Does the so call " true love " still exist??? - Page 56

playboy82 · #**826** 25-12-2009, 02:07 AM

Merry Christmas everyone....

dedicate a meaning song to all of you..

SadLoser · #**827** 26-12-2009, 02:01 PM

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Originally Posted by playboy82

hey.. i am damn agree with the last part.. i am so used to being single, now, getting a gf since to be the last thing on my mind...

I have been stuck in a "loveless" state for nearly 5 years too. Beside the physical loneliness, it was a huge blow to my self-esteem too as i wondered if there was something "repulsive" about me? Why else would a normal decent guy like me can't even find a proper gf?

Then around 3 yrs ago, this gal entered into my life - we were colleagues at my then-workplace and she fell for me. I have had no idea of her feelings for me intially - except that she seems quite helpful to me with the small stuff at work and she would always go lunch with me. I probably didn't even expect anyone would like me after being single and despondent for 5 long years.

We got together eventually and she became my gf for the next 2 years. We have since broken up for some other reasons.
But the point is, I did not put in any effort and had the most fulfilling relationship of my life - simply cos she likes me already. Is it sheer luck?
There were many instances where i put in my best effort but ended up hurt and disappointed because the other party is simpy closed off from me. And i am referring to not only love, but even friendship or any form relationships.

So when it comes to human relationships, sometimes i feel that effort and kind intention don't necessarily equate to a positive outcome.

turbo_slk200 · #**828** 26-12-2009, 02:53 PM

If true love existed, then there wont be SBF liaoz.....
If you love your partner so much, you want to find someone else...

Boliaoz · #**829** 27-12-2009, 11:26 PM

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Originally Posted by playboy82

Count down 20 days to Christmas.

But till now, i am 100% sure that i will spend it alone, just wish to share an incident today, a girl that i dated, actually stood me up, i have already date her 1 week before, we agree that we will meet up on sat, but on the day itself, she go JB instead, and when call her, no ans phone, did not even bother to return call to tell me she cannot make it, and i am like a fool waiting at home for her sms, and have turn down all my appointment just for this date. Did she spare a thought for me? Mind you, this is not the 1st time she done that to me., agree to meet, but on the day itself, suddenly MIA, and did not even bother to explain herself. Was she or was she not taking me for granted, and mind you, she was the very same gal who complain to me that her friends take her for granted, and yet she herself is also one of them, isn't it ironical ?

How does disappointment come about ?

People get disappointed when expectation is not met.
In your case, you expected her to show up but she din. Expectations are relative , not absolute. Like when you strike first prize in 4D, which is $10k in money, but what if the taxpayer call you up and inform you that under the new rules, you have to give up 50%. You become angry because $10k , down to $5k. However in any given time, you would be happy even if your number came up consolation prize which is much lesser than $5k. So you see, its relative, not absolute.

The more 'experience' you get, the sharper you are. And the sharper you are, you could actually see it coming. Once you can forsee, you would have back your date with her with a secondary plan ( i.e like going out with another girl) . Then you will not feel disappointed.

ch18 · #**830** 27-12-2009, 11:43 PM

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Originally Posted by nitrohardcore

Life of a thirty plus yr old man - simple career, average income
Every posts here by all bros make sense. glad to know i am not alone.
When i ended my reln last year, I was in the mood to sian cha bor. Then I realised i am not happy with all these gals i got, becoz the one i loved had left me. From then, i had decided to be single, since i will never be happy with any other gals.
So FL Dome 2 became my best partner, essentially the core to my life other than work and parents. And i came to discover that the GFE is more impt than the bonk. could have gone to GL for Cat50 and just shoot, but choose to pay more for PRC babes, just for the fake GFE. Everytime the FL leaves the room, when i got dress and check out, the loneliness gushed back. miss the times when i really really have a gf, go for movies and diners, share our lifes together.

The older u get, the harder to fall in love
The longer u r single, the harder it is to accept someone into your life, becoz u r so used to living it urself

Bro, count yourself blessed man.....
It's still much better than married but w/o love.......

Ttrforever · #**831** 28-12-2009, 12:23 AM

Merry Christmas everyone!

And of course Happy New Year too haha.

For me, I want to believe that it exist,because its existence brings about a sense of hope in it.

However, looking at it from a statistical point of view, I don't think it is easy to find. I mean look at the divorce rates and certain countries lol.

In the end, both parties in a relationship need to work together in order to bring about that true love. If that can be done, even if it is not true love, than at the very least the relationship will be one that both will enjoy

Just my humble 2 cents

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SadLoser · #**832** 29-12-2009, 12:28 AM

How come even the things i post online get ignored...

nothing i said is weird or nonsense... but people just dun seem to response to anything i say. What is wrong with me??

