How many is here because you are sexually frustrated? - Page 6

ilurbu · #76 29-11-2006, 11:21 AM

broshaunting : I'm just your average joe with a dick sized to hold my brain. Not too smart, I am. Carnal expeditions are a definite thrill with its variety. DUH

"how to convince her?" It's not about convincing bro. Your wife is that same princess you trophied in shining armour summers ago. In a commercial context, she's your MVC Most Valuable Client who needs you to service her account well. Understanding her needs and giving her a solution instead of selling her the most profitable (in this case your most pleasurable desires) products. In artistic terms, she's your ultimate muse asking to be glorified in your hands and not turned into a page3 smut page.

If she can't initiate any efforts, I suppose it's up to us. Afterall, women are made for men and not the other way round. It is "almost" entirely our fault if we cannot elicit a passion from them. Nostalgia is a tool too. Think out of the box.

This is a different game from the playing fields as we cannot expect the quick, dirty and instant gratification. She's not someone who'll accept $150 for a quickie. If you remember what it took to convince your wife to touch third base with you the first time, I think you'll know that we gotta take it from the top, if you know what I mean. Back to the drawing board I say, my fellow bros in sadness. Let us fight and lead our wives in awe and renewed admiration with our galantry again. We owe it to ourselves.

I was in trouble for a long time due to my temper. I was a maniac when I did not have release in more than a few days. Countless fights, broken handphones, broken doors, TV's, more handphones, chipped marble, scratched parquet, broken chairs, the list goes on.. I am truly ashamed and repentant on my wrath. There is hope still, from a book I read. Short, direct, religiously neutral (almost; ignore this part of the book), EFFECTIVE. Both parties should read too. Give her time, space and energy (I'd do the laundry so she can finish 2-3 chapters)

Anger. by Thich Nhat Hanh found in Popular bookstores. Cheaper if got member card. Also saw this in Kino. Recommended by Straits Times earlier this year too. Also rated as one of the most important books for effective anger management.

Ironically, my wife tore the book up when we had an argument saying it doesn't work. I reacted with something that will haunt me in aching regret for the rest of my life. I raised my hand on her. To this day I regret even though we made up and she's being supportive, minus the usual rantings which she had all the while. I suck monkey's ass... I suck... as a man. This I say for the first time in public.

Anyway, back to the book, I patched it back, drained it of it's wisdom and for me it works. I've changed; not because of the book but because I want to. The book was merely a catalyst at best. I understand not everyone is in good $shape to buy it but I believe libraries or an afternoon at the bookstore should give enough absorption and inspiration towards the light.

I'm not here to counsel anyone nor hijack BRO primalhunter's thread. I am grateful for this outlet for my constipated frustration. I still have my brain located on my south pole. So, there.

shaunting77 · #77 29-11-2006, 12:10 PM

twin tango

primalhunter · #78 29-11-2006, 03:47 PM

Bro Ilurbu,
after reading your posts, i can sense that you have been thru a lot. much like many here but u are, well, more articulate in expressing ur thoughts and as such, feel the hurt even more. i cringe the thought of u hitting ur wife, and i know the regret that u must have felt, i believe even till today. i fear u will never be able to let it go... this regretable action. but alas, take this as a reason to love her more, especially for her ability to forgive you.

i on the other hand still could not understand how my dear wife can blow hot and cold within a matter of days. maybe it is by design. 2 yrs without a hint of a bj, then suddenly she felt obliged to give me one. after which, she recoiled back to her cold ways.

maybe the operative word here is obligatory. she felt obliged to service me. after all the pestering. she felt obliged to have sex with me because i m her husband and she being the tool of my release. i sense this even more now. there is no feeling in our love making anymore, just mechanics. after each session, the same question will be uttered. "chu liow mei yow?"( have you cum?) followed by the usual wiping and cleaning. then lights off. obliged to do it, part and parcel of her duty as a wife. not supposed to be enjoyed.

true, many of us man tend to forget the courting days where we increase our efforts to touch third base. i am one of which. but i have mend my ways. i have tried all things romantic. from flowers, to suggestion of holiday trip to which was always either recieved with a cold reply of, "why waste money" or "where got leave somemore?"

i thought i finally got thru to her last weekend with the unexpected bj and heavenly lovemaking like we used to have while we were courting. but, unfortunately, its back to square one.

her birthday is coming. i have certainly lost the urge to plan a surprise for her. there will be a time that i will take this as an obligation to fulfill. that will probably be the beginning of the end.

