Feeling hopeless over physical appearance

[StoolPigeon]

Please pardon me as i know this is not exactly a commercial sex related issue, but i really need a place where i can get some solid advices, and probably some bros here might have experienced some of the issues i faced.

All my life i have been battling with issues that is affecting my physical appearance badly. I am short (1.68m), have a very sensitive skin condition which gives me bad rashes, awful physical built (my head is big, body is small) and now to make things painfully hard to accept, i have a badly receding hairline & basically going bald.

If not for all these physical defects, I am very certain I will be like most of my peers settled down with a wife and probably have a young child at my age now (30 this year). But instead, I’m draining up both financially and emotionally having to deal with these physical issues one after another – coming to terms with being short and dealing with my skin condition. After spending a lot of money on treatment (consulting skin specialist, laser treatment) and effort for close to 2 years, my skin condition is now finally under control. And just when i thought i could finally accept myself and move on with life, my hair loss deteriorate very badly in the recent one year and now i have an awfully receded hairline (and some balding on the top).

And the emotional cost to my life is immeasurable too – my relative asked my mom if I was a homosexual because of “the way I looked and I cannot seemed to find a gf for quite long”. At work, some of my colleagues passed pretty nasty comments like it’s obvious I find it a challenge to date gals cos I am not tall and now going bald.

And I can’t blame people because it’s a truth that I am indeed short, lacking in physique and to matter matters worse, my hairline is receding awfully bad now.

[jnudes]

Please pardon me as i know this is not exactly a commercial sex related issue, but i really need a place where i can get some solid advices, and probably some bros here might have experienced some of the issues i faced.

All my life i have been battling with issues that is affecting my physical appearance badly. I am short (1.68m), have a very sensitive skin condition which gives me bad rashes, awful physical built (my head is big, body is small) and now to make things painfully hard to accept, i have a badly receding hairline & basically going bald.

If not for all these physical defects, I am very certain I will be like most of my peers settled down with a wife and probably have a young child at my age now (30 this year). But instead, I’m draining up both financially and emotionally having to deal with these physical issues one after another – coming to terms with being short and dealing with my skin condition. After spending a lot of money on treatment (consulting skin specialist, laser treatment) and effort for close to 2 years, my skin condition is now finally under control. And just when i thought i could finally accept myself and move on with life, my hair loss deteriorate very badly in the recent one year and now i have an awfully receded hairline (and some balding on the top).

And the emotional cost to my life is immeasurable too – my relative asked my mom if I was a homosexual because of “the way I looked and I cannot seemed to find a gf for quite long”. At work, some of my colleagues passed pretty nasty comments like it’s obvious I find it a challenge to date gals cos I am not tall and now going bald.

And I can’t blame people because it’s a truth that I am indeed short, lacking in physique and to matter matters worse, my hairline is receding awfully bad now.

bro, I understand your frustration as you are single and dealing with your bald hair. I am in my mid thirties, single and some parts of my front hair are getting thinner and after getting exposed to sunlight can see some bald part.

Many say getting bald is sign of bad luck and turn off for girls. I agree with that. However, although I am much older than you and I do not pressure myself to get married.

I see no point, as divorce is also on the rise these days too.

As for my bald head thing, luckily it's not that serious yet. When I comb my hair properly the bald part can still be concealed.

Believe or not last time I rejected a relatives idea trying to introduce a single lady for me to get married. My excuse is that for marriage thing I can handle by myself. In this era I do not believe in match-maker thing anymore.

I do have one married male ex-classmate who is already bald by the age of 30 years and start a family oredi (one child).

However, after getting married he rejected the idea of turning up for the ex-classmate reunion. He used to do that during his single days.

Could it be of his bald head that he refused to turn up? The bald head topic always rises when we mention his name. Is he feeling inferior due of his bald
head? I think very much so.

If that the case I think you should not look down on yourself due to your physical outlook. Do not give pressure on yourself. Just live as normal as possible and ignore what other people say behind your back.

I would stay away and avoid the relatives that are saying all sorts of nasty things behind me. Why do you need them to kepo about your private life?

They simply do not understand what you are going but keep pressuring you to get married. Do you want to be emotionally ruined until you lose your job someday?

Simply lead a happy single life and ignore what other people say. Of course I am not suggesting you to be single forever. For sure you can start and try dating again. I am sure there would be someone who can accept you of your current condition.

[xxNoobzxx]

Use 'caboki' to cover up the baldness. Trust me it works like magic. Use minoxidil (available over the counter) and propecia (doctor prescription) to prevent your hairloss from getting worse. Hope my first post help save you years of headache

[lanus]

Please pardon me as i know this is not exactly a commercial sex related issue, but i really need a place where i can get some solid advices, and probably some bros here might have experienced some of the issues i faced.

All my life i have been battling with issues that is affecting my physical appearance badly. I am short (1.68m), have a very sensitive skin condition which gives me bad rashes, awful physical built (my head is big, body is small) and now to make things painfully hard to accept, i have a badly receding hairline & basically going bald.

If not for all these physical defects, I am very certain I will be like most of my peers settled down with a wife and probably have a young child at my age now (30 this year). But instead, I’m draining up both financially and emotionally having to deal with these physical issues one after another – coming to terms with being short and dealing with my skin condition. After spending a lot of money on treatment (consulting skin specialist, laser treatment) and effort for close to 2 years, my skin condition is now finally under control. And just when i thought i could finally accept myself and move on with life, my hair loss deteriorate very badly in the recent one year and now i have an awfully receded hairline (and some balding on the top).

And the emotional cost to my life is immeasurable too – my relative asked my mom if I was a homosexual because of “the way I looked and I cannot seemed to find a gf for quite long”. At work, some of my colleagues passed pretty nasty comments like it’s obvious I find it a challenge to date gals cos I am not tall and now going bald.

And I can’t blame people because it’s a truth that I am indeed short, lacking in physique and to matter matters worse, my hairline is receding awfully bad now.

I am short like you. hairline is getting deeper too. But I seriously do not think being single and not starting a family just because you are 30 is of an issue.
Reason being, i do not start a family because i do not want to. I am 30 like you. We are pretty similar bro. I am not handsome guy. Just got to believe and if your colleagues think they are some smart ass by giving some inconsiderable remarks on you.

