Been single for more than 10 years

[jnudes]

Hi bros and sis,

This year I am 35 years old. I have been single since June 2002 until today. After the breakup did tried several attempts to court gals but unsuccessful. Either one of us did not like each other or we both have high demand. In summary no love destiny for us.

To release the stress of broken heart I also tried cheonging at Thailand, watch porn and have almost everyday PCC at home. I also visit spas, MPs and freelancers for their sex service, about few times in a year.

The older I get I just feel marriage is starting to become obsolete as more and more couples are getting divorce. I got to know two ex-classmates (one male & female) already divorced. This for me influenced me in certain ways and make me look more on negative side on marriage.

Actually I am doing fine in my everyday life. Working and sleeping alone. And in my free time I also go walking at park alone. Not really expecting or chasing anyone. Marriage is unthinkable for me now. I just feel single life give me more freedom and independent life that I truly enjoyed.

The purpose of this post is not to find new gf thru SBF or gain sympathies from members here. I just want to know humble opinions from single bros and sis on how they cope with their everyday single life.

Thanks for reading this and sharing your opinion.

[Summerhillt]

Bro don't worry man. I mean if this is your perspective on life , why not ? Its your life you live only once.. i think that not setting up a family is nothing wrong at all with the absurd living cost of sg.. raising a family is fucking hard..

You live alone.. you can do anything you want.. no commitments.

I rather you take care of your parents really well thats all which matters.

Go thailand or vietnam once in a while and go wild there is really more shiok ma

[stillgottheblue]

You don't have to be married to feel complete. You don't need to have kids to feel complete.

There are always advantages and disadvantages in both situation.

[xiaoxiaosot]

i got a feeling i will be same as you

[joncheong]

Perhaps you might try looking at foreign girls/ladies working in singapore (i meant those in decent lines or professionals) ...their attitudes are better than some of our local ladies...they tend to know how to care for their men....they won't be always pursuing their career and trying to make more money for their branded bags.....from my experiece :)

anyway don't marry if you dun want to ...it's your choice, not being married means you have the freedom to do whatever you want and don't need to report to anyone what you wanna do....you can have lots of fbs...you can visit the hottest and latest wl at geylang..:)

[jnudes]

Bro don't worry man. I mean if this is your perspective on life , why not ? Its your life you live only once.. i think that not setting up a family is nothing wrong at all with the absurd living cost of sg.. raising a family is fucking hard..

You live alone.. you can do anything you want.. no commitments.

I rather you take care of your parents really well thats all which matters.

Go thailand or vietnam once in a while and go wild there is really more shiok ma

That's right bro. I am a person who love my freedom more than anything else.

I am planning to go Thailand again either this year or next year.

[jnudes]

Perhaps you might try looking at foreign girls/ladies working in singapore (i meant those in decent lines or professionals) ...their attitudes are better than some of our local ladies...they tend to know how to care for their men....they won't be always pursuing their career and trying to make more money for their branded bags.....from my experiece :)

anyway don't marry if you dun want to ...it's your choice, not being married means you have the freedom to do whatever you want and don't need to report to anyone what you wanna do....you can have lots of fbs...you can visit the hottest and latest wl at geylang..:)

I remember when I was with my ex last time she was possessive with me. She would call me and ask where I was, what I was doing, etc. Somehow I felt uncomfortable about that. In the end we just broken up as it was long distance relationship somemore. As for the local girl I just could not understand their materialistic needs; they always want more and more, knowing that not all local guys are rich and can earn big money.

[organiser]

Hi bros and sis,

This year I am 35 years old. I have been single since June 2002 until today. After the breakup did tried several attempts to court gals but unsuccessful. Either one of us did not like each other or we both have high demand. In summary no love destiny for us.

To release the stress of broken heart I also tried cheonging at Thailand, watch porn and have almost everyday PCC at home. I also visit spas, MPs and freelancers for their sex service, about few times in a year.

The older I get I just feel marriage is starting to become obsolete as more and more couples are getting divorce. I got to know two ex-classmates (one male & female) already divorced. This for me influenced me in certain ways and make me look more on negative side on marriage.

Actually I am doing fine in my everyday life. Working and sleeping alone. And in my free time I also go walking at park alone. Not really expecting or chasing anyone. Marriage is unthinkable for me now. I just feel single life give me more freedom and independent life that I truly enjoyed.

The purpose of this post is not to find new gf thru SBF or gain sympathies from members here. I just want to know humble opinions from single bros and sis on how they cope with their everyday single life.

Thanks for reading this and sharing your opinion.

Bro same here. I have never look into marriage ever since my previous break up. This bgr thingy seems too far away from me. I aint ugly or whatsoever but i have got a trusting issue that tends to prevent me from falling in love so deeply for any lady out there. Ladies did try to talk to me and whatsoever but i just didnt reciprocate. Ladies i like tend to be a temporary affection which will subside after a week. Oh well my pro phat is that i will be single forever.

[jnudes]

Bro same here. I have never look into marriage ever since my previous break up. This bgr thingy seems too far away from me. I aint ugly or whatsoever but i have got a trusting issue that tends to prevent me from falling in love so deeply for any lady out there. Ladies did try to talk to me and whatsoever but i just didnt reciprocate. Ladies i like tend to be a temporary affection which will subside after a week. Oh well my pro phat is that i will be single forever.

I am a person who has interest with things like palm reading. According to my palm, after I get married I will get involved with extra-marital affair which is big turn-off and disaster for every happily married couple. The question now is whether you wan to believe this thing or not. I choose to believe it as it could actually tell me my future life through the lines on my palm. I admit I also cheong for the purpose of unloading stress and to get some short term companionship since I am still single.

[stillgottheblue]

Very interesting, when I was young, I was told my life will always have two women and the first woman will be the one that will always love me and take care of me more than the second woman.

This turn out to be true but I do not believe then and I do not believe it now. To me, it's more of a character flaw on my part.

I am a person who has interest with things like palm reading. According to my palm, after I get married I will get involved with extra-marital affair which is big turn-off and disaster for every happily married couple. The question now is whether you wan to believe this thing or not. I choose to believe it as it could actually tell me my future life through the lines on my palm. I admit I also cheong for the purpose of unloading stress and to get some short term companionship since I am still single.

[arsenal_84]

same here, since i started on the dark side in 2009, have not look back since.
is nice to know some thai fls who whatsapp me once a while with some sexy pictures and make me horny...

also like to take a nice long walk near the seaside whenever i'm stressed, enjoy some sea breeze.

my last rs in 2001, back then my ex couldn't really understand why i need some "alone" time away from her.

being in a rs doesn't mean that couples have to stick to each other most of the time, even guys also need some free time on their own to pursuit their hobbies.
cycling and photography are stuff that can be pretty much done alone.

[kallisan]

Very interesting, when I was young, I was told my life will always have two women and the first woman will be the one that will always love me and take care of me more than the second woman.

This turn out to be true but I do not believe then and I do not believe it now. To me, it's more of a character flaw on my part.

Of course it is true. The 1st woman will always be your mother and who can love you more than her?

[stillgottheblue]

Haha, the context is not on motherly love and btw she passed on for many years.

Of course it is true. The 1st woman will always be your mother and who can love you more than he
r?

[spade168]

since you going thailand, why not go there find some girl to get married?? :p

[tehO]

Hi bros and sis,

This year I am 35 years old. I have been single since June 2002 until today. After the breakup did tried several attempts to court gals but unsuccessful. Either one of us did not like each other or we both have high demand. In summary no love destiny for us.

To release the stress of broken heart I also tried cheonging at Thailand, watch porn and have almost everyday PCC at home. I also visit spas, MPs and freelancers for their sex service, about few times in a year.

The older I get I just feel marriage is starting to become obsolete as more and more couples are getting divorce. I got to know two ex-classmates (one male & female) already divorced. This for me influenced me in certain ways and make me look more on negative side on marriage.

Actually I am doing fine in my everyday life. Working and sleeping alone. And in my free time I also go walking at park alone. Not really expecting or chasing anyone. Marriage is unthinkable for me now. I just feel single life give me more freedom and independent life that I truly enjoyed.

The purpose of this post is not to find new gf thru SBF or gain sympathies from members here. I just want to know humble opinions from single bros and sis on how they cope with their everyday single life.

Thanks for reading this and sharing your opinion.

I am loving the way you are of coming clean and being honest in a sincere post. Can i earn a date from you? Btw, back to reaility when your right one come you will no longer feel this way anymore. May your sincere confession get you the right fated one soon. God bless.

[wayne23416]

Well, to be honest bro, I met up with another single bro here in Sammy boy last night for a beer and supper. Anyone of you guys interested in a really nice beer? Nothing dirty, not at a thai bar / disco but just talk and ladies / gents (for the single ladies here) watching...

I do admit it is a little unnerving meeting a guy from the internet since we're both straight and of the same gender. On a site note, if you guys are interested, i'm starting out on my own to open a dating agency..nothing sleazy...and u get to meet some single people of the opposite gender..but the first event is a month from now...

[kallisan]

Haha, the context is not on motherly love and btw she passed on for many years.

She may have passed on but she will always be your 1st love. :D

[imodel]

Bro, u are not alone.... hahaha
Hey before proceeding further, u are not gay ya?: confused:
Sorry to say, if u gay, me run liao...