Frankiestine · #79 29-11-2006, 04:03 PM

nowadays sex with wife is like "ai mai suat"...the most visit pros.....try to pet she find so turn off..try to raba she say feel like kena molested..

so wat she want..just take off pants and fuck away? then she say not romantic...ccb woman make up your fucking mind...

ilurbu · #80 29-11-2006, 04:28 PM

Bro primalhunter : Please don't feel discouraged. You must be wondering when are you having the next GF feeling session with your wife again? (That would be expectation from you) I was previously living with expections of this, that and then some more for a good 4-5 years. I really hope you will give your missus a birthday to remember. If she says why waste $, then do something that doesn't require money. If I may humbly suggest, even if we are on the low end of the talent gene pool, a decent dinner at a restaurant. I would have a pre-arrangement with the band for the evening to play your song. It should be a song with significance for you and her. The punchline would be YOU singing it; again, this is just a suggestion. The moral of this idea is to renew your vow of love in public, to tell her that she still lights the fire in you and that you just wish her to be happy forever, etc.. Most women would be reduced to teenage girls with public declarations.

I hope your wife falls into the majority psyche of the modern woman.

Throw those negative thoughts about "beginning of the end" out man..

Bro Frankiestine : paiseh ah, I'll be kaypoh and say this. I will experiment with kissing her every morning before work, after work, before sleep with "I love you" (important : looking contented not goofy happy) for a week, without doing ANYTHING ELSE. It won't take long before she asks you what's up. You'll just tell her you're happy and contented that you're together with her, you can always throw in optional extras like : can I help you with housework today? She might be eating out of your hand in less than a month, I hope.

Frankly, I must say I am only beginning to know what my wife wants, not what all women want, after 10 years plus of being together. This is my case-study but I do hope it's useful reference. and bro primalhunter: you're right, I can't let go yet. Forgiving oneself takes a whole lot of strength. I would sooner lose my hand than hurt her.

AAconnection · #81 29-11-2006, 04:55 PM

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Originally Posted by decimal86

she loves sex and willingly watch football with you?? there is a heaven after all!!

This is not heaven is better than heaven is l like having sex in football field if the football match is projected on a large wall. Envy sia...

bunny · #82 30-11-2006, 04:49 PM

Dear Tissue,
Thanks for sharing a women's view. Agree with most of what u said.
As for the size ... i think ladies need to have curves.
Hahaha ... I can;t say about the doggie bit cos' only did doggie once and then never had the chance again.
For me it is not the looks but it is the whole experience ... so look sdoes not really matter to me it is whether both have the necessary "chemistry" that makes all the difference.
Hahaha love making happens only on weekends in the morning ... very rare otherwise ... and on "bad luck day ...when the red arrives at the worng time then ... too bad ... for me that is . But I have learnt to accept it.

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Originally Posted by tissue

Hi primalhunter,
May I add my few cents worth? I'm also a lady from XS to XL after 2 kids.
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I had asked a few brothers around here and they have said that guys generally do not mind if their wives became fat..My husband has told me that he still love screwing me even though I'm fat..In fact, he says the feel is better during doggy as there are more meat to play with!