Work hard, out smart them and they will look up to you.

[lixiao17]

If height is 1.68 is considered short for asian then... there are a lot of guys are below 1.68...

The glass is half empty or half filled makes hell lots of different...

[Intltuk]

Think u've low self-esteem issues. Like a bro says, u're always looking at a 1/2 glass of water as 1/2 empty rather than 1/2 full. Cont'd on like this and u will only hurt urself further.

Eg, u view 1.68m as short.....but u're taller than majority of women. Some men wish they had ur height.

Body can be sculpt to be wat u want....go bodybuilding, exercise. Receding hair......stats show 40% of males lose their hair...urs is a little sooner than most but I know friends who are bald, in their 30s and are happily married.

Think u need professional help to change ur perception of urself.

[ColdBlood99]

If you are looking down yourself then nobody can help you.

[Advanced]

Bro, if your considering your issue bad.. There is worst out there. :(
Some are even suffering with daily pain while having to bare the family responsibility.
And i know some whose at mid 20s which are suffering from liver issues cause of family heritage illness like gout.

[Big Sexy]

this fellow has the same physical attribute as you do. i heard he is married and doing well. actually going bald is a good thing.. you save on your hair cut..

http://asianwiki.com/images/8/87/Erictsang.jpg


And I can’t blame people because it’s a truth that I am indeed short, lacking in physique and to matter matters worse, my hairline is receding awfully bad now.

[sammyboyfor]

And I can’t blame people because it’s a truth that I am indeed short, lacking in physique and to matter matters worse, my hairline is receding awfully bad now.

This guy is in a far worse state than you are but he's had no problems getting a girl.... a very sexy and gorgeous one too :D

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=da5QQSxSsGY

[real_king]

i thght he was talking about me.

i am 1.68, skin sensitive, bad breath..etc. heng i managed to shed all my kilos from 90kg to 75kg..and plus my head is super big. body things.

You see yourself no up = nobody will see u up.

[lixiao17]

Bottom line is... what makes a man attractive is not really the pretty face. Its his confident and his wallet...

[black88]

there is always someone for you.

Singapore is a dot but also got so many people.

No need to scare.

[porscheclub]

Dude, I'm about your height & was a pilot trainee. 5feet 6 is not that bad since many regional gals are shorter than 1.6.

Two of my ex were over 1.7 & they can't live without 3-4" heels ;) It's pretty cool to have a taller lady purring on you like a kitten & I don't even have 6" cock but still dated them for few years, in fact both are nymphos. One even fucked me while I was on the hospital bed with pipes hooked up to my hand!

Balding is not a choice but your genes and might help with the food you eat + drink. Shave it all & be cool then hit a wardrobe specialist. Sounds like you should also take up gym.

Everyone's a champion, you just need to find it inside you.

[3someking]

Bro remember this rule, Love yourself before loving others.

How are u suppose to give love to others if you u dun love urself.

Its the same concept as if u are not able to feed urself, how are u suppose to feed someone else's daughter?

Good luck! :)

[milfmilf]

if the girl expect you to be tall then she is shallow

tall or big size so what? make a better construction worker? :D

[milfmilf]

a friend got very difficult to control skin problem and he thinks he will never get a wife that can accept him ... sad lah

[StoolPigeon]

Thanks for all the advice and encouragement given :)

I am not sure if anyone can relate to this. But many times i wake up feeling energetic & good... until i look into the mirror and see my awfully thinning & receding hairline. And i look like a cancer patient with my thinning hair and pale complexion & scrawny physique, no matter how good i feel inside.

It's not so much about attracting gals for that matter. For a long time, I have always fought hard to keep those gloomy thoughts away. I tell myself, although I can’t do anything about my height, but I can still look good with some hard work! With my hair nicely styled up, put on a nice shirt and pair of good shoes – I still stand a fighting chance.

But it’s like even my last thread of mental support got taken away when my hairline starts to recede badly and a growing bald patch at the top of my head. Suddenly, all these got to me very badly … there are days where I just feel so depressed that I will take mc to stay at home, lose interest in things such as meeting up with friends like i used to.

[StoolPigeon]

Simply lead a happy single life and ignore what other people say. Of course I am not suggesting you to be single forever. For sure you can start and try dating again. I am sure there would be someone who can accept you of your current condition.

Thanks for the kind words bro. Truly appreciate all the advice given here.

I am not exactly worried about not being able to find a partner. It's just that i hate the way i look.

But who wouldn't, if they were in my shoes right?

[PPGirl]

Thanks for the kind words bro. Truly appreciate all the advice given here.

I am not exactly worried about not being able to find a partner. It's just that i hate the way i look.

But who wouldn't, if they were in my shoes right?

Stop complaining. U are much more fortunate than pple who are diagnosed with cancer. They have to go through chemo.. see their hair dropped day by day even though they dun wish to. And undergoin alot of pain too.

For ur info, if u are stressed or worried too much, hair will dropped too.

I think 1 thing u lack is self confidence. Anyway u mentioned took mc to stay at hm, lost interest in things ..these are some symptoms of depression. But then since u join this forum, i think u are not that depressed at all LoLz. So after getting all the kind advices, what is ur next step?

[rulers]

Please pardon me as i know this is not exactly a commercial sex related issue, but i really need a place where i can get some solid advices, and probably some bros here might have experienced some of the issues i faced.

All my life i have been battling with issues that is affecting my physical appearance badly. I am short (1.68m), have a very sensitive skin condition which gives me bad rashes, awful physical built (my head is big, body is small) and now to make things painfully hard to accept, i have a badly receding hairline & basically going bald.

If not for all these physical defects, I am very certain I will be like most of my peers settled down with a wife and probably have a young child at my age now (30 this year). But instead, I’m draining up both financially and emotionally having to deal with these physical issues one after another – coming to terms with being short and dealing with my skin condition. After spending a lot of money on treatment (consulting skin specialist, laser treatment) and effort for close to 2 years, my skin condition is now finally under control. And just when i thought i could finally accept myself and move on with life, my hair loss deteriorate very badly in the recent one year and now i have an awfully receded hairline (and some balding on the top).

