Cant forget him after 10 years

[redhun]

We first met, when i was wrkg in a club after failling to join the airlines. He sauntered in, and as i was doing reception, i escorted him in. He had an arrogant face, i thought, very hau lian. Then he started to speak to his friends in cantonese. I am a cantonese who couldnt speak a word of mandarin, my impression of him changed. He became a regular. One night he hanged around until i knocked off. I changed out of uniform, wearing a body hugging dress and i saw him, looking at me.

I was heading down to mohd sultan, n he asked if he could join. We went out. Nothing happened, but we exchanged numbers. I din own a hp then, n gave him my pager number. Over the days, we contacted, eventually we had sex. Sex wth him was mind blowing! Later on, i realised he was married, his wife was bk in her own country then. But i couldnt let go, but i knw my position too, not to demand.

Not only was he married, but he has a gf. I was devastated, knowing tht this man, is just probably wth me fr sex. I love him, but did not allow my emotion grew out of hand knowing that there s no future fr me. We went on for several months until one night, he held another woman in front of me, n that was the end of it.

A year later, he broke up wth his gf, had kids wth wife. But i still cudnt forget him, on special occasions i will still send him casual msgs. Hows family etc. Occasionally throughout the years, he tried to ask me out but i am not prepared to betray my marriage. My marriage is on the rocks from e start.

I yearn to see him, feel him again. But i know its not right, i miss him, fr over ten years. Stupid huh? Just want to let it out..... :(

[gent]

Hi,

Both of you still in contact? Is he your first love?

For a gal, I guess you r quite emotionally attached to him during that time. Take care and think of your future. There r many other guys out there.. They may love you more and also deserve your love more...

[waiwaiz]

cut out all contact.......FB, phone number, email everything delete off......soon u get beta...trust me;)

[asdfghjkl]

who can forget their first love? :(

[Ladyrain]

Dear redhun, I feel for you. I can literally feel your agony and pain. I know it's not easy. I'm trying too. I've only got one ex bf and we were together for about 10 years too. One of the reasons Why we broke off was that my family background doesn't match his. His family didn't like me because I dont have a degree like their son. No matter how hard I try to be nice to his family, they still think I'm not worthy enough. They insisted my family is a burden.

He recently got married. And yes. That lady is a degree holder.

It takes time for you to really have the courage to move on. Ultimately, it's still your choice.

Hugs, lady rain :o

[Ken88999]

who can forget their first love? :(

Nice talk bro!!!!!

今世的果，是前世的因!!!!!
So just take it or forget it.....
Bcoz alway got better one waiting for u...
Just only u want step one step forward anot...
All d best to u!!!! Cheer!!!!

[SammyHulk]

;):D

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SUMcA--ejOc

Time, it needs time
To win back your love again
I will be there, I will be there
Love, only love
Can bring back your love someday
I will be there, I will be there

I'll fight, babe, I'll fight
To win back your love again
I will be there, I will be there
Love, only love
Can break down the wall someday
I will be there, I will be there

If we'd go again
All the way from the start
I would try to change
The things that killed our love
Your pride has built a wall, so strong
That I can't get through
Is there really no chance
To start once again
I'm loving you

Try, baby try
To trust in my love again
I will be there, I will be there
Love, our love
Just shouldn't be thrown away
I will be there, I will be there

If we'd go again
All the way from the start
I would try to change
The things that killed our love
Your pride has built a wall, so strong
That I can't get through
Is there really no chance
To start once again

If we'd go again
All the way from the start
I would try to change
The things that killed our love
Yes, I've hurt your pride, and I know
What you've been through
You should give me a chance
This can't be the end
I'm still loving you
I'm still loving you, I need your love
I'm still loving you

[SammyHulk]

I tink tis suits better. :D

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uTM78XsU8GQ&feature=related

Lay a whisper on my pillow,
leave the winter on the ground.
I wake up lonely, there's air of silence
in the bedroom and all around.

Touch me now, I close my eyes and dream away.

It must have been love but it's over now.
It must have been good but I lost it somehow.
It must have been love but it's over now.
From the moment we touched 'til the time had run out.

