The Ex keeps SMS-ing her

[tomatoservice]

Hi Everyone,

What now?
=(

-TS

[JacqueMerlin]

Hi Everyone,

What now?
=(

-TS

That's not the problem. The problem is how she's responding to it.

(1) If she replies them, regardless if she tells you or not, it's time to cut your losses and move on.
(2) If she does not reply them and tells you about it, she's actually trying to catch your attention, reel in more of your attention to her.

Pretty straightforward. Think with your mind clear.

[Greatking]

Hi TS,

Snatch away her phone. That's now.:cool:

[see see only]

TS,

So she told you this ... or you found out without her telling you in the first place ??? :rolleyes:

BTW how long since they broke up ... etc etc ...

These fact are quite important before more advice could be given :cool:

[asdfghjkl]

yeah.. more info is needed.. :o

[tomatoservice]

Thanks for the concerns and feedback on above.

My category is more to:-
(2) If she does not reply them and tells you about it, she's actually trying to catch your attention, reel in more of your attention to her.

She did not hide from me.

So how shld i carry on now?

[meisha]

Thanks for the concerns and feedback on above.

My category is more to:-
(2) If she does not reply them and tells you about it, she's actually trying to catch your attention, reel in more of your attention to her.

She did not hide from me.

So how shld i carry on now?

I know your posting day is about 8 days a go and yet no one is replying. So please allow me to bump your thread by asking you something, will you feel more paranoid if she didn't tell you and you find out about it yourself later?

[HCKing]

Thanks for the concerns and feedback on above.

My category is more to:-
(2) If she does not reply them and tells you about it, she's actually trying to catch your attention, reel in more of your attention to her.

She did not hide from me.

So how shld i carry on now?

u yrself oredi written the answer liao wat.

make sure u keep SMS her more than her ex does everyday can liao loh.

[synyster]

Thanks for the concerns and feedback on above.

My category is more to:-
(2) If she does not reply them and tells you about it, she's actually trying to catch your attention, reel in more of your attention to her.

She did not hide from me.

So how shld i carry on now?

well, you can't stop the ex from sms-ing her. since she's telling you this, maybe she dont know how to handle the situation. maybe you can tell her to sms the guy to clear all the air to put the end to that r/s of theirs. it might be this way. but if your gf have other intentions, then i guess this problem is not that simple. :/ we know nothing about your r/s with her so i dont think we can judge anything from it.

[sammyleaks]

That's not the problem. The problem is how she's responding to it.

(1) If she replies them, regardless if she tells you or not, it's time to cut your losses and move on.

(2) If she does not reply them and tells you about it, she's actually trying to catch your attention, reel in more of your attention to her.

Pretty straightforward. Think with your mind clear.

Cannot fully agree with you. It depends on how much the EX still exist in her heart. Total eradication of his existence in her memories are impossible BUT the important factor is whether she loves the TS now and whether she still loves the EX is important.

[casinos]

Thanks for the concerns and feedback on above.

My category is more to:-
(2) If she does not reply them and tells you about it, she's actually trying to catch your attention, reel in more of your attention to her.

She did not hide from me.

So how shld i carry on now?

simple lah. don't warn her beforehand. suddenly buy another sim card for her. take out the old sim card from her phone. ask her to snap the old sim card in half in front of u. then tell her, he won't be smsing her from now on. coz he doesn't know the new number. if his sms is received again at the new number, that means she takes the initiative to maintain contact. then u can better decide what u wanna do with her ;)

[hibiki90]

Sometimes even if you get rid of the SIM card, she will still continue to find ways and means one. Best is just talk to her honestly and sincerely?

[Stimsia]

simple lah. don't warn her beforehand. suddenly buy another sim card for her. take out the old sim card from her phone. ask her to snap the old sim card in half in front of u. then tell her, he won't be smsing her from now on. coz he doesn't know the new number. if his sms is received again at the new number, that means she takes the initiative to maintain contact. then u can better decide what u wanna do with her ;)

i agree but not so drastic
go with her to buy her a new sim card and pay for her subscription

i always believe there's a way if there is a will
if she sincere she would agree
it is easy to update all ctc with the new number

[CandyBunny]

Everything boils down to her own mentality and how much you trust her. You are being a little more sensitive because he's an ex. What if he's an attractive new guy? Would you still doubt her?