And the emotional cost to my life is immeasurable too – my relative asked my mom if I was a homosexual because of “the way I looked and I cannot seemed to find a gf for quite long”. At work, some of my colleagues passed pretty nasty comments like it’s obvious I find it a challenge to date gals cos I am not tall and now going bald.

And I can’t blame people because it’s a truth that I am indeed short, lacking in physique and to matter matters worse, my hairline is receding awfully bad now.

Actually if it is really ezcema skin rashes, there is no cure. It usually inflicts the sufferer during his late teens to late 20s and just stays dormant for a number of years by the time one reaches around 30 but the severe skin rashes will come back again when the person reaches his 40s. Becos this problem is inherent in his genes And medication and medical treatment cannot make the ezcema skin rashes get cured permanently.

I have 1 relative he had bad rashes during his teens to around 28, then suddenly his skin rashes just disappear for many years. Then when he reached around 40, his ezcema skin rashes return to inflict his skin in even worse severity than during his 20plus-years-old time.

All the skin doctors also told him this condition got no permanent cure and can only maintain becos it will surely come back to inflict the person in his later years again becos this condition is in his genes.

This is not to scare you becos this is really true and it really happened to someone.

[greatdane88]

My advice is cut botak and train your body.

it is cool to many people out there and you will look clean.

Pm me if you ever need help in grooming yourself.

Not any expert but pretty sure i can do the task well enough.

[sammyboyfor]

But it’s like even my last thread of mental support got taken away when my hairline starts to recede badly and a growing bald patch at the top of my head.

http://www.hairtransplantnetwork.com/ ;)

http://www.hairtransplantnetwork.com/hair_transplant_photos/Dr_Pathomvanich/hair-transplant-surgery-photo-front-162443.jpg

[fictionman]

If 1.68 is consider short in ur eyes, then im a hobbit at 1.67...

Bro...Keep ur chin up...

[malou]

1.68 short.. u know average sg guy height is 1.706m, according to http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_height

You are average height..

[arsenal_84]

I also have receding hair line...at the age of 30, I'm single too.
At a mere 1.7, I'm also no taller.
So at some point if my hairline get serious, i will consider 2 by 1 or even botok.
Quite like the 2 by 1 square top since my ndu days lol especially in hot weather like this.
I ever heard the phrase "bald is beautiful" from clubsnap forum, though i can't really understand it at the moment, i believed someday i will.
Stay positive and the good vibes will shine from within yourself.

[pleasurehobby]

Thanks for all the advice and encouragement given :)

I am not sure if anyone can relate to this. But many times i wake up feeling energetic & good... until i look into the mirror and see my awfully thinning & receding hairline. And i look like a cancer patient with my thinning hair and pale complexion & scrawny physique, no matter how good i feel inside.

It's not so much about attracting gals for that matter. For a long time, I have always fought hard to keep those gloomy thoughts away. I tell myself, although I can’t do anything about my height, but I can still look good with some hard work! With my hair nicely styled up, put on a nice shirt and pair of good shoes – I still stand a fighting chance.

But it’s like even my last thread of mental support got taken away when my hairline starts to recede badly and a growing bald patch at the top of my head. Suddenly, all these got to me very badly … there are days where I just feel so depressed that I will take mc to stay at home, lose interest in things such as meeting up with friends like i used to.

it is easy to say, but the truth still stands.
Only when a person can truely appreciate and accepts himself, then can he enjoy life moving forward.
Instead of think and glooming about what you have lost, focus on what you have.
A working body, 4 limbs, sustainable income, food to eat everyday.
We are more fotunate than we think we are.
Ask yourself this question, if today an unfortunate accident happens (touch wood), and god only allow you one thing, between losing hair, or losing an arm or a leg, which one would you lose?

[demonhunter]

I have seen Chio bu with fucking short , fat n ugly man .

The answer ? MONEY !

Fann Wong used to have a fat boyfriend , he is quite a loaded guy .

Sometimes its more on confidence , off course being clean cut is essential .

Having the bod and looks does have an advantage though .But nothing beats cash rich !

:D

[hunter2005]

bro TS, to let u know.. i know this gal, whom is my wife's friend.. she is pretty, slim, outgoing, n energetic and also come from a wealth family.. a NUS graduate.. nice right.. solid gal right... we use to have gathering during festive season... one of the guy friend whom is shorter than her by a head, by the way this gal shld b ard 167+-, hair problem like u.. seriously getting bold... age 20++ but u ask someone tat dont know him sure say 30++, o level education, taking home 2k+, from poor family staying in a v old 3 rooms flat... but but.... he is those v sunny guy, helpful.. u got a problem... he will help u in what everway he can... end of the day... both stay together n have 2 children... n the gal move to stay with him in hdb from a private landed property... moral of the story... if any so call friends or gal teasing ur look or mking u feel damm inferior.. they r not worth to b mention by u... shut them off kick them out of ur life...

167m is not short seriously... regarding ur hair problem... if i was u.. i go get it cut till botak.. skin head.. cool..

body feature can go exercise... whether it turn out solid or not is one thing, but trust me, regular exercise will definately make u more self confident....

just b positive / happy.. a positive singal will attract positive ppl.

as for got partner / gf / wife.. this one individual.. u can ask around alot of our married bro will rather not tie the knot if they can start all over again.. haha..

[MissyMystery]

Hi TS,
If a person judge you by looks without knowing you, then just forget about it.
Personally, i feel inner beauty take precedence over physical appearance.
I only make friends to people who are genuine by nature, not because they are cute, handsome. Mostly guys who are handsome tend to think highly of themselves, and they are not as caring and helpful to ladies. As you know, females are emotional beings. Hence, if you feel you are lacking in appearance, you could work hard on being more thoughtful, gentleman, helpful to others in your everyday life (as it's more impt how you carry yourself), or just concentrate on your career.
I'm sure you have other ways to impress girls other than looks. (E.g. Sense of humour, being sophisticated) be positive, cheerful. Don't frown, you never know who is falling in love with your smile :D

Lastly, Ladies appreciate guys who know how to treat them well. ;) good luck!

[StoolPigeon]

http://www.hairtransplantnetwork.com/ ;)


This seems a plausible solution! thanks :)

[StoolPigeon]

Stop complaining. U are much more fortunate than pple who are diagnosed with cancer. They have to go through chemo.. see their hair dropped day by day even though they dun wish to. And undergoin alot of pain too.
I think 1 thing u lack is self confidence.

