The one you marry, is not the one you loved most? - Page 68

#**1006** 27-04-2007, 11:38 PM

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Originally Posted by suteerak1099

hmmm, so in conjunction to thread topic... means... married men not getting enough love at home? hehehehhe

not sure bout that, but i do know if my wife rejects sex most of the time, the love will definitely wither, but u still cant deny the fact that men always have the tendency to stray. haha

Deztruct · #**1007** 28-04-2007, 01:09 AM

actually i was thinking..if u hv a chance to marry the one u love most..wld u do it leh? or wld u leave the relationship so tat the ger wld always remember u in her heart? its a fact tat we only tend to treasure something when it is gone..at least if u leave..the ger wld always remember u and the relationship wld neva turn bad..sort of like a sportsman retiring at the peak of his career

XboxSG · #**1008** 28-04-2007, 01:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Deztruct

actually i was thinking..if u hv a chance to marry the one u love most..wld u do it leh? or wld u leave the relationship so tat the ger wld always remember u in her heart? its a fact tat we only tend to treasure something when it is gone..at least if u leave..the ger wld always remember u and the relationship wld neva turn bad..sort of like a sportsman retiring at the peak of his career

Well said but then again, love is always blind....your heart tends to overrule your mind in such cases.

JWNY · #**1009** 28-04-2007, 10:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Deztruct

actually i was thinking..if u hv a chance to marry the one u love most..wld u do it leh? or wld u leave the relationship so tat the ger wld always remember u in her heart? its a fact tat we only tend to treasure something when it is gone..at least if u leave..the ger wld always remember u and the relationship wld neva turn bad..sort of like a sportsman retiring at the peak of his career

Now...after looking at the whole thread...better marry the lady that loves you most...

JWNY

suteerak1099 · #**1010** 28-04-2007, 12:15 PM

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Originally Posted by SuayMak

not sure bout that, but i do know if my wife rejects sex most of the time, the love will definitely wither, but u still cant deny the fact that men always have the tendency to stray. haha

oops, sounds like its gonna digress in to "men are still men".

suteerak1099 · #**1011** 28-04-2007, 12:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Deztruct

actually i was thinking..if u hv a chance to marry the one u love most..wld u do it leh? or wld u leave the relationship so tat the ger wld always remember u in her heart? its a fact tat we only tend to treasure something when it is gone..at least if u leave..the ger wld always remember u and the relationship wld neva turn bad..sort of like a sportsman retiring at the peak of his career

to my understanding, not many men live to regret. we'd often cherish the moments while it lasts. but its the gals that thrive on the other end of the bench... they're easily distracted, tend not to appreciate what's before them, till its gone... then they start weeping & suicidal attempts to summon the ex back.

suteerak1099 · #**1012** 28-04-2007, 12:24 PM

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Originally Posted by JWNY

Now...after looking at the whole thread...better marry the lady that loves you most...

JWNY

hmmmmm.... the one you marry (she loves you most), is not (necessarily) the one you loved most... ?

LED... · #**1013** 28-04-2007, 02:41 PM

If you are married and have kid, and you do love them both........

BUT but, you met the lady of your lifetime...... both of you are so deeply in love..........

Would you leave your wife and kid???? for the love of your lifetime???

Would you rather hurt the one you love most to be a responsible hubby???

jng1103 · #**1014** 28-04-2007, 03:05 PM

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Originally Posted by LED...

If you are married and have kid, and you do love them both........

BUT but, you met the lady of your lifetime...... both of you are so deeply in love..........

Would you leave your wife and kid???? for the love of your lifetime???

Would you rather hurt the one you love most to be a responsible hubby???

That's a very good n sensible question. I'm not in the fatherhood stage yet, but i can tell that commitment/responsibility will override the emotions/feelings. I've seen many broken marriages remain under the same roof for the sake of the children. They call it a "complete family" for the children, which I totally disagree.

