Lifestyle Tips I Adopt, You Should Too!

[DeadlyViper]

Thanks so much for sharing. Widen my horizon much more.

[stuupid]

Interesting thread but seems to have 2 school of thoughts. One for the quick bomb and ons. The other is for starting a relationship.

[abugga]

valentine's day is coming!

I'ma share this song which just does it for me, makes me wanna love and cherish the woman in my life.



Hope you guys have a great weekend ahead!

[Softcore]

Originally Posted by shitrules

Second that totally.... Great information. But its damm difficult to put these theories in action.

It's actually very easy once you get the momentum starting - I do it all the time when not thinking of work. But most guys would rather just talk about it.

[unsung80]

Fantastic thread. Will read it again.

[abugga]

Anyone would like to contribute or ask anything?

[goawayyy]

Its nice to know that they're still guys out there who knows the rules of the game (all those must've come from experiences huh? abbuga, you deserve an award for this )

Hmmm, maybe you can consider writing a content page for all the stuffs you've posted and include links to each post? Categorize them into headings so its easier for people to read, and refer back to it months later Yup its troublesome but if you have the time (while thinking of more advices?), this could be a lifesaver guide for a lot of bros out there!

Kudos to you!

[pale_dick]

Play “Hard to get”

Never become obsessed with a particular woman you've just met, no matter how hot she is or how much she seems to like you. Always make it obvious that you are attracted to her, but never let her know how much you really like her.

Don’t always be available to do something with her.
You have called a girl and asked her to go to a movie on Tuesday and she declines. Don’t say, “Well, how about on Wednesday?” or “What day can you make it?” Simply say, “That’s too bad you can’t make it. Maybe some other time. Talk to you later.” You have to avoid making it sound as if you are free any time she wants you.

Become a man of worth
You have to make the girl believe that she has competition. That your time is valuable. That you have better things to do on weekends than to spend time with her. You are a person in demand.
She may be thinking: Are you with another girl? Are you in the bars? Attending an important meeting? Keep her guessing. It will intrigue her.

Humans generally want what they can't have. If you make her believe she can't have you, she'll be that much intrigued with you. Even if you have nothing to do, let her leave a voice mail. You're busy. If you do call never leave a voicemail; she'll be wondering what you wanted and if you made other plans.

Remember, you're a person that is always in demand! Scarcity increases value. Don’t answer every phone call, don’t see her every day, and don’t be available every day. Be busy and unavailable; let her wonder what you are doing!

[abugga]

Most men don't realize that women automatically disqualify them based on how they presents themmselves both physically and mentally. Their minds then generate excuses for why they have no success with women; they blame their looks, their lack of success, other men... the list is endless. When in fact, the truth is that they have nobody to blame but themselves.

Self-criticism is vital for self-improvement. How can you improve yourself if your ego tells you that you're perfect? By altering your behavior and appearance in 10 simple ways, you can magnify your success with women dramatically:


Be Confident

This is the most important facet, and also the most difficult to achieve if you don't naturally have it. Not being afraid of social interactions communicates high status.


Be Dominant

Confidence will often naturally lead to it, but dominance should still be in the forefront of your mind when talking to women. It is not domineering. It is not arrogance. It is subtle and hard to define.


Be Clean

Hygene is an important part of the image you present to the world. How you dress and how you present yourself is an indication of the value and worth which you place upon yourself. And remember that nobody wants to hang around with a smelly douche bag.


Be Relaxed

Being relaxed communicates many good things about you. It allows you to think more clearly and communicates to others that you are comfortable in your own skin.


Be Fun

People like to hang out with fun people! By being funny, charming, and witty, people will appreciate your presence and will enjoy your company.


Be Happy

No one wants to hang out with someone who is mopey, depressed, and angry all the time. By being happy you are making yourself more approachable and showing others that you are a friendly and engaging person.


Be Content

This could also be defined as being non-needy. People can often smell when someone approaches them with an agenda or a specific outcome in mind. Neediness implies low social value and lack of inner strength.


Be Popular

Social proof is another extremely important part of your game, especially when it come to first impressions. If you are perceived as the fun, popular guy who everyone likes, women will be much more receptive to your approach!