I know such a response towards my problem is pretty common.

For example, if i tell others that i am depressed because i am short, balding & ugly, it is not something that everyone can relate to. Some common response would be "you should stop whining" or "you are just being superficial".

However, now let's say it's about a guy who overcome poverty to become rich & successful. It's natural for him to earn the respect of everyone around him.

But who's to say the struggle of having to overcome being short, bald or any physical defects is not as tough as that of being poor?

If i ever had a choice, i would rather come from a very poor family, but i have a good height and normal hair. At least i know that 10 years from now, as long as i work hard and save up, there is nothing to stop me from becoming rich or at least comfortable.

But if you are short, genetically balding or ugly, no amount of money or determination can change your destiny by much in that aspect.

[StoolPigeon]

Stay positive and the good vibes will shine from within yourself.

it is easy to say, but the truth still stands.
Only when a person can truely appreciate and accepts himself, then can he enjoy life moving forward.



Having the bod and looks does have an advantage though .But nothing beats cash rich !
:D


just b positive / happy.. a positive singal will attract positive ppl.
married bro will rather not tie the knot if they can start all over again.. haha..

Thanks for all the encouragement & positive energy bros :)

Actually I've always been a fairly positive person all my life despite a whole load of health issues.

[happigirl]

Dear Bro, Sis here...

I have gone through a similar period of being very ugly. I was obese, short and pimply. People around me keep giving me advice of how I can beautify myself to be more pleasing in the looks department. I became low self esteem and slightly depressed from all this.

Luckily, I grew out of this stage from observing others and became slimmer with smoother skin as I learn to exercise, keep a strict diet and learn to exert myself to be confident in front of others.

You are not alone...if you sit down outside and observe the crowd, you will notice many couples who look "ugly" but very in love with each other. True love is never never about the looks. It is very much whether the both of you share the same frequency and care for one another. Even the most beautiful couple will "wilt" with age.

Tell yourself that you are not the only person with this concern and put it behind you. Walk out of your shell and join activities that will let you meet like minded females. (This I speak from my own experience.) Most likely you will meet someone suitable and move on to the family life shared with someone who treasures you...all the best!

happigirl @-}--

[subidowa]

Dear TS,

I sort of pity u that are still very concern about ur physical state instead of fighting for ur future. Last time I also have issue about whether I am handsome or good enough for girls etc. But now I realise most of them are right actually, it is not how u look, rather how thick is ur wallet and ur confidence. To get girls, the first time u have to do is improve ur life and be richer.

I always struggle with my weight issue, I also experience hair loss issue, last time I also got a lot of pimples. My schoolmate called me a ball chasing a ball during soccer match. My girls school mates, they dun talk to me cause they want nothing to do with me.

Now, Im not the same anymore. Even though, I am getting fatter like 100 kg liao due to organising parties and drinking too much, the girls never stop pouring themselves at me. Now I dun even wanna settle down.

Maybe if u can join me at my outing next time, I wont charge u anything. Just to help u and give advice. Hair loss can hide, I am hiding. Confidence can be built, money can be earned, girls are plentiful. What is there to worry about???????

[senny86]

bro dont be sad, i am nearing 30s and i only have a gf once in my life.

now still alone. i am no difference from you ;)

but if you live your life to the fullest, whats there to worry about settling down or not?

go take on challenges which you never encounter before. Take up courses which you think you might not even consider!

life is always grey if you don't inject color into it ! Cheer up Ts bro! :D

[curious11]

Hey c'mon man...

Don't take it so hard on yourself man..

Other people have their own sets of problems as well..

A lot of guys have receding hairlines.. for guys not that bad, what if it's for a girl. It's much worse isn't it..

Don't forget, let me name you a few bald, good looking guys (i am in no way gay!!),
- Short and Rounded body bald: Vin Diesel
- Short and Fit Bald : Jason Statham
- Tall and Fit Bald: Dwayne Johnson

I myself am having lesser hair, but no problem, i'll just shave when i get to that stage..

Count your blessings to be yourself. There are many people who have more problems than us man.. You can't do anything to increase your height, nor your hair to come back to you. But if it's physical you're on about, how about going to gym? workout and stuff, get your body ripped... this is one physical thing that you can control.

[iCoPuLaTe]

Short cannot find gf mea? got also not so tall females mah, maybe not yet met them...i personelly know some tat is like 150cm or 155cm...cos my wife 159cm...

Glad to hear ur skin is better now...

Hair blading> you can either change style give it botak lor..i hv fren that also blading then he make it like monk, it looks way better then trying to hide the fact...(still leave some hair really not nice imho...)
*That is; if you willing to change.

Dun go care wat ur colliegues or relatives say...Be yourself, must hv confidence..

Maybe try do some exercise & tone up a bit, make head like monks (my friend really do it & look very cool), wear tinted spec, give it a different style & a new lease of life for yourself.

[discordpiggy]

TS, I am literally judged all the time.

I am not pretty, have poor face complexion aka the female version of Mark Lee Guo Huang, not pretty features, flat pancake face and I have recently developed hives due to the heat when I returned back to SG.

When I was young, a singapore guy once told me this: "You are below average look as compared to any singapore girl."

One of my xboss also said this:"because you do not have the look and figure, you cannot do sales."

Don't feel bad about yourself. you don't need to hide. all you have to do is dress well and comfortably in your own skill. The confidence aura in you will attract people. Honestly, there are people that have real medical issues.

Like you, because of my ugly features and large pores with acne scars on my face, I also went into hiding. I hide for 12yrs and can say that I am still hiding as I write this to you.

But I am slowly and trying to build my confidence to meet people. Of course, it is easier said than done. Just recently, someone said I am ugly went I meet them for the first time both in person and in SMS. Just when I decide to come out and meet people I get criticised for being ugly again. It hurts and make me want to go back into hiding and yes, I went back into hiding.

So just try in baby steps to meet people, of course there are bound to have people who criticise you the first time. :)

[maxsee]

I think if physical appearance is a huge problem...just go for plastic surgery...I have a couple of friends who did that and it boost their confidence level greatly....:D:D:D

[subidowa]

I know such a response towards my problem is pretty common.

