True love VS materialism.

[Rosebelle]

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[jnudes]

After reading your first part I truly salute you.

Being a single man in my 30s I do not use handphone as I hardly make any calls and I only use them while travelling (for emergency purposes only).

Although I could afford to top up my hp account every month I just feel it is not necessary and waste of money. And I am happy not to use hp for many years already (stress free).

You are one tough girl. Keep it up! A girl like you hard to find now, you know especially in SG. I estimate less than 10% are like your type in Singapore, or even lesser than 5%.

SG is truly a materialistic society, only true love and genuine heart can defeat
human greed, lust and jealousy.

[RAMS75]

Don't have negative thoughts of things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment .

[justl00king]

TS, you sound like a real keeper.

When everyone else is on luxury brands and expect to be ferried around in a ride, you are down to earth with plans for the future.

You may be lower educated, but please do not let it put you down. A piece of paper dun mean shit without hard work. I have always believed with determination and drive, you'll be able to carve out a niche for oneself.

All the best! :)

[sane]

I suggest u to try retail sales for luxury brand then. My friend who is working in the C brand has a monthly salary of 5k and above!

Or at least cosmetics retail sales, u get a good comm if u have a steady base of customers. :)

[Rosebelle]

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[alan0338]

gd start, camp here... :D

[muscleboi]

TS said she's getting sian of seeing him everyday liao... part and parcel of couple life together.. i hope you're not jus complaining about relationship deteriorating but you actually take action to make the relationship lasting happily..

[by73]

Ts, for a better future, dun just scrimp n save , invest in it through education. There r academic or skills upgrading courses which r subsidized or even fully sponsored. Go check it out, even better, wif ur bf. Working together towards a common goal should strengthen ur r/s 2.
Gd luck..:)

[arsenal_84]

once you go down the path of easy money, there is no going back...given the amount of ft in sg now, i can tell you that the bloody piece of paper is important.

you seem to view your current guy as a financial baggage however, there is no guarantee that your life will be better even if you change partners.
my sis is a good example, studied till o levels, earning 2400 gross, can't even save at all.
changed bf to a masters guy (ex is a dip grad, on part time deg), still can't save and i have a gut feeling that the guy is spending lesser on her as time gradually passes by.

in this world you can try to earn as much as possible, but if you can't save is as good as giving in to consumerism.

[Rosebelle]

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[Tai_zi21]

Hi rosebelle

just my point of view with also 2 o level passes only for me

you are only 18 this year right? u say tat u wanted to save $60k in 3 years? my ques will be wat can 60k do in another 3 years time? u will only be 21 after 3 years later!

you wanted to lead a gd life there are some ways you can do tat

1)get a sugar daddy... fastest way out

2)study very hard but too many degree holder outside to snatch job with you also even by the time you get a degree!

3)change a job! may i know wat job working as now? and how much does this job pay you? wat the type of pay you want to bring back home? $2000?
$3000? my suggestion is get into retail sales! sell branded stuff? make up? even electronics stuff also can... retail is very hard cos i am in retail too! but if you dun study hard and maybe you wan to earn more i guess? sales can bring in gd amount of pay!

And for your realtionship why think so far? you are only 18! u haven't seen the world yet... give yourself more choices? or think abt are you going to spend the next 30 years being with your bf?

Anything feel free to pm me...

Gd luck to you as well

[jnudes]

I am so sick of this life that i am having. I cannot go shopping for clothes, buy beautiful items that i like. I cannot go shopping for make up or skin care. And even if i do, i buy the cheapest brands when other women can afford Chanel.. Or MAC. I cannot do things to beautify myself like going for IPL (a hair removal procedure).. Why? Why do i have to endure all these pain and sufferings with this guy when i can have all the luxuries by working as a sugarbaby?

I have gone thru the similar way of thinking like you when I was 18 years old. As a male I am much worse than yours as no girl would want to buy anything for me. Don't even have girlfriend that time. So do everything alone. Even now at 35 years old also alone. I guess my fate is to live and die alone.

