Need advice on Sour marriage life.. - Page 9

maxsee · #**121** 11-01-2012, 08:02 AM

Like that sooner or later u will also end up divorce one...matter of time only...most likely when the kids grow up and can be independent liao...by then ur alimony for her sure rocket sky high...wonder worth it bo....

Met so many ppl who sees red card in their marriage holds back until later stage....end up looking back they should have left earlier....

jurongguy1981 · #**122** 11-01-2012, 06:53 PM

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Originally Posted by maxsee

Like that sooner or later u will also end up divorce one...matter of time only...most likely when the kids grow up and can be independent liao...by then ur alimony for her sure rocket sky high...wonder worth it bo....

Met so many ppl who sees red card in their marriage holds back until later stage....end up looking back they should have left earlier....

I truly believe that indeed of encouraging Singaporeans to make babies, the goverment should emphasize on some education before a couple gets married.

You know when a couple is in love, everything is possible until when they actually enter a marriage and realizes too late. At that time, the guy will be at the short end of the stick man... Marriage is very easy to start. All the money spent are one-off. But when divorce happens, the money involved are usually long-term. Not a good trade off man...

wahlanz · #**123** 12-01-2012, 01:57 PM

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We cannot communicate,,, she is one damn idiot who thinks she's the only perfect person on earth and have to criticise everyone else,,,, If anyone starts a conversation with her and disagrees with her opinion 90% will end up quarelling,,,,,

Whenever I talk to someone els and iregardless of what topic she jumps in and start blurting all sorts of unrelated nonsense thinking she's an expert.....

So what I can do is avoid all conversation

Tough situation you're in bro...

Any possibility she is suffering from post natal?

Some people handle stress well, some ok while others just simply break down.

You've gone so far for your children, dun give up bro. Gd luck!

topcook1 · #**124** 13-01-2012, 01:25 AM

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Tough situation you're in bro...

Any possibility she is suffering from post natal?

Some people handle stress well, some ok while others just simply break down.

You've gone so far for your children, dun give up bro. Gd luck!

She is filing divorce with me . Is there anyway which I can ask for 3 years separation? Or shall I ignore everything?Pls advice.

maxsee · #**125** 13-01-2012, 07:33 AM

As long as one party dun agree on the divorce...it can be drag on for another 3 years la...since ur wife is filing...it is obvious that she is in a hurry to divorce...if u are smart u will do what my friend did last time....refuse to sign the papers and have the marriage drag for another 3 years....if ur wife is in a hurry to marry the new bf....then she will be willing to forgoes alimony, maintenance watsoever...if u are ruthless enough like my friend...u can even demand compensation from her if she wants immediate divorce...in the case of my friend he got $300k....so it's ur game now...the ball is in ur court....women reading this sure curse n swear at me...do upz my pts hor guys if u like wat u read here....

topcook1 · #**126** 13-01-2012, 09:02 AM

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As long as one party dun agree on the divorce...it can be drag on for another 3 years la...since ur wife is filing...it is obvious that she is in a hurry to divorce...if u are smart u will do what my friend did last time....refuse to sign the papers and have the marriage drag for another 3 years....if ur wife is in a hurry to marry the new bf....then she will be willing to forgoes alimony, maintenance watsoever...if u are ruthless enough like my friend...u can even demand compensation from her if she wants immediate divorce...in the case of my friend he got $300k....so it's ur game now...the ball is in ur court....women reading this sure curse n swear at me...do upz my pts hor guys if u like wat u read here....

Yup she admits she has a bf...the tone was that she is damn eager to leave me without and hesitation. But what will the procedure like?

wahlanz · #**127** 13-01-2012, 10:09 AM

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Yup she admits she has a bf...the tone was that she is damn eager to leave me without and hesitation. But what will the procedure like?

Sorry to hear that bro...

If separation really cannot be avoided, then I think both of you must decide on who has custody of the children. The decision should not be based on who loves the kids more but who is in a better position to care and focus on the upbringing of the children.