For example, if i tell others that i am depressed because i am short, balding & ugly, it is not something that everyone can relate to. Some common response would be "you should stop whining" or "you are just being superficial".

However, now let's say it's about a guy who overcome poverty to become rich & successful. It's natural for him to earn the respect of everyone around him.

But who's to say the struggle of having to overcome being short, bald or any physical defects is not as tough as that of being poor?

If i ever had a choice, i would rather come from a very poor family, but i have a good height and normal hair. At least i know that 10 years from now, as long as i work hard and save up, there is nothing to stop me from becoming rich or at least comfortable.

But if you are short, genetically balding or ugly, no amount of money or determination can change your destiny by much in that aspect.



I think u are seriously wrong man. I have many taller, yandao and smarter friends who wish to live like how I am living. Of course like I say before, short ugly and balding all these CAN SERIOUSLY be overcome by money and confident. U just have to learn how to do it. Firstly I must say money is very important. If u are rich and came from rich family, ur upbringing will be better u can do much more and expose much more. Girls dun suck on looks.... girls want something different from what they already know. Being interesting and smart and knowing more things in the society will make u so shiny among all those tall yandao but stupid guys. Ok not say stupid but normal working guys living and earning just to survive.

Money gives u confident too so try to get more of it. Seriously, when u are financially independent u can enjoy life and do much more. U have more time to date and try different stuffs. Life is not about girls too. On the materialistic term, which sg girl will wanna married a tall yandao but useless guy to suffer for life. U have to improve and get to a point u choose pple instead of them choosing u.

I have been thru ur kind of suffering before so I know. I have so much advices for u but dunno how to type here la. Today I might drop by FCLUB after my date. U can link up with me there. I show u how we play and party there. hahahah. PM me if u are keen.

[subidowa]

TS, I am literally judged all the time.

I am not pretty, have poor face complexion aka the female version of Mark Lee Guo Huang, not pretty features, flat pancake face and I have recently developed hives due to the heat when I returned back to SG.

When I was young, a singapore guy once told me this: "You are below average look as compared to any singapore girl."

One of my xboss also said this:"because you do not have the look and figure, you cannot do sales."

Don't feel bad about yourself. you don't need to hide. all you have to do is dress well and comfortably in your own skill. The confidence aura in you will attract people. Honestly, there are people that have real medical issues.

Like you, because of my ugly features and large pores with acne scars on my face, I also went into hiding. I hide for 12yrs and can say that I am still hiding as I write this to you.

But I am slowly and trying to build my confidence to meet people. Of course, it is easier said than done. Just recently, someone said I am ugly went I meet them for the first time both in person and in SMS. Just when I decide to come out and meet people I get criticised for being ugly again. It hurts and make me want to go back into hiding and yes, I went back into hiding.

So just try in baby steps to meet people, of course there are bound to have people who criticise you the first time. :)

All those pple u know last time are CB kia.... IF they are so yandao pretty or successful and rich. THey wont be in ur social circle and talk to u liao. They will be in their own circles. So what does that mean. THey are still the same as u, they are not much better. Dun take it to heart. They are just bullshitting. I can find a girl ugly but I will not tell her in the face. A girl can be ugly but the body is something u can work on. I appreciate girls with good body but normal face lo.

[discordpiggy]

All those pple u know last time are CB kia.... IF they are so yandao pretty or successful and rich. THey wont be in ur social circle and talk to u liao. They will be in their own circles. So what does that mean. THey are still the same as u, they are not much better. Dun take it to heart. They are just bullshitting. I can find a girl ugly but I will not tell her in the face. A girl can be ugly but the body is something u can work on. I appreciate girls with good body but normal face lo.

many thanks for the tip!!! I do not even have normal face, cos i only wanted normal, i am way below normal due to my skin like Mark Lee Guo Huang - orange peel skin.

and yes the one who said that I am ugly is a 48yo married short fart with 4 kids and a fat/half breed wife! he sure is one CBkia cos he is constantly looking for women to let his fat/half breed wife and himself to swing. too much sex has gone into his head! siao chong nao!

anyways too bad I neither have the body because i put on so much weight when I return to SG from staying overseas and it is a pain trying to loose it until now I can't eat and do not enjoy eating food anymore due to extreme dieting.

well i do have 1 or 2 honest friends that will msg me for no rhyme or reason and these are the friends that are genuine cos they just want to say hi to me and ask me out as real friend. greatly appreciate them. :D

i do hope to find a few more of such friends. :)

[subidowa]

many thanks for the tip!!! I do not even have normal face, cos i only wanted normal, i am way below normal due to my skin like Mark Lee Guo Huang - orange peel skin.

and yes the one who said that I am ugly is a 48yo married short fart with 4 kids and a fat/half breed wife! he sure is one CBkia cos he is constantly looking for women to let his fat/half breed wife and himself to swing. too much sex has gone into his head! siao chong nao!

anyways too bad I neither have the body because i put on so much weight when I return to SG from staying overseas and it is a pain trying to loose it until now I can't eat and do not enjoy eating food anymore due to extreme dieting.

well i do have 1 or 2 honest friends that will msg me for no rhyme or reason and these are the friends that are genuine cos they just want to say hi to me and ask me out as real friend. greatly appreciate them. :D

i do hope to find a few more of such friends. :)

What kao...... So short and old plus the wife so fat who wanna swing with them. Nabei.... erxin. I rather go club drink with my promoters get them high and gang bang with my bros....Some more they are local young and hot......

One thing I always learn in life. A person can be really lousy or ugly but never insult or shame them. U can beat them but not beat the face. Physical pain can be forgotten but feeling of hurt will be remembered for life.

[Intltuk]

many thanks for the tip!!! I do not even have normal face, cos i only wanted normal, i am way below normal due to my skin like Mark Lee Guo Huang - orange peel skin.

and yes the one who said that I am ugly is a 48yo married short fart with 4 kids and a fat/half breed wife! he sure is one CBkia cos he is constantly looking for women to let his fat/half breed wife and himself to swing. too much sex has gone into his head! siao chong nao!

anyways too bad I neither have the body because i put on so much weight when I return to SG from staying overseas and it is a pain trying to loose it until now I can't eat and do not enjoy eating food anymore due to extreme dieting.

well i do have 1 or 2 honest friends that will msg me for no rhyme or reason and these are the friends that are genuine cos they just want to say hi to me and ask me out as real friend. greatly appreciate them. :D

i do hope to find a few more of such friends. :)
Sis, such pple are superficial and not worth ur time or friendship; even if u look like Miss Universe...they're still superficial as they are still not ur friends.

