The one you marry, is not the one you loved most? - Page 84

Deztruct · #**1246** 24-09-2007, 11:37 PM

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Originally Posted by suteerak1099

from wat i gather.. my frens who fall under aquarius r happy go lucky at times, but in general, ca be rather passionate people too. sometimes too passionate that they leave no reservations.... making them vulnerable to heart shattering mishaps

haha...guilty as charged

#**1247** 25-09-2007, 08:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Deztruct

haha...guilty as charged

Wah, bros signs all so accurate one ....

Enzo · #**1248** 25-09-2007, 10:41 AM

From Stephen Covey's "The 8th Habit"

"Allow me to illustrate, with a story I share often, how love, like trust, can become a verb. At one seminar where I was speaking a man came up and said, "Stephen, I like what you're saying. But every situation is so dfiferent. Look at my marriage. I'm really worried. My wife and I just don't have the same feelings for each other we used to have. I guess I juist on't love her anymore and she doesn't love me. What can I do?"

"The feeling isn't there anymore?" I asked.

"That's right," he raffirmed. "And we have three children we're really concerned about. What do you suggest?"

"Love her," I replied.

"I told you, the feeling just isn't there anymore."

"Love her."

"You don't understand. the feeling of love just isn't there."

"Then love her. If the feeling isn't there, that's a good reason to love her."

"But how do you love when you don't love?"

"My friend, love is a verb. Love - the feeling - is a fruit of love the verb. So love her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her. Are you willing to do that?

In the great literature of all progressive societies, love is a verb. Reactive people make it a feeling. They're driven by feelings. Hollywood has generally scripted us to believe that we are not repsonsible, that love is feeling. But the Hollywood script does not describe the reality. If our feelings control our actions, it is because we have abdicated our responsibility and empowered them to do so.

Proactive people make love a verb. Love is something you do: the sacrifices you make, the giving of self, like amother bringing a newborn into the world. If you want to study love, study those who sacrifice for others, even for people who offend or do not love in return. If you are a parent, look at the love you have for the children you sacrificed for. Love is a value that is actualized through loving actions. proactive people subordinate feelings to values. Love, the feeling, can be recaptured.

Xdecepticon · #**1249** 25-09-2007, 06:47 PM

Some say Love is not blind. But I say Love is cos it hides the reality of life. Dont believe? Go tie the knot.

lazydudz · #**1250** 29-09-2007, 04:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Xdecepticon

Some say Love is not blind. But I say Love is cos it hides the reality of life. Dont believe? Go tie the knot.

but tie knot is not the purest symbol of love

Xdecepticon · #**1251** 29-09-2007, 06:54 PM

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Originally Posted by lazydudz

but tie knot is not the purest symbol of love

Precisely. After tying those knot then one would know whether those gesture is indeed symbol of true love.

Glen2712 · #**1252** 29-09-2007, 07:23 PM

Just my 2 cents worth, perhaps the assumption of marriage is to achieve a form of security, not neccessarily out of Love but out of Livelihood.

Sometimes marriage can be perceived as form of escape, make 'use' of each other capablities. As the perception of living alone, reaching into the Golden years in due time and dying alone one day can be quite a scary thought for some.

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CeiResident · #**1253** 29-09-2007, 07:28 PM

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Originally Posted by suteerak1099

from wat i gather.. my frens who fall under aquarius r happy go lucky at times, but in general, ca be rather passionate people too. sometimes too passionate that they leave no reservations.... making them vulnerable to heart shattering mishaps

How abt aries pairing up wif a scorpio bro?

suteerak1099 · #**1254** 06-10-2007, 09:39 AM

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Originally Posted by CeiResident

How abt aries pairing up wif a scorpio bro?

characteristics.... aries ppl like to lead, scorpio ppl don't like to be told what to do. aries ppl (pro-active) r likely to be very possessive & expect transparency, scorpio ppl (passive) skeptical & secretive by nature, prefer to hide some skeletons in the closet (secrecy is security)

from wat it seems, i feel the 2 r exact opposites (but opposites do attract)
then again, its just a general observation.