Anyway, I'm married to the one I dont love the most, but that's the most practical solution. Call me a ROI man

jimbo

kinjio · #**1015** 28-04-2007, 03:30 PM

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Originally Posted by jng1103

That's a very good n sensible question. I'm not in the fatherhood stage yet, but i can tell that commitment/responsibility will override the emotions/feelings. I've seen many broken marriages remain under the same roof for the sake of the children. They call it a "complete family" for the children, which I totally disagree.

Anyway, I'm married to the one I dont love the most, but that's the most practical solution. Call me a ROI man

jimbo

true.. u'll sacrifice 4 ur kids even when they r irritatingly naughty at times.. dunno y???? not 2 mention putting up wif some1 u find u no longer loved / not the 1 u loved most / not the 1 who loved u most... n worse still has turned in2 a naggy, lazy, demanding, bo chap, non caring, irirtating zha bo who not only dun improve the quality of your life.. but drained you both financially n emotionally...

haiz... dats life...

=WK= · #**1016** 28-04-2007, 03:38 PM

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Originally Posted by LED...

Would you leave your wife and kid???? for the love of your lifetime???

Would you rather hurt the one you love most to be a responsible hubby???

family always comes first

kinjio · #**1017** 28-04-2007, 03:44 PM

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Originally Posted by kinjio

true.. u'll sacrifice 4 ur kids even when they r irritatingly naughty at times.. dunno y???? not 2 mention putting up wif some1 u find u no longer loved / not the 1 u loved most / not the 1 who loved u most... n worse still has turned in2 a naggy, lazy, demanding, bo chap, non caring, irirtating zha bo who not only dun improve the quality of your life.. but drained you both financially n emotionally...

haiz... dats life...

o ya.. reminds me of trailers on 1 new tcs drama on the chinese channels bot marriage life breaking down.. must get the mrs to watch dat... hahahaha....

any bros can provide the details? show name n time etc.. jus caught a glimpse as i dun n hav and no time 2 watch tv, oni SBF... hahaha

jng1103 · #**1018** 28-04-2007, 03:53 PM

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Originally Posted by =WK=

family always comes first

Hmm... Even if u r emotionally drained, depressed and miserable? If ur broken marriage (no turning back) has caused tremendous confusion, agony and distress on ur work and personal life, will u still hang on the broken marriage for the sake of the picture of a "complete family"?

Yes, family always comes first, if and only if the marriage is healthy n happy. Otherwise, move on and seek for ur own happiness. That's ur life, duh

jimbo

=WK= · #**1019** 28-04-2007, 04:34 PM

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Originally Posted by jng1103

Hmm... Even if u r emotionally drained, depressed and miserable? If ur broken marriage (no turning back) has caused tremendous confusion, agony and distress on ur work and personal life, will u still hang on the broken marriage for the sake of the picture of a "complete family"?

bro, if you are quoating such an extreme situation... then maybe its better for the "family" if you leave the marriage in this case

my comments that family always comes first does not imply we should remain in a marriage no matter what happens... but we should always put our responsibilities for our family ahead of our own happiness

jng1103 · #**1020** 28-04-2007, 06:40 PM

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Originally Posted by =WK=

bro, if you are quoating such an extreme situation... then maybe its better for the "family" if you leave the marriage in this case

my comments that family always comes first does not imply we should remain in a marriage no matter what happens... but we should always put our responsibilities for our family ahead of our own happiness

bro, if u think those scenarios are scarce and extreme, just go and ask those lawyers dealing with divorce cases. One of my frens who works in law firm told me that there are avg of 10 divorces cases (some are repeated cases with continuous consultations) everyday. in fact, two of my frens are going through now...

if the marriage is a happy one, who would bother to go through the agony process of divorce? it's burning both ur money and mental.

Yes, family will always come first, if and only if, both parties are willing to reconcile the differences and working towards a happy marriage. well, said is easier than done, so why not walk off if it doesnt work out?

jimbo