Hving said tat, weight can be resolve by exercise and sensible eating....note tat I did not say diet :D. Acne scars can be reduce/eliminate thru exfoliation treatment....but end at the end of the day...it's the inner u tat matters. Outer beauty is transient....inner beauty is lifetime :D.

Bros/sis, don't let shallow/insecure pple put u down; they only do so as tat is the only way that can make themselves feel good.

[discordpiggy]

What kao...... So short and old plus the wife so fat who wanna swing with them. Nabei.... erxin. I rather go club drink with my promoters get them high and gang bang with my bros....Some more they are local young and hot......

One thing I always learn in life. A person can be really lousy or ugly but never insult or shame them. U can beat them but not beat the face. Physical pain can be forgotten but feeling of hurt will be remembered for life.

got! still have people wanna swing with them i guess! but i ain't going to even IF ONE day I will swing. cos to me they are uber uncouth and low class! their engrish is sibei lousy nvm, but they openly defame me and my bros who stood up to me. so that shows everyone what their character is. I also understand many couples have avoided them, hence that 48yo HOG is constantly looking out for girls for his swinging...

the bros that stood up for me never think lowly of me despite my looks. they know what I am capable of and I also have full respect for these 2 bros because they have great personalities and capabilities!

that's thinking back I need to thank that imbecile 48yo HOG siao chong nao man! if it is not for his imbecile behaviour and utter brainless attitudes, I won't have known 2 great bros who will side me no matter what. :D

strangely, people say sex forum cannot make friends. wakkakaka!!! i guess my bros and I have prove many wrong! :p

[discordpiggy]

Sis, such pple are superficial and not worth ur time or friendship; even if u look like Miss Universe...they're still superficial as they are still not ur friends.

Hving said tat, weight can be resolve by exercise and sensible eating....note tat I did not say diet :D. Acne scars can be reduce/eliminate thru exfoliation treatment....but end at the end of the day...it's the inner u tat matters. Outer beauty is transient....inner beauty is lifetime :D.

Bros/sis, don't let shallow/insecure pple put u down; they only do so as tat is the only way that can make themselves feel good.

Bro Intltuk, yah too many of these superficial people around, its really not worth my time, hence i have avoided even any conversation with them. unless they publicly apologised to me and my 2 bros who stood up for me in the forum. I believe that by loosing them as friends, I gain better ones.

On the weight issue, I did exercised but stopped quite few months back due to some work problems but once all settle will go back to exercising. i have lost a good 14kg. But I still want to loose another 6kg, in order to have a smaller waist. however, on the eating part will be a problem because I can never eat a lot any more.

i have tried many things for the acne scars/orange peel enormous large pores issue and going for treatment is costly. Having said that, I have become more obsessive and diligent in taking of my face by constantly putting mask on my face. Not much improvement but I still work hard at it. I won't give up without trying diligent to take care of my face. Hopefully it will get better. :D

hahah!! I know how to make myself feel good, bought myself an expensive bag and whenever I carry it, heads turn... to look at my bag... it is happening now... :p

[Intltuk]

Bro Intltuk, yah too many of these superficial people around, its really not worth my time, hence i have avoided even any conversation with them. unless they publicly apologised to me and my 2 bros who stood up for me in the forum. I believe that by loosing them as friends, I gain better ones.

On the weight issue, I did exercised but stopped quite few months back due to some work problems but once all settle will go back to exercising. i have lost a good 14kg. But I still want to loose another 6kg, in order to have a smaller waist. however, on the eating part will be a problem because I can never eat a lot any more.

i have tried many things for the acne scars/orange peel enormous large pores issue and going for treatment is costly. Having said that, I have become more obsessive and diligent in taking of my face by constantly putting mask on my face. Not much improvement but I still work hard at it. I won't give up without trying diligent to take care of my face. Hopefully it will get better. :D

hahah!! I know how to make myself feel good, bought myself an expensive bag and whenever I carry it, heads turn... to look at my bag... it is happening now... :p
Self-assured and confident pple make others feel good.

Ah yes......shopping therapy....always works.

Anyway....wanna say.....WOW...u lost 14kg....geez....I exercise for 1mth plus and lose only 2kg only. Keep it up :D

My only advice is....don't get obsessive....be diligent:D. On orange peel skin...seems like ur skin was damaged somehow but fixable...here's a read(not advocating it.....just info)
http://www.realself.com/review/world-fraxel-laser-orange-peel-texture-help-please-read

Life is too short to get emo over insecure pple.....just add them to ur ignore list. And yes...shopping therapy always works.

[Wintermelontea]

Overdo anything and it may become problematic (shopping). Take care.

[discordpiggy]

Self-assured and confident pple make others feel good.

Ah yes......shopping therapy....always works.

Anyway....wanna say.....WOW...u lost 14kg....geez....I exercise for 1mth plus and lose only 2kg only. Keep it up :D

My only advice is....don't get obsessive....be diligent:D. On orange peel skin...seems like ur skin was damaged somehow but fixable...here's a read(not advocating it.....just info)
http://www.realself.com/review/world-fraxel-laser-orange-peel-texture-help-please-read

Life is too short to get emo over insecure pple.....just add them to ur ignore list. And yes...shopping therapy always works.

i lost weight when i diet and exercise initially like 6-8kg then it just stop, thats during the 1-3months. and I couldnt loose any more. so stop exercising and dieting, then recently i lost a bit more weight when i start to club. and eventually end up loosing a total of 14kg.

yes i have those large pores... i did try using oils in fact it did help despite me having oily skin. but thanks for the tip. I will try to see if it works. no harm. :D

Overdo anything and it may become problematic (shopping). Take care.

yes i did extreme shopping just recently... because i lost a lot of weight so need new clothes. :p

[Intltuk]

i lost weight when i diet and exercise initially like 6-8kg then it just stop, thats during the 1-3months. and I couldnt loose any more. so stop exercising and dieting, then recently i lost a bit more weight when i start to club. and eventually end up loosing a total of 14kg.