I am afraid. I am afraid that we will never be able to break out of this poverty. I am still young, still desirable. I will be able to lead a good life if i make use of this asset that i have.. Do i have to toil for thirty years more? Would i have to end up like my mother? She still has to work to support the family when she is close to fifty. I look at her hands and legs and face. They are filled with wrinkles, veins popping up... Her legs sometimes shake uncontrollably due to the long standing hours she endure as a promoter.

Everything can change for a better some day. What your mother had done is no different than my mother who used to work as clerk before and has since retired. This is what we all will call 'family sacrifice'. You worried too much, my dear. I am sure one day you can have better life than her.

The honeymoon place she went to with my father is Genting. She has never enjoyed a day of luxury. I do not wish to end up like her. I really hate myself for not being able to take care of her. I wish i could give her a life of luxury.

You will do that, I am sure you will one day. Just the day not arrived yet.

My relatives look down on my family as we are the poorest. I used to promise my mother to study hard so i can give her a better life when i grew up. I have failed my promise and i regret very much. I do not know what to do. Should i break up with this boyfriend of mine to pursue a life of luxury? I may be happier this way. Or it may be the biggest regret in my life.

Relatives are headache for everyone as far as I am concerned. Even in my case most of them we rarely meet and communicate although we stay in same city. So in times of emergency I know I can only rely on myself. Better you break now before you suffer even more than your mother. You are still young and have plenty of choice to make.

I do not believe in studying. A lot of women went into the route of being a sugarbaby because of the exorbitant university fees. I do not wish to end up like them. I have to study for private O's, then diploma, and finally a degree.

Studying is just one option to become successful. I studied before and got a degree and remained unemployed for few years so this experience was a bit painful for me even until today to share with you here.


It would cost at least $10,000 to $15,000. Double the amount if my boyfriend decides to study with me. I have to waste at least six years of my life. Maybe more if i failed. These six years could have gotten me work experience needed in life. It may not necessarily be a practical investment.

You are rite! Go for your work experience is that matters..


And what is the worse thing? I do not feel any sense of security with him. I do not believe that he will be successful man in future. He may be a hardworking one, but definitely not successful.

Just dump him and get a new one!

[swingersx2]

Rosebelle,

You have to identify your strengths.

Are you attractive? If you are unattractive, don't bother thinking about being a sugar baby. There are just too many attractive China and Vietnamese nationals to compete with in Singapore. A few years ago, being a sugar baby was a viable option but today, men in Singapore are spoilt for choice. If you are attractive, you can hang out at clubs like Zouk alone or with your girlfriends and you can easily snag a very eligible man. A lot of attractive girls snag lawyers, doctors and rich men at these clubs.

Are you good at studying? A lot of people I know just can't sit down and study or no matter how hard they try, they still get poor grades.

If you don't have any particular strengths, then it is very difficult to lead a nice comfortable life.

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[flowbow]

First of all it's surprising that you can write so well even though you said you only studied till sec 3. I'm impressed.

Anyway, let me just share with you a bit of my story... I met my ex bf while he was still in army. I was still studying then. Unlike you though, I had the privilege to study in a private uni sponsored by my dad. However, he didn't approve of my ex bf and since I was staying at my ex bf's place at that time, he felt that my ex bf should "support" me. So my allowance was about $70 per week, sometimes he didn't even give me any allowance at all when I didn't go home. So basically my ex bf and I survived on a few hundred dollars allowance which he received monthly since he was in the army.

It was tough for us as well. Both of us had to survive on a few hundred dollars every month. There was a period of time where we ate instant noodles every meal, everyday. When he ORD-ed, he told me he didn't want to find a job. He wanted to start his own business with $0 capital. I believed in him, so I supported his decision. I took on all kinds of part-time/holiday jobs. I earned $800 every month to support the both of us AND his business. My friends thought I was stupid that I was working to support my bf. But I didn't bother. I believed that he would succeed. I believed that one day all our efforts would pay off. We strived hard together for his business. Not once did I think of leaving him even though I was sometimes very tired of worrying about money ever so frequently. I thought about all the things you are thinking of right now. Still, I stuck by him.