Make-believing we're together,
that I'm sheltered by your heart.
But in and outside I've turned to water
like a teardrop in your palm.
And it's a hard winter's day, I dream away.

It must have been love but it's over now,
it was all that I wanted, now I'm living without.
It must have been love but it's over now,
it's where the water flows, it's where the wind blows
it's where the wind blows

It must have been love but it's over now,
it was all that I wanted, now I'm living without.
It must have been love but it's over now,
it's where the water flows...

[Ken88999]

Nice job bro sammyhulk!!!!!
Up u my humble 1 point!!!!
Cheer!!!!

[gent]

Dear redhun, I feel for you. I can literally feel your agony and pain. I know it's not easy. I'm trying too. I've only got one ex bf and we were together for about 10 years too. One of the reasons Why we broke off was that my family background doesn't match his. His family didn't like me because I dont have a degree like their son. No matter how hard I try to be nice to his family, they still think I'm not worthy enough. They insisted my family is a burden.

He recently got married. And yes. That lady is a degree holder.

It takes time for you to really have the courage to move on. Ultimately, it's still your choice.

Hugs, lady rain :o

This is sad. Qualification should not be use for love.. It's not fair..

[Buaybuaygan]

wow.. this is really happening love story

[redhun]

Hes not my first love. There is something about him, tht makes him so desirable. He s very quiet, man of few words. There isnt a day tht passes without me thinking of him.

[unsung80]

Dear TS, thank for sharing. I hope you feel better after you let it out here.

Is time to wake up from reality to move on. Am not sure whether you have any bf for the past 10 years, or what is the kind of lifestyle you got that keeps clinging on to him in your mind. Is time to step out of the old shell and look forward. Don't waste another 10 years of time thinking about him. All the best. :o

[imax88]

Cannot forget is one thing but to nurture it is 100% no no. Control your emotion and live in the presence and not the past. Well, come to SBF more often. Sharing is one way to let go...;)

[asdfghjkl]

This is sad. Qualification should not be use for love.. It's not fair..

in chinese culture, marriage is not between two persons but two families.. :(

[LeGarcon]

10 years is a long time to pine over someone. I'm into my 2nd month of pining and I already can't take it. Take care man, TS

[redhun]

I love him, but i did not let my years go wasted by pining for him. I got married 6 years back, unfortunately , someone i did not truly love. N to complicate matters i have a kid. I know i can easily rekindle a relationship with him, but i figure it will be damaging to my n his family. So all i can do is to love him from afar until...

[asdfghjkl]

cannot let go also must let go.. :(

[Buaybuaygan]

家破人亡，俩败俱伤，又何必呢！
放手吧。。。。

[gent]

I love him, but i did not let my years go wasted by pining for him. I got married 6 years back, unfortunately , someone i did not truly love. N to complicate matters i have a kid. I know i can easily rekindle a relationship with him, but i figure it will be damaging to my n his family. So all i can do is to love him from afar until...

Do u still keep in contact with him? As friend?

[redhun]

Yes i do, at one point, we were msging daily basis, but it died down after i left sg fr 2 mths. Now i dont even msg him at all, not to ive any hopes to myself and him.

[gent]

Yes i do, at one point, we were msging daily basis, but it died down after i left sg fr 2 mths. Now i dont even msg him at all, not to ive any hopes to myself and him.

Just to share with you...

I have a galfriend in the same situation as u...
The guy is married and she fell for him, love him alot and did a lot for him. They even went overseas together.

My galfriend felt that both got no future being together, so she decided to break off with the married man. In her case, this Married man treated her very well and love her. She felt the love but she could not accept that he is married before. So she got to cut the relationship. Both parties suffered pain cos their relationship lasted more than 3 years. Both r so Loving when it ended. According to her, both cried badly at their last meeting.

This is life. I think there r many people in this situation. Life goes on... Maybe she will forget him or maybe not. She plans to get married someday too and have kids. This guy is her first love...

[gent]

My opinion is leave it to fate. What is yours will be yours..

It's all fated right? You r fated to meet him this life and love him so much. Think of the happy moments and live happy. At least you had him before...

