Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by asdfghjkl

mind sharing more about this area, esp. the fish sauce.. like to know more about it.

Its a long story. I have shared quite a bit of it in this thread. Do spend some time to look for them. As for fish sauce, some provinces at the Mekong Delta believe that fish sauce can lower your temperature when you have fever. This is largely because they are poor and do not want to spend money to buy western medicine. Fish sauce is so salty, drinking it often will cause kidney and liver failure.

[Honey Boon]

ya ya... especially when you are so "busy" with your "work" outside

Originally Posted by jf66312

if not i think my oc will go khung khung soon if everyday cooped up at home alone with baby...

[Honey Boon]

I think I am in the FB group but not qualified in your 2nd condition

Originally Posted by shysaint

Who I know here for sometime have not join us in facebook ?

We are now organising a bbq picnic gathering for us to catch up in real life and our OCs and little OCs.

[Blast88]

[QUOTE=SingViet;7250616]Trusting your spouse is necessary to get the relationship going, but trust is earned, not given. I find Singaporean husbands very accommodating to their viet spouse, she can do whatever she wants and the Singaporean husband will not object even if he is not happy.

These is exactly what I have been doing for the past 2 years, my wife only know how to take taxi from point A to point B & simply refused to take MRT or bus, in fact I have been driving her around since her very 1st day here, I have guided her how to take our public transport & even bought her the ez link card but she just refused to take those public transport when I'm not available to drive her. Eg, she frequently going to 'si ma lu' temple for prayer & it just only 3 mrt station away from our house but she still prefer to take taxi to & fro, what can I do

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by Blast88

she just refused to take those public transport when I'm not available to drive her. Eg, she frequently going to 'si ma lu' temple for prayer & it just only 3 mrt station away from our house but she still prefer to take taxi to & fro, what can I do

Simple explanation for your case ....

They have been on their own transport (i.e. motor bike) in Vietnam since the day they can ride .... Next if no bike, they take taxi ....

NExt important factor ... Public transport in VN sucks big time ... i.e. BUS ...
if u have look at their bus, maybe u can understand.

Therefore, these concepts are form and they bring it over here to singapore , thinking that it is the same in vn ...

Next .. Since you have Car ... why she need to take bus and MRT .... They will tell you, how much it cost for me to take taxi, only once a while and not everyday, definitely u are affordable to give me take taxi ... Although u are her husband, she will still thinks like that.

The only thing u can do is give her time ...

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by Blast88

Eg, she frequently going to 'si ma lu' temple for prayer & it just only 3 mrt station away from our house but she still prefer to take taxi to & fro, what can I do

U are lucky she can take taxi.... some viet I know when in a car, they will feel like vomiting... They rather stay at home.

[Flamer89]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Its a long story. I have shared quite a bit of it in this thread. Do spend some time to look for them. As for fish sauce, some provinces at the Mekong Delta believe that fish sauce can lower your temperature when you have fever. This is largely because they are poor and do not want to spend money to buy western medicine. Fish sauce is so salty, drinking it often will cause kidney and liver failure.

oh my . i didnt know about this . my gf comes from the mekong area also .. didnt hear her mention about this to me ..

[Golden question]

[QUOTE=Blast88;7250739]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Trusting your spouse is necessary to get the relationship going, but trust is earned, not given. I find Singaporean husbands very accommodating to their viet spouse, she can do whatever she wants and the Singaporean husband will not object even if he is not happy.

These is exactly what I have been doing for the past 2 years, my wife only know how to take taxi from point A to point B & simply refused to take MRT or bus, in fact I have been driving her around since her very 1st day here, I have guided her how to take our public transport & even bought her the ez link card but she just refused to take those public transport when I'm not available to drive her. Eg, she frequently going to 'si ma lu' temple for prayer & it just only 3 mrt station away from our house but she still prefer to take taxi to & fro, what can I do

Is a good example as what bro singviet say,too many sg husband is giving in to their viet wife.But for your wife to stay here for the past 2 years and still take taxi from point A to B and even 3 mrt stops journey she also take taxi is a bit too much.If first few months,maybe i can say she need time to adjust but already 2 years already.

She have to start to learn to do things if she want to continue to live here.Dont spolit her by ferry her that often.I am not saying that u must ill treat her but learn to tighten the rope when is necessary and dont like what bro singviet say,let your wife take u for the ride.

I might sound busybody to u or too straight forward but if your wife is a understanding person and love u,she will go learn herself.everything depends on her,u can guide her but dont expect the environment to change to suit her but she must change herself to suit the environment

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Its a long story. I have shared quite a bit of it in this thread. Do spend some time to look for them. As for fish sauce, some provinces at the Mekong Delta believe that fish sauce can lower your temperature when you have fever. This is largely because they are poor and do not want to spend money to buy western medicine. Fish sauce is so salty, drinking it often will cause kidney and liver failure.

my wife always like to use a 20 cents coin to rub against her skin to until redness when she is tired or sick.i find it disgusting but she say it help to release the blood so that she will feel better

She ask me to do for her but i always reject and when she want to try on me when i am sick,i push away her hand

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by vietboy

Like wat bro GQ said, 女人心，海底针。
Also, they mood changes especially during that time of the month. We as husband need to understand this cos only we knows our wife best. I always give in to my wife on that period of the month.

I always give in when i do something wrong

[Flamer89]

Originally Posted by naemlo

U are lucky she can take taxi.... some viet I know when in a car, they will feel like vomiting... They rather stay at home.

yeah .. i know mine will get car sick easily .. that time went to vung thau ... within that 2 hrs bus ride . she gets sick liao

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Trusting your spouse is necessary to get the relationship going, but trust is earned, not given. I find Singaporean husbands very accommodating to their viet spouse, she can do whatever she wants and the Singaporean husband will not object even if he is not happy. For example, my wife's friend will give her daughter and husband fish sauce to drink when they are down with fever. The husband knows its not right to do that, but he dare not voice out . There are times when we need to voice out and not be taken for a ride. Due to cultural differences, i would say its good to have a lower level of trust during the first few years of marriage. As time passes by, higher level of trust can be given after more time together. Too many bros here see too much positive aspects of viet culture and i will say you are putting yourself at much risk. Don't just know the good, do find out about the bad too. When you start to discover about the negative side of their culture, you will start to feel scary.

confirm,chop and sign on what u say is true.I am the opposite.During my early stage of marriage,i am not accommodating to my wife,i will voice out if i know is not right,my level of trust is at a low percentage during the first 2 years.

In short i dont please her but slowly the trust level increase as times go by.I already get 'shock' by her already and now if got other shock to me is also 'bo $$$$$' liao

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by Flamer89

yeah .. i know mine will get car sick easily .. that time went to vung thau ... within that 2 hrs bus ride . she gets sick liao

Most is like that so is not only a few only,my wife have to sit on the first row or beside or directly behind the driver so that she dont vomit

The bus driver is like her 'god' protect her when she take a bus haha

[lkyin1]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Too many bros here see too much positive aspects of viet culture and i will say you are putting yourself at much risk. Don't just know the good, do find out about the bad too. When you start to discover about the negative side of their culture, you will start to feel scary.

Since bro SingViet talk abt the negative side of their culture. letz us discuss what are the negative side.

1) cat cu
2) jealous easily
3) demanding
4) fierce
5) poor $ management
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other broz can feel free to add in

[superhuman]

I can attest to the Fierce.

I may be generalizing but I find that when viet girls show their fierce side to you, you can be fucking sure they are not kidding.

You can just feel the fire coming.

Of course sg girls also got fierce ones. But generally, they are ok, to me.