woman loves you thoroughly, she'll do anything for you. Anything.

Now, I'm not just speaking of sex but when a couple comes together then procreation is a law of nature which means making love, having kids, building a family and growing old together. It encompasses a wholesome cycle lasting a lifetime of happiness, sadness, illness etc.

I don't want to curse you but have several personal friends who were longtime couples only to divorce within a shortspan after marriage. Somehow being in a relationship and marriage are two different situations because a marriage has a far deeper meaning especially when you have kids and the in-laws are involved. It's not just managing a woman but a family, finance, raising kids, relationships with immediate families plus others. Don't worry everyone will learn it along the way but you need an understanding spouse to pull this through.

Now, Sexual relationship is a natural balance for a happy couple & yours is strangely unnatural that's why you popped the question.

8 years & you guys never spoke of marriage/family planning?

Anyway, you're still a freaking virgin. Go lose it to someone meaningful or pay a professional $50 to pop you and excercise that poor little bro. Don't you know that our erection starts to tilt after 25yrs old?!

After a while, you'll realise that sex is like a sports which keeps us fit including ladies & scientists say it keeps us young too ;)

Don't end up like a 40yr-old-virgin & that'll be a real tragedy.

By all means please communicate with her but I have a feeling you're hitting eggs on a stone.

Well said bro, i always feel sex is an important factor in a marriage. A marriage with no sex is a marriage with no love

[TedBear]

There is a difference between , " Fucking all the girls of the world" and getting married.

Fucking is all about lust...pleasure...new experiences... enjoyment.....

Getting married is about emotions, companionship , living together and experiencing life up and down as the life keep going without stopping, aging together etc....

When you get confused and think both they are one and the same , people often make disastrous decisions.

You got to ask yourself . What do you want and go for both or only the one you want.

Once you can differentiate them and have a clear mind, you can them make a good decision for different needs .

Yup.. Very true. You need to ask yourself deep inside your heart what you want in your life. Some bros have cheong enough and fuck enough and want to settle down and live together with the one he loved for the rest of his life. But some bros may still be experiencing the lust and fun being a player and never want to be tied down. So to each his own, there's really no correct answer to this one.

[unsung80]

4 words for you.

Look for a shrink.

[porscheclub]

Well said bro, i always feel sex is an important factor in a marriage. A marriage with no sex is a marriage with no love

Thanks bro & you're right.

A good wife understands that it's her duty to satisfy her husband's needs & vice versa. A relationship is about balance, we also need to fulfill our duty & responsibilities. Eg. My kids drive wife crazy so once in a while, I'll take over so that she can unwind with her friends for a night out & I'll insist that she dress sexily with the shortest skirt possible so she'll be the star and attract men. Women loves attention & we like the heat so it steams our relationship :p

4 words for you.

Look for a shrink.

Hahaha short & blunt but it's right

[Dumbell]

I feel love & sex is equally important. From what I read you obviously still love her. Just that she not interested in sex and cannot satisfy you. This part can like what bro said , go find those doc specialist in sex (dun know the actual name lol) they maybe can find out the reason why she behave like that and made her normal again.

If all this fail then you start consider single again. Is not that asking you to leave her becos cannot fuck her, just that marriage or relationship , no sex or no love cannot work de I feel.

My colleague wife also like that, my colleague 1 month also dun know got fuck her once Bo, also say tired after work, not interested..etc but after see doc now thing getting better.

[KingOfChangPing]

No point fuck so many. End of day we need our soulmate there to send us to heaven

[zan888]

I'm thinking of being single again and become a player instead of committed, but I'm worried that I will get lonely when I grow old and cannot fuck anymore. How do you deal with this issue? Will it be lonely? Or the freedom is great?

Depends on your character? Some people value companionship and need someone to be around. If so simple as sex then gelyang etc is easy. Next problem is that you may find a girl whom you really like, both in bed and outside. If you want commitment, you have to give commitment yeah? That's how most people end up getting married. Problem arises when both interest are not aligned, maybe say one person like excitement and like the falling in love phase or a myriad of many other things.

In the end as guys, we can always find partner..but whether good or bad, depends, provided we have $. Even old can find partner but of course you target SYT then u need to sponsor, target milfs better chance. Sometimes things r just fated so go with the flow?

[ChinHo]

bro

The freedom is great and it will be lonely

I'm thinking of being single again and become a player instead of committed, but I'm worried that I will get lonely when I grow old and cannot fuck anymore. How do you deal with this issue? Will it be lonely? Or the freedom is great?