If u normal, we can all share together la...
This forum is a shelter for many of us... hahaha
Life is beautiful... U can live to your max and still feel good about yourself when u lie down....

Don't need those "companions" from the GL gals la....
I think there are always good normal gals who are like us here or anywhere else, once in a while they will also need some "injections" to give some strength to their lives....

I feel this is just an emotional food that we all take... not just needed by the guys... more so for the ladies...
Guys are more willing and daring to open their mouth...
Gals just quietly endure and tahan... hope guys to approach (for some)

But in today's generation, some gals are more open then others...
Whichever start first, it doesn't matter...

But we all the same... Let's remember... LIFE is BEAUTIFUL....

Since u made it through your mom's womb, u ought to enjoy your victory for the rest of your journey!!

Please pardon if i offended anyone... i mean no evil... we are all pilgrims on this earth

[jnudes]

I am loving the way you are of coming clean and being honest in a sincere post. Can i earn a date from you? Btw, back to reaility when your right one come you will no longer feel this way anymore. May your sincere confession get you the right fated one soon. God bless.

I feel awkward when an online stranger ask me this question. BTW let me tell you I'm not from SG but from MY, this may probably turn you off and most bros here. And furthermore I'm not good looking. Somewhere in the middle, I guess.

Thanks for your wishing. However, I'm not waiting or seeking for anyone right now. Not desperate too. I am quite surprised and happy for the replies here as I do not expect a boring and lonely guy like me to be ever noticed by the bros and sis here. Once again, a big thank you.:D

[jnudes]

Bro, u are not alone.... hahaha
Hey before proceeding further, u are not gay ya?: confused:
Sorry to say, if u gay, me run liao...

If u normal, we can all share together la...
This forum is a shelter for many of us... hahaha
Life is beautiful... U can live to your max and still feel good about yourself when u lie down....

Don't need those "companions" from the GL gals la....
I think there are always good normal gals who are like us here or anywhere else, once in a while they will also need some "injections" to give some strength to their lives....

I feel this is just an emotional food that we all take... not just needed by the guys... more so for the ladies...
Guys are more willing and daring to open their mouth...
Gals just quietly endure and tahan... hope guys to approach (for some)

But in today's generation, some gals are more open then others...
Whichever start first, it doesn't matter...

But we all the same... Let's remember... LIFE is BEAUTIFUL....

Since u made it through your mom's womb, u ought to enjoy your victory for the rest of your journey!!

Please pardon if i offended anyone... i mean no evil... we are all pilgrims on this earth

I'm straight, I'm not interested with gays or lesbians, although I had met some in my real lives. Their kissing and anal fucking does not turn me on. In fact, I think they are disgusting.

I tried one GL gal before. High GFE, sexy body figure, but in the end, ask me buy gifts for her, luckily I did not visit second time, she would easily made me a broke man.

After a serious thought I think I treat my life more like a journey and not a destination. Friends comes and goes in life. Even best friends can ignore, betray and abandon you when they have someone in their life. This is what I had gone through over the last 10 years. So for me being single is probably the best choice for now.

I dare not to predict on how my future relationship look like, as I always predicted wrongly. For example, with my gf last time I thought we can get married after 3 years. In the end she got married with a different guy after 3 years. Overall she hurted me deeply. As for now I am not dreaming for another gal to come. I just feel being single is not always too bad also :) 100% freedom to do whatever you like :D

[Goodmanhood]

Sometimes in your life, you may find your targets but its really depends on both sides to adhere well.

[Beachsea]

Dear TS ,

I not sure if i am in the same situation as you.
But along the 10 years i do have on and off relationships, and i mean really super short on/off. As i can't bring myself into relationships.

Even if there are intimacy involves. The max was only maybe 2 weeks.
But yet when i am single i feel want to be attached, when i am attached , i irk the feeling being chased by my GF.

So end up like you lo...haha.

I like talking to girls just like our guys , but i never thought of getting into relationship. I am near 30 now. But i want focus on my career , alot use it as an excuse, while i meant it cause something bad really happened in my life.
End up i only love cheap thrills but not relationship.Cheap thrills like teasing and flirting with girls, eve if they are attached or married. I don't go further , but at least it tells me that girls and guys are equally easily off the track.

Maybe not meant to settle down.

Pls do not rush in and settle down for anything less. It applies to both man and woman.

Cheers bro. :eek:

[kenl8888]

Even after 35 years of marriage, I feel lonely these past 3 years..
My HM is more busy with her mahjong kakis, line dance and genting buddies..
Since 2010.. sex is very limited with her.. and with all my kids grown and away..
I have too much free time on my own.. No wonder so many mat sallehs divorce in their fifties.. as we feel our commitments fulfilled. I like massage and have grown attached to my ML.. which may be good or bad if seen under various perspectives..

[Opportunist]

Sigh bro, my heart goes out to you

[tehO]

I feel awkward when an online stranger ask me this question. BTW let me tell you I'm not from SG but from MY, this may probably turn you off and most bros here. And furthermore I'm not good looking. Somewhere in the middle, I guess.


Oh dear, you are being too humble at your reply. either too humble or lacking of self esteem. Nationality and the range you are classify under is never the main concern of anything. no one is superior enough to judge. if both party are really keen,such things that you mentioned above shouldn't be the main concern. if anyone that come along and list out such issues, then forget it and move on, never waste your precious time with such person.

Thanks for your wishing. However, I'm not waiting or seeking for anyone right now. Not desperate too. I am quite surprised and happy for the replies here as I do not expect a boring and lonely guy like me to be ever noticed by the bros and sis here. Once again, a big thank you.:D

I wish you because i felt sincerity in your posting and FYI i'm not asking a date from you, my main purpose is just to encourage you. 我们人都必须在鼓励的过程成长.;)

[Fireball16]

To the TS, hi bro! Welcome to the club! Lol. You shouldn't feel alone. As you can see there are a fair number of us around.

Abit of background: I'm 34 this year and my last major relationship ended in...2002. So 11years for me heh.
Since that time I've gotten to know and have dated a few ladies but nothing serious came out of it. Be it I was still recovering from my failed relationship and so couldn't move forward, I was just too shy and couldn't make the move or it was simply not the right person at the wrong time.

Most of the ladies now are happily married and we are still friends.

Till today I still think its nice to have a lady I can chat with when free, meet up over meals or coffee, laugh and joke, buy her small stuff when I feel like it, listen and help when she has trouble and be intimate with and don't have to be coy about it. It's nice to have someone to look out for and will treat me nicely in return.

That being said I like my own personal space and my own free time, which is rare nowadays due to work.

So I manage that need currently with my regular FL but I don't rue out if someone else special comes along. I believe that I shouldn't put in stone what my future holds or doesn't hold. But instead to just enjoy life currently in what little ways I can while still keeping one eye open to what may come.

[jnudes]

To the TS, hi bro! Welcome to the club! Lol. You shouldn't feel alone. As you can see there are a fair number of us around.

Abit of background: I'm 34 this year and my last major relationship ended in...2002. So 11years for me heh.
Since that time I've gotten to know and have dated a few ladies but nothing serious came out of it. Be it I was still recovering from my failed relationship and so couldn't move forward, I was just too shy and couldn't make the move or it was simply not the right person at the wrong time.

Most of the ladies now are happily married and we are still friends.

Till today I still think its nice to have a lady I can chat with when free, meet up over meals or coffee, laugh and joke, buy her small stuff when I feel like it, listen and help when she has trouble and be intimate with and don't have to be coy about it. It's nice to have someone to look out for and will treat me nicely in return.

That being said I like my own personal space and my own free time, which is rare nowadays due to work.

So I manage that need currently with my regular FL but I don't rue out if someone else special comes along. I believe that I shouldn't put in stone what my future holds or doesn't hold. But instead to just enjoy life currently in what little ways I can while still keeping one eye open to what may come.

Bro, we are in the same boat. Shy and enjoying my personal space. Well I suppose I have been too lonely most of the times including sleeping alone in my own bedroom. Will get a release soon in my upcoming JB visit in July 2013.

[lemontee]

Being single has its own benefits....and disadvantages... The same goes for being attached. How one choose which path to take depends on what he/she desires for in life. For me, being single is the best. The freedom to do whatever your heart wishes and not be restrict by your the other half. Happiness is forever in your hand, and it should not be dependent on other people.

The most seemingly biggest hurdle to being single is loneliness. But in my opinion the loneliness can be fill up with many stuff. For instance, learning a new hobby/skill... travelling.... meeting your other single frds for movies dinners etc.... For those attached, they face a myriad of emotions like worries for kids...wife/husband having affair?.... anger.... mother-in-law issues..... frustrations cos yr other half do not understand you...... restrictions of movement by other half.... nagging from wife..... demands of sex from hus..... the list go on on on on......

And in the end, i believe alot of people despite being attached they feel more lonely than before.

[owl888]

TS, I oso single and happy man. Thousand cheers!

Enjoy while we can.....got time we can cheong together.

Juzz upzz u! :)

[jnudes]

Being single has its own benefits....and disadvantages... The same goes for being attached. How one choose which path to take depends on what he/she desires for in life. For me, being single is the best. The freedom to do whatever your heart wishes and not be restrict by your the other half. Happiness is forever in your hand, and it should not be dependent on other people.

