The one you marry, is not the one you loved most?

[zunbo]

Originally Posted by adwhitworth

The one you marry, is not the one you loved most?

got to give and take loh, mai hiam loh, at least she's willing to spent a life with you. gao in need a lot of sacrifices, so lim peh still not ready.

r u married bro?

[Garage1]

Originally Posted by Xdecepticon

Honestly until recently then I realize what i really need is companionship. If I could turn the clock back, I would rather marry for the sake of companionship and not to start a family.

just read this thread and honestly, yr reply is good.. i share the same view..
very good answer.

[pulchritudinous]

when i broke off with my x .. she gave me this song maybe she blame me?

I thought I saw a man brought to life
He was warm, he came around like he was dignified
He showed me what it was to cry
Well you couldnt be that man I adored
You dont seem to know, dont seem to care what your heart is for
But I dont know him anymore
Theres nothing where he used to lie
My conversation has run dry
Thats whats going on, nothings fine Im torn

Im all out of faith, this is how I feel
Im cold and I am shamed lying naked on the floor
Illusion never changed into something real
Im wide awake and I can see the perfect sky is torn
Youre a little late, Im already torn

So I guess the fortune tellers right
Should have seen just what was there and not some holy light
To crawl beneath my veins and now
I dont care, I have no luck, I dont miss it all that much
Theres just so many things that I cant touch, Im torn

Im all out of faith, this is how I feel
Im cold and I am shamed lying naked on the floor
Illusion never changed into something real
Im wide awake and I can see the perfect sky is torn
Youre a little late, Im already torn. torn.

Theres nothing where he used to lie
My inspiration has run dry
Thats whats going on, nothings right, Im torn

Im all out of faith, this is how I feel
Im cold and I am shamed lying naked on the floor
Illusion never changed into something real
Im wide awake and I can see the perfect sky is torn
Im all out of faith, this is how I feel
Im cold and Im ashamed bound and broken on the floor
Youre a little late, Im already torn

[yycc]

i totally agreed to this point. As i just one of them getting married just for the sake of married. The one that you loved most will always be kept somewhere in my hearts.

[Xdecepticon]

Originally Posted by Garage1

just read this thread and honestly, yr reply is good.. i share the same view..
very good answer.

Just like what my sig say " Marriage opens our eyes". By then its too late. Just have to live with it sinfully.

[Xdecepticon]

Originally Posted by Garage1

just read this thread and honestly, yr reply is good.. i share the same view..
very good answer.

Tks for the pts, bro.

Originally Posted by Xdecepticon

Just like what my sig say " Marriage opens our eyes". By then its too late. Just have to live with it sinfully.

Love is blind, marriage opens the eyes. But I think open eyes also become colour blind, the colours all gone already.

[Er Lang]

to love someone is not easy as it seems.
imagine facing her 24hr/day nagging all the way at you.

sometime really want to be alone but circumstances doesn't allow me to do that...relationship is not easy to maintain...
my gf said that sometime i'm those bochap type and always keep quiet when out for date...i also dunno what she really want
have try my best in the relationship...maybe she is someone who expect alot from her partner..
wondering is she the right one for me....suppose to bring her to meet my family but think better put on hold her first.

any advise

[zunbo]

Originally Posted by Er Lang

to love someone is not easy as it seems.
imagine facing her 24hr/day nagging all the way at you.

sometime really want to be alone but circumstances doesn't allow me to do that...relationship is not easy to maintain...
my gf said that sometime i'm those bochap type and always keep quiet when out for date...i also dunno what she really want
have try my best in the relationship...maybe she is someone who expect alot from her partner..
wondering is she the right one for me....suppose to bring her to meet my family but think better put on hold her first.

any advise

dun feel depressed bro sometime cant please everyone aniway nothing is certain so use time wisely before make the right choices

[STK01]

Originally Posted by Er Lang

my gf said that sometime i'm those bochap type and always keep quiet when out for date...i also dunno what she really want
have try my best in the relationship...maybe she is someone who expect alot from her partner..

Bro.. maybe u belong to more quiet type of person.. think the most important for a couple is they can communicate well.... and also yr gf accept u for who u are..

I am a typical Gemini, sometimes very quiet and serious sometimes can become very talkative and behave rather whacky.. hehe.. but my gf used to it already and accepts my odd and unpredictable behaviour. Hehe

[Er Lang]

Originally Posted by zunbo

dun feel depressed bro sometime cant please everyone aniway nothing is certain so use time wisely before make the right choices

just leave to fate..anyway also can't do much

[Know_yr_role]

Originally Posted by Er Lang

to love someone is not easy as it seems.
imagine facing her 24hr/day nagging all the way at you.

sometime really want to be alone but circumstances doesn't allow me to do that...relationship is not easy to maintain...
my gf said that sometime i'm those bochap type and always keep quiet when out for date...i also dunno what she really want
have try my best in the relationship...maybe she is someone who expect alot from her partner..
wondering is she the right one for me....suppose to bring her to meet my family but think better put on hold her first.

any advise

Alot have to depend on yrself, to me i think every relationship is different and unique in their own way. If u feel tat being with her 24/7 is torture(naggy as u put it yrself) then maybe this gal is not the right one for you.

To me, to make a r/s work many key points to work out,understanding, respect, trust, communication and more communication. Must always talk to yr partner to know what she wants, at the same time open yr needs and views to her, tell her wat you want. And never try to change someone's character or personality unless they themselves wishes and willing to do so, for the one they love. No point in forced changes as it only leads to more unhappiness.

And your age does matter also, wat stage of your life are you in now, are u still a student, struggling with studies , OR are u already a working adult with a good career and ready to make this commitment into a r/s and let her meet your family. I guess if u have thoughts of her letting you meet yr parents, i hope you know tat the gal is right for you and wishes you well.

People's perspective and objective changes in various stages of one's life, even for their taste in women too. So make sure you know wat you want and like first, in order to move on.....

tats my 0.0002 cents

[Er Lang]

Originally Posted by Know_yr_role

Alot have to depend on yrself, to me i think every relationship is different and unique in their own way. If u feel tat being with her 24/7 is torture(naggy as u put it yrself) then maybe this gal is not the right one for you.

To me, to make a r/s work many key points to work out,understanding, respect, trust, communication and more communication. Must always talk to yr partner to know what she wants, at the same time open yr needs and views to her, tell her wat you want. And never try to change someone's character or personality unless they themselves wishes and willing to do so, for the one they love. No point in forced changes as it only leads to more unhappiness.

And your age does matter also, wat stage of your life are you in now, are u still a student, struggling with studies , OR are u already a working adult with a good career and ready to make this commitment into a r/s and let her meet your family. I guess if u have thoughts of her letting you meet yr parents, i hope you know tat the gal is right for you and wishes you well.

People's perspective and objective changes in various stages of one's life, even for their taste in women too. So make sure you know wat you want and like first, in order to move on.....

tats my 0.0002 cents

Thank bro for the valuable advice.

Believe most guys like to have some private moment to be alone and ponder
Well there isn't any lack of communications between my partner & me.She is more pro active in comm with me. Most of time i would lend a listening ear for her to vent & pour out her stress/complaint at work. Both of us are at the right age to settle down.probably will take another 2 years or more if things work out well between us

Actually, she has been asking to visit my house but i think it not the right time after some minor misunderstandings. Been together for about 8months and only knew that her ex-bf was 11 yrs her senior which was back in 2005 way back before i met her. Further more, i was quite shocked when she shared this past history with me. I think she should has told me before the start of the r/s rather than at this stage. Feel quite disappointed with her but she told me she feel more secure and confident to share it with me now....i wondering should i carry on r/s...defintely will put on hold to meet my parents. Anyway, i did received some gd comment from her siblings and mum

[Xdecepticon]

People said after marriage relationship would blossom even more if both parties share common interest. But for me it doesnt work. I am a Capricorn and so is the one I married to. On the contrary sharing different interest would bring one closer to his partner even more. I just found it out.

[zunbo]

Originally Posted by Er Lang

just leave to fate..anyway also can't do much

mayb can dictate your fate?