what if you found your wife is cheating you?

[francined69]

Originally Posted by Lionhard

There are others way apart from fighting for custody. Why make matters more acrimonious?

yes i fully agree that there are better ways to show love and affection for your children rather than to spend your hard earned $$$ in court fighting for custody and worsen the relationship between parents. look at the recent suicide case which also claimed the life of a young child.

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by francined69

yes i fully agree that there are better ways to show love and affection for your children rather than to spend your hard earned $$$ in court fighting for custody and worsen the relationship between parents. look at the recent suicide case which also claimed the life of a young child.

Bro nothing can worsen the relationship since its already reached the stage of divorce. The best you can do is only try and shield the kids from all the nastiness...but some times things don't play out that way one hopes it to cos the other party is not going to make things any easier for you...in any case, I can't say I feel sorry for the bedok suicide victim except her child...in her case, she really painted herself into a corner by refusing visitation rights to the father...so can anyone really blame the father for going back to the court to enforce his rights...if she feels that he has been abusing the child, she could have take out a PPO..

[k3lvin123]

Nice thread, i've been thru this process. I advise bros/sisters here the following;

Sceen 1. Married recently not more then 3 years no kids.

I would say to her, FUCK OFF my life just married ONLY u play around, U BITCH

sceen 2. Married long time no kids.

I recommend close 1 eye.

sceen 3. Married recently with kid/kids

For the sake of ya kids, they are still young & they dearly need mother's tender loving care. Most wifes dont play around at this age/time as they want to focus on family building, IF she really outside play, U ARE THE PROBLEM.

sceen 4. Married long time with kid/kids

Again for the sake of your kids, stay together. You've been married many years.

[acidicavex]

I do agree bro k3lvin123 for me simple...

If she choose to play well be it that way you can play and than come back home and do her wifey and motherly duty so be it. I can close both eyes too if no one else comment that they seen her in and out behaving intimately. If it does happen than 1 eye got to open and have a talk for her to be at least discreet about it.

Something else about women I don't know everyone agree or partially agree if a women stray they sheldom look back at the consequences. They will leave everything behind and if they have a change of heart there is no way for them to turn back. For me if this senario happen of cause i do my every part that i can to protect my kids. Some will say what the point must as well invest the time and money somewhere else or another potential partner. Some may say you stupid you know it is a losing battle especially with the woman charter and you go dump all the $$ and cents in. But to me is principle if i die i want to die with no regret in life. I don't stuff to happen and i can only sit there to do the finger point games. At least i choose to do my part but the court rulez otherwise. Than at least when my children get older and see me i will be able to raise my head to talk to them. Instead of my head looking at the ground when they ask "Daddy why didn't you fight to keep us beside you?" sorta of question.

[haojian]

anyone can recommend a private investigator? need to check on my wife.
thanks

[haojian]

Originally Posted by sg_brother

I think it is the IN thing now that wife is cheating around. My wife also cheated on me not once but three times, which I recently found out. I admit that my wife is pretty. Remembered when I went fortune telling at Beach Road when that fortune teller told me my wife was having an affair. Initially, I did not believe him. Went to another fortune teller at Simei which told me the same. Went to the third at Bedok and he also said the same. As I still refused to accept, I treated it as they were bullshitting. But the truth came to light when I found out evidence of my wife affairs that all three of the fortune teller was saying the truth. Confronted her but she denied vehemently but after I took out the evidence, she started crying and admitted her affairs. I was very upset as how she could do this when I am faithful to her, and yet she could have three different affairs. Worst is, she did raw with all three of them just because she is on pills.

Was going to divorce her but she begged and pleaded for forgiveness. After some times, I did forgave her but the fact is, I cant forget. Because I knew and met the first two guys before she had affairs with them, while the third guy is through MSN. All the three guys are married men.

Even though I had forgiven her, my imagination will sometimes run wild when I am having sex with her, even till now. I had thought of revenge but till now I did not make that happen.

bro,

can pm me where to find these fortune teller? i need to ask about my wife. thanks

[ionu]

this happened about a few months ago, my girlfriend went clubbing with a bunch of friends at zirca.

as i'm not a fan of clubbing , i advised her not to go.
but she insisted that it was her friend's birthday party and everyone had to be there.

reluctantly , i agreed. she told me that there would be a few girls & guys, i said okay ..

at around midnight ,i tried in vain to contact her , but somehow i did not manage to get through .

as i did not know who would she be with exactly, i couldnt contact them as well.

sometime later, she contacted me & told me that the party has started & that she'd go home once it ends.
i was pretty worried for her at that point of time, & i told her to be careful.