yes i have those large pores... i did try using oils in fact it did help despite me having oily skin. but thanks for the tip. I will try to see if it works. no harm. :D


Pls proceed with care. Ur condition intrigue me and did some reading. Here's a grp of pple discussing it Hope this helps. https://www.essentialdayspa.com/forum/viewthread.php?tid=48024
http://www.acne.org/messageboard/topic/311330-advice-on-scars-please-orange-peel-texture-i-look-horrible/

[Intltuk]

Good Afternoon all,

Inspirational quotes fm the net for the day:

1. You wouldn't worry so much about what other people thought if you realised how seldom they do.
2. Confidence is feeling satisfied with who and what we are.
3. Failure is only a fact when you give up. Everyone gets knocked down, the question is: Will you get back up?
4. Things change for the better when we take responsibility for our own thoughts, decisions and actions.
5. When you discover it's your choice and your attitude, things start to happen!
6. The secret of success is having the courage to begin in the first place.
7. If you keep on going the way you're going you'll end up where you're heading - which direction are you aiming for?
8. It's your choice - will you choose to be a victim or the victor?
9. Get rid of the negative people in your life - surround yourself with positive people who believe in you and inspire you.
10 Winners feel like winners; Losers feel like losers; How do you feel?

[Intltuk]

Bros who have supported me, do leave ur nick so that I can return the favour if the opportunity arrive.

To those pathetic little zappy creatures, sorry excuse of a human being, living under the illusion of grandeur tat little virtual powers holds sway and think they are keyboard warriors; sad to say, it's points only and u're not keyboard warriors, just wannabes hiding under the anonymity of the monitor. I'm am sad tat ur greatest joy is derived from something tat is actually....nothing. I am, at the same time, thankful to u for showing me that my life is not so bad after all :D.

I salute the bros/sis real keyboard warriors who only under extreme circumstances, with good reasons, zap and state their reasons and most importantly, declare in the forum they did so.

[Intltuk]

munus implere

[emogirl]

Hi StoolPigeon,

it's important to take ownership of your life. If you think you're not attractive, it's hard for others to as well. Girls like a confident man. Looks are really secondary. Sure you want to look at someone nice but I've dated guys who don't have the six pack abs. A sense of humor and the ability to hold an intellectual conversation goes a long way. Guys really care more about looks than gals.

My humble advice is to do things that make you happy. Work out more if you think you're pudgy. If your hair is receding, cut it short or shave it off. How sexy is the Rock or Bruce Willis? Don't worry about your height. There are many girls who are petite in SG. Be more social. Get happy and you'll meet someone you like. Girls like boys who smile a lot and are confident.

Just my two cents. :p

[discordpiggy]

Pls proceed with care. Ur condition intrigue me and did some reading. Here's a grp of pple discussing it Hope this helps. https://www.essentialdayspa.com/forum/viewthread.php?tid=48024
http://www.acne.org/messageboard/topic/311330-advice-on-scars-please-orange-peel-texture-i-look-horrible/

MANY THANKS! for the tip and greatly appreciated!

i am looking to purchase that and also found something great and cheap to close up my pores and it is working very well! i currently wash my face 3 times a day and apply the gel 3times for 1 week and I am into my 2nd week and more improvement.

quite happy with it! :D

[KaniNababe]

Stop complaining. U are much more fortunate than pple who are diagnosed with cancer. They have to go through chemo.. see their hair dropped day by day even though they dun wish to. And undergoin alot of pain too.

For ur info, if u are stressed or worried too much, hair will dropped too.

I think 1 thing u lack is self confidence. Anyway u mentioned took mc to stay at hm, lost interest in things ..these are some symptoms of depression. But then since u join this forum, i think u are not that depressed at all LoLz. So after getting all the kind advices, what is ur next step?

Most women dont look for handsome guys as bf or hb ( except as dessert)
I guess is ur personality n lack of confidence that are causing the rejection. Nobody likes the company of a sour face, life is stressful enough so we prefer to be surrounded by positive ppl.
If u cant even love urself then who can love u?
Seriously if u r so stubborn nobody can help u here.. Socrates said " i cannot teach u anything, i can only make u think"!

[lotsfits80]

Not the best of advices, but if I were you here's what I'd consider going to plastic surgeon (I don't mind going under knife if it improves my life) to help reduce the size of my head, even just a little. Then have the surgeon build me a damn good look to match a bald head (like Pit Bull). I won't be so much bothered about being bald so if I have a receding hairline I'd just shave it clean and polish it. Singaporean girls may not be attracted to bald men but there are girls from other countries that will. Filipinas, Malays, latinas and caucasians or even western-born Asians are more receptive to bald men. If possible I'd grow some nice goatee/sideburn/beard for the manly look as well. I will go find those foreign ladies and forget about Chinese women. I will get a personal trainer and bulk up my body, get a damn good physique so that my body looks proportional to my head. I'd tailor some nice suit to fit myself and pick up foreign languages to get the foreign girls.

My two cents.

[Wintermelontea]

yes i did extreme shopping just recently... because i lost a lot of weight so need new clothes. :p


hahahahahahaa...please update with your new pictures? :p

[real_king]

i know. go and zhng your boobies to F-cup.

or if TS is guy, go and zhng ur wallet la,

[real_king]

Most women dont look for handsome guys as bf or hb ( except as dessert)
I guess is ur personality n lack of confidence that are causing the rejection. Nobody likes the company of a sour face, life is stressful enough so we prefer to be surrounded by positive ppl.
If u cant even love urself then who can love u?
Seriously if u r so stubborn nobody can help u here.. Socrates said " i cannot teach u anything, i can only make u think"!
Then how come nobody looked for me? i m seriously not handsome. big head, skinny arms & body.

sadforeveralone.:(

[Wintermelontea]

Then how come nobody looked for me? i m seriously not handsome. big head, skinny arms & body.

sadforeveralone.:(


(Real) Kings are often lonely even though they may have lots of women around them.
:p

[hamsapkwai]

Then how come nobody looked for me? i m seriously not handsome. big head, skinny arms & body.

sadforeveralone.:(

get Nick Vujicic`s publicity agent.

