Atentions to the people who r hurt and in emotional distress sbf bros and sis here

[Gambit7]

Hello bros and sis,

Im a new sbf member in this forum. I'm a 30 years old guy and have been thru a lot of ups and downs in my previous relationships. Im a very emotional and sensitive guy by nature. 1 day i got so bored and come across this forum. I have been reading lots about all the ppl who are hurt and doesn't know what to do with his/her loved ones. I would like to propose a few suggestions that might help sbf bros and sis who r down at the moment.

1. Life moves on

When we broke up, we'll be overwhelmed with very sad feeling. And there will be lots of questions in our head. What happened? Why did he/she does that? Whose faults is this? Etc etc.. It also can last for quite some time. But have u guys thought that it's actually quite useless? Why think of those which makes urself unhappy? Isn't our life has to be happy? For a lot of us, we have 60 years or more lifespan!! Now how old r u again? 20? 30? 40? Our life has to move on cos we still have a long way to go!! So for what we have to be unhappy for things that is over?? Please pick up all the broken pieces and move on cos the future will be much better than now. We learnt from mistakes, find another guy/girl, fall in love again, make sure no repeat of old experience, get married and live happily ever after.

2. Stay positive cos everything happens for a reason! And the reason is always a good one!!!

He/she might dump u for another and u'll be like so sad and thought maybe u arent good enough for him/her. This is complete untrue and misleading. Everyone has their own destiny/fate, who they end up in life might not be u, vice versa. So why we need to drown ourselves in the river of sadness?? Those people who dump u might be finding someone even worse than u!! Oh she's prettier, i'm uglier! Come on, beauty is in the eyes of beholder!! 1 word that can summed up all these is: HE/SHE DOESN'T DESERVE U!! U will find a much better one in the future!!

3. Think about ur loved ones

Hey ppl, most of us here have ppl who care for us!! It isn't the end of the world when they break u up!! Think about ur parents, siblings, friends who care for us!! U'll be letting them down if u didn't pick urself asap!! Don't let the sadness covers up everything else!!

I know it can be easier said than done, but hey u have to do it sooner or later, u have to walk out of this path asap!! We live once so live life to the fullest. Everyone's has his/her time in this world so why we have to lead each and every day in unhappiness??

These are my 0.1 cent suggestions. Hopefully these will be help those who are in need. Thank you.

[LeGarcon]

Frank and logical. 忠言逆耳, but still the most effective.

[sammyboyfor]

I would like to propose a few suggestions that might help sbf bros and sis who r down at the moment.


They don't need a long essay. What they need is a tight slap and a kick in the arse and they'll start feeling better immediately.

[playboybunny]

They don't need a long essay. What they need is a tight slap and a kick in the arse and they'll start feeling better immediately.

Laugh out loud...

[playboybunny]

Hello bros and sis,

Im a new sbf member in this forum. I'm a 30 years old guy and have been thru a lot of ups and downs in my previous relationships. Im a very emotional and sensitive guy by nature. 1 day i got so bored and come across this forum. I have been reading lots about all the ppl who are hurt and doesn't know what to do with his/her loved ones. I would like to propose a few suggestions that might help sbf bros and sis who r down at the moment.

1. Life moves on

When we broke up, we'll be overwhelmed with very sad feeling. And there will be lots of questions in our head. What happened? Why did he/she does that? Whose faults is this? Etc etc.. It also can last for quite some time. But have u guys thought that it's actually quite useless? Why think of those which makes urself unhappy? Isn't our life has to be happy? For a lot of us, we have 60 years or more lifespan!! Now how old r u again? 20? 30? 40? Our life has to move on cos we still have a long way to go!! So for what we have to be unhappy for things that is over?? Please pick up all the broken pieces and move on cos the future will be much better than now. We learnt from mistakes, find another guy/girl, fall in love again, make sure no repeat of old experience, get married and live happily ever after.

2. Stay positive cos everything happens for a reason! And the reason is always a good one!!!

He/she might dump u for another and u'll be like so sad and thought maybe u arent good enough for him/her. This is complete untrue and misleading. Everyone has their own destiny/fate, who they end up in life might not be u, vice versa. So why we need to drown ourselves in the river of sadness?? Those people who dump u might be finding someone even worse than u!! Oh she's prettier, i'm uglier! Come on, beauty is in the eyes of beholder!! 1 word that can summed up all these is: HE/SHE DOESN'T DESERVE U!! U will find a much better one in the future!!