The most seemingly biggest hurdle to being single is loneliness. But in my opinion the loneliness can be fill up with many stuff. For instance, learning a new hobby/skill... travelling.... meeting your other single frds for movies dinners etc.... For those attached, they face a myriad of emotions like worries for kids...wife/husband having affair?.... anger.... mother-in-law issues..... frustrations cos yr other half do not understand you...... restrictions of movement by other half.... nagging from wife..... demands of sex from hus..... the list go on on on on......

And in the end, i believe alot of people despite being attached they feel more lonely than before.

I 100% agree with what you have mentioned. My only problem is learn on how to take care of myself when I fell sick like going to hospital for checkup or treatment, learn to cook while I am sick, going to hospital in a sick condition and arrive safely. For a sick person a bed and medicine are his best friends. Loneliness is something I can overcome but getting sick and taking care of myself is a hurdle I need to learn and overcome too.

[SushiJiro]

TS, i share your sentiments.

Just to share my story as well, i am 31 this year and have been single for the past 3 years. Previously before the age of 28, i had never seriously think about the issue of settling down/marriage. And i met a couple of pretty good gals in my life- decent looks, sensible character and compatible with my personality.

Fast forward to present day- at the age of 31 now, if i can meet an average decent gal now, i would seriously think about the issue of settling down, or at least plan my future with her.

But called it luck or destiny, in the past 18 months or so, i couldn't have had it worse when it comes to dating. Every single gal that i had liked simply turned me down flat- do not reply to sms, last minute fly me aeroplane.
The only 1 gal who responded to me turned out to be an absolutely rip-off - it's like the only reason she is out with me is because she can dine at resturant and drink the whole night without having to pay a single cent.

I feel so disappointed after the strings of rejections and bad dates that i decided to take some time off from all these- for the past few months, i have been mainly catching up with my guy friends. Just having a good dinner and some chilling out, and i have never felt happier!
Decided to take some time to find my own pace, listen to my inner voice and hopefully life can improve...:)

[organiser]

TS, i share your sentiments.

Just to share my story as well, i am 31 this year and have been single for the past 3 years. Previously before the age of 28, i had never seriously think about the issue of settling down/marriage. And i met a couple of pretty good gals in my life- decent looks, sensible character and compatible with my personality.

Fast forward to present day- at the age of 31 now, if i can meet an average decent gal now, i would seriously think about the issue of settling down, or at least plan my future with her.

But called it luck or destiny, in the past 18 months or so, i couldn't have had it worse when it comes to dating. Every single gal that i had liked simply turned me down flat- do not reply to sms, last minute fly me aeroplane.
The only 1 gal who responded to me turned out to be an absolutely rip-off - it's like the only reason she is out with me is because she can dine at resturant and drink the whole night without having to pay a single cent.

I feel so disappointed after the strings of rejections and bad dates that i decided to take some time off from all these- for the past few months, i have been mainly catching up with my guy friends. Just having a good dinner and some chilling out, and i have never felt happier!
Decided to take some time to find my own pace, listen to my inner voice and hopefully life can improve...:)

Good luck bro.
its basically like a luck thing. Once its used up, things happen

[someguy]

Personally, I think that it is fine being single as long as you enjoy being single. Seen some people in a relationship because they were expected to be in one rather than because they really wanted one...

[Mekatulia]

Hi bros and sis,

This year I am 35 years old. I have been single since June 2002 until today. After the breakup did tried several attempts to court gals but unsuccessful. Either one of us did not like each other or we both have high demand. In summary no love destiny for us.
...

The older I get I just feel marriage is starting to become obsolete as more and more couples are getting divorce. I got to know two ex-classmates (one male & female) already divorced. This for me influenced me in certain ways and make me look more on negative side on marriage.

Actually I am doing fine in my everyday life. Working and sleeping alone. And in my free time I also go walking at park alone. Not really expecting or chasing anyone. Marriage is unthinkable for me now. I just feel single life give me more freedom and independent life that I truly enjoyed.

The purpose of this post is not to find new gf thru SBF or gain sympathies from members here. I just want to know humble opinions from single bros and sis on how they cope with their everyday single life.

Thanks for reading this and sharing your opinion.

Bro,
做人要拿得起放得下。 The past is an experience and you shouldn't let the bad experiences deny your future. This has nothing to do with whether should you decide to get into another relationship or not.;)

[kiki123]

Its all about fate. I'm 32 years old.. Don't even have a single gf at all. What to do?

[ahpui99]

I feel for u guys



Been there and now married

Focus on taking care of yourself. Exercise, eat well, concentrate on career and be happy

Things will be better and work out

[gimmeporn]

I will be 34 this year and i have been single since 2009. I met a very amazing woman recently and i fucked it up and now i want her back. I am past the stage of feeling sorry for myself and that i promise to change blah blah blah.

She was a wake up call and she has changed my life completely, however i felt the pressure of trying to conform to who she wanted instead of who i was and i lied and screwed it up.

What i am saying is sometimes we make our own luck and chances in life and not have to beg for it. I have let her go for now, we both need space and away from each other. We sometimes need to be alone to take care and love ourselves before we can take care and love another person.

I am a strong believer of karma and fate and i believe this might be my karma for fucking around all this years :p

However if fate still give us a chance, i will be a better man to prove my worth to her. Likewise, you guys who are still single need to step up so that when the right gal comes along, show them that you are a capable man who can take care of themselves and their other half. Good luck to you single guys out there, enjoy your bachelorhood while it lasts :D

[ahpui99]

I will be 34 this year and i have been single since 2009. I met a very amazing woman recently and i fucked it up and now i want her back. I am past the stage of feeling sorry for myself and that i promise to change blah blah blah.

She was a wake up call and she has changed my life completely, however i felt the pressure of trying to conform to who she wanted instead of who i was and i lied and screwed it up.

What i am saying is sometimes we make our own luck and chances in life and not have to beg for it. I have let her go for now, we both need space and away from each other. We sometimes need to be alone to take care and love ourselves before we can take care and love another person.

I am a strong believer of karma and fate and i believe this might be my karma for fucking around all this years :p

However if fate still give us a chance, i will be a better man to prove my worth to her. Likewise, you guys who are still single need to step up so that when the right gal comes along, show them that you are a capable man who can take care of themselves and their other half. Good luck to you single guys out there, enjoy your bachelorhood while it lasts :D

Chin up my friend
Shit happens
When i was 22, tried to play with a girl feelings even when i had a gf then . In the end both gt farked up and i was single for damn long while.

Shit happens my friend. Hope u be ok

[jnudes]

I will be 34 this year and i have been single since 2009. I met a very amazing woman recently and i fucked it up and now i want her back. I am past the stage of feeling sorry for myself and that i promise to change blah blah blah.

She was a wake up call and she has changed my life completely, however i felt the pressure of trying to conform to who she wanted instead of who i was and i lied and screwed it up.

What i am saying is sometimes we make our own luck and chances in life and not have to beg for it. I have let her go for now, we both need space and away from each other. We sometimes need to be alone to take care and love ourselves before we can take care and love another person.

I am a strong believer of karma and fate and i believe this might be my karma for fucking around all this years :p

However if fate still give us a chance, i will be a better man to prove my worth to her. Likewise, you guys who are still single need to step up so that when the right gal comes along, show them that you are a capable man who can take care of themselves and their other half. Good luck to you single guys out there, enjoy your bachelorhood while it lasts :D

Bro, I believe in karma too although my family background was based on strict Christian upbringing. I believe my break up with my ex-gf was also due to past karma. In my early twenties I used to fell for MIRC gal friends, played with their feelings and dumped them. After she dumped me I really know the true feeling of a broken hearted man. So painful as my feeling for her was 100% and it took many years to get away with it.

[timeonmyhands]

You don't have to be married to feel complete. You don't need to have kids to feel complete.

There are always advantages and disadvantages in both situation.

TS

Ditto! The desire to actualize your potential is a struggle especially if you look at specific parts or in comparison to others. Take the time to understand how you feel about things in general, where/how you live, your career, relationships with relatives. friends etc. Most of the time, love and relationships finds it's way into your life when you tend to what you have as opposed to sitting around and wondering what and why things are missing.

It takes courage pen your feelings and I congratulate you on taking that first tep to ackwoledge them! Keep on keeping on!

[gimmeporn]

Chin up my friend
Shit happens
When i was 22, tried to play with a girl feelings even when i had a gf then . In the end both gt farked up and i was single for damn long while.

Shit happens my friend. Hope u be ok



Bro, I believe in karma too although my family background was based on strict Christian upbringing. I believe my break up with my ex-gf was also due to past karma. In my early twenties I used to fell for MIRC gal friends, played with their feelings and dumped them. After she dumped me I really know the true feeling of a broken hearted man. So painful as my feeling for her was 100% and it took many years to get away with it.