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I have HSD but I also reject him sometimes as I am really tired after a hard day's work, reached home entertained the kids blah blah blah...I always doze off on the kids bed after putting the kids to bed..He will normally wake me up and ask me to sleep on our bed..So when he sometimes initiate, I get angry because I feel that he is disturbing my beauty sleep..That's all..
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We aim for sex about twice a week, but most of the time, it will be done only once a week, normally weekends..
Cheers / Tissue

bunny · #83 30-11-2006, 04:51 PM

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bunny · #84 30-11-2006, 05:01 PM

Dear Bor Frank ... I had the same problem too last time. But it take me a long while to accept it.
Women they need to be put inthe mood. But not from teh physical sense. Must make love to their mind ... tease them in all ways but the physical way ... just give them a nice warm hug ...but no raba raba etc... it makes them suddenly why he never "attack me" hahaha... Then send a few sms once in a while tellign her u think of her ... and ask her to eat properly lah etc... At home help around the house and be thoughtful. Ocassionally buy things for her etc... to show that u think and care for her ... but all the while avoid the direct physical "attack" ... then on a nice day as you just hold her snuggly and keep her warm ... maybe just aybe she will snuggle up to you and then stroke your arm or give small gentle kisses to yr cheek or face ... then u know it is time to hit the home run ... but still approach slowly and let her tak ethe lead ...

Well ... after all that it may not ... ie. no guarantee that u will "score" hahaha ... but I can guarantee that she will begin to appreciate u more ... and u will have less fighting etc... but like another bro who shared about anger mgmt ... Must change our mindset to it. If really cannot tahan and must release then either pay and shoot or PCC self-service ... that is what I resort too lah.

Hope the sharing will be of help.
Cheers

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Originally Posted by Frankiestine

nowadays sex with wife is like "ai mai suat"...the most visit pros.....try to pet she find so turn off..try to raba she say feel like kena molested..

so wat she want..just take off pants and fuck away? then she say not romantic...ccb woman make up your fucking mind...

bunny · #85 30-11-2006, 05:04 PM

Posting was deleted due to double posting.

ilurbu · #86 02-12-2006, 03:56 AM

exactly what Bunny says. Nothing is guaranteed even if all your procedures are "correct" and optimum. After all, if love is there, there is no need for justification. No need to say what is fair or unfair. IF and only IF love is there, it really doesn't matter even if she's happier without you. So long you want her to be happy. *This is love-lorn, young and stupid mode*

Then again, if you wanna be "FAIR" to yourself, you can always have pre-nup's, contracts, etc etc.. then again what meaning would there be other than having a choice of long term sex partner?

hmm... *too much wine tonight*

steamystreamsg · #87 03-12-2006, 08:40 AM

Is it true that most women will loose interest in sex once becoming a mother? At least, that's what I felt.

myst · #88 05-12-2006, 04:56 PM

You are not alone pal. Not to over-generalise, I think that is normally the case given that the environment has changed with the incoming baby.

Now, I have a wife who is not interested in sex and a girl-buddy who refuses sex.

THAT, is frustrating.

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Originally Posted by steamystreamsg

Is it true that most women will loose interest in sex once becoming a mother? At least, that's what I felt.

bunny · #89 06-12-2006, 01:47 PM

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Originally Posted by steamystreamsg

Is it true that most women will loose interest in sex once becoming a mother? At least, that's what I felt.

I think it is not so much loose interest in sex ... it is probably more things on their mind ...work, kids, home .... kids home yet, homework done ... clothes wash yet ... when to do laundry ...kids outgrow clothes yet? need to go supermarket ... what to buy etc... etc... etc...

Anyway i am a guy ... some guys are great inthat they help ...I see some also go market ...minus wife!!!

Hence since they are preoccupied with so many things ... thinking of sex is farthest from their mind ...

So if u want more sex .... help her out ... talk ... or rather listen more ...apprecaite her feelings thru yr actions (whether reciprocated or not) ... and then maybe just maybe u will get lucky .... HAHAHAHAH

I know I get luckier these days ... but then ther is no guarantee ... but the probability of sexcess ... HEHEHE is higher.

Cheers

whitegals · #90 07-12-2006, 06:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Frankiestine

nowadays sex with wife is like "ai mai suat"...the most visit pros.....try to pet she find so turn off..try to raba she say feel like kena molested.. so wat she want..just take off pants and fuck away? then she say not romantic...ccb woman make up your fucking mind...

Mabbe she wants to be tied up and made to crawl around....