If your kids are big enough, please talk to them and seek their opinion on who they prefer to follow. Children are innocent. Parents are the ones that decide to bring them on to this world, don't let them suffer pls.

Take care bro...

maxsee · #**128** 13-01-2012, 11:08 AM

She would first be filing divorce proceedings against u....whether to accept that u want to opt out of the 3 yrs separation is up to both of u.....if one party refuse....3 yrs separation will start only from the date of filing.....in ur wife case she would most likely want immediate divorce which would takes around 6 months to process.....anyway before filing both of u would need to sit down to discuss on asset division, alimony, child maintenance....blah blah

In your case since she in a hurry to divorce...u got upper hand....anyway i dunno wat cause the divorce...who's at fault blah blah...if u sure ur wife at fault...it is pay back time....but if it is u who is actually at fault...do pay accordingly and dun try to take advantage of her....

wahlanz · #**129** 13-01-2012, 11:49 AM

Push for 3 yrs separation to start only from the date of filing...

Time will tell if her new found relationship is truly love or lust.

Many years ago, fren of mine had the same problem. Wife fell for her colleague and wanted a divorce... Fren insisted on 3 yr separation...

6 months later, the colleague ditched her... and she went home crying.

Fren told her to go Fxxk Spider.

maxsee · #**130** 13-01-2012, 01:23 PM

Ty for the braddas who up my pts hor....forgot to mention one thing...the longer u drag the marriage the more alimony u have to pay in the event of divorce....if her fault hor...just insist to avoid paying alimony, maintenance...and demand $$$ compensation for hurting ur feelings la.....Try to get the divorce done asap...

Reason is becoz in the event the bf ditch her or wat...she might turn her anger on u...and exact a huge amount of alimony from u 3 yrs later....so while u have upper hand...better make full use la.....get it over with and extract as much stuffs u want from her as u can.....

And trust me u dun want to go court file for divorce on adultery charge....coz firstly not easy to prove...and secondly....adultery evidence can only be use for 6 months period....so if let's say she come back crying u soft heart forgive her hor....even if u got evidence later she turn on u 3 years later when instead of happy ending for u...the rs sour n u both want file divorce...u G_G.....

PS: She can make u cuckoo now...she can do it again.....so better to close ur heart n move on.....dun turn back...><"

jurongguy1981 · #**131** 13-01-2012, 01:36 PM

TS, I just wish that things will get sorted out soon for you. It is definitely a very shitty feeling you are experiencing now.

Take care.

topcook1 · #**132** 13-01-2012, 02:27 PM

Nowadays woman are really heartless and bitch...When they change of heart they tend to be very cruel without looking back...I am another poor victim now...

topcook1 · #**133** 13-01-2012, 02:30 PM

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TS, I just wish that things will get sorted out soon for you. It is definitely a very shitty feeling you are experiencing now.

Take care.

I had too many sleepless night..real torture....wonder how to cope.

RealEstateGuy · #**134** 13-01-2012, 02:34 PM

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Yup she admits she has a bf...the tone was that she is damn eager to leave me without and hesitation. But what will the procedure like?

Braddah, if she indeed has a BF or is on the verge of finding one, by all means you should make it difficult for her and have her and him pay you. Why you want to pay the bitch and some jerk so they can spend your money monthly and fuck like rabbits while you work hard to pay them? They should pay you if she wants to be free. Its time you fight back. Divorce is inevitable so go out find yourself a GF or FB and enjoy yourself. But above all and regardless if you choose to enjoy yourself or not dont pay so easily. Braddah, what you nuts?

arsenal_84 · #**135** 14-01-2012, 12:03 AM

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Originally Posted by wahlanz

Push for 3 yrs separation to start only from the date of filing...

Time will tell if her new found relationship is truly love or lust.

Many years ago, fren of mine had the same problem. Wife fell for her colleague and wanted a divorce... Fren insisted on 3 yr separation...

6 months later, the colleague ditched her... and she went home crying.

Fren told her to go Fxxk Spider.

your friend got backbone...salute!