No problem my friend i am fine and moving on despite her telling me to fuck off (nicely) this morning. I am a stubborn and persistent man by nature and i do not back off even if the odds are against me. I do this because she is worth it. Nothing comes easy, boxed and ribbioned in my life. Lose the sorry attitude and find your hunger and fighting spirit bros. Make your own luck dont just wish for it. You guys take it positively and live well now

Karma is something that we accumulate and discharge in our lives. It might not be fully paid off or earned in this lifetime or the next but it is up to us at the end of the day to do the right thing and live well. I will answer for my own sins but i will not let it weigh me down. You all go out and make your own luck and lives better now!

[jnudes]

No problem my friend i am fine and moving on despite her telling me to fuck off (nicely) this morning. I am a stubborn and persistent man by nature and i do not back off even if the odds are against me. I do this because she is worth it. Nothing comes easy, boxed and ribbioned in my life. Lose the sorry attitude and find your hunger and fighting spirit bros. Make your own luck dont just wish for it. You guys take it positively and live well now

What I been doing over the last 10 years was watching lots of porn, more than one thousand titles of them, one way to cope with my loneliness and boredom. I cheong few times a year, as I could not afford to do it 100s of times as some rich playboy bros do here. I am fine living a single life. Absolutely no complaints.

[DegenerationX]

What I been doing over the last 10 years was watching lots of porn, more than one thousand titles of them, one way to cope with my loneliness and boredom. I cheong few times a year, as I could not afford to do it 100s of times as some rich playboy bros do here. I am fine living a single life. Absolutely no complaints.

This is the most important. So long as you are happy with how things are in your live, that's enough. :)

[LengKia]

Hi bros and sis,

This year I am 35 years old. I have been single since June 2002 until today. After the breakup did tried several attempts to court gals but unsuccessful. Either one of us did not like each other or we both have high demand. In summary no love destiny for us.

To release the stress of broken heart I also tried cheonging at Thailand, watch porn and have almost everyday PCC at home. I also visit spas, MPs and freelancers for their sex service, about few times in a year.

The older I get I just feel marriage is starting to become obsolete as more and more couples are getting divorce. I got to know two ex-classmates (one male & female) already divorced. This for me influenced me in certain ways and make me look more on negative side on marriage.

Actually I am doing fine in my everyday life. Working and sleeping alone. And in my free time I also go walking at park alone. Not really expecting or chasing anyone. Marriage is unthinkable for me now. I just feel single life give me more freedom and independent life that I truly enjoyed.

The purpose of this post is not to find new gf thru SBF or gain sympathies from members here. I just want to know humble opinions from single bros and sis on how they cope with their everyday single life.

Thanks for reading this and sharing your opinion.

It can be a wise decision to stay single. You will missed it when you have settled down.

Enjoy Singlehood!

[esssinine]

you will regret when you reach the time when you can do nothing about it.

you will feel the loneliness when all your friends are busy and settled with their families.

when you see others with kids all grown.

the feeling will be most acute during festive times or when you need someone to share joy or to understand the pain of losing someone or something you value.

couples have their differences all the time but that is sign of building a relation

dont lose your way in life cos cheonging is only a passing thing

go find a soul partner as when you grow older the options will lessen.

[jnudes]

you will regret when you reach the time when you can do nothing about it.

you will feel the loneliness when all your friends are busy and settled with their families.

when you see others with kids all grown.

the feeling will be most acute during festive times or when you need someone to share joy or to understand the pain of losing someone or something you value.

couples have their differences all the time but that is sign of building a relation

dont lose your way in life cos cheonging is only a passing thing

go find a soul partner as when you grow older the options will lessen.

I had experienced what you mentioned above. How do I feel about it? Used to envy a lot and admire but now I feel nothing. Absolutely nothing. Even I don't need to see and mind into other families kids matter.

Last time I used to hang out with one single male friend. Later he married and dumped me. He was busy with his married life and all his friends are forgotten. Sounds kinda cruel but that's the reality in real life.

We met only 2 times afterwards and as far as know our friendship was over. As for friends we only say hi when we meet on the street, that's all I know.

I don't intend to cheong until I die. I also know at one stage I will get reli bored until I need to quit and do something else. Cheong is actually a very bad hobby for guys, in my opinion. That's why whenever I cheong I do it low profile and quietly.

As for future soul mate that depend on my destiny too, I got lazy and definitely I won't find anymore or even rely on friends for introduction.

[hotstuffm8]

trolololol

[rawpenis]

Dear all single bros, don't give up hope. you never know when cupid strike.it can happen in the most unexpected way. i was single till 30yrs old. all girls i like rejected me till i give up hope. I thought this life i'll be single.

Then cupid strike, I met my thai wife in bkk. within 1 month of together, she suggest that we get marry:eek:.maybe that time i desperate.Within 2 months she is in sillypore with me.Within 3 months,we rom .Within 3 yrs happily married with a 1 yrs old son.
Just sharing my story....

[ahpui99]

For us men, as long as we do ok un our work and got some stable income, it will help a lot

Love yourself and other people will love u for who u are

[pppp4]

I am a person who has interest with things like palm reading. According to my palm, after I get married I will get involved with extra-marital affair which is big turn-off and disaster for every happily married couple. The question now is whether you wan to believe this thing or not. I choose to believe it as it could actually tell me my future life through the lines on my palm. I admit I also cheong for the purpose of unloading stress and to get some short term companionship since I am still single.

Bro, can share contact of the palm reader?

[jnudes]

Bro, can share contact of the palm reader?

I read my own fate from the palmistry books I bought during my student days. I did not go through any professional palmist. If you wish to check your future destiny through your palm simply google free palm reading or online palm reading. They offer free reading for you. No need spend $$ for palm reading one.

[SadLoser]

i too lazy to study so much leh... from young i bo tak cheh much. Can i pay you , you read my palm for me :D

[jnudes]

i too lazy to study so much leh... from young i bo tak cheh much. Can i pay you , you read my palm for me :D

Sori I dun cari makan by palm reading. I long time no do palm reading liao. Forgot most lines oredi. Haha

[Cherrygen]

Hehe, dun indulge too much in palm reading. :p
U r in control of ur own fate. (;

[rat967]

Many year back!
I found a blade on the floor!
Thinking is the blade sharp!!! Or my palm hard enough!
So i slide on my palm line.. min later!! Blood coming out!
I change my fate!! Found a gal now my wife ...hee

[doomday123]

At least u all ever have a relationship before but moi never have 1 before and I am coming to 50........................................:o

There is PRO and CON being single and marriage...................;)

[SadLoser]

wah bro how you tahan for so many years?? for the past 3 years, i donated a lot of money to the commercial sex industry already...

[doomday123]

DIY and FLs............................:D

[jnudes]

wah bro how you tahan for so many years?? for the past 3 years, i donated a lot of money to the commercial sex industry already...

I mostly PCC after watching porn. Save me lots of money from commercial sex industry. :D:D:D On average I cheong less than 10 times per year.

[HCKing]

my advice is, commit yrself or get married only if u find one that cares abt u and loves u deeply. it may sound selfish but if u r that type who naturally enjoy being alone doing whatever u want and a care free lifestyle i believe only a loving wife is able to tie u down.

[Dogmatix]

Hi bros and sis,

This year I am 35 years old. I have been single since June 2002 until today. After the breakup did tried several attempts to court gals but unsuccessful. Either one of us did not like each other or we both have high demand. In summary no love destiny for us.

To release the stress of broken heart I also tried cheonging at Thailand, watch porn and have almost everyday PCC at home. I also visit spas, MPs and freelancers for their sex service, about few times in a year.

The older I get I just feel marriage is starting to become obsolete as more and more couples are getting divorce. I got to know two ex-classmates (one male & female) already divorced. This for me influenced me in certain ways and make me look more on negative side on marriage.

Actually I am doing fine in my everyday life. Working and sleeping alone. And in my free time I also go walking at park alone. Not really expecting or chasing anyone. Marriage is unthinkable for me now. I just feel single life give me more freedom and independent life that I truly enjoyed.

The purpose of this post is not to find new gf thru SBF or gain sympathies from members here. I just want to know humble opinions from single bros and sis on how they cope with their everyday single life.

Thanks for reading this and sharing your opinion.
You'll be surprised that you're not the only one in this position.

For example, I haven't had a serious relation in ages that I got cobweb on my d**k.

:D

Jokes aside, there are pros & cons either way - single or attached.

Most important for me is not to force the issue.

You do what you can & thereafter let the unseen forces decide.

When the time comes and the stars are aligned, things will just fall into place very naturally.

On the other hand, if it's not right time or mismatch, no matter what you do, things will always go wrong.

Better just enjoy singlehood when possible.

So many things to do, which includes screwing with the ladies.

[doomday123]

I mostly PCC after watching porn. Save me lots of money from commercial sex industry. :D:D On average I cheong less than 10 times per year.

Wow, your 10 times per year is equal to my 10 times per month...................................:eek:

Guess I really need to cut down my FLs activities.....................;)

[furritales]

Being single has its own headaches.....

Being attached has its own heartaches.....

Being attached and yet feels like single (cos partner not interested in sex) is both heart and headaches......