Be Self-Loving

Loving yourself is extremely important. This isn't the same thing as being selfish, however. It is possible to love yourself and also to love others. The problem arises when you put other peoples needs ahead of your own unjustifiably. Remember that you are number one!

Be Giving

"Give and ye shall receive"

This old mantra rings true. By giving to others you will communicate high value and friendliness, and others will be more likely to reciprocate.

[abugga]

When a woman first meets a man, the initial few minutes of her interaction with him are crucial and will determine the type of relationship that will ensue from then on. In simple terms: She will make all of her most important judgments about you within 3-5 minutes of meeting you.

During this ever-important window of time the woman will "appraise" your value, and then upon determining how much potential you have she will then decide if she wants to even continue to have any form of relationship with you at all. Once this is done, she will then place you into one of two categories within her mind to govern the type of relationship that she feels you to be worthy of: potential lover or potential friend.

Once a woman has made her decision and has placed you into one of these two categories, you will forever be stuck there for as long as you know her. For example, if she considers you as a lover and you begin having a sexual relationship with her and then break up, there will be no "Let's just be friends now". This would simply not work because the physical attraction is too strong and the awkwardness of the situation would prevent any real friendship for occurring. On the other hand, she could consider you as a friend and you would begin to "hang out" with her, all the while hoping that something will magically happen and she will become gradually attracted to you. You would be nice to her, buy her gifts, let her cry on your shoulder when her asshole boyfriend cheats on her, go shopping with her and always be on call to drive her wherever she pleases. However, all of this effort would be in vain because she had already categorized you when you first met her, and you are forever locked into the "Friend's Zone".

What you are reading right now is the brutal honest truth, and even though you may be in this type of situation right now with a woman and are hanging on to any last hope that you may have, deep down you should be able to see the real truth if you think about it logically. It's as simple as this: If you have a crush on a woman that you are "just friends" with, you will never have a chance to become her lover. Your one and only shot at having an intimate relationship with a woman is within the first few minutes of meeting her, if you do not make the right impression at that time then her legs will be forever closed to you.

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but this is just the way that it is. The only thing to do once you're in the friend's zone is to forget about that girl and move on to the next one, doing this will save you loads of heartache, money and time. Theoretically, with a huge amount of effort you could possibly convince the woman to date you, but without the strong initial attraction that relationship with her will be doomed to fail rather quickly. It is a fool's errand.

In Hollywood "chick flicks", the nice guy who is best friends with the beautiful woman typically either out-smarts the "bad guy" or just gets lucky and ultimately ends up with the woman on his arm. After that, they go on to live happily ever after and blah blah, bullshit. In the real world, the nice guy will usually tip off the beautiful woman and she will realize how much of a jerk the bad guy is and dump him, but then just go out and meet another bad boy and begin dating him while the nice guy is still just her friend. Have you ever thought about why women love those chick flicks so much? It's because they are all fairy tales and have a plot that would never happen in reality, if those movies were like real life then they wouldn't be nearly as interesting. It's like the equivalent of what action flicks are to us men. Even though James Bond can drive a Porsche through an exploding building, ramp it off of the roof, shoot down a helicopter with a single shot while still in mid-air and then land on another rooftop without even getting a single scratch on his high-end vehicle... doesn't mean that it could ever actually happen. It's the impossible that we are drawn to.

With that said, let's get back on track:

If you have just met a new woman and your actual intentions are to have a sexual relationship with her, you MUST immediately let her know that is what you want from her. You need to have an "all or nothing" attitude when first gaming a woman, and express this in everything that you say and do. Within the first few minutes of meeting her, if you can get the message across to her that you want to be her lover and not her friend, you will easily be able to avoid ever being dropped into the friend's zone. You can accomplish this simply by flirting properly, which includes teasing, kino, negs, push & pull, smiling seductively and a wide array of other techniques and methods. Be fun and carefree, act as if you're not looking for anything serious and just want to have a good time. Never allow her dominate you in any way, do not buy her drinks or hold/watch her purse for her.

When you follow the guidelines listed above, you will successfully be able to prevent yourself from ever becoming "just a friend