His business failed eventually because he got lazy. I was both angry and disappointed in him but still, I stuck with him. To cut a long story short, we broke up in the end because of other reasons not related to money matters.

So I guess it's safe to say that I understand how you feel. I understand how it's like having to worry about money. I understand how it's like to see others carrying branded stuff while you can only dream about it. But ultimately money shouldn't be your greatest concern. If you love him, anything is possible. The relationship can still work out if you both have no money. But if there is no love, no amount of money can make the relationship work. This is the question you should be asking yourself now: whether you still love him and whether you're willing to go through this difficult period with him now.

You're only 18 and your bf is still in the army. Both of you are still young. Don't be so quick to judge how successful a person will turn out to be just by his education level. There are many others out there who didn't even get the chance to enter sec sch, but are now big bosses, all through their own hard work. So don't belittle the power of one's hard work... One may be very intelligent and educated but if he's lazy and not willing to work hard, money won't fall from the sky.

You decide your own future, my dear. There's a long way ahead for you. Don't be so negative about life. I may not have the best advice for you but I believe you're mature enough to consider your options carefully. Please don't start thinking about earning easy money by spreading your legs open. Sugar daddy/sugar baby might be a nice term, but at the end of the day the meaning is still the same. Don't get sucked into the world of greed. If you can make your way out of this tunnel through your own hard work and perseverance, then you are truly one very respectable lady. :)

Keep your chin up, girl. All the best ;)

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[DO_YOU_BJ]

First of all it's surprising that you can write so well even though you said you only studied till sec 3. I'm impressed.

Me too lol

Dear TS, my advise for you is to go with the flow. Don't think too much about anything else other than
1) Seeing the world. Ur still a kid in my book(me old man la) & there's many things out there for u to see n learn
2) Build ur career by getting more paper qualifications(make ur worth)
3) Have an aim in life ( personally, financially & objectively)
4) He too is young(so r u), don't think too much

Since both of u r still young, it's no brainer life for u 2 is on a budget. Live out ur youth n when it's really time to settle down, then plan on important things people do when settling down.
To me, it ain't wrong in ur current predicament but honestly, it's extremely premature.
People like u should be enjoying ur teen to adulthood n building ur foundation.
This is the correct & only right path to adulthood.
Build ur base n plan from there.
Do anything now, it's nothing short of like what everyone always say: SHORT GUN or premature ejaculation!(n we know how most relationships result due these factors)

[DO_YOU_BJ]

I am not sure if I still love this guy. I get jealous over petty things, but I am not sure if it is because of love or pride anymore. I am not sure if I feel this way because our relationship has been really dull these few months or because love no longer exists.
Before u fix a prob, u hv to be SURE. Ur this para already shows ur one confused puppy

I did not judge him because of his education level. I feel he will not succeed because of his mentality.
Since u can write so well, read what u wrote. U already passed judgement

He will at most be a very hardworking guy who takes up two jobs a day to support the family.
If that's what he has to do to feed his family & he does it, then, he's called an honorable man

He is the kind of guy every lady would dream of marrying if we were to cast aside his financial capabilities.
Mr goody two shoes eh lol

He does not like drinking, does not like to club, does not like to head out with his friends without me, has little female friends, does not watch porn, does not surf sammyboy (haha lol), and does not flirt with other ladies.
Minus SBF, all other mentioned activities need moolah. If one day he is introduced to KTVs or HFJs & he has the moolah to party, then the real ultimate tests will begin, till then, he's still a virgin to wat kind of flesh moolah can buy when u have it

He is a true gem and I am not sure if I should give him up for the sake of financial stability. It may be the best or worse decision made in my entire life.
I bet u my last dollar this will not be the 1st of last time u will say this. Maybe not in this forum but in ur life for u gotta 1st grow up my dear

[jnudes]

Do you really think I should dump him? I tried on several occasions but failed. We have been together for three years and it is not that easy to break off. I am highly dependent on him in some ways. I don't know what to do without him. But I don't know what to do with him around either.