At the end of the day it is up to you to choose which aches you think you want.
:D

[Jamester999]

At least u all ever have a relationship before but moi never have 1 before and I am coming to 50........................................:o

There is PRO and CON being single and marriage...................;)

I was about to post myself saying i'm 34 this year and no have single GF before in my whole 34 years of life, then saw ur post.
hahaha make me feel like small potato lol.

you know in the eyes 99% of people out there, we're the weirdos. in the majority people's eye, only weirdos or problematic or gay people are like that.
Im sure you know what i'm saying here.

even the bros that are single for long time (but have relationships before)
will not understand also.

we're in another 'league'. :D

[muscleboi]

if you wanna a girl to support you emotionally, get a girlfriend but she may bring you more emotional torture than emotional support.
if its physical needs, WL will do the job and she will definitely do the job (with gfe or not is another thing)

whatever you do, make an informed decision :D

[peanodood1337]

(Posted in another thread. But same topic. So cut and paste lol)

First, you have to accept that its perfectly ok being single. What's so bad about that? Do ONS or go GL when you have urges. Save money that you would have spent on wife and kids to be a filial son. Treat your parents well.

Then when you grow old, check yourself into a nice old-folks home with your savings. Play chess everyday. Talk cock with fellow uncles. Watch TV. Oogle at chio nurse. Sounds ok right?

I have seen too many peers/relatives in unhappy marriages/divorces. Marriage is overrated. Don't get peer-pressured into settling down just because "its time to settle down".

Get a FB. Go into casual dating. Not difficult if you have decent finances and don't look utterly shite. See what develops from there.

Be happy. You owe it to yourself to be happy.

Take care bros.

[muscleboi]

(Posted in another thread. But same topic. So cut and paste lol)

First, you have to accept that its perfectly ok being single. What's so bad about that? Do ONS or go GL when you have urges. Save money that you would have spent on wife and kids to be a filial son. Treat your parents well.

Then when you grow old, check yourself into a nice old-folks home with your savings. Play chess everyday. Talk cock with fellow uncles. Watch TV. Oogle at chio nurse. Sounds ok right?

I have seen too many peers/relatives in unhappy marriages/divorces. Marriage is overrated. Don't get peer-pressured into settling down just because "its time to settle down"

Get a FB. Go into casual dating. Not difficult if you have decent finances and don't look utterly shite. See what develops from there.

Be happy. You owe it to yourself to be happy.

Take care bros.

Great minds think alike! cant be closer to the truth.

[Jamester999]

if you wanna a girl to support you emotionally, get a girlfriend but she may bring you more emotional torture than emotional support.
if its physical needs, WL will do the job and she will definitely do the job (with gfe or not is another thing)

whatever you do, make an informed decision :D

LOL "but she may bring you more emotional torture than emotional support"
too funny !!

[Jamester999]

(Posted in another thread. But same topic. So cut and paste lol)

First, you have to accept that its perfectly ok being single. What's so bad about that? Do ONS or go GL when you have urges. Save money that you would have spent on wife and kids to be a filial son. Treat your parents well.

Then when you grow old, check yourself into a nice old-folks home with your savings. Play chess everyday. Talk cock with fellow uncles. Watch TV. Oogle at chio nurse. Sounds ok right?

I have seen too many peers/relatives in unhappy marriages/divorces. Marriage is overrated. Don't get peer-pressured into settling down just because "its time to settle down".

Get a FB. Go into casual dating. Not difficult if you have decent finances and don't look utterly shite. See what develops from there.

Be happy. You owe it to yourself to be happy.

Take care bros.


agreed :)
marriage is overrated. just knew of a friend just divorced also.

btw 'check urself into old folks home' ? lol
interesting, never thought of it that way before lol

what is the rate ? how much ? lol

[ddog]

having GF = $ drain + bitching
single = No commitment, swinging fun

[peanodood1337]

agreed :)
marriage is overrated. just knew of a friend just divorced also.

btw 'check urself into old folks home' ? lol
interesting, never thought of it that way before lol

what is the rate ? how much ? lol

I did some rooting around for the info. Seems like the cheapest rates would be around $800/mth for Category 1 (i.e. able to function independently, no crippling physical disabilities):

http://$$$$$$$.com/ctlmstz

With inflation, not sure what it'll be like when we retire lol

[SiliconVibrator]

talkin abt being single, im one of the bro.... 37 liao lo, although sometime may feel loney but it beats having problems frm r/s or marriage. cheers...:D

[ziwan]

Hi bro,

I have the same age as you and single too.
I been cheonging, visit spa, KTV overseas all these while. I think sometime its a torture not to have someone to tok to.
So i think is important for single to have a number of friends/khakis who can meet up for coffee, drinks or cheonging.


Hi bros and sis,

This year I am 35 years old. I have been single since June 2002 until today. After the breakup did tried several attempts to court gals but unsuccessful. Either one of us did not like each other or we both have high demand. In summary no love destiny for us.

To release the stress of broken heart I also tried cheonging at Thailand, watch porn and have almost everyday PCC at home. I also visit spas, MPs and freelancers for their sex service, about few times in a year.

The older I get I just feel marriage is starting to become obsolete as more and more couples are getting divorce. I got to know two ex-classmates (one male & female) already divorced. This for me influenced me in certain ways and make me look more on negative side on marriage.

Actually I am doing fine in my everyday life. Working and sleeping alone. And in my free time I also go walking at park alone. Not really expecting or chasing anyone. Marriage is unthinkable for me now. I just feel single life give me more freedom and independent life that I truly enjoyed.

The purpose of this post is not to find new gf thru SBF or gain sympathies from members here. I just want to know humble opinions from single bros and sis on how they cope with their everyday single life.

Thanks for reading this and sharing your opinion.

[Jamester999]

I did some rooting around for the info. Seems like the cheapest rates would be around $800/mth for Category 1 (i.e. able to function independently, no crippling physical disabilities):

http://$$$$$$$.com/ctlmstz

With inflation, not sure what it'll be like when we retire lol

800 per month. so it's like they will take care of ur 1)food 2)lodging 3)msic things 4)medical ah ?

wah .. let's say 30-40 yr from now, the cost maybe at least 3-4 times .....
around 3000 maybe.

die lah :D

anyway that link is what ? cant access ..

[Jamester999]

talkin abt being single, im one of the bro.... 37 liao lo, although sometime may feel loney but it beats having problems frm r/s or marriage. cheers...:D

really wish all the bro and sis who got r/s all the best.

it's pain to see some of my friend with unhappy marriage..

[Beasty]

Money may bring physical pleasure. But after the deed always feel empty. It is different from having a girl to love and her loving you back in return.

[cheesepotato]

Hi bros and sis,

This year I am 35 years old. I have been single since June 2002 until today. After the breakup did tried several attempts to court gals but unsuccessful. Either one of us did not like each other or we both have high demand. In summary no love destiny for us.

To release the stress of broken heart I also tried cheonging at Thailand, watch porn and have almost everyday PCC at home. I also visit spas, MPs and freelancers for their sex service, about few times in a year.

The older I get I just feel marriage is starting to become obsolete as more and more couples are getting divorce. I got to know two ex-classmates (one male & female) already divorced. This for me influenced me in certain ways and make me look more on negative side on marriage.

Actually I am doing fine in my everyday life. Working and sleeping alone. And in my free time I also go walking at park alone. Not really expecting or chasing anyone. Marriage is unthinkable for me now. I just feel single life give me more freedom and independent life that I truly enjoyed.

The purpose of this post is not to find new gf thru SBF or gain sympathies from members here. I just want to know humble opinions from single bros and sis on how they cope with their everyday single life.

Thanks for reading this and sharing your opinion.

bro jnudes, i'm not sympathizing with you, but i understand that sometimes, you will feel totally shite because of your situation.

i dunno if you ever thought about it but i think that you are in the greatest moment of your life right now to do whatever you want. go backpacking, travel, embrace culture. you will see the world for what it really is instead of our very narrow lives.

NEVER let the downfalls of others affect you and never let them judge you. No one has that right to. You are your own man and i firmly believe that if you can admit your shortcomings now, you are ready to change. Lead your own life instead of being afraid to fail. Nothing in this life worth having comes easy so I do hope that you find your golden path one day.

[jnudes]

bro jnudes, i'm not sympathizing with you, but i understand that sometimes, you will feel totally shite because of your situation.

i dunno if you ever thought about it but i think that you are in the greatest moment of your life right now to do whatever you want. go backpacking, travel, embrace culture. you will see the world for what it really is instead of our very narrow lives.

NEVER let the downfalls of others affect you and never let them judge you. No one has that right to. You are your own man and i firmly believe that if you can admit your shortcomings now, you are ready to change. Lead your own life instead of being afraid to fail. Nothing in this life worth having comes easy so I do hope that you find your golden path one day.

Sometimes I see myself as a weirdo; going out alone, eating out alone, shopping alone and even cheong alone.

So weird that I dislike meeting friends or relatives that have been married and have kids, either still a baby or grown up kid and always avoid them whenever I can.

YES I agree I have been in my own destiny - 100% freedom over the last few years. And I am proud of that and no regrets until today.

I also know that at my age, 99% of the time there will be concerned relatives or friends asking me when I will get married. I just answer them I don't think about getting married and its not my concern right now.

For Asian culture especially for Chinese male they have big pressure and responsibility to get married at my age. While for Chinese females they have less pressure to get married. For me I just ignore it and live my own single life.

As for me I see no different between single and married. Get married and divorce later. So I ask myself WTF? Isn't marriage should be long lasting and give a good impression for single people like me. But unfortunately not every marriage can work out happily and the best solution is divorce.

