GF asks for breakup. What should I do? [Chase her back or turn her to FkBuddy?]

[vanram]

Originally Posted by DotaEr

Thanks to all bros for the many advices. Appreciate them greatly.

Letting go of someone dear to you is hard but
holding on to someone who doesn't even feel the
same is much harder
Giving up doesn't mean you're weak. It only
means that you're strong enough to let go

Just saw this and I think it suits this thread well...

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[sadsky18]

dear ts ,

you can do whatever you want .
but why need to say out your plan ?
are you looking for some 'support' thru this form ?
but judging what most ( in fact all bros ) say here , i dont think any one will want you or hope you to hve any form of contact with yr ex in the near future .
but you keep stating the period when you are contacting her .
why is this so ?
if you already hve this thinking , you shouldnt waste your time asking advice here .
cos its very clear you are NOT listening !!!

[tigerprawn]

TS, as much as you refuse to believe it, I guarantee you that she has another guy. Whether this new guy is her new bf, fb or fling or whatever, there is a new guy. There is always a new guy for a girl to move on readily this way. Forget about contacting her again as you are only setting yourself up to be hurt again. As other bros have pointed out, it is ridiculous that you can still think of possibility of making her your fb; that doesn't make sense at all based on the way your relationship ended per your description. It is time to wake up. Don't become a psycho stalker and serial killer in the end.

[DotaEr]

Originally Posted by tigerprawn

TS, as much as you refuse to believe it, I guarantee you that she has another guy. Whether this new guy is her new bf, fb or fling or whatever, there is a new guy. There is always a new guy for a girl to move on readily this way. Forget about contacting her again as you are only setting yourself up to be hurt again. As other bros have pointed out, it is ridiculous that you can still think of possibility of making her your fb; that doesn't make sense at all based on the way your relationship ended per your description. It is time to wake up. Don't become a psycho stalker and serial killer in the end.

she says that she had been thinking about it for a long.. she tried to get the love feel back but it never return.. and so she decided to let me know in may because prior to may i was having uni lessons and exams. so i guess she can move on much faster as a result because she is already well prepared for it.

[kensheeh89]

bro u shld really give up on her cause she does not really love u... y give up a tree for an entire forest??? hmmm u shld not do such a thing cause if she does find out it would even stop ur frenship wif her completely...

[pikapikapikachu]

Bro, as a girl POV here, stop dwelling over her and get your own life. There are so many girls out there, why because of her then give up the whole forest?
If you are really doubting her, then why did not you question her?
Most imptly, i think you are missing her pu$$y that is why you want to turn her into your fb? If this is the case, I rather you go GL and get a girl than to find her. If she finds out, friends also no more for you

[kensheeh89]

Originally Posted by pikapikapikachu

Bro, as a girl POV here, stop dwelling over her and get your own life. There are so many girls out there, why because of her then give up the whole forest?
If you are really doubting her, then why did not you question her?
Most imptly, i think you are missing her pu$$y that is why you want to turn her into your fb? If this is the case, I rather you go GL and get a girl than to find her. If she finds out, friends also no more for you

ooo wah wat an insightful comment huh dear??? hehehe i am so glad ur by my side nw love u

[pikapikapikachu]

Originally Posted by kensheeh89

ooo wah wat an insightful comment huh dear??? hehehe i am so glad ur by my side nw love u

You not shy? People here wondering to make his ex-girl his fb, then you down here loving loving

[kensheeh89]

Originally Posted by pikapikapikachu

You not shy? People here wondering to make his ex-girl his fb, then you down here loving loving

bibi... if he truly loved his gf he would not make her his FB... he would respect her decision and wish her all the best... being frens is stil alrite but if the other party is not goin to appreciate it den wats the point of being even frens if all u think abt is the pussy... correct or not?

[superduker1]

Originally Posted by DotaEr

she says that she had been thinking about it for a long.. she tried to get the love feel back but it never return.. and so she decided to let me know in may because prior to may i was having uni lessons and exams. so i guess she can move on much faster as a result because she is already well prepared for it.

TS, whether she wanted to break up becos of third party or not.. Isn't important anymore. When ppl say love is blind, it is really blind. 5 months of relationship and she said no more love, that's sad but it's a reality to love relationship.

It is your choice to continue and love her but it is her choice to not love you. If you do love her, just let her go and continue your life. You are gg to graduate soon, so dun mess up your future becos of this broken relationship.

By experience, let me tell you if you carry on letting this affecting your current progress, you will regret in future. And mark my words! In future you will be complaining why the f that I didn't do better during my uni, why didn't I make more peers during my uni days, why didn't I party enough and tons more..

Advice is let go, achieve what u must now. Not giving u false hope, but one day things might just turn ard. One day, she might just tell you, she loves u again..but maybe by then you already have someone else and many other pussies to be busy with..

Wake up time.

[superduker1]

Originally Posted by kensheeh89

bibi... if he truly loved his gf he would not make her his FB... he would respect her decision and wish her all the best... being frens is stil alrite but if the other party is not goin to appreciate it den wats the point of being even frens if all u think abt is the pussy... correct or not?

Lolx... Intercept your loving loving chat...

I totally agree what u said.

They call this "No fish, prawn also good".

[LonerLoner]

I can feel you TS. In fact, I'm going to be single again just like you in few more days.

Keep your head steady, letting go is so difficult but it must be done.

[alvinskoh]

Bro;

You came from rich family.

You plan is not best plan, go and get a part time job(Tuition or do some charity work....) to make some money. Feed yourself not depending on parent.

Now I understand your mentality.

She is right that she leave you.... you are a whimp!!!

Cheers

Originally Posted by DotaEr

Thanks to all bros for the many advices. Appreciate them greatly.

I think this is what I will do.

We broke up on the 9th of May. So I will just wait it out till the end of the month of May before I drop her a sms and ask her out for a meal. From now till then I will not contact her in any ways.

In the meanwhile, i will just perform the following activities while waiting for my sch to reopen on august..

1) learn driving
2) start studying for next sem modules
3) play diablo 3
4) gyms and running
5) clearing up my room
6) reading up more about attracting girls and picking up girls
7) hanging out more with my friends
8) visiting my dentist every week for treatment

a whole lot of activities.. to keep me occupied.

I want to see if from now till the end of the month.. whether my ex thinks of me and whether she takes the effort to contact me.

but judging for her status updates in her facebook.. she is posting her daily stuff on facebook and seems to be cheerful and her normal self. as though she has move on.

my plan sounds good?

[pikapikapikachu]

Bro alvin, I have the same sentiments as you
Learn how to feed yourself first before finding any more girl, or I think all will end up in the same situation

[frostiee]

If she did mentioned there's another guy despite you "forcing" her to say... Then there's another guy.

Some girls can be even more of a flirt than guys. So if you have managed to up her already... It's time to move on. Have been in your shoes before and sad to say, it hurts a lot in the initial stage.

There is really no point in taking or begging her to come back, once decided, some girls can be very cold hearted. Also, if she did it to you once, she will most likely betray your trust should she come back.

My advice: Move on... Get yourself into some really time consuming activities and let your friend know about your situation. If they truly are your friends, they will tide you through this down period. Else, get yourself to GL or call some escort... Won't be much but at least they satisfy your craving...

DO NOT GO TO KTV/CASINO! You will end up spending more than you will ever imagine... I used up $30k within a month; KTV & Casino everyday (Was planning to used it on my wedding with that bitch)