Who knows, maybe when both of you r old and if u truly love each other, maybe you will meet again and be together?


2 cents..

[Chris888]

Wow whats so mesmerizing about him? I mean you should just prolly meet him up soon and have a chat or what ma

[redhun]

My opinion is leave it to fate. What is yours will be yours..

It's all fated right? You r fated to meet him this life and love him so much. Think of the happy moments and live happy. At least you had him before...

Who knows, maybe when both of you r old and if u truly love each other, maybe you will meet again and be together?


2 cents..

If only it will happen....

[arsenal_84]

I love him, but i did not let my years go wasted by pining for him. I got married 6 years back, unfortunately , someone i did not truly love. N to complicate matters i have a kid. I know i can easily rekindle a relationship with him, but i figure it will be damaging to my n his family. So all i can do is to love him from afar until...

Omg :eek: never get married for the sake of doing so.
Treating yourself poorly is bad enough...at least be fair to the person you exchanged your marriage vows with.
Seems like your kid is some sort of consolation price for your hubby as he failed to win your heart completely.

Life is never fair but at least have the courage to be honest with the people around you.

[redhun]

Omg :eek: never get married for the sake of doing so.
Treating yourself poorly is bad enough...at least be fair to the person you exchanged your marriage vows with.
Seems like your kid is some sort of consolation price for your hubby as he failed to win your heart completely.

Life is never fair but at least have the courage to be honest with the people around you.

My hubs is fck up. Hes a gambler n just asked me to die 3 weeks bck. But thts another story. I may not love him the most but i def have nt failed to do my part s a mother n wife.

[arsenal_84]

My hubs is fck up. Hes a gambler n just asked me to die 3 weeks bck. But thts another story. I may not love him the most but i def have nt failed to do my part s a mother n wife.

How did you get yourself into such a mess?
:eek:

[FeeeFeee]

Look forward and walk forward! Walk forward and look backwards, how to walk anywhere? No wonder stuck it time sighzzz

[prak961]

My hubs is fck up. Hes a gambler n just asked me to die 3 weeks bck. But thts another story. I may not love him the most but i def have nt failed to do my part s a mother n wife.

My 2 cents: (if you can afford it financially)

You should try to get him for counselling sessions & if he does not agree, you should tell him that "as far as you are concerned, you are dead to him!".

Your child may be better off without a father who mistreats his/her mother. One good parent is better than 1 good parent + 1 bad parent. The child may miss the missing parent, but if the atmosphere at home is negative, the child tries to avoid being at home & is more likely to get into vice.

[redhun]

My 2 cents: (if you can afford it financially)

You should try to get him for counselling sessions & if he does not agree, you should tell him that "as far as you are concerned, you are dead to him!".

Your child may be better off without a father who mistreats his/her mother. One good parent is better than 1 good parent + 1 bad parent. The child may miss the missing parent, but if the atmosphere at home is negative, the child tries to avoid being at home & is more likely to get into vice.

I cant afford financially since ive been paying off his debts! After debts! He s a screwed husband, but v nice to daughter n my daughter is so attached to both of us equally.

[SA23]

10 yrs and u still cant forget him, izzit because u dun want to forget him or u did not even try to forget him in the first place?

I do share ur feel coz i do also have my fair share of being not able to forget the gal tat i have love most in my life even till today even after 2 fail marriage. Cant forget the person u love is not wrong coz when u r in love there is no rite or wrong. Face the problem, try to face tis guy tat u have said u love by saying so is not telling u look for him and get back with him. Wat i mean over here is face him and treat him as a fren...a very gd fren with no other intent at all. By running away and say u cant forget him will only give urself more headache.

As for ur husband i really cant say much on it but watever u do always think of ur daughter, let ur daughter b the pillar of ur soul and strength.

[SA23]

Btw STOP paying the debts for ur husband, as a man he create the mess he shd clean his own mess... and not let u take care of his burden

[redhun]

Thts y hes not a man!!!! He forced me to be his guarantor before and when i refused tried to beat me up. He has toned own a bit after having our kid, but acting up again recently.

I dont pay anymore bcos he has drained every penny i have.