[jasdude]

As for me I see no different between single and married. Get married and divorce later. So I ask myself WTF? Isn't marriage should be long lasting and give a good impression for single people like me. But unfortunately not every marriage can work out happily and the best solution is divorce.

Honestly marriage is not for everyone until they meet the destined one. Nothing to fear about or lament about because at the end of the day you will still feel empty without love and belonging. Learn from every failed relationship to better yourself. Marriage is just an acceptance of responsibility whereas a relationship is more of compromises and sacrifices. Food for thought.

[cheesepotato]

always two sides of a coin bro. from what you say, sounds like you got CNY problems from relatives too!

i personally think that you know what's best for yourself already just that sometimes you get into an emotional rut.

take care though!

[owl888]

Sometimes I see myself as a weirdo; going out alone, eating out alone, shopping alone and even cheong alone.

So weird that I dislike meeting friends or relatives that have been married and have kids, either still a baby or grown up kid and always avoid them whenever I can.

.

U shd not cheong alone, in SBF itself there r not for profit outings where I meet new friends. Most of them singles like u & me. Good to share around good lobangs. Who knows maybe he introduce his sister to u :D

[Another]

Personally, I feel that there's nothing wrong with wanting to be alone. As long as you can be happy, alone or with a significant other, it doesn't make much of a difference. It also depends heavily on a person's personality, whether one leans more towards being an introvert/extrovert.

So, chin up, figure out what makes you happy, it's okay to be slow.

[peanodood1337]

800 per month. so it's like they will take care of ur 1)food 2)lodging 3)msic things 4)medical ah ?

wah .. let's say 30-40 yr from now, the cost maybe at least 3-4 times .....
around 3000 maybe.

die lah :D

anyway that link is what ? cant access ..

The link is $$$$$$$. Not sure why its blocked here.

Cat 1 only provides basic care. You must be generally healthy, and able to function independently. If you have chronic illnesses, the other categories can cost a few times more (depending on your conditions).

If inflation goes up that high, well, can't be helped. Take loans to check into a nursing home, and die without settling your debts :o

[peanodood1337]

Omg I can't even type t-i-n-y-u-r-l here. wtf censor...

[MrSoapy]

Nothing wrong to be single but being single is not easy especially when age is catching up. You'll gradually see all your close friends one after another got attached, married and have kids. They no longer have time to meet up with you due to their own family committments and problems to settle each day and weekends. There will be times when you just feel like chating with those friends of yours but when you give them a ring asking if there are free for a meet up, they will turn you down most of the time as they will prefer to go out with their gf rather than you as a guy. Which guy in this world is not "chee hong" anyway right?

In the end, we singles will most of the time ended up eating alone, walking alone, shopping alone, watching movie alone, cheonging alone, drinking alone, dining alone etc. Most of the time all these lone ranger activities even have to perform during leisure oversea trips unless you are fortunate to have some brothers here willing to meet up with you and cheong together. It's a lonely path for singles to take. But having said all these, we single will always enjoy many freedom which all married or attached men find it difficult to attain easily unless they smuggler out under their wifes or gf's nose. We single can simply go anywhere and do whatever we like with no constrain. We have no other family burden and worries except for our own aging parents. We come and go as we please and there's no need to consider the wife or gf's feelings, likes and dislikes. We single are not tied down by all those $$$ issues and worries in supporting your wife, kids or gf's materialistic needs. We earn enough and spend enough to please ourself. We can always save up for 2 oversea trips each year to release our needs and get the experience the kind of fun and wild life abroad.

If you really want to get attached and married in S'pore, you'll be prepared for a tough journey ahead with all sort of $$$ issues and burdon of your wife, kids, housing etc. The environment in S'pore is no longer conducive to have a family as compared to 10 years back. Life is getting more tough even for those single to survive each day. Just think about what if you lost your job one day but still got a wife, kids to feed and housing loan to service? Our government no longer listen and care about how local S'poreans able to survive here. They just want the easy way out by bringing more foreigners here to spend more money, buy more property to sustain our economy thru consumer spendings so that they can pay themselves sky high salary.

Do you think married men can really retired comfortably in S'pore after they paid up their housing loan, kids education, medical bills etc? Think twice if you really want to get attached and married with all these worries that are going to haunt you in the near future.

[muscleboi]

bro MrSoapy, i hear you loud and clear. :o i agree with what you mentioned. for refresher, check out do-not-marry.com before considering marriage.

the objective of marriage is to have a family aka family warmth...but in this modern world we are all so busy working to make a living that getting married and re-producing is just to create more modern slaves to keep the economy going..

marriage no longer brings as much happiness as before. in fact, it brings us more stress...especially for us guys. remember losing our job doesnt only equate to losing our job..it can possibly mean losing our "family" through divorce or separation...yes, the "family" particularly the wife whom vowed to go through thick and thin with you. marriage is a facade of happiness in front of friends and relatives..

so is marriage really good and being single really that bad? think again.

[jnudes]

Nothing wrong to be single but being single is not easy especially when age is catching up. You'll gradually see all your close friends one after another got attached, married and have kids. They no longer have time to meet up with you due to their own family committments and problems to settle each day and weekends. There will be times when you just feel like chating with those friends of yours but when you give them a ring asking if there are free for a meet up, they will turn you down most of the time as they will prefer to go out with their gf rather than you as a guy. Which guy in this world is not "chee hong" anyway right?

In the end, we singles will most of the time ended up eating alone, walking alone, shopping alone, watching movie alone, cheonging alone, drinking alone, dining alone etc. Most of the time all these lone ranger activities even have to perform during leisure oversea trips unless you are fortunate to have some brothers here willing to meet up with you and cheong together. It's a lonely path for singles to take. But having said all these, we single will always enjoy many freedom which all married or attached men find it difficult to attain easily unless they smuggler out under their wifes or gf's nose. We single can simply go anywhere and do whatever we like with no constrain. We have no other family burden and worries except for our own aging parents. We come and go as we please and there's no need to consider the wife or gf's feelings, likes and dislikes. We single are not tied down by all those $$$ issues and worries in supporting your wife, kids or gf's materialistic needs. We earn enough and spend enough to please ourself. We can always save up for 2 oversea trips each year to release our needs and get the experience the kind of fun and wild life abroad.

If you really want to get attached and married in S'pore, you'll be prepared for a tough journey ahead with all sort of $$$ issues and burdon of your wife, kids, housing etc. The environment in S'pore is no longer conducive to have a family as compared to 10 years back. Life is getting more tough even for those single to survive each day. Just think about what if you lost your job one day but still got a wife, kids to feed and housing loan to service? Our government no longer listen and care about how local S'poreans able to survive here. They just want the easy way out by bringing more foreigners here to spend more money, buy more property to sustain our economy thru consumer spendings so that they can pay themselves sky high salary.

Do you think married men can really retired comfortably in S'pore after they paid up their housing loan, kids education, medical bills etc? Think twice if you really want to get attached and married with all these worries that are going to haunt you in the near future.

I stopped ringing my married friends over the last 5 years. Got sick of those rejection and excuses. Once they are married and have kids, they ignore you completely. I supposed this is normal human nature. Family is always number one.

Bro, there's one more you forgot to add: we singles will die alone if we choose to be single forever. Now I treat marriage as a business where almost everything from marriage ceremony to giving birth and raising kids need money. And it is expensive to live especially with a materialistic gf or wife. While I must admit cheonging with a WL is so much cheaper and without any commitment.

Luckily I am not from SG and I dun intend to live there as the city too stressful for me. With the current hardship there is no one else to blame but the citizen themselves. And btw one cannot separate suicide and sin city from the society. And it will continue on as long as the current govt is in power.

[jnudes]

bro MrSoapy, i hear you loud and clear. :o i agree with what you mentioned. for refresher, check out do-not-marry.com before considering marriage.

the objective of marriage is to have a family aka family warmth...but in this modern world we are all so busy working to make a living that getting married and re-producing is just to create more modern slaves to keep the economy going..

marriage no longer brings as much happiness as before. in fact, it brings us more stress...especially for us guys. remember losing our job doesnt only equate to losing our job..it can possibly mean losing our "family" through divorce or separation...yes, the "family" particularly the wife whom vowed to go through thick and thin with you. marriage is a facade of happiness in front of friends and relatives..

so is marriage really good and being single really that bad? think again.

As far as I am concerned, current marriage means making friends with over 500 friends in Facebook although the person also has little baby to take care. They had little time to keep in touch even with close relatives. A mother or father supposed to take care of their family after married and after the existence of Facebook looks like keeping in touch with friends had became their number one priority. They don't know how their neighbour look like or what their occupation is, getting hooked on Facebook and social networking has become a new culture for the current SG society. Sad but true.

[Oysterpay]

This is a great thread.

I actually enjoy being single more than I do with someone together.

It may be lonesome at times.but peace comes with it as a package.

Being with someone makes u on top of the world for days then rise and fall for years.

Ppl who choose to be single and loner not necessary miserable.

They are someone who realize in this era,

爱情=痛，

痛=更痛

更痛=分离

分离= $$,time,心, along with many other precious thing gone.

To be loner is hard.to choose to be a loner is harder.