Since you are pleasant looking, well one day when you work and face the real society you are going to meet different types of men. And the temptation will be great for you to choose a better bf. A bf that can provide all that you requested. Not so hard to find in a city like SG.

Trust me after you turn 23 years and older you will look back what you done before, whether you found a right bf or future husband. I had one friend after 5 years of marriage complaining to me he married a wrong wife. Want ask divorce from her also he not dare as he told me he being too patient with her.

You can of course stay with him although he not financially stable. Ask your parents first, whether they allow you to be with him? Since your parents are already having tough life I don't think they want their daughter to suffer just like them currently.

I understand that you are not that materialistic; own a house and car will do. Quite similar to my case. The only difference between me and your bf is that I did watch porn and cheong once a year.

The reason? No girlfriend all these 10+ years and having the need to release once in a while. I did not want to join SBF intentionally in the first place. But really get bored needing to masturbate after watching porn.

Another reason I watch porn is purely for entertainment and get some stress release from work.

And I do know many girls looked down on porn lovers thinking they are disgusting and a sex pervert. And I am certainly not like that. And I also know I will definitely quit this hobby once I found someone. As for now I am still single and enjoying every moment of it.

[muscleboi]

this thread provides one more reason why marriage is not viable for guys in this day and age. :D i think Rosebelle you are right now struggling between "love", "getting used to him around you" and financial sustainability. since you're here, the idea of gaining financial sustainability is gaining more favor in your thoughts. there're people who debated so that more people can side with his or her side of thoughts. please don't be one of them. but since you're having the fear of not being able to live a luxurious life, you found your answer long time ago. you probably just needed the encouragment "break up with him once and for all. it may hurt abit but you may stand to gain for the long term."

[see see only]

Hi. My goal is to be able to have my own house and car when I reach the age of 21. I honestly like to plan for the future. I look at my father - who cannot even afford a HDB at 48 years old. I look at my mother - who does not even have any savings at 46 years old. I dread this happening to me. I do not wish to end up like them. So I always plan ahead.....

In this society, you are very right you cant place your bet on your this bf if your 3 years plan is set at such a pace :eek:

Even if he is a President scholar, he would not be able to achieve what you have set without the help of his parents.

Everyone has a life that they choose to live, nothing wrong with that. However at 18 yo, i reckon you set a more realistic goal for your 21 yo. (BTW you need to get married for you to own a HDB flat in 3 years time)

With your command of language, i reckon you take up some kind of courses to better prepare yourself to the real world then setting such a WOW target ;)

[Rosebelle]

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[ohgolly]

Maybe I'm being cynical, but I don't believe true love exists, or is necessarily a good thing. People are constantly changing, so you might not love the same person at various points of time, if you get what I mean.

[Beachsea]

Part and parcel of life. :cool:

[flowbow]

Hi Flowbow,

Thank you so much for your kind words. It means a lot to me. Sometimes, I randomly think of money and I break down and cry. This is how stressed I am.

I am not sure if I still love this guy. I get jealous over petty things, but I am not sure if it is because of love or pride anymore. I am not sure if I feel this way because our relationship has been really dull these few months or because love no longer exists.

I did not judge him because of his education level. I feel he will not succeed because of his mentality. He will at most be a very hardworking guy who takes up two jobs a day to support the family.

He is the kind of guy every lady would dream of marrying if we were to cast aside his financial capabilities. He does not like drinking, does not like to club, does not like to head out with his friends without me, has little female friends, does not watch porn, does not surf sammyboy (haha lol), and does not flirt with other ladies.

He is a true gem and I am not sure if I should give him up for the sake of financial stability. It may be the best or worse decision made in my entire life.