[redhun]

My future is so bleak with him, but fr my child's sake i try to keep sane.

[redhun]

10 yrs and u still cant forget him, izzit because u dun want to forget him or u did not even try to forget him in the first place?

I do share ur feel coz i do also have my fair share of being not able to forget the gal tat i have love most in my life even till today even after 2 fail marriage. Cant forget the person u love is not wrong coz when u r in love there is no rite or wrong. Face the problem, try to face tis guy tat u have said u love by saying so is not telling u look for him and get back with him. Wat i mean over here is face him and treat him as a fren...a very gd fren with no other intent at all. By running away and say u cant forget him will only give urself more headache.

As for ur husband i really cant say much on it but watever u do always think of ur daughter, let ur daughter b the pillar of ur soul and strength.

My child aside, the only thing that can give me a glimpse of happiness n love now is my reminiscence of him, of us. So yes, you can say, i dont want to forget him.

[SA23]

Thts y hes not a man!!!! He forced me to be his guarantor before and when i refused tried to beat me up. He has toned own a bit after having our kid, but acting up again recently.

I dont pay anymore bcos he has drained every penny i have.

Ok i koe i won't sound logic by saying tis coz in other thread i mention divorce is the last option but for ur case i really cant take it. Force u to b his guarantor and beat u i despite man who beat woman, woman is to b take care and love not to beat. Hell to him.... ask him to pick someone of his own gender.

One option now for u is to apply for PPO for urself and daughter and get urself out of the place u r staying with him. Move back to ur parent's place let them protect u.

[HunterJ]

Forcing you to be his guarantor is really bad...

Let me relate a real life story of someone very close to me (M)

X years ago, M had a hubby(B) who started a business, and of course M was the secretary for the company.. As time goes by, B had financial problems, constantly gambling away with his brothers at coffeeshops and illegal gambling dens. B, not only gambles, but also drinks a lot, and turn violent to M no matter in the office or at home.

Soon, B forces M to sign a document for work related purpose. M signs the document, and later on finds out is a loan from the bank, and she is the guarantor for the loan. Shortly after that, B spent all the money on gambling, women, and drinks, leaving poor M to bear all the consequences. B then ran away hiding somewhere in this world...

As a kid, I saw M bearing the consequences of this, being declared bankrupt, not able to go out of the country, still require to pay back the bank loan bit by bit... I hated B deep down from my heart, and would seriously kill this bastard if I see him.. Not only loans from the bank, but also loansharks coming up the door to chase for money...

My verdict, my comments, my thoughts..... Leave this man while you can, and start your life afresh. At least, keep the money for yourself, as you have a life to go on with. Not only your life, but also your kid's life. Better not to ruin a kid's life who could have a better future, blossoming into something wonderful.

But still, is my 2cents. Decision is up to you dear TS.. :)





PS: LIFE SUCKS !! haahhaa... :p

[SA23]

My child aside, the only thing that can give me a glimpse of happiness n love now is my reminiscence of him, of us. So yes, you can say, i dont want to forget him.

Have u ever heard of de bu dao shi zui hao de? Coz u cant b wif him and ur hubby is treating u so badly tat's y to u the only glimpse of happiness is the time u spend wif tis guy and sorry to say tis. U love him but he dun love u at all. U dun want to forget him then u have to face him and just treat him as a fren who u will show care and concern for. So long as u can do it before long u will find urself treating him as a gd fren.

Also widen ur circle of life dun just cramp urself, with frens, work and daughter u shd b able to move on...

[SA23]

Forcing you to be his guarantor is really bad...

Let me relate a real life story of someone very close to me (M)

X years ago, M had a hubby(B) who started a business, and of course M was the secretary for the company.. As time goes by, B had financial problems, constantly gambling away with his brothers at coffeeshops and illegal gambling dens. B, not only gambles, but also drinks a lot, and turn violent to M no matter in the office or at home.

Soon, B forces M to sign a document for work related purpose. M signs the document, and later on finds out is a loan from the bank, and she is the guarantor for the loan. Shortly after that, B spent all the money on gambling, women, and drinks, leaving poor M to bear all the consequences. B then ran away hiding somewhere in this world...