they had games such as truth or dare , and several finger guessing games.
whereby the loser had to drink a shot of whatever liquor they had.

and as they got drunk , the game got bigger.
they had truth or dare games, and the dare was something fucked up.
my girlfriend was an ahlian , & the people that she mixed around with were mostly young ahbengs.

not that i discriminate them , but they tend to get daring & stuff with such games. what i heard from my girlfriend is that she had been chosen to do the dare 7 times. in which , 4 times were kisses with other guys & 3 were light petting.

they knew that she had a boyfriend , yet it still happened.

as the night got later & later, they continued to drink & most of them were knocked out.

around 2 , they left the place & most of them went home.
but one of the guys offered to send my girlfriend home & she agreed.
instead , that bastard brought her to a boutique hotel near bugis.
she did not even know what was happening, once they checked in, my girlfriend fell asleep as well as she was too tired.

that bastard fucked her that night & even cummed in her raw.
we didn't even know until she missed her monthly crap for 2 months,
thank god we found out early, and an abortion was done.

the next day, she woke up & realised everything, she confided in me & i also forgave her as it's not entirely her fault.

but i didnt feel good inside as well , as afterall ..

[Stud00]

Sounds familiar bro.. i know how you feel. End of the day, your gf has to be smart enuff to protect herself. As for that bastard, u could actually lodge a police report for rape. talk more on pm.
Cheers

Originally Posted by ionu

this happened about a few months ago, my girlfriend went clubbing with a bunch of friends at zirca.

as i'm not a fan of clubbing , i advised her not to go.
but she insisted that it was her friend's birthday party and everyone had to be there.

reluctantly , i agreed. she told me that there would be a few girls & guys, i said okay ..

at around midnight ,i tried in vain to contact her , but somehow i did not manage to get through .

as i did not know who would she be with exactly, i couldnt contact them as well.

sometime later, she contacted me & told me that the party has started & that she'd go home once it ends.
i was pretty worried for her at that point of time, & i told her to be careful.

they had games such as truth or dare , and several finger guessing games.
whereby the loser had to drink a shot of whatever liquor they had.

and as they got drunk , the game got bigger.
they had truth or dare games, and the dare was something fucked up.
my girlfriend was an ahlian , & the people that she mixed around with were mostly young ahbengs.

not that i discriminate them , but they tend to get daring & stuff with such games. what i heard from my girlfriend is that she had been chosen to do the dare 7 times. in which , 4 times were kisses with other guys & 3 were light petting.

they knew that she had a boyfriend , yet it still happened.

as the night got later & later, they continued to drink & most of them were knocked out.

around 2 , they left the place & most of them went home.
but one of the guys offered to send my girlfriend home & she agreed.
instead , that bastard brought her to a boutique hotel near bugis.
she did not even know what was happening, once they checked in, my girlfriend fell asleep as well as she was too tired.

that bastard fucked her that night & even cummed in her raw.
we didn't even know until she missed her monthly crap for 2 months,
thank god we found out early, and an abortion was done.

the next day, she woke up & realised everything, she confided in me & i also forgave her as it's not entirely her fault.

but i didnt feel good inside as well , as afterall ..

[ionu]

we wanted to , but at that point of time, we were still pretty young & didn't know the procedures & stuff.

and she has a part to play, hence, we decided not to blow up the matter.
we confronted that bastard & he has since gave my girlfriend an acceptable five digit cheque to forget the matter.

although she is unable to totally forget the matter, we've made it a point not to club anymore , or at least, in the near future.

[overair]

Originally Posted by officelady

thanks 4 the comments.. i asked because i m that wife.

oh dear ... had he found out? i hope not. anyway, most guys would behave like the husband in a show that recently watched "crazy stupid love". yes, not pretty and please, don't entirely expect most guys would eventually come through like that husband, as there aren't that many ryan gosling to straight them out. so what do YOU do? you have to decide for yourself, if he had found out. if he has not, never ever tell him; unless, you have a husband like me, who nut enough not to mind. mind you, even there is an increasing number of us, but, still not too many enough. again, you have to decide for yourself what do you want to do. is the marriage worth keeping? yes? then you need to do whatever to save it despite what your husband may react; if it is not worth the trouble, walk away as soon as you can, for your own goodness sake and his. good luck!

[S.B.Y.1]

Originally Posted by officelady

Guys.. i am interested to know what are your feelings about if you find out that your girlfriend or wife is cheating on you while you are on business trips? and worst still is you also discovered that she a dark side too which you thought she was a good girl.

TS be prepared for the inevitable should you want to probe further

Since you;re on businesss trip you should just "eat out"

Don't let GND looks fool you but this day and age things are topsy turvy