Marital affair

[Taisho75]

Originally Posted by pychan

another update on my issue,

She had finally make a move.
She is temporarily break up with her bf, and in cooling off period of one month.

In this month, either she will choose me or back to her bf.
Hopefully have a peaceful outcome no matter what happen.

She is giving me a chance to win her over but i do not have the 100% confident,
there is too much pressure to handle myself.

SHould i really let go this time? or hang on?

Interesting turn of events. First you told us she broke off with BF now she give you chance to win her back during this 1 month cooling off period. It's obviously to me she still likes her BF, else she wont give him another chance. It also seem to me you are the 3rd party in her relationship after reading your posts(may not be if you never reveal everything). By telling you she giving you a chance to win her back, she is playing a "game".

If you think with your big head, you should let go. If you thinking with your small head, you should hang on. But beware, she might be the one who dropped you the bomb to say she dump you and not the other way round.

BTW better goes back to your wife and stays faithful if not why marry her in the first place unless is shotgun. If you need to release, just pay and F--K OFF. Dun need have headache.

[pychan]

Yes, i know since the first day she still deeply in love with her bf
but whenever she with her bf, she feeling alot alot pressure,
which is fending her off,

she the one cant take too much pressure.

maybe you are right,
i am the 3rd party.

btw, i expecting her to dump me in the end

will go thru alot of hell this month,

not easy,

it is not easy to just forgot in this adn seem like never happen, she leave a great impact in my life, and her memories in my mind will be never never forgotten.

few day without any news from her, as we agree not to contact until teh thing sort out.

really need to hang on here

[pychan]

Updated.

time is running up soon,

I not yet do a final decision,but i have a talk with her,
i know what she wanted.
She miss her bf more than I,

will give up on her.

Thanks all advise from bro here,

[LoverHunter]

Good luck bro, wish you all the best in your decision. But sometimes, the hardest decisions one make are usually the correct ones

[ah_heng81]

Originally Posted by pychan

dear all,

she is pure 100% girl.
sorry for my grammar.

I mean not only in bed, she is caring loving, when i sick, she is taking good care of me,
sensible person.

i really dunno what to do next??

Leave her and go back to your wife. It's the best thing to do before things get out of hand and you may lose your wife . If she can offer to leave her BF for you it only shows she is serious about this relationship .

Never make a woman go crazy when it comes to relationship issues, you never know what hell of a mess they can do to your life.

[navras]

Originally Posted by pychan

Updated.
She miss her bf more than I,
will give up on her.
Thanks all advise from bro here,

Bro, be firm on your decision.Family first.
NSA becomes a burden if not handled properly.
Cheers!

[littlepok]

my personal thought:

now is just fling, spend some time together. u do not understand each other fully yet, including bad habits like u peeing onto toilet bowl cover etc (just eg) and she hang her bra on all your clothes and soiled underwear left on your wallet etc.

u will wonder why u do not feel the same for her compared to back then when it is only a fling and u see each other at your best moment.

another issue: u are not rich so u feel she give up the richer one for u means she do not bother about your assets. true and false. i assume u are at least in 30s and still can go fling here and there, meaning u have a decent job and some alright savings, minimum have a hdb with wife. married for 4yrs, MOP soon, can sell off. if divorce, split half with each other, probably your wife get more. then u intend to start a family with her, most prob draining most of your resources as houses are ex now, not to mention reno whatever. if she got a fat savings and willing to contribute then still alright. if expect u to provide all these, then gone case.

now u are in wonderland, seeing her as angel with wings coming down to earth. when reality such as habits and $$$ sets in, u will see her without the wings and probably with horns.

i am not encouraging/discouraging u to do anything. i once had a same experience (not married, just in relationship) and 1 came along that i see her with wings. i did not get together with her and as time goes by, i don;t even remember how she look like or why i am so infatuated with her in the first place.

rest assured u will face alot of social and family pressure, especially when your family knows the reason for your divorce. ur new gf will not have it easy with your friends and family and her unhappiness will be diverted to u. more potential minefield for arguments, doubt u will have peaceful days.

reconcile all these differences and if both of u are willing to take the plunge and risk, then i wish u good luck.

PS: u don't love your wife but u do not deny she went through hard times with u (u should be richer than when u first married her) so give her her dues and apologies. letting her go is the best way u redeem your sins towards her

[Orion888888]

Originally Posted by gocoffeebean

TS

Some people are meant to fall in love with each other .....
but not meant to be together ....

I totally understand you

I cannot agree more, how true.

[pychan]

another update,

finally after we no contact each other for one week,
we meet each other, sit down and have a proper talk.

She 100% confirm want me and love me.
She is sure for this.

Bros, you are right, as i am too good to her, pamper her, when she need any help or sick, i was there by her side. her bf still love her but take it for granted, meaning is i do things for her, and she do things for her bf. I am like 3rd party to her. She admit without me, she will not break off. i am point of trigger.

She feel so warm got a ppl like me take care of her, she can feel my love too.

In this stage, i got no choice, should either hurt one woman and not 2 in a same time.

It not easy, to break promise to either woman.
一个有情，一个有义

HAIZ

[sg_boytoy]

Wife is wife, period.

ONS, NSA, FB are all eat outside one, takeaway only, cannot eat at home. Why bother and why break or disrupt another relationship/family.

Short-term pain, longer term peace...

[SGnewB]

bro..

what happens in bed, stays in bed..


if she can nsa you when she's with her bf.. she can nsa other ppl again after you and her got together..

think about it..

ultimately, remember the golden saying..

if you want to play ok.. just remember the way home...

[spermmann2003]

Nasi kan kan

[cygnet]

It courage to make hard decisions.

[pychan]

Whatever decision i make , someone will get hurt, include myself.

The decision take a lot of courage to do so.

Until now, i never still believe myself in a situation where in the brink of divorce, never never think of this before.

I have cross the NSA lines too over this time

[cncs]

Bro, u did better think over it carefully. Is she the one willing to go through thick and thin with you. Or this is just lust, I am in no position to tell you what to do so are all the Bros out here. You have to make this decision yourself cause you know what is best.
Wish you good luck and hope you make the correct choice.