3. Think about ur loved ones

Hey ppl, most of us here have ppl who care for us!! It isn't the end of the world when they break u up!! Think about ur parents, siblings, friends who care for us!! U'll be letting them down if u didn't pick urself asap!! Don't let the sadness covers up everything else!!

I know it can be easier said than done, but hey u have to do it sooner or later, u have to walk out of this path asap!! We live once so live life to the fullest. Everyone's has his/her time in this world so why we have to lead each and every day in unhappiness??

These are my 0.1 cent suggestions. Hopefully these will be help those who are in need. Thank you.

Points 1 and 2 are alright. Point 3 went overboard; it might make the matter worse.

[Mr_don_juan]

Hello bros and sis,

Im a new sbf member in this forum. I'm a 30 years old guy and have been thru a lot of ups and downs in my previous relationships. Im a very emotional and sensitive guy by nature. .

Keep your emotions to yourself bro.. express it and vomitting out is 2 different things.. being sensitive is good but being a cowboy make a man a man.. :p

[Likeucare]

for the girls

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[dantes inferno]

keep busy and go out to meet new people/old friends. start reconnecting to society and get your support networks running! work will also keep you from brooding.

[JinRummy]

Hello bros and sis,

Im a new sbf member in this forum. I'm a 30 years old guy and have been thru a lot of ups and downs in my previous relationships. Im a very emotional and sensitive guy by nature. 1 day i got so bored and come across this forum. I have been reading lots about all the ppl who are hurt and doesn't know what to do with his/her loved ones. I would like to propose a few suggestions that might help sbf bros and sis who r down at the moment.


I am also a new sbf member. My advise for your situation is dun get involved in any relationships as you are emotionally fragile. Your best course of action is P4P. Just bear in mind the sacred rule of FFF.

I am the direct opposite of you. I earn my living by gambling so I am emotionally cold as I need to have the discipline in my line of work. This behavior carries over into my personal life and people who know me have called me heartless and stonecold iceman. That is why I cannot have a relationship with anyone. I go with P4P.

[casinos]

I am also a new sbf member. My advise for your situation is dun get involved in any relationships as you are emotionally fragile. Your best course of action is P4P. Just bear in mind the sacred rule of FFF.

I am the direct opposite of you. I earn my living by gambling so I am emotionally cold as I need to have the discipline in my line of work. This behavior carries over into my personal life and people who know me have called me heartless and stonecold iceman. That is why I cannot have a relationship with anyone. I go with P4P.

may i know what kinda gambling u do for a living? soccer? casino? poker? i also earn my money from gambling legally :D

[esssinine]

the answer is in his nick mah, Jinrummy :p

[JinRummy]

may i know what kinda gambling u do for a living? soccer? casino? poker? i also earn my money from gambling legally :D

Mainly casino. :)

[GoldPool]

I'll just find another pussy. :p

[Hasa Sas]

Bro Gambit7,

a meaningful song dedicated to you . hope it will live up your spirit
always try to look at things in a different perspective

one of my favouraite old song by Jeff Chang

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8TdhF-CrHx0


cheers

[Gambit7]

Most of the times when we got into relationship, we actually share a lot of feelings and emotions into it. Like smoking or drugs, u actually got used to that feeling and when u don't have it, u'll get that withdrawal symptoms. The best thing to avoid any major symptoms is to find another gal/guy to get back that feeling. However if we don't look carefully, we r actually falling into the same trap all over again. The best solution to this is to actually shift ur focus on other part of ur lives, rather than do the same thing again and again. There r lots of people who care for us. Life's not just about loving a guy or girl.

[Gambit7]

Thanks to those sbf bros and sis who find this thread good and meaningful for u. What I have written down might not be right 100%, but it's based thru my personal experience and like all of us prolly, I know how it feels when we r hurt. That feeling is really bad. I learnt a lot of what I have written down thru the hard way. And I also have survived thru them. I hope this thread can make people realised not to do stupid stuffs before it's too late. Thanks again for ur support!!