OceanEleven · #**1255** 06-10-2007, 09:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Glen2712

Just my 2 cents worth, perhaps the assumption of marriage is to achieve a form of security, not neccessarily out of Love but out of Livelihood.
Sometimes marriage can be perceived as form of escape, make 'use' of each other capablities. As the perception of living alone, reaching into the Golden years in due time and dying alone one day can be quite a scary thought for some.

Case of half glass of water. Half full or half empty.

AmericanExpress · #**1256** 06-10-2007, 04:21 PM

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Originally Posted by OceanEleven

Case of half glass of water. Half full or half empty.

halv empty 4 me

insomia · #**1257** 10-10-2007, 03:46 AM

hello xdeception, saw this post so thought of coming in. well, seems that alot of the brothers are stuck with love relationship problems. however, it is how you managed and what do you want from the r/s and how you going make the ending part going to be. for myself, i did have this problem before however i managed to solved it with some helps.

Red_Tirak1099 · #**1258** 10-10-2007, 03:55 AM

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Originally Posted by insomia

hello xdeception, saw this post so thought of coming in. well, seems that alot of the brothers are stuck with love relationship problems. however, it is how you managed and what do you want from the r/s and how you going make the ending part going to be. for myself, i did have this problem before however i managed to solved it with some helps.

bro insomia you really live up to your nick still not sleeping at this hour...hehehe night owl like me. btw are you Carlson Yap Kok Yong? below got message for you....from bros eggkiller & CeiResident

i am aware there is a samster thats goes by the name of yap kok yong carlson who has already cheated many ppl by asking them to take up loans for investment and he managed to get away once the loan is approved otherwise he would get the person to apply for car cashback.

insomia · #**1259** 10-10-2007, 04:38 AM

hi brother, anyway you must be related mr egg benson yeow king son then.

anyway, an egg that is smelly will never say he is smelly. however mr egg ask me and beg me for help to get his egg's wife back from hatyai back to his side. and he promised to join me with my proposed businesses. luckily i made him signed an agreement. but never mind lah. i can see this egg smelly afterall he have done.

i cant stop anyone to say anything. but mr eggkiller knows very well. he always say people are bad to him and cheat him but he should crack his shell and see his substances in him. when mr egg is in good terms with me he also say he got cheated by brother samster thaivisitor. because his wife paphaychit souphanthong works in hatyai as a open leg gal meaning working gal. she work for thaivisitor before. and our mr eggkiller got so in loved with her. even when she ran back to hatyai and continued to work even though she is married to our eggkiller. hahaha

soon, i will open up a thread for our dear eggkiller and post some photo of this bad egg and his wife. and see whether who is the actual cheater. i wondering and pondering.

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Originally Posted by Red_Tirak1099

bro insomia you really live up to your nick still not sleeping at this hour...hehehe night owl like me. btw are you Carlson Yap Kok Yong? below got message for you....from bros eggkiller & CeiResident

i am aware there is a samster thats goes by the name of yap kok yong carlson who has already cheated many ppl by asking them to take up loans for investment and he managed to get away once the loan is approved otherwise he would get the person to apply for car cashback.

insomia · #**1260** 10-10-2007, 04:54 AM

oh btw, bro red tirak1099 seems that you are acquainted with mr eggkiller and ceiresident.

also put a message across to these two samsters:
anyone can say anything. but no one bothers. the fact is a fact. whether i am the name you have said or not. it does not matter. the only thing matter is mr eggkiller have already betray himself for this. no point using this forum and post all these useless stuffs. if you have proofs saying who cheated who. this is not the correct place. benson yeow, go get a life and grow up. you are already 30 odds and yet you are behaving like a child and always pretend you are a young punk. so sad to see this in the post. really sad. i believe this is the main reason you forced your wife back to hatyai to make money for you. you are so cruel by doing that. she is already your wife and you make her work as a WL and make money for you to enjoy bonking PRC and other thai gals in singapore. really sad.