Need advice on Sour marriage life..

[alvinskoh]

Originally Posted by topcook1

OMG...just found out that she had accumulated 25k in credit cards bills...I am the principal card holder . Damn Jia latz...Dont know is this a cruel plot to torture me.....Now going to be financial stress...

Bro, You bring upon yourself. I am speechless........

All the best.........

[Stimsia]

Originally Posted by topcook1

OMG...just found out that she had accumulated 25k in credit cards bills...I am the principal card holder . Damn Jia latz...Dont know is this a cruel plot to torture me.....Now going to be financial stress...

Er 25k
Mean salary 13k?
Quickly cut off just call can liao

[topcook1]

Originally Posted by Stimsia

Er 25k
Mean salary 13k?
Quickly cut off just call can liao

Total 5 cards involve..I had terminated them immediately.....Very jia latz..now SOS

[vscelwan]

TS, you till have time and mood to go to Hatyai and Dandok enjoy yourself instead of solving your personal problem? What make sure your wife don't know what you are doing outside?

[topcook1]

Originally Posted by vscelwan

TS, you till have time and mood to go to Hatyai and Dandok enjoy yourself instead of solving your personal problem? What make sure your wife don't know what you are doing outside?

I go there to visit my uncle and his family...

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Originally Posted by topcook1

Total 5 cards involve..I had terminated them immediately.....Very jia latz..now SOS

You need to work out a settlement with her over this outstanding bills but 5 cards are really quite a lot.

[tawhooboy]

bro topcook1,

1) Mindset change : She's no longer worth reconcile with.You need to change perspective towards her (IMMEDIATE), that she's no longer the person you married!!.....you dont have to hate her or want revenge...this will make you lose your common sense & cloud your mind to deal with the situation. YOU NEED A CLEAR MINDSET....you want to end with divorce & not being the loser.

2) Protection : Protect the interests of your 2 children & yourself. Always think, act & decide with aim to save your children from any more hurt & emotional distress. Isolate your feelings towards her & emotionally stay strong.

3) Strategy : have a clear mind that you want end this marriage, have custody of 2 children, start NEW life... Take steps to gather evidence of her infidelity & her negligence towards family, especially the children's well-being. Spend QUALITY time with your children, love them uncontionally. Make them close to you, then when during legal tussle for children, they will naturally decide to be with father....as you've always been there for them.

Lastly, do think thru' CLEARLY & DECIDE how you want to move on with your life from here...., then you may consider, start talking to a lawyer....to weigh your options.
regards.

[maxsee]

Hiring PI is going to cost a huge sum of money.....wonder if u can fork out tat cash...and wat if they can't find anything....only DUMBASS get married nowadays with woman charter....be it local women or watever countries....the law is def one sided...

[vscelwan]

I believe TS's wife already knew what TS outside activity he had done since 9 years back..Mayb TS don't realize that woman are very sensitive and observant when her man hanky panky outside. She didn't voice out doesn't mean she don't know abt it

[topcook1]

Originally Posted by pinkplaymate

Hi

Well, I guess when the feeling is gone, it's really hard to get it back and reconcile. It's like a broken vase, you might still be able to find all the pieces and put it back together, but it's never going to be the same vase as before.

Hard as it might be, but you need to move on and find something to focus your life on. I guess it is hard for your children to deal with the current situation.

Take care, may 2012 be a better year for you.

Cheers and Guess is not an easy task ahead...

[topcook1]

Originally Posted by maxsee

Hiring PI is going to cost a huge sum of money.....wonder if u can fork out tat cash...and wat if they can't find anything....only DUMBASS get married nowadays with woman charter....be it local women or watever countries....the law is def one sided...

Woman charter is an olden age law and it should change coz woman are getting more powerful than man.

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Originally Posted by topcook1

Woman charter is an olden age law and it should change coz woman are getting more powerful than man.

It be change to Family Charter soon to reflect a more balance gender approach
Just wait and finger cross

[mrham]

Originally Posted by topcook1

OMG...just found out that she had accumulated 25k in credit cards bills...I am the principal card holder . Damn Jia latz...Dont know is this a cruel plot to torture me.....Now going to be financial stress...

Bro, I wouldn't know the situation well, but you have to keep this bill to prove your wife's crazy spending. Ask around for a friend who knows a lawyer you can ask for advice. ( Boss, advice correct hor not advise? Later say I got clone and zap me to hell again =P)

She is probably following some idiot's ( dunno the 3rd party or her GF) advise. You had better brace yourself. I am sorry to hear you are in this situation now. Before that I had thought you still had some sliver of hope left. Now...

I hope everything will turn out ok for you in the end.

[topcook1]

Saw she has a solicitor name card in her cupboard..Guess she is going to fire her first salvo soon.. Btw does divorce take three years to proceed if I dont acknowledge or agree to it?Can anyone advice?

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by topcook1

Can anyone advice?

Should be "Can anyone ADVISE?".

"Advice" is a noun.