[real_king]

(Real) Kings are often lonely even though they may have lots of women around them.
:p
though i haf loads but still i wakeup to none in the morning. :(

[look]

we can have alot of whore around us if we have the $$$
but not the one you love , i myself also not a confidence type
thing will workout eventually we can only try to think toward the good part

[PPGirl]

Most women dont look for handsome guys as bf or hb ( except as dessert)
I guess is ur personality n lack of confidence that are causing the rejection. Nobody likes the company of a sour face, life is stressful enough so we prefer to be surrounded by positive ppl.
If u cant even love urself then who can love u?
Seriously if u r so stubborn nobody can help u here.. Socrates said " i cannot teach u anything, i can only make u think"!

duh its weird when u r quoting my post instead of ts.
unless u r directing d question at me lolz

[KaniNababe]

duh its weird when u r quoting my post instead of ts.
unless u r directing d question at me lolz

Ops! Quoted urs becos i second ur thoughts.:D
Pardon me as i hv been away fr forums for long, brain n fingers are kinda rusty:D

[Wintermelontea]

though i haf loads but still i wakeup to none in the morning. :(

You are trying too hard. Chill for a bit and things will be better. Be yourself, the real king.

[HangerMan]

Jsut be yourself.

[real_king]

You are trying too hard. Chill for a bit and things will be better. Be yourself, the real king.

After 8years, I finally found myself.
Someday I will also write my story here.
:(

[KaniNababe]

Then how come nobody looked for me? i m seriously not handsome. big head, skinny arms & body.

sadforeveralone.:(

u hv body odor 狐臭???? Or u never brushed teeth???:eek:

[Johnbass]

A wise man once said....
"没有丑人，只有懒人"
(No ugly person, only lazy person)

:D

[SnowLeopards]

Johnny boy, it seems you are speaking from experience. ;)

Pierre.

[real_king]

u hv body odor 狐臭???? Or u never brushed teeth???:eek:

Me? None of the above.

Just a normal average guy with a normal face.
U probably missed me on the way out.:(

[Wintermelontea]

After 8years, I finally found myself.
Someday I will also write my story here.
:(

Please share your story. I will be waiting to read it. :)

[real_king]

Please share your story. I will be waiting to read it. :)

Someday mayb I will. :)

[Wintermelontea]

Someday mayb I will. :)

carpe diem!

[real_king]

carpe diem!
Fwah ur england si buay chim. heng i got goggle as my good friend.

[Wintermelontea]

Fwah ur england si buay chim. heng i got goggle as my good friend.


hahahaha...thanks to mr. google then :)

[ladylove]

ts, shame on your colleagues that passed nasty comments to you about your looks. a persons’ looks can change anytime, it’s very shallow to go after someone because of their looks.. and it’s sad that society and media wired many to judge people base on their appearances. no doubt having good looks makes the initial attraction easier, but getting a girl takes way more than that.

dude you need to work your confidence, and love yourself before others can love you. good looking guys get self confidence from their appearances (of course there are exceptions), but strip that guy off his awesome body he’s gonna be reduced to an insecure rubble with no sense of true self worth. on the other hand, men with attractive personalities, confident and the ability to make women feel secure are sexy. i get turned on so much more with a man that can make me laugh than one with 6 packs and a head full of hair. as you know, women are slaves to their emotions, if you can connect with her emotionally.. it will be the best.

one can help you except yourself.. it's gonna take time getting that confidence back but you need to know that looks is not everything :)

[real_king]

hahahaha...thanks to mr. google then :)

Now still finding inner peace. When the fiasco is over, then perhaps I'll post my life story here as a deterence to other bros.

[StoolPigeon]

Money gives u confident too so try to get more of it. Seriously, when u are financially independent u can enjoy life and do much more. U have more time to date and try different stuffs. Life is not about girls too. On the materialistic term, which sg girl will wanna married a tall yandao but useless guy to suffer for life. U have to improve and get to a point u choose pple instead of them choosing u.

I have been thru ur kind of suffering before so I know. I have so much advices for u but dunno how to type here la. Today I might drop by FCLUB after my date. U can link up with me there. I show u how we play and party there. hahahah. PM me if u are keen.

Yes bro. You seemed like a very confident and driven person. I would badly need some advice and encouragement from you.
It is easier said than done. Sometimes, i tell myself to simply not think too much. But at other times, i feel just very depressive and bleak about my future.

[StoolPigeon]

I just watched X-men: Days of Future Past in the theatre. I noticed that the main villain in the movie Bolivar Trask is played by an actor who apparently has a form dwarfism in real person. Out of curiosity, i did a google search and realised he is actually a critically acclaimed actor Peter Dinklage (never knew about him before X-men).
It was truly inspirational to know that an actor with such a severe physical obstacle can rise to such achievements, particularly in an industry where looks and physical attractiveness are overwhelmingly important.

And when asked about how he felt about his height in an interview, Peter Dinklage said " "I don't know what I would say. Everyone's different. Every person my size has a different life, a different history. Different ways of dealing with it. Just because I'm seemingly okay with it, I can't preach how to be okay with it. I don't think I still am okay with it. There are days when I’m not."

[real_king]

One can nvr be satisfy. Be it man or woman. Be grateful with what you have.

[thaidiscoking]

In my humble point of views,

We must know how to take care things that we able to take care.

Eg: face, try to use good facial product, and do apply face mask every now and then.
Hair, try to use good shampoo, and wax to make hair look good all day long.
Should have a hair problem, try to see doctor if possible, or best shave all the hair, and buy lots of stylist caps out there. Do change your cap every now and then.
: clothes, try to spend a lot of money on how to dress good. Buy good brand, so that clothes able to make a different of you.

: if obese try to have strict diet, and jogging or swimming regularly in order to lose those unwanted fats at the tummy area.


Lastly don't think of having any gf yet, love yourself first before expect others to loves you. Remember you still have your siblings, parents, they're best companions in the world.

Make more money and have confidences, sometimes when you have lots of money the confidences automatically will come.


My two worth of baht.

[StoolPigeon]

In my humble point of views,

We must know how to take care things that we able to take care.

Eg: face, try to use good facial product, and do apply face mask every now and then.

Make more money and have confidences, sometimes when you have lots of money the confidences automatically will come.

My two worth of baht.

A heartfelt thanks to all the bros here for your advices and words of encouragement.