As a kid, I saw M bearing the consequences of this, being declared bankrupt, not able to go out of the country, still require to pay back the bank loan bit by bit... I hated B deep down from my heart, and would seriously kill this bastard if I see him.. Not only loans from the bank, but also loansharks coming up the door to chase for money...

My verdict, my comments, my thoughts..... Leave this man while you can, and start your life afresh. At least, keep the money for yourself, as you have a life to go on with. Not only your life, but also your kid's life. Better not to ruin a kid's life who could have a better future, blossoming into something wonderful.

But still, is my 2cents. Decision is up to you dear TS.. :)





PS: LIFE SUCKS !! haahhaa... :p


Well said....

[redhun]

Actually hes been trying to reconnect wth me, but i cant bring myself to betray my marriage, not bcos i love my hubs, but my little dignity s a mother. Unless i'm divorced, thn i dont knw.

[SA23]

Actually hes been trying to reconnect wth me, but i cant bring myself to betray my marriage, not bcos i love my hubs, but my little dignity s a mother. Unless i'm divorced, thn i dont knw.

Well...by trying to reconnect wif u and based on wat u have mention on his history, i believe u shd koe wat he want from u. So u still can meet him but shd restrain from having anything else other just a normal meal or catch up.

U cant say u dun koe coz not matter wat happen b it divorce or not u shd not harbour any thou's of being wif him Remember he still has a wife k and to him is the most is just to use u and dun have any feel for u

[redhun]

Well...by trying to reconnect wif u and based on wat u have mention on his history, i believe u shd koe wat he want from u. So u still can meet him but shd restrain from having anything else other just a normal meal or catch up.

U cant say u dun koe coz not matter wat happen b it divorce or not u shd not harbour any thou's of being wif him Remember he still has a wife k and to him is the most is just to use u and dun have any feel for u

And dats y i din lead myself into temptation, if we meet it wont be platonic.

[SA23]

And dats y i din lead myself into temptation, if we meet it wont be platonic.

Haiz...y some guys just have the luck to have a lady so much in love wif them....

If u also cant control then dun meet up will b the best possible it will be better if u lose contact wif him too.

[HunterJ]

Better to not meet up... Since it won't be platonic.. I've encounter people around me having the same situation, and it IS NOT platonic in the end.. Stay strong sis !!

[prak961]

And dats y i din lead myself into temptation, if we meet it wont be platonic.

my 2 cents:

Giving him a chance is good, but no blank cheques. You should make it clear to him that if he wants another chance, he needs to start repaying his debts, meaning, he needs to hand over what he earns to you. You seem to care for him, so i have no doubt that you will let him have enough cash for his expenses. Both you & he needs to do it, for the kid both of you seem to love. If you end up paying all his debts on your own, what will you do when your kid grows up & needs money for his education?

Perhaps, you need to find out what changed him for the worse. Maybe, after childbirth, you may have been spending more time with your kid than he may have liked. He may have felt left out & got into the wrong company.

Sorry if my 2 cents is a bit long :p

[gent]

Actually hes been trying to reconnect wth me, but i cant bring myself to betray my marriage, not bcos i love my hubs, but my little dignity s a mother. Unless i'm divorced, thn i dont knw.

Hi redhun,

How did you managed to break up with him 10 years back since u love him so much? Did u hate him initially?

[redhun]

Hi redhun,

How did you managed to break up with him 10 years back since u love him so much? Did u hate him initially?

We broke up bcos he had too many woman, no i never hated him. We were suppose o meet one night, fr drinks wth friends n whn i arrive late, i saw him drunk, with another woman.

[redhun]

my 2 cents:

Giving him a chance is good, but no blank cheques. You should make it clear to him that if he wants another chance, he needs to start repaying his debts, meaning, he needs to hand over what he earns to you. You seem to care for him, so i have no doubt that you will let him have enough cash for his expenses. Both you & he needs to do it, for the kid both of you seem to love. If you end up paying all his debts on your own, what will you do when your kid grows up & needs money for his education?

