Marital affair

[Venus2012]

Originally Posted by gocoffeebean

TS

Some people are meant to fall in love with each other .....
but not meant to be together ....

I totally understand you

I agree with you ...

TS , Return back to your wife ... She has been through everything with you when your fling was only there with you through the happy times .....

[pychan]

Dear all, thanks for all advise,

She just broke up with her bf, and i am thinking what should i do now,
I do not have kids yet,

I am not sure we can continue on like this forever.
She want a proper relation too and not hiding like us now.,

No matter what decision i make, i have hurt them,
both decision wil also make regret for my life.

Will see what next step of course

been thinking alot lately on this issue,

Thanks

[deludedgal]

when u like yr wife that time u got married.

after u got married feelings were no longer fresh cos u see each other everyday

after that staying together bring in more problems and sometimes.. things dont seem that nice anymore

alone comes a syt, not living with you, looks pretty and always u feel u miss her

u divorce yr wife get together with her,

5 years down the road, u two get married already no more fresh feelings cos living together

sex slowly seems chore again and off u go again looking for? new sex adventure?

and u repeat this process again.

only this time she may start the adventure before u did and divorce u first.

really? divorce yr wife to go through all this again? whats the point.
love is something of an effort. an action

why not try loving yr wife rather then keep changing one?

[ferragamo]

try going out with your GF for 1 to 2 months WITHOUT having sex

see if the relationship is still appealing with no sex, and decide from there

[senja88]

TS, can tell us more about your wife so we have a better understanding before advising. you are right in spreading your love but remember, we reap what we sow. just tell us more so we can give you a more balanced view.

[QueenJ]

Originally Posted by pychan

Dear all, thanks for all advise,

She just broke up with her bf, and i am thinking what should i do now,
I do not have kids yet,

I am not sure we can continue on like this forever.
She want a proper relation too and not hiding like us now.,

No matter what decision i make, i have hurt them,
both decision wil also make regret for my life.

Will see what next step of course

been thinking alot lately on this issue,



Thanks

If she can do it to her bf, she can do it to you someday , besides you can't even know if she really had a clean break with the bf.
Cmon be fair to them (Fling n wife), be fair to yourself dude
This is just some vicious cycle

[cr8tiv3]

Hi bro, I was in the same position as you. But I still remember the vow that me and my wife took.

I, ____, take you, ____, to be my lawfully wedded(husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.

Even though the romance might have fizzled, it is up to you to rekindle it. I hope you make the wise choice. Cheers


http://travismagazine.wordpress.com/...the-8020-rule/

[pychan]

another update on my issue,

She had finally make a move.
She is temporarily break up with her bf, and in cooling off period of one month.

In this month, either she will choose me or back to her bf.
Hopefully have a peaceful outcome no matter what happen.

She is giving me a chance to win her over but i do not have the 100% confident,
there is too much pressure to handle myself.

SHould i really let go this time? or hang on?

Yup, we do have alot happy moments and hiccups too,
I also make her angry before and she ignore me for few days,

To outrun her bf condition seem like impossible for me.
in current situation , i will not be better than her bf in any areas,

fyi, we do not have sex currently until matter sort since last month.

[cataramp]

of cos is stay with your WIFE.

you and your fling should either remain as fling or totally say byebye!

you can only have ONE wife.. don't let your small head control you

[pychan]

i already mention, we no sex for months

and just companionship and dating

[muscleboi]

you didn't mention anything about your wife when another bro asked you about it. why?

I think you have already made up your mind. You just want us to say "yes i support you. go for the fling." Well, looks like body chemical reaction won.

just go do whatever you want. i don't think you are here for advice. you are just here for approval to your decision..

[sgman1968]

Bro TS, always remember what u do now will reflect in the future.. we can only advice, ultimately u make your own decision..

however, choose wisely and always believe in karma...

[jason1189]

Originally Posted by deludedgal

when u like yr wife that time u got married.

after u got married feelings were no longer fresh cos u see each other everyday

after that staying together bring in more problems and sometimes.. things dont seem that nice anymore

alone comes a syt, not living with you, looks pretty and always u feel u miss her

u divorce yr wife get together with her,

5 years down the road, u two get married already no more fresh feelings cos living together

sex slowly seems chore again and off u go again looking for? new sex adventure?

and u repeat this process again.

only this time she may start the adventure before u did and divorce u first.

really? divorce yr wife to go through all this again? whats the point.
love is something of an effort. an action

why not try loving yr wife rather then keep changing one?

dreams never equate to reality, at the first sign of miscommunication pls pls resolve, never sweep thing under the carpet or hope it will be better tomorrow. Im in a painful situation and i can tell u i should have dump her years ago instead of holding back, the pride i swallow to give her all my money, my time and a proper home. all these times she never chipped it and it was a one sided thing ($) all the time, along came a syt whom went thru the same i did and things sparkle with new glismpe of a better life but i never choose her.

find that someone who completes you in all the ways, the one that makes you smile just looking at her, the one you sincerely willingly give your everything to and in return she loved you with everything she have.

[melomelody]

go for it. just for the experience. there is nothing much to lose in your case. just be careful. all the best

[fulham]

don't be caught in a mess when you eat outside, it will be really messy when you divorce your wife and this woman leaves you at the same time. Like some bro said, we should believe in karma.