It seems as if your relationship is going in the same direction as mine did the other time. At that time I have to admit it was my fault that I got bored of the relationship and decided to venture out. Just like your bf, my ex bf was a goody two shoes as well... No drink, no smoke, no gamble. At some points right now I still do think back and kinda regret letting him go but at least I'm well over him now.

Anyway, what's not to like about a hardworking guy who'd take on two jobs to support his family? And how are you so sure that someone like that will not be successful in time to come? I may not know your bf, but I personally feel that from what you've described of him, he definitely has the potential to be successful in time to come.

In any case that's not important right now la. I can tell this relationship is taking a toll on you. Though I never really believed in a cooling off period, but that's the decision I chose to make back then when I was in your shoes. And the cooling off period proved to me that I was fine, or happier even, without my ex bf, hence the decision to break up eventually. Like what I previously mentioned, I do regret sometimes cos I believe he'd make a great husband, a great father. But I moved on. And you will, too, in time to come.

Don't hurt him just because you are afraid of making the decision to let go. If you really think the love is just not there or not the same anymore, and if you have already exhausted your options, then the straightforward solution would just be to leave this relationship. :)

[pakalolo]

when poverty walks in the door love jump out of the window

Girl, you are still young if you happen to have a day job invest your night time in part time study. It will pay off in the long run Sg is a place where no paper you are nothing even if you have years of experience.

Ok lets say you manage to save up to 60K then what?60k although is a lot of money but not much you can do with it now or 3 years later

why not go into hotel line? they are short of staff nowadays and some big hotel sponsor your course at shatec or whatever they call it now that way you get paid for going to school.

Good luck to you and don't give up

[Rosebelle]

Thanks guys, I guess I have decided to break this relationship off.. Better to let go. :)

[Orchinno]

Hi. My goal is to be able to have my own house and car when I reach the age of 21. I honestly like to plan for the future. I look at my father - who cannot even afford a HDB at 48 years old. I look at my mother - who does not even have any savings at 46 years old. I dread this happening to me. I do not wish to end up like them. So I always plan ahead.

This way sound contradictive to my previous post but I do not seek a life of luxury. All I wish for is a HDB of my own (does not matter even if it is a two-room), a car, and money sufficient for me to lead a comfortable life. I am not asking for a GTR, Ferrari, or Lamborghini and neither am I asking for a Bungalow. But I am unsure if my current boyfriend will be able to provide the kind of life I wish for.

Hi,
Your goals seems a bit unrealistic given the starting base if you have to go with.
Let you give you my personal example and I started with a way better base.
- ORD army with no girlfriend and no financial commitment on SGT pay.
- go university and do 3 year degree. Pickup girlfriend in the 2nd year.
- graduate and start working at a low pay of $1500.
- switch job after 1st year to a bigger company at $2100.
- start my master 50% sponsor by govt.
- slog another 2 years and change to MNC to get $3500.
- still no car but can now consider flat with girlfriend.
- flat came, bills came, still no car. :)
- flat came, wife came, still no car. :)

Darn, I hit my THIRTIES, is a guy and still no car.

BTW, we skimp and save along the way like you. Never take cabs (take train or bus), never travel overseas until honeymoon, eat hawker centre food when go out.
Not as agresssive as you, but I was saving $600 out of every $1000 dollar I was earning (plus give to parents).

[Orchinno]

Thanks guys, I guess I have decided to break this relationship off.. Better to let go. :)

So sad to hear that.

These things are always hard to tell. It can go either way, maybe because of your breakup with him, he wake up and shoot ahead and become a millionaire in the next ten year.

Maybe because of your breakup with him, he sinks into despondency and spiral down in drinks and become a wastrel.

I am lucky that my girlfriend and my wife stand by me throughout those tough years, but that's another story.