Sigh dont even knw how to start. How can i do that? Make him repay debts etc? The moment i tell him to discuss finances he will flare up, defensive and accusive, n he turns montrous and abusive. There is no talking wth this man. He doesnt care if we divorce because i mean nothing to him!



Perhaps, you need to find out what changed him for the worse. Maybe, after childbirth, you may have been spending more time with your kid than he may have liked. He may have felt left out & got into the wrong company.

Sorry if my 2 cents is a bit long :p

No he s been mean to me from the start! Instead childbirth has soften him a bit, but still mean enough to me

[Botakhead]

But why you cannot give yourself a chance to forget him or your past with him, totally?
Keep clear from all this thoughts, think positively for your future, do away with this past r/s.
Have fun in your life, don't brood over it. Cheers:D

[gent]

We broke up bcos he had too many woman, no i never hated him. We were suppose o meet one night, fr drinks wth friends n whn i arrive late, i saw him drunk, with another woman.

U know he is married from the start, and also know he got another galfriend. U dun mind at all? And still love him even when u have not seen him for quite a while? I think it is amazing.

Refer to the story I shared with u earlier. My this galfriend cannot accept that the guy is married even thou she knows it from the start. Although she says wun hate him but she cut all contacts with him. They spend more than 2 years together and had ups and downs like normal couple.

From what she says, she love him and gave him all... Do u think she can really move on? I am curious.

[redhun]

U know he is married from the start, and also know he got another galfriend. U dun mind at all? And still love him even when u have not seen him for quite a while? I think it is amazing.

Refer to the story I shared with u earlier. My this galfriend cannot accept that the guy is married even thou she knows it from the start. Although she says wun hate him but she cut all contacts with him. They spend more than 2 years together and had ups and downs like normal couple.

From what she says, she love him and gave him all... Do u think she can really move on? I am curious.

I din know he was married wth gf initially, only later into the relationship did i find out. Yes, i still love him, i still want to know he s safe n well, happy n healthy, hopes hes nt drinking n smoking too much, hav great friends ard, doing well in his career,thts really what i want fr him.

Yes ppl do move on so did I, i still love him, i still miss him, but i did not wallow in pit of depression and stayed stuck frozen n not getting on wth life. I did, but i just cant forget him.

[SA23]

I din know he was married wth gf initially, only later into the relationship did i find out. Yes, i still love him, i still want to know he s safe n well, happy n healthy, hopes hes nt drinking n smoking too much, hav great friends ard, doing well in his career,thts really what i want fr him.

Yes ppl do move on so did I, i still love him, i still miss him, but i did not wallow in pit of depression and stayed stuck frozen n not getting on wth life. I did, but i just cant forget him.

U keep telling urself u cant forget, then no matter wat. In the end u won't b able to forget him at all. Find a hobby or meet up wif frens widen ur circle of fren. Thou u still might not b able to forget him but at least it will take ur mind of him.

But end of the day 10 yrs is really a long time i salute u for ur chi qing but sad to say this i think u r only zi qi qi ren on this relationship wif this guy. Nothing will come out of it, is better to bei ai then ai yi ge ren

[redhun]

U keep telling urself u cant forget, then no matter wat. In the end u won't b able to forget him at all. Find a hobby or meet up wif frens widen ur circle of fren. Thou u still might not b able to forget him but at least it will take ur mind of him.

But end of the day 10 yrs is really a long time i salute u for ur chi qing but sad to say this i think u r only zi qi qi ren on this relationship wif this guy. Nothing will come out of it, is better to bei ai then ai yi ge ren

True, i am not expecting anything, if i did, i wud have act on it n not let out here. Thanks for listening, n giving me advises. Dont get me wrong, i am not a loner stuck at home pining fr him without life:)

I have lots of friends, and a few good friends. I do stuffs like others, i jam wth my friends, i go fr swims etc, i hav a job, but him, just him, i dont confide about him to anyone. That kinds od explains y im here;)

[gent]

I din know he was married wth gf initially, only later into the relationship did i find out. Yes, i still love him, i still want to know he s safe n well, happy n healthy, hopes hes nt drinking n smoking too much, hav great friends ard, doing well in his career,thts really what i want fr him.