[LengKia]

Hi bros and sis,

This year I am 35 years old. I have been single since June 2002 until today. After the breakup did tried several attempts to court gals but unsuccessful. Either one of us did not like each other or we both have high demand. In summary no love destiny for us.

To release the stress of broken heart I also tried cheonging at Thailand, watch porn and have almost everyday PCC at home. I also visit spas, MPs and freelancers for their sex service, about few times in a year.

The older I get I just feel marriage is starting to become obsolete as more and more couples are getting divorce. I got to know two ex-classmates (one male & female) already divorced. This for me influenced me in certain ways and make me look more on negative side on marriage.

Actually I am doing fine in my everyday life. Working and sleeping alone. And in my free time I also go walking at park alone. Not really expecting or chasing anyone. Marriage is unthinkable for me now. I just feel single life give me more freedom and independent life that I truly enjoyed.

The purpose of this post is not to find new gf thru SBF or gain sympathies from members here. I just want to know humble opinions from single bros and sis on how they cope with their everyday single life.

Thanks for reading this and sharing your opinion.

franking speaking, tying the knot is not always the best for some men
Some people regret getting married whereas some miss the chance of their life

I missed the day when i'm alone doing things

[LengKia]

(Posted in another thread. But same topic. So cut and paste lol)

First, you have to accept that its perfectly ok being single. What's so bad about that? Do ONS or go GL when you have urges. Save money that you would have spent on wife and kids to be a filial son. Treat your parents well.

Then when you grow old, check yourself into a nice old-folks home with your savings. Play chess everyday. Talk cock with fellow uncles. Watch TV. Oogle at chio nurse. Sounds ok right?

I have seen too many peers/relatives in unhappy marriages/divorces. Marriage is overrated. Don't get peer-pressured into settling down just because "its time to settle down".

Get a FB. Go into casual dating. Not difficult if you have decent finances and don't look utterly shite. See what develops from there.

Be happy. You owe it to yourself to be happy.

Take care bros.


after reading all the experiences and comment from the bros, it really make want to go back to those days of singlehood....unfortunately it is always difficult if you have a child...:o

[jnudes]

after reading all the experiences and comment from the bros, it really make want to go back to those days of singlehood....unfortunately it is always difficult if you have a child...:o

Bro, from your statement I feel encouraged living a lonely and single life. And if I have chance to get a gf or married someday, I know my 100% freedom would be lost forever. In the mean time I shall enjoy my singlehood as much as I can. :D

[peanodood1337]

after reading all the experiences and comment from the bros, it really make want to go back to those days of singlehood....unfortunately it is always difficult if you have a child...:o

Different folks different strokes. I would imagine having someone call you Papa for the first time is a different class of happiness on its own right? :o

There's always pros and cons in everything. Even I feel lonely sometimes. When that happens, I'll just call someone up for a movie, dinner or... something else :D

[topcook1]

Single is definitely much better...Man just need a woman to bonk only..Woman seems to be a burden to man ..

[singmarine]

It is prefectly normal to be single. Once u married the next step is seperation then divorce if things dun got work out. Worse still if you have children to add in the equation. 1 out of every 4 friends around me are facing this problem.

[Beasty]

Single is definitely much better...Man just need a woman to bonk only..Woman seems to be a burden to man ..

I used to think like you. Bonk a gal, 1hr finish. What's next? At the end of the day you are still alone.

Man and woman sure have emotional needs one. But it's hard to get to know gals, considering my current lifestyle...

[k_y_jerry]

Bonking will Satisfy ur lust but to be love and love someone esle is totally a different thing all together

[MrSoapy]

I stopped ringing my married friends over the last 5 years. Got sick of those rejection and excuses. Once they are married and have kids, they ignore you completely. I supposed this is normal human nature. Family is always number one.

Bro, there's one more you forgot to add: we singles will die alone if we choose to be single forever. Now I treat marriage as a business where almost everything from marriage ceremony to giving birth and raising kids need money. And it is expensive to live especially with a materialistic gf or wife. While I must admit cheonging with a WL is so much cheaper and without any commitment.

Luckily I am not from SG and I dun intend to live there as the city too stressful for me. With the current hardship there is no one else to blame but the citizen themselves. And btw one cannot separate suicide and sin city from the society. And it will continue on as long as the current govt is in power.

Yes. The path of being Single is definitely not an easy route. Singles will eventually get sick and die alone. There will be nobody to visit you when you are sick in bed, nobody to chat with you when you need someone close to share your joys and sorrows, nobody to assist you when you need help. You come alone, go alone and die alone. Nobody will bother to remember who you are, where you are from and why you are here. Everthing seems to be dull, boring and miserable without any companion.

However, there will be not much worries for singles to leave this world. We come to this world naked and leave this world empty handed. Perhaps the only thing we can bring along will be those good and bad memories. It's much more peaceful if you leaving this world alone, no need to look behind our shoulder as we move on to another place.

For many guys who are married, most of them will not tell you their true marriage life. They seems happily married to their wife and kids. However, 9 out of 10 of them has been suffering from some kind of disappoinment. Some get to realized after marriage that their wife is not really an ideal partner. Their character, attitude and lifestyle is not what they used to be before marriage. There's a saying that love is blind and marriage restore sight. Many of the couples find that they don't really enjoy their sex life at all. Some get to discovered that their partner is a dead fish, no passion in making love, dislike having sex with each other. They are disappointed and disatisfied with the kind of life and sexual relationship they have. Hence they begin to "steal eat" outside, get involved in affairs with other man/woman. Nothing much to offer except to file for a divorce. But the woman's chartred in S'pore always favours the woman and the judge will always lean on their side. Man will always be on the losing end, have to come out with $$$ to sustain the lifestyle or their divorced wife. It's not the end but just the beginning of another nightmare for man.

Just think again, how many good woman left in this society can you find that can be wife material? How many of those woman left can offer and shower you with true love and give you the kind of sexual desire that you want to sustain the marriage. Not many left and not many can do that in this materialistic world. Marriage seems to be a business deal these days and it's big gamble and risk that you will need to undertake if you want to experience a married life.

Is it worth the risk and are you ready and prepared should your marriage failed?

[jnudes]

Yes. The path of being Single is definitely not an easy route. Singles will eventually get sick and die alone. There will be nobody to visit you when you are sick in bed, nobody to chat with you when you need someone close to share your joys and sorrows, nobody to assist you when you need help. You come alone, go alone and die alone. Nobody will bother to remember who you are, where you are from and why you are here. Everthing seems to be dull, boring and miserable without any companion.

However, there will be not much worries for singles to leave this world. We come to this world naked and leave this world empty handed. Perhaps the only thing we can bring along will be those good and bad memories. It's much more peaceful if you leaving this world alone, no need to look behind our shoulder as we move on to another place.

For many guys who are married, most of them will not tell you their true marriage life. They seems happily married to their wife and kids. However, 9 out of 10 of them has been suffering from some kind of disappoinment. Some get to realized after marriage that their wife is not really an ideal partner. Their character, attitude and lifestyle is not what they used to be before marriage. There's a saying that love is blind and marriage restore sight. Many of the couples find that they don't really enjoy their sex life at all. Some get to discovered that their partner is a dead fish, no passion in making love, dislike having sex with each other. They are disappointed and disatisfied with the kind of life and sexual relationship they have. Hence they begin to "steal eat" outside, get involved in affairs with other man/woman. Nothing much to offer except to file for a divorce. But the woman's chartred in S'pore always favours the woman and the judge will always lean on their side. Man will always be on the losing end, have to come out with $$$ to sustain the lifestyle or their divorced wife. It's not the end but just the beginning of another nightmare for man.

Just think again, how many good woman left in this society can you find that can be wife material? How many of those woman left can offer and shower you with true love and give you the kind of sexual desire that you want to sustain the marriage. Not many left and not many can do that in this materialistic world. Marriage seems to be a business deal these days and it's big gamble and risk that you will need to undertake if you want to experience a married life.

Is it worth the risk and are you ready and prepared should your marriage failed?

Right now I am learning to cook at home as one way to cope with my single lifestyle. As far as I know no matter how boring one life is, the life has to go on. It is up to us on how we going to spend the time.

I thanked this forum for able to read and discovering the ugly truth about the reality of marriage life. Only then I realized why divorce was on the increase these days.

To find a good woman you can count with your own fingers. Consider yourself lucky if you can find a good one.

[muscleboi]

Right now I am learning to cook at home as one way to cope with my single lifestyle. As far as I know no matter how boring one life is, the life has to go on. It is up to us on how we going to spend the time.

I thanked this forum for able to read and discovering the ugly truth about the reality of marriage life. Only then I realized why divorce was on the increase these days.

To find a good woman you can count with your own fingers. Consider yourself lucky if you can find a good one.

bro, i agree fors the first part but not really on the last part..how do you define a "good girl"? one who doesnt feed you on bed but doesnt stray most probably cant be bothered to? or one who supports you and feeds you well and doesnt stray? its hard to find one that fulfills the latter..

[jnudes]

bro, i agree fors the first part but not really on the last part..how do you define a "good girl"? one who doesnt feed you on bed but doesnt stray most probably cant be bothered to? or one who supports you and feeds you well and doesnt stray? its hard to find one that fulfills the latter..