[Rosebelle]

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[seventyfour]

Hi,
Just a few words of advices from an old man:
1) Assess your boyfriend earning potential with your brain not your heart. If you think he got what it takes to be successful in a career earning lots of money (not necessary a good certificate but look at his strength: do u think he can make a good salesman, a good leader, a good pastor, a good teacher, a good businessman, a good sportsman, a good singer, a good actor etc etc), you make the call to stick with him and hope he really turns out to be what you think he potentially can. But if u know he is going to be just another useless bump good for nothing guy, pls don't be stupid to stick with him. I have seen enough women whose lives are devastated when married to poor men when they could have married with rich men. Love can't win over financial crisis. It's impossible.

2) Don't be stupid to be a sugarbaby or to work as an escort.

3) If you are desperate enough for success, if you really want to own a house and a car at young age, I can tell u this: YES U CAN! A person success is usually due to how much he is desperate for success. When I mean desperate, I don't mean to the level of selling one's body. I mean to think hard and work hard to figure out how to earn your first million dollar. It can be by being property agent, insurance agent, multi-layer marketing, setting up a food stall, setting up low-capital business, online selling etc etc.

[stillgottheblue]

TS, working hard is good but it will not always bring you success. Some people have to try numerous times before he/ she sees it, while some don't even enjoy the fruits they labour.

The easiest way to have all the luxurious goods you desire is to FL and sell your body but I have not seen anyone going far and getting super rich this way. The most beautiful girl I have seen does not need designer's clothes and make-up.

Owning a house as a Singapore citizen is not hard if you have a stable job and you are willing to work for 20-30 years. Even our bullshit minister says citizens can owned a house with $1,000 income. (the latter part must be begging them for hangouts)

As for car, you can just forget about getting one. Use the money to take cab. Don't hold on to physical things in life and carry such heavy baggage, and don't compare yourself with others. Some people are rich due to inheritance, parents, etc... So are you going to blame your parents for giving birth to you?

PM me when you decided to FL. I would like to be your first few customers. ;)

[see see only]

Don't worry, we broke up peacefully and I am sure he will not go crazy. He thinks it will be for the best of both of us. :)

Should we congrats you or console you :rolleyes: but women are known to have clear head when come to their future planning :cool:

Nevertheless, hope your dream come ture ;)

[Meow^^]

Everyone in this world have the rights to choose what they want in a ceratin extent. But bearing in mind that basic needs are fulfilled. As now you are young and full of energy, getting your education to another higer level will definitely do you good as knowledge is the most powerful weapons in life.

All the best Rosebelle.

[wells]

Hi TS,

There will no ending in your type of comparison. Look at your fingers, it is not in even, there bounds to be up and down in life and Yes it is very encouraging that you are planning to have what you want, things that would expect to come only if you work hard. A goal without a plan is just a dream.
What you asking for have nothing to do with your BF. I’m a little confused why is your BF messing up your life which you already know what you are after. You work towards your goal, he after what he wants.

If your BF is earning 3k at around age 25-26, yours 2k+. Total income 5k+ It seems a lot of people is earning around this amount and they are going fine with their life with HDB, Kids, Car on hand.

Why want to do short cut to have those items?
:p

[micmac888]

3) If you are desperate enough for success, if you really want to own a house and a car at young age, I can tell u this: YES U CAN! A person success is usually due to how much he is desperate for success. When I mean desperate..(snip)... I mean to think hard and work hard to figure out how to earn your first million dollar. It can be by being property agent, insurance agent, multi-layer marketing, setting up a food stall, setting up low-capital business, online selling etc etc.

Well said.

And Rose, instead of thinking "saving hard to obtain etc etc", think the other way - "how to make more money to obtain etc etc". That is a much better alternative.

[Lucifersangel]

I have a suggestion but PLEASEEE don't hate me if u disagree..

Why not take N level and then go ite after? It's a gov cert that will go gutter than a private diploma (my friend got a law dip from private school it's useless. No one wanna hire her for diploma pay)

N level isn't as hard as O and ite give alot of financial help on top of government bursary which cap at $1000 per year.

