The one you marry, is not the one you loved most?

[jemz]

dont get married... really

just cohabitate and rent a place will do..

i've came to that conclusion... its for the best~

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by jemz

dont get married... really

just cohabitate and rent a place will do..

i've came to that conclusion... its for the best~

My exact thoughts as well... wish I thought about it this way before I got married. I'll do that in my next life.

In fact, just told my wife that there was no way that I'll remarry even if she dies or we divorce. There's no way I would want to put myself through marriage when I do not believe fully in the sacrament.

However, if there are children, no choice. Cannot be unfair to the innocent kids and led them live with constant humiliation of having unwed parents.

[GhostRay]

"You must lossen your grip, you losing her"

I lossen & still I lose her

"You must hold on to your grip, or else you will lose her"

I tighten my grip & still I lose her

"If you love her, let her go"

I love her, I let her go & still I lose her

"If she love you, she will come back to you"

She love me, but she belong to other now & still I lose her

"You must work hard or you lose her to someone

I work darn hard & still I lose her

"You must have never say die attitue"

I cheong like siao & still I lose her

I did what I was told & some many "advisor" telling me to do this & that.
So the my ADVISE is "Do whatever you feel is right for you. Don't care what other tell you."

[ho27864]

from my own experience.

love really does not last a lifetime.
there are 3 stages in a love cycle.
1) hot period
2) cooling period
3) cold period

so even if the one you married is at one time the woman you loved most,over time everything just gets cold.

for me the one whom i loved the most is the one who is the furthest away from me.that is because she left me when we were still in the hot period.
so this love lingers for eternity in time and space and in my heart.

[Thai Rak Thai]

Originally Posted by Deztruct

if u love her, let her go. If she comes back to you, you noes she is urs forever

if she doesnt come back to you, kill her!

tht post made my day bro

[surfer888]

Originally Posted by Deztruct

if u love her, let her go. If she comes back to you, you noes she is urs forever

if she doesnt come back to you, kill her!

Motley Crue: You're all I need

The blade of my knife
Faced away from your heart
Those last few nights
It turned and sliced you apart
This love that I tell
Now feels lonely as hell
From this padded prison cell

So many times I said
You'd only be mine
I gave my blood and my tears
And loved you cyanide
When you took my lips
I took your breath
Sometimes love's better off dead

You're all I need, make you only mine
I loved you so I set you free
I had to take your life
You're all I need, you're all I need
And I loved you but you didn't love me Laid out cold

Now we're both alone
But killing you helped me keep you home
I guess it was bad
Cause love can be sad
But we finally made the news

Tied up smiling
I thought you were happy
Never opened your eyes
I thought you were napping
I got so much to learn
About love in this world
But we finally made the news

You're all I need, make you only mine
I loved you so, so I put you to sleep.

[jintulan]

Originally Posted by GhostRay

"You must lossen your grip, you losing her"
I lossen & still I lose her
"You must hold on to your grip, or else you will lose her"
I tighten my grip & still I lose her
"If you love her, let her go"
I love her, I let her go & still I lose her
"If she love you, she will come back to you"
She love me, but she belong to other now & still I lose her
"You must work hard or you lose her to someone
I work darn hard & still I lose her
"You must have never say die attitue"
I cheong like siao & still I lose her...

beautiful observation, brother.

Originally Posted by GhostRay

"Do whatever you feel is right for you. Don't care what other tell you."

May your feelings bring you to the right place, and if they don't, may you still find the right place somehow.

[steamer]

Originally Posted by SiberianTiger

so the saying "if u love that person, u shd let it go free" is proven??

100% true..remember the pebble and the clod...

[suteerak1099]

the art of fishing vs the art of kite flying???

1. some gals master the art of fishing, lay the long line to catch the big fish
2. some guys master the art of kite flying, un-reel, let the kite ride on the updraft to fly high.

but there's always the need to be sensitive & manage the risks.

long line fishing
1. lay the line too long, take too long to reel back.
2. hooked to coral on sea bed, also didnt realize.
3. big fish = tougher fight.
4. need to jangan tension, or line will snap.
5. may not be the big fish u actually wanted

long line kite flying
1. line too long, had to control, when the draft changes direction
2. watch out for lightning
3. too far away, cant admire the beauty of the kite anymore
4. line reached the end of the reel, try pulling back & experience tough resistance
5. line snaps, cant find the remains of the kite when it crashes.

so how? what works for others, may not always work for us. 1 step at a time.

[JWNY]

Originally Posted by suteerak1099

the art of fishing vs the art of kite flying???

Kite flying gives me the impression...i'm in control

JWNY

[dom01]

i prefer the kite flying theory.. Coz u can change the kite.. haha...

[sammyBleu]

seriously i wont know until im married.. but for now, im happily attached to my Shanghainese gf.. hopefully the passion and interest will not die down in the years through the aisle of marriage.. ..my 2 cents worth..

[KangTuo]

The want you marry will always be the want you love most....
But after you married, you will know that she is not the one you love most.

[linnaohia1]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

The want you marry will always be the want you love most....
But after you married, you will know that she is not the one you love most.

Wah, bro not really true lah, sometimes, it is really the one u love most ....

[noname123]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

The want you marry will always be the want you love most....
But after you married, you will know that she is not the one you love most.

because somehow or rather u r tempted by the temptations ard u...in other words... LJ itchy lah looking for fresh oyster...

cheers