A good wife is someone who will be there in good and bad times, who is loyal (does not sleep around), who is family-oriented, who is good at cooking, who respects the older generation and set good example for younger generation, who can satisfy the husband sexually, who spends wisely and save enough money for future kids education, who leads a normal and simple life (unlike those who dress like celebrity and leads a materialistic life).

And lastly good wife is usually linked with a certain religion like Christianity. And due to her strong influence with her religion, she will avoid herself straying around. There are rules set up in the ten commandment in the Bible. But then this is my observation within a Christian community. No idea about others like Buddhist, Islam or Hindu.

Young women are busy chasing their career and material needs these days. If guys can fuck around, so can they. They are demanding equal rights with the guys. When the guys win they also wan to win. In the past guys win most of the times. For a relationship to survive, one party (either husband or wife) must learn to let go and give way (sacrifice).

[muscleboi]

A good wife is someone who will be there in good and bad times, who is loyal (does not sleep around), who is family-oriented, who is good at cooking, who respects the older generation and set good example for younger generation, who can satisfy the husband sexually, who spends wisely and save enough money for future kids education, who leads a normal and simple life (unlike those who dress like celebrity and leads a materialistic life).

And lastly good wife is usually linked with a certain religion like Christianity. And due to her strong influence with her religion, she will avoid herself straying around. There are rules set up in the ten commandment in the Bible. But then this is my observation within a Christian community. No idea about others like Buddhist, Islam or Hindu.

Young women are busy chasing their career and material needs these days. If guys can fuck around, so can they. They are demanding equal rights with the guys. When the guys win they also wan to win. In the past guys win most of the times. For a relationship to survive, one party (either husband or wife) must learn to let go and give way (sacrifice).

bro, i think you're talking about more than one woman. hardly a single woman can fulfill all the requirements you stated. say for example, how can you get a girl to satisfy you sexually on bed and yet be religious? :confused:

[jnudes]

bro, i think you're talking about more than one woman. hardly a single woman can fulfill all the requirements you stated. say for example, how can you get a girl to satisfy you sexually on bed and yet be religious? :confused:

When a religious couple have sex they just do it the fast and easy way, fuck, shoot and game over. Not really foreplay involved, even wear a sexy lingerie is also not on the menu. And the main reason they fuck is to get pregnant and give birth later on.

If you want to have a passionate fuck like those pornstars with added menu like wearing sexy lingerie, etc, religious person does not fit in as usually they don't watch those things let alone softcore movies. Non-religious woman are more open-minded and they can even do all sorts of sex, even with someone husband, etc. This is where the question of loyalty and adultery comes in place.

I agree with you to combine religion and sex together would be tough for a woman. Currently we are living in a stressful society and as more and more woman are getting more open-minded, even divorced woman is slowly getting accepted in the society and they don't feel ashamed about it at all. Divorced, what the big deal, can marry again mah.

[Beasty]

[QUOTE=jnudes;9008906]
And lastly good wife is usually linked with a certain religion like Christianity. And due to her strong influence with her religion, she will avoid herself straying around. There are rules set up in the ten commandment in the Bible. But then this is my observation within a Christian community. No idea about others like Buddhist, Islam or Hindu.
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I think the more a person restrains herself, the easier it is for her to sin. There will be many charismatic bros in the church. What if she falls to temptations :D

[jnudes]

[QUOTE=jnudes;9008906]
And lastly good wife is usually linked with a certain religion like Christianity. And due to her strong influence with her religion, she will avoid herself straying around. There are rules set up in the ten commandment in the Bible. But then this is my observation within a Christian community. No idea about others like Buddhist, Islam or Hindu.
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I think the more a person restrains herself, the easier it is for her to sin. There will be many charismatic bros in the church. What if she falls to temptations :D

There are holy and religious people falling into temptations and ruin their own reputation and life in the end. As for me I am neither holy nor an atheist. I am in the middle. I admit I do go and cheong, I only do it few times in a year. Not a hardcore drinker or cheongster. And I truly satisfied with that.

[hunter12]

A good thread to read abt... pros n cons of single / married...

Is sad to think that 1 day, u will die alone n might decomposed before someone discovered u not because they miss u but because of the smell.... :( but to say that... 'if' times can rewind, i will never ever want to go in a married life. But in real life, there is no 'if'....

To me a gd wife dosent have to provide a gd sex to me as she is not FL.. as long as 1 remember to stick together be it good time or bad time, but sad to say, not only gal, to b honest n fair... both parties also cant...... wat type of ppl will attract the same type of ppl but sometimes do have exceptional.... happy for those tat find it n happily living together....

We want gal ok looking bring out got face, can fuck, can cook, can save $, b respectful to our parents, b a gd mother to children, b loyal n faithful to husband, b thrifty etc etc.... but but... how many guy can do the same... nobody fault... just that society is deeply corrupted.. deeply posion...

Sometimes i find Chinese sayings v correct... 贫穷夫妻本是哀... 大祸临头各自飞...

[DapHn33333]

A good wife is someone who will be there in good and bad times, who is loyal (does not sleep around), who is family-oriented, who is good at cooking, who respects the older generation and set good example for younger generation, who can satisfy the husband sexually, who spends wisely and save enough money for future kids education, who leads a normal and simple life (unlike those who dress like celebrity and leads a materialistic life).

And lastly good wife is usually linked with a certain religion like Christianity. And due to her strong influence with her religion, she will avoid herself straying around. There are rules set up in the ten commandment in the Bible. But then this is my observation within a Christian community. No idea about others like Buddhist, Islam or Hindu.

Young women are busy chasing their career and material needs these days. If guys can fuck around, so can they. They are demanding equal rights with the guys. When the guys win they also wan to win. In the past guys win most of the times. For a relationship to survive, one party (either husband or wife) must learn to let go and give way (sacrifice).



who is loyal (does not sleep around)==> she sleep a round last time?

who is family-oriented===> Yes not all women

who is good at cooking==> hard to find...(cos I can cook but my follow friends don't cook)

who respects the older generation and set good example for younger generation===> Yes of course respect but older generation didn't set a good example like those broken family?

who spends wisely and save enough money for future kids education==> What if she spend money on their educations since young? is not cheap at all.

who leads a normal and simple life (unlike those who dress like celebrity and leads a materialistic life)===> yes if she don't dress up what others think?

lastly good wife is usually linked with a certain religion==> you totally wrong.

Bro one thing for sure stay single is better and enjoy your life! my life example full of drama, pain, quarrel and money issue. been a good wife spend on my daughter education which cost a bomb, wear the same old dress and using my money to buy. husband love fishing and bike is more important then family. I rather stay single if I can turn back time.

[jnudes]

who is loyal (does not sleep around)==> she sleep a round last time?

who is family-oriented===> Yes not all women

who is good at cooking==> hard to find...(cos I can cook but my follow friends don't cook)

who respects the older generation and set good example for younger generation===> Yes of course respect but older generation didn't set a good example like those broken family?

who spends wisely and save enough money for future kids education==> What if she spend money on their educations since young? is not cheap at all.

who leads a normal and simple life (unlike those who dress like celebrity and leads a materialistic life)===> yes if she don't dress up what others think?

lastly good wife is usually linked with a certain religion==> you totally wrong.

Bro one thing for sure stay single is better and enjoy your life! my life example full of drama, pain, quarrel and money issue. been a good wife spend on my daughter education which cost a bomb, wear the same old dress and using my money to buy. husband love fishing and bike is more important then family. I rather stay single if I can turn back time.

Thanks sis for your advice. After starting this thread and reading comments from various ppl; I can say I dun feel so lonely anymore and feel motivated to lead a single life. And I also realized only single life can give me 100% freedom. Since I enjoy travelling I shall make full use of it.

[jnudes]

Is sad to think that 1 day, u will die alone n might decomposed before someone discovered u not because they miss u but because of the smell.... :( but to say that... 'if' times can rewind, i will never ever want to go in a married life. But in real life, there is no 'if'....

Bro, if indeed I die decomposed one day without anyone noticing then I will take that as a fate and bad luck to myself. Thanks for reminding me of the reality of married life.

[hamsapkwai]

Bro, if indeed I die decomposed one day without anyone noticing then I will take that as a fate and bad luck to myself. Thanks for reminding me of the reality of married life.

no worries about that brother, when that happens the smell will bring the entire civil defence to come break down your door and the whole neighborhood will know. :p

and oh yes you might qualify as a poor thing like those high profile deaths and that undertaker Roland might give u a pro bono funeral , u see , being single also has its perks

[Beasty]

Having struggled on this topic for so many years, i have also found my own philosophy on love.

In life, most important thing is to be happy with a clear conscience. If you can't find a good girlfriend no matter how hard you try, just seek happiness from alternative source. That's all. Bonus is you get all the freedom you want.

[Parkerlon]

Like this thread as I never had a gf before also. 28 years and still counting. But now suffering owing alot of debts due to my stupidity. Hopefully will wake up now:(

[twist_shout]

somehow reading this thread after a broke up made me depressed :(

[jnudes]

Curious, do you have very good relationship with your siblings?

Or your relationship with your siblings are not good?

I have two sisters, both are married. I am closer to the eldest, at least we can communicate when we meet but not with the other one.