You will be getting money and there will be time to take up part time. ITE attachment are paid attachment so u an earn money from there too. And after that you can go poly.

if you don't mind how people look down on ITE student la.. I am a ITE student, I rather suffer 2 year than throw away my dignity and sell myself for private school or suffer for next 20, 60 or 70 years.

It's just my suggestion, choose whatever path that u feel is best for you. Good luck.

[BelleDeJour]

[QUOTE=Lucifersangel;9211534]I have a suggestion but PLEASEEE don't hate me if u disagree..

You have a point there. Just give it a try.
Its not gonna be easy but its for the long run and your future.
But again its only my 2cents of opinion.
The choice and decision is always yours :)

[lostbrain]

Hi, I think its gd that u start thinking early and I really hope that you can succeed faster than your ex bf and maybe influence him to be successful later :) Right now, I believe you have 2 options.
The first is to take up education like how bro lucifersAngel said coz
in sg no matter how unbelievable education is, without education its hard to get a job with reasonably high salary. Having ITE cert is better than none. After tt you can go to laselle or shatec which are gd institutes in sg too.
The 2nd option is to find a job and maybe do part time studying. You can find jobs in newspaper or at many websites like gumtree, adpost, lavaplace and even career@govt. Most jobs listed there don't really require the prerequsites of having O or N level qualifications. If they do, you can always try to assure the interviewer with your eloquence since you can write so well :p (tts wad I did), then gather working experience from there loh. While you have a stable job you also can do freelance jobs like modelling, or those showgirl dressed in cosplay costumes in IT shows which pays more since you are so confident your looks is outstanding :p theres a couple of ads for modelling in gumtree ma, mayb you can try?
Sure, you can be a sugarbabe for some time, earn and save enough money and maybe find a rich bf next time but wad if ur future bf found out u were a WL? Sg is so small, who knows, mayb his fren used ur service b4. You are so young, Worse if your family or frens noes abt it, very malu one. Dun waste your youth pleassse >.< the above is just my opinion, hope u dun find me long winded =.=

[EtherC]

In a largely white collar economy, the blue collar worker becomes the beneficiary. There's no need to study for a degree just for the sake of having one.

Some of the most highly paid jobs are those that people shun because of the gruesome nature or the high risks involved. Eg makeup artist/embalmer for the dead. High rise building cleaners etc.

Also I'd encourage you to think about what your passion is. It's passion that drives a person to be great at what they do. And when a person is great at what they do, someone is likely to pay you to do what you do. Sometimes very handsomely.

With most things its a matter of will and want. It seems to me now your want is much greater than your will, if so success will be out of your reach. Be tough, realistic and practical if you want to break the poverty trap.

Success achieved through shortcuts is seldom capable of withstanding the test of time.

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In a largely white collar economy, the blue collar worker becomes the beneficiary. There's no need to study for a degree just for the sake of having one.

Some of the most highly paid jobs are those that people shun because of the gruesome nature or the high risks involved. Eg makeup artist/embalmer for the dead. High rise building cleaners etc.

Also I'd encourage you to think about what your passion is. It's passion that drives a person to be great at what they do. And when a person is great at what they do, someone is likely to pay you to do what you do. Sometimes very handsomely.

With most things its a matter of will and want. It seems to me now your want is much greater than your will, if so success will be out of your reach. Be tough, realistic and practical if you want to break the poverty trap.

Success achieved through shortcuts is seldom capable of withstanding the test of time.

I very much agree. 3 points to ponder:

1. Identify your passion. The things you like to do or good at doing. I can see you have a good writing skills.

2. Invest in study. Get certifications or diploma or even degree. Even if you have saved, doesn't guarantee that you will be able to sustain it. Our needs increases as we grew older. A person's wealth is not measured by how much money she/he have but how much can she/he make even when all is gone.

3. Don't take shortcuts. It is unlikely to succeed in the long run. Real success comes from hardwork.

Lastly. Don't change your lifestyle. :)