Yes ppl do move on so did I, i still love him, i still miss him, but i did not wallow in pit of depression and stayed stuck frozen n not getting on wth life. I did, but i just cant forget him.

Hi redhun,

This is exactly what my galfriend say! She insisted that she got to move on and want the guy to live well and be happy...

[SA23]

True, i am not expecting anything, if i did, i wud have act on it n not let out here. Thanks for listening, n giving me advises. Dont get me wrong, i am not a loner stuck at home pining fr him without life:)

I have lots of friends, and a few good friends. I do stuffs like others, i jam wth my friends, i go fr swims etc, i hav a job, but him, just him, i dont confide about him to anyone. That kinds od explains y im here;)

No prob gal...wat u say is true....is gd to find some ways to let it out coz somethings u will find it hard to tell ur good frens let alone normal frens. Sometime when i have prob i too will use forum to vent it out coz ppl doesnt koe who i am. The most is get some negative comment but there will b postive comment too so dun worry on it.

End of the day whatever we advice or tell u, ultimately u have ur own mindset advice is just only for reference. If is gd just put it in mind if is not just throw them away like me. Most of the time fren gave me advice but end up i turn a deaf ear to it and i do regret it because i have loss a great deal of buddy due to relationship issue wif a PRC.

The world wont stop because of us therefore life still goes on. I'm not saying u can or shd do something behind ur hubby nw but just go out and enjoy who koe's u might just happen to find someone who can b ur soulmate out there or someone who can make u forget abt tis guy of 10 yrs. U r still young sure can find someone who will really love u and really care abt u.

[miki]

Hi TS , my advise is to forget about this man and get moving . It has already being 10 years and u have choosen your path after all to go that far. I understand how you feel after break off. Frankly speaking, that guy may not truely love u since he is married and has many gf. Anyway the world is big and u has yet to seen all. So get moving and find new love......

[SammyHulk]

I guess u will always be treading on dangerous line....You still loves him and he's trying to reconnect with you? All hell will break loose when you are at your most vulnerable and he appears right in front of you....Fate always works in it's most mysterious way....The spell is not broken and you are still bind to him emotionally.

[lamhai]

my hubs is fck up. Hes a gambler n just asked me to die 3 weeks bck. But thts another story. i may not love him the most but i def have nt failed to do my part s a mother n wife.

很尊重你这种情操，你的问题是嫁了一个不懂得爱和不会接纳爱的人，要坚持。 懂得爱的人，一世人总会快乐的，来源可能是伴侣，可能是孩子，可能是家庭，快乐幸福总会来的。 加油！！

[AlexV]

Call me a cold hearted bastard, but I feel no sympathy for you.

Life is not like a chinese drama tv show. Life does not stop and no point to go commit suicide. Move on. The real question is why do people let themselves go down these roads when you know it has no chance. Probably becuase you were lonely and depressed, so you convinced yourself you stood a chance. You did not from the get go. Move on. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. There is no "one love" for everyone. It's the life you make with the people who love you back.

To quote the rolling stones, "you can't always get what you want, but if you try sometime, you just might find, you get what you need" - so, move on redbun and love someone who loves you back. It won't happen to you climb out out of the hole you are in called self-pity.

Like i said, I've got my umbrella open and ready for everyone to shit on me and say i'm heartless.

[redhun]

很尊重你这种情操，你的问题是嫁了一个不懂得爱和不会接纳爱的人，要坚持。 懂得爱的人，一世人总会快乐的，来源可能是伴侣，可能是孩子，可能是家庭，快乐幸福总会来的。 加油！！

Sorry i ont understand a ingle word here exvept yi and ren.

[redhun]

Call me a cold hearted bastard, but I feel no sympathy for you.

Life is not like a chinese drama tv show. Life does not stop and no point to go commit suicide. Move on. The real question is why do people let themselves go down these roads when you know it has no chance. Probably becuase you were lonely and depressed, so you convinced yourself you stood a chance. You did not from the get go. Move on. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. There is no "one love" for everyone. It's the life you make with the people who love you back.