[TwinLighter]

I don't mean to be rude, but maybe u can tell us something that we don't know already?

Those are all common points that ppl know, its just that it takes time for most to understand. Knowing and understanding just aren't the same though.

But cheers for your good intentions TS. Have a nice day.

[sane]

I don't mean to be rude, but maybe u can tell us something that we don't know already?

Those are all common points that ppl know, its just that it takes time for most to understand. Knowing and understanding just aren't the same though.

But cheers for your good intentions TS. Have a nice day.

But hw many r willing to let go instead of clinging onto false hope n indulge deeper?
Hopefully this can serve as a reminder to those who's still healing a broken heart.

[Gambit7]

Imo, i also believe everyone understand and know those points, but they choose not to accept, and most of the times emotional feelings will overwhelm logics. However, keep reminding ourselves is really a good way to escape from torturing ourselves. Taken from the example of smoking, when we decide to quit, we have to remind ourselves all the time that smoking is bad for health and costly. Everyday we don't smoke, it's a day healthier and we have to remind ourselves of that everyday till the day we actually quit smoking...

[Rickey]

1. Life moves on

When we broke up, we'll be overwhelmed with very sad feeling. And there will be lots of questions in our head. What happened? Why did he/she does that? Whose faults is this? Etc etc.. It also can last for quite some time. But have u guys thought that it's actually quite useless? Why think of those which makes urself unhappy? Isn't our life has to be happy? For a lot of us, we have 60 years or more lifespan!! Now how old r u again? 20? 30? 40? Our life has to move on cos we still have a long way to go!! So for what we have to be unhappy for things that is over?? Please pick up all the broken pieces and move on cos the future will be much better than now. We learnt from mistakes, find another guy/girl, fall in love again, make sure no repeat of old experience, get married and live happily ever after.

2. Stay positive cos everything happens for a reason! And the reason is always a good one!!!

He/she might dump u for another and u'll be like so sad and thought maybe u arent good enough for him/her. This is complete untrue and misleading. Everyone has their own destiny/fate, who they end up in life might not be u, vice versa. So why we need to drown ourselves in the river of sadness?? Those people who dump u might be finding someone even worse than u!! Oh she's prettier, i'm uglier! Come on, beauty is in the eyes of beholder!! 1 word that can summed up all these is: HE/SHE DOESN'T DESERVE U!! U will find a much better one in the future!!

3. Think about ur loved ones

Hey ppl, most of us here have ppl who care for us!! It isn't the end of the world when they break u up!! Think about ur parents, siblings, friends who care for us!! U'll be letting them down if u didn't pick urself asap!! Don't let the sadness covers up everything else!!

I know it can be easier said than done, but hey u have to do it sooner or later, u have to walk out of this path asap!! We live once so live life to the fullest. Everyone's has his/her time in this world so why we have to lead each and every day in unhappiness??

These are my 0.1 cent suggestions. Hopefully these will be help those who are in need. Thank you.

Best i hv seen & read so far on tis so common r/s problem tat is affecting almost every1 even 2day :(...but tis so consoling & comforting ! :)...very true, well said & written advice...short, sweet & to the point...to bros/sis caught & hurt in r/s...take heart !.. Fear not, God will bless you if u're the innocent party hurt ! :)...but if apologies are offered sincerely by either party, try to make up...just forgive & forget, bury the hatchet & come tgt again...for if u don forgive when the other party is truly sorry, God will not forgive u too when u urself make mistakes later on...it is always beta to make more frens than enemies.. beta building more bridges than erecting walls for urself...hope there be peace & goodwill to one & all, so tat tis world will be a happier place to live in for all ! :) ..tis only my 3 cents worth of tots...

Tks bro, wil reward u wif my 3 little oranges when my power recovers..

[asdfghjkl]

I am also a new sbf member. Your best course of action is P4P. Just bear in mind the sacred rule of FFF.

new member how cum got so many acronyms? :confused:

i dunno what they stand.. i want to learn! :o

[milford]

May I know what is the market rate for quickie? Sporean, middle aged and not ugly type

[Gambit7]

Pardon my english, but what does quickie means?

[asdfghjkl]

quickie price? why so sudden OT? :confused: