Marital affair

[thomas88]

Why not make everyone Happy by getting a clean break as she goes back to her BF while you go back to your wife.

This way....nobody is hurt

[Michael2020]

I more interested to know how both of you become FB in the 1st place.....

[Humongosu]

Suck it up, Bro pychan. For what is worth, know your bottomline.

[Taisho75]

Originally Posted by pychan

Whatever decision i make , someone will get hurt, include myself.

The decision take a lot of courage to do so.

Until now, i never still believe myself in a situation where in the brink of divorce, never never think of this before.

I have cross the NSA lines too over this time

Then you better start thinking. It's a clean break or a long painful break as the longer you drag. You will become more indecisive if you drag longer as you keep deceiving yourself. You doing what that is not logical now. I was like that many years back when I fell in love with a engaged woman. I took the short way out and found out it's the right way after getting hurt myself.

Let me teach you some things you can ask her to see if she really serious about breaking up with her BF.

Ask her if she is a "si bai"(failure) after doing so much of her BF and not appreciated by him. Wont it be better if she switch side and do everything for you and feel appreciated by you.

Would you be able to reciprocate the gesture in the long run of you will be like her BF and take her for granted? Ask yourself this. Are you taking your wife for granted now?

[dudenumber1]

No point leaving your wife for a fling.

[pychan]

She have give up on her bf.

I know her bf sacrify alot for her and done alto for her, but in some how, her bf got high demand and expectation in her, to make her so much pressure, ( dun misunderstanding, not sex ok) but in life goals, works, and everything,.

like we expect your wife, is caliber in works, and good in house chores, good in taking children, and pretty, and friendly,.....all good points, a perfect wife.

She give up a good prospect life because of me, i am the one who trigger her break up,

Yes, not a easy decision,

i know the theory, 长痛不如短痛。

[tansy]

Dear pychan bro,

I'm going through this now and I know it is not easy. But I just want to remind you that a break up with the bf now is nothing compared to a divorce. She can even find another one even if she want to dump you in the future. But you only got one wife, the one you married years ago and who went through thick and thin with you.

The reason why you are still considering is because you can't leave ur wife. Then don't leave. Don't do stupid things that makes you regret in the future.

The girl wants you to divorce and spent the life with her, don't do it. At the moment she is 100% sure she wants you, but next minute she can say she love her bf more so wanna break up with you and patch up with him. DON'T let her take control of the situation. As a female point of view, it is obvious she is the one leading this situation and expect you to follow. If she really loves you, it doesn't matter if she is the mistress or not, as long as she can see you still. Yes, a woman can be that generous (but also silly).

[pychan]

Love still conscious, ok

we consider that option b4,
be my mistress, for a short period,
but this i think i am hurting 2 women at a same time, 2 timer.

i dun wann do that too,
i am betray my wife, i cant continue betray her anymore,

clean cut or divorce, and be alone
as i am not fit to love anyone.

They deserve me, they deserve better one.

[bunnyrabbit]

Always remember your vows to your wife when you put on her wedding ring.. Is it worth sacrificing all of it down down the drain just cos of 1 tree?

Always remember-
Drink the milk but dun bring the cow home

[Lipstick]

i think at the end of the day..... it boils down to this... your wife is the one with no agenda.... yours only.... you can have all the fun in the world outside.. your wife will just want you to come home no matter what the time... wipe up your act... before your act is up

[Taisho75]

Originally Posted by pychan

She have give up on her bf.

I know her bf sacrify alot for her and done alto for her, but in some how, her bf got high demand and expectation in her, to make her so much pressure, ( dun misunderstanding, not sex ok) but in life goals, works, and everything,.

like we expect your wife, is caliber in works, and good in house chores, good in taking children, and pretty, and friendly,.....all good points, a perfect wife.

She give up a good prospect life because of me, i am the one who trigger her break up,

Yes, not a easy decision,

i know the theory, 长痛不如短痛。

Good to know she give up her bf for you. And I know you are screwed this time. Make a decision and dun regret it. There is no turning back now. You make a choice and live with the consequences. Either way you lose some.

Update us again. You will have tough times ahead for not having a clean break.

[BigInStone]

you and her cheated behind each of your partner's back.if you guys can do that,wats stopping u both from repeating the same again?

dun play with fire or u'll get burnt.jus go back to ur wife and stop cheating behind her back....unless she is also doing the same....

[pychan]

Dear all,

I have finally make a decision.

I will back to my wife, but in a same time i bring up my intention for a separation, she willing to give us a trial.

I have a clean cut with the girl, of course she very hurt, in a same time, me too.

I know i love her more, i know i have disaapointed her very much,
she have right to angry with me.
You guys will never know what she had sacrify for me.
it is alot of what i can give her. from her bf.

I hope she can go back to her bf, but very unlikely too.
Hope she will find a better on in the future,

we will not keep in touch anymore.

I still feel very very hurt, i hope i can recover soon,
this week have been my life darkest moment.
sleep 4 hours for 5 days,
eat 2 meals in 5 days.

I really hope i can cope up soon, but i think not easy to forget her too.
but have too.

Thank you everyone for the support and advise, i feel a bit better to let go her and in a same time to drop my burden.

[Bro_Xp]

Bro pychan, you are not the most miserable guy on earth, why are you in this self pity mood? I have seen girls like that, dated one and got burnt. If she is the kind who will go into NSA with you, she will go back into NSA again once she is bored of you. I suggest to pick yourself up and live a life, with or without your wife. Please take care of your health. Is it worth it to harm yourself for anyone else? I would say if they are not your blood, no one is worth it.

Bro_Xp

[callmebad]

the choice is yours, either your wife or the girl
if you choose your wife,you have to end the outside affair
if you choose the girl, well you will have to split with your wife in the end

do you have kids?

if you have, must think carefully !

because you have to think about how your kids feel and the emotional damage caused to them when they see their daddy and mummy go separate ways