To quote the rolling stones, "you can't always get what you want, but if you try sometime, you just might find, you get what you need" - so, move on redbun and love someone who loves you back. It won't happen to you climb out out of the hole you are in called self-pity.


Like i said, I've got my umbrella open and ready for everyone to shit on me and say i'm heartless.


My dear i din ask fr symphaty;) n i guess u just read a bit, n gave me ur two cents wrth.

[SA23]

Sorry i ont understand a ingle word here exvept yi and ren.

if u want to koe i can explain to u.

[kooklau]

cut out all contact.......FB, phone number, email everything delete off......soon u get beta...trust me;)

I agree.you really have to

[playboybunny]

10 years?


How many '10 years' do normal humans have?

[redhun]

Honestly to be exact its 12 years:)

[queeniegal]

Wow u ok now? I dun want to be thinking of him for 12 years hope I won't become like u man that horrible feeling omg

[Thug]

cut out all contact.......FB, phone number, email everything delete off......soon u get beta...trust me;)

But what if you memorized the number liao...how to throw that out...

[esssinine]

10 years and still cannot forget, hmmm maybe you should teach all my ex girlfriends something , 15 years 6 years 4 years all walk away like got memory loss :p

[AHH2222MK6]

Obviously she/he has fallen deeply in love with a cheongster:cool::cool:

[Intltuk]

Sis,

U had a great time and memories of him 12yrs back...now with ur marriage on the rocks......it's natural u pine him due to the good memories u had.....but if u think about it....he had a wife, a gf and u....and u broke up with him as he was with another woman; the grass is greener on the other side. Think about this; if u ended up with him, would u've been happier...since he seems to be a womanizer....can u take it if he's doing other women while with u?

There are men out there as good or even better...u just did not meet them. The way out is to look and move forward. Settle the issues u face in ur marriage...one way or another. I'm not qualified to tell u wat's right or wrong. Ea person has their own opinion on wat's right and wrong....and so do u

[craby125]

Why?

Why be so tough on yourself.
Just go and meet him lor... See how it's go.
If thing do happen, just let it be.
Dun be surprise that once you meet him. All your tot will be gone.

End of the day, you did what u wanted to do.
Sleep e night, wake up the next day.
Continues life with your #@!* hubby of your's.

That's what the normal ppl live our life. Cheer!

[queeniegal]

Sometimes is not easy to walk it out when you invested whole heart into the relationship. I am also trying a hahahahaha

In fact TS still can get married nt bad already some even can't walk out and remain single the whole life.

So TS u still able to walk out... So still got some hope

[wodemama]

cut out all contact.......FB, phone number, email everything delete off......soon u get beta...trust me;)

not as easy as you think, especially if they memorized the details.. like some bro said

[Swagelock]

It takes a minute to like someone and an hour to love someone but it takes a lifetime to forget someone...

[queeniegal]

It takes a minute to like someone and an hour to love someone but it takes a lifetime to forget someone...

True even friends sometimes I will still think of them...
Even tho just a passing cloud in my life

[esssinine]

"Don`t be sad it`s over, be glad it happened" Dr Seuss:rolleyes:

[gizbabe]

"Don`t be sad it`s over, be glad it happened" Dr Seuss:rolleyes:

well said!!!:D:D

[redhun]

Im going to meet him!

[chinjinjiang]

enjoy ur date :)

[Ladyrain]

Hmm.. I want to let go but cant. I wan to forget, but cant. Sigh:o

[redhun]

I met someone, and can finally let go :) but sadly i hav no future wth this someone too. Life is unpredictable :)

[acidicavex]

I met someone, and can finally let go :) but sadly i hav no future wth this someone too. Life is unpredictable :)

Life is never certain but if you feel happy at the moment and do not wish to ask for more than enjoy. But if you're expecting more for this someone do wise up and make a decision.

Time and Tide wait for no one especially for a woman.

Good luck

[redhun]

Life is never certain but if you feel happy at the moment and do not wish to ask for more than enjoy. But if you're expecting more for this someone do wise up and make a decision.

Time and Tide wait for no one especially for a woman.

Good luck

Just gonna let nature take its course..

[Meow^^]

Life is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you're gonna get.....:p