HCKing · #**833** 29-12-2009, 12:48 AM

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Originally Posted by SadLoser

How come even the things i post online get ignored...

nothing i said is weird or nonsense... but people just dun seem to response to anything i say. What is wrong with me??

bro yr nick itself oredi speaks volume.

no girls will dig guys who are pessimists. girls being girls will look up to guys who are confident and can provide a huge shoulder for them to cry on. there r dozens of books on confidence and character building, go read them up and learn frm the experts. no pt being a pussy pleaser all the time as it will only labels u as a softie in the girl's eyes.

HCKing · #**834** 29-12-2009, 01:06 AM

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Originally Posted by SadLoser

So when it comes to human relationships, sometimes i feel that effort and kind intention don't necessarily equate to a positive outcome.

in relationship there's this thing called fate bro. and fate cannot be forced. u may want to be with the girl u like alot but she doesnt fancy u, no matter hw hard u try to please. if that's the case then just take it as no fate btw u 2 and move on. when comes to finding the right partner, try not to focus too much on outer appearance but more on the compactibility and chemistry. cos no matter hw chio the girl is, if not compactible will also lead to no where, no matter how hard u try and how much efforts u commit. its just a matter of time. if there's fate both parties will hit it off easily and naturally, u dont even need to keep trying and pushing. let nature takes it course bro, dont be too kan cheong. instead, try improving yr personality and build up yr confidence level and if u r still young focus on yr work and be successful in yr career 1st.尽人事而听天命. once u have built a strong foundation in yrself more good things will come naturally.

peter69on · #**835** 29-12-2009, 01:12 AM

True love does happen.

True love occurs a few mins, few hours, few days, few years
and for some. its forever.

How many brothers here get married for the sake of married.
How many of them really love their wife. All love will ultimately
become a committment. They have a duty and committment to hold.
Even though the love is way gone.

recently, i noticed something. The more successful woman seem to prefer average joe guys.
They are not looking for wealth or guys with big cars. Maybe my statics too little to prove.

Anyway, we are what we are. If after changed can make one happy. Then by all mean changed.
If you are forcing yourself to do things to make the other person happy. Such as forcing yourself to upgrade, buy big cars. Look smart, intelligent
and etc. Whats the point.

lovedoggie · #**836** 29-12-2009, 01:58 AM

Aiyo true love again. True love is like ghost, who got see it before?

Be it true or not true love, girls always require the guys to have some money or hold a decent job enough to feed the family. Focus on money first and women will come, but if u focus on women, money all gone.

Sharing my personal experience. Was on the verge of entering a relationship with this girl i know for 6 years but suddenly realise she no longer suits me. Haiii, 6 years see her break 6 times in relationship on average 1 relationship per year. I do an analysis and realise she will show off her new beau to me whenever she gotten a new bf. After due consideration, i find myself too good for her. 6 years ago, i will never say i am too good for any women but will defintely say the opposite which is women is too good for me to woo.

I am still pretty young @25 still studying and working to feed myself alive. True love not restricted to Singapore only mah. There are so many foreign chai which is cfm more pretty than local chai. Why so Jian Chi wan hook local chai leh? Unless u got fetish i bo bian lar.

Super White · #**837** 29-12-2009, 03:11 PM

True love in SBF?

nitrohardcore · #**838** 30-12-2009, 02:17 AM

Happy New Year in advance to all bros!
If have true love very good, if dun have, must try our best to make ownself happy la. recently my colleague asked me when is the happiest part of my life, i think think, and say : happiest is when i went for movies, dinners, holidays with my ex-gf....simple as that
-last time when with gf, tink of FL and other gals
-so now, when with FL, think of gfe, karma indeed

Ichigo_Kurosaki · #**839** 30-12-2009, 04:57 AM

Real Love does exist, but our mind needs to decide when, why, how, where, with whom, to be in love! BUT most people have a blurred vision of what it should be. It isn't just the warm fuzzies, real love requires real work. Many people used to think that they could have exactly what they saw in the movies, too. Then they got serious relationship or married. That's not to say that it can't be great. It can, but it takes a great deal of work and diligence. And it's NOTHING like you see in movie's flicks. There's a little thing called "real life" that gets in the way. Better to be in love with a strong heart capable of assuming good and sweet feelings, or to tackle bad consequences.

Love is real, real is love,
Love is feeling, feeling love,
Love is wanting to be loved.
Love is touch, touch is love,
Love is reaching, reaching love,
Love is asking to be loved.
Love is you,
You and me,
Love is knowing,
We can be.
Love is free, free is love,
Love is living, living love,
Love is needing to be loved.

This is a time to be merry!

Bros/Sis. Just go tell someone you like: Love is such a simple word, and I'd like in it with you.

Cheers

Roaring Tiger · #**840** 01-01-2010, 04:44 PM

i believe so. maybe need more time to search and find out.
it is only how we define "true love".