[GlimpseNglance]

Errm...actually what u wanna achieve? The ex keep SMS-ing her not her fault what...unless u say she keep SMS-ing the ex.

If u want the ex to stop, u should give the ex a call using ur gf phone. He sure will stop SMS cos he knows u will be reading....

If u don't wanna call him, then like what bro HCKing say - make sure u SMS more than him...

But IMO, the ex wanna stay in contact nothing wrong what...v common.

[meisha]

simple lah. don't warn her beforehand. suddenly buy another sim card for her. take out the old sim card from her phone. ask her to snap the old sim card in half in front of u. then tell her, he won't be smsing her from now on. coz he doesn't know the new number. if his sms is received again at the new number, that means she takes the initiative to maintain contact. then u can better decide what u wanna do with her ;)

I would say everyone have their own privacy, an ex is just a past. Is just a title given to him from her acknowledging that is history. Back to the point he is just another ordinary guy. Changing number for this situation would be a bit too unecessary it just show how narrow hearted you are as a man. Changing number would be one of the solution, it will be best if she initate to change herself.

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Thanks for the concerns and feedback on above.

My category is more to:-
(2) If she does not reply them and tells you about it, she's actually trying to catch your attention, reel in more of your attention to her.

She did not hide from me.

So how shld i carry on now?

She told you cos she respect you.....Why you need to 2nd guess her intention? :confused:

If it really bother you so much, in the ex next SMS, together with your cai, text this: Please stop bothering me, I love my boyfriend very much. :D

If her ex persisted and sent a fresh SMS, please type: ~!@#$%^&*()_+ This is her boyfriend!!! Stop bothering my cai. We are in the middle of fxxking. Now we need to start all over again !@#$%^&*()_+ :mad:

It worked for me. Hope it helps ;)

[DO_YOU_BJ]

The irony of the whole situation is not her ex, TS u, but HER.
This has to be & must be done on her own initiative.
Simple terms called "自动!"
There is only 1 true way to resolve this.
Snatching the phone away will not improve but worsen the situation for the gal mite think ur invading her privacy.
Replying the ex on her phone if she knows & dun approve of it will also backfire.
A simple chat wif her, BF to GF telling her how u feel about this & how she'll feel if the situation is reversed will let u know alot based on her answers.
When one is attached, it's a norm to close his / her doors, yes, contacts wif ex's r not uncommon but on a hello goodbye frequency but if it's continuous, then there's something that seriously need major pondering.
Like i always say, ever action, ever tot, every statement one makes, has a root in them all.
In this case, i will not pass any judgement but I urge tomatoservice to strongly practice what my signature states so as to see the lite of this problem!
The Choices We Make, Dictate The Life We Lead!!!
The 4 Golden Rules in life:
1) 不要欺骗自己
2) 不要出卖自己
3) 不要背叛自己
4) 不要对不起自己
是你的，就是你的。
不是你的，不要抢！
人之所以快乐，不是因为得到的多、而是因为计较的少

[SeeNoEvil]

Simple terms called "自动!"


Well said, cannot agree more.

[JimCurry]

She told you cos she respect you.....Why you need to 2nd guess her intention? :confused:

If it really bother you so much, in the ex next SMS, together with your cai, text this: Please stop bothering me, I love my boyfriend very much. :D

If her ex persisted and sent a fresh SMS, please type: ~!@#$%^&*()_+ This is her boyfriend!!! Stop bothering my cai. We are in the middle of fxxking. Now we need to start all over again !@#$%^&*()_+ :mad:

It worked for me. Hope it helps ;)

No offence bro, I sense 仔男behind the screen. Its not going to work for all. It will only worsen the relationship. "Do my boyfriend trust me?" that is the question that she will surface in her head.