Attached pls help

[Power35625]

Hi all bros.

I have started this chiong-ing habbit about 2 years ago during NS. It started with visiting FLs and geylang WL, and slowly progressed into massage parlors sleaze.

I visited the joints (FL and MP) frequently, until half a year ago when I got attached. I stopped visiting such places altogether, due to being a faithful boyfriend who doesnt fool around, and partly due to the pretty active bed scene with her.

However recently I started feeling a little bit itchy inside. Whenever I walked past a massage parlor, I have this feeling of stepping in and getting a massage with happy ending. It started out with small desire easily dismissible but as time goes on it became stronger, till I couldnt handle it.

While I still love my girl as before, I cant help but feel that my sexual desire reached a point where she alone couldn't satisfy me. Any bros with similar experiences can give me advice on this matter?

[azure85]

Once you go back (even once, to relieve the good old days), you will know it will not be your last.

[stillgottheblue]

Save your money for your house and girl. You feel horny, go fuck your girlfriend and spend your money and love on her.

[uncaringheart]

Take $100 in your left hand and pcc with your right hand
End of the day you be satisfied, didn't betray your gal and saved your $100.

[crood]

ur post really made those gals who find bf here cringe :D

[seahaa62]

Hi bro TS

You are not alone. Me too. Once i started, i find it hard to stop. Really.

[nehnehhh]

if you think you have a future with her, need to stop going. If there's first, there will be 2nd, 3rd etc etc.

[sgjoey]

The signs are obvious that you are not cut out for a monogamous relationship. Lucky for you, you have not tied the knot yet. So get out while you still can, and live the life you really want.

[SiameseTiger]

You have got an itchy cock. When all your money is used up you will recover

[loneyheart]

put a piggy bank beside yr bed ... after u hv fun w yr gf just put $100 in it... months later u will find out how much u save

[arsenal_84]

well this is also my greatest fear if i ever get into a rs...
to be able to bonk FLs 2 - 3 times a month is nice feeling for a single but the feeling is short term happiness.
once the sense of relief goes away after release, the feeling of emptiness comes back.

find something to keep your mind off stray thoughts such as exercising over the weekends like cycling or long distance walking or any hobbies of your interest.
remember, "an idle mind is the devil's playground".

[pleasurehobby]

The skills of an FL or Massage Girl is trained from hundreds and thousands of customers. These skills of male pleasing is not something a normal girl / girlfriend can easily attained. Once u tried the forbidden fruit it is hard to turn back... My humble opinion is to strictly discipline yourself from not going back no matter what to gradually forget the experience.

[lechlee]

well this is also my greatest fear if i ever get into a rs...
to be able to bonk FLs 2 - 3 times a month is nice feeling for a single but the feeling is short term happiness.
once the sense of relief goes away after release, the feeling of emptiness comes back.

find something to keep your mind off stray thoughts such as exercising over the weekends like cycling or long distance walking or any hobbies of your interest.
remember, "an idle mind is the devil's playground".

I totally agree with Arsenal.. The happiness is short term and only for that moment.. Worse case is that the FL is not even good in satisfying you... You feel so damn stupid. It happened to me a few times ever since I had gf.. But I am proud that I have not done so for at least the past half a year! once in a while, you feel really tempted to patronize their service. If you are about to make a call, just switch off your phone. If you already make appointment, just cancel it with a resolute mind. if you are walking past the massage palor and feel like entering, just think about what you else you can do with that $100 bucks e.g. Get your gf a small small gift (though that counts and it becomes a surprise to her) and you will probably have wonderful sex for the next few occasions. Haha..
Remember that <brain studies> ladies have larger hippocampus than men. Hippocampus is responsible for emotional memory and your act of giving a surprise gift is a positive feeling and memorable. Your gf will remember your act longer and value it more than us. And what also trigger at that moment of giving is endorphin, dopamine and oxytocin <All the feel good and bonding neurochemicals> She will be more in love with you... of course giving a gift is just an example... having sex with her does the same thing as well..Haha...
If you feel you need to release, just go for a run first and watch porn.. Release it either DIY or with GF..

***However, if you really use FL or massage palor service, don't feel bad about yourself that you have wasted money.. Just take it as a one off incident and let bygone be bygone.

[sunhuan-con]

Better dont it will be addictive... Save it for your gf.

[celcius]

I swear to *** this chiong-ing thing IS highly addictive as much as smoking or whatever other bad habits there are out there.

If you really want to be faithful to her, and personally feel the urge to seek "relief" outside, PCC is probably the best way to control that temporary urge. Then, wait patiently in the meanwhile for her to let you do her. Always think like you are in her shoes. How will you feel if your gf actually went to other guys for that sexual pleasure?

Advantages:
1) You save money.
2) You gradually get used to sticking with one partner (I know this takes a hell lota determination and endurance; but it's worthed it)
3) Your conscious is clear

The dick has a mind of its own. All it takes is a hand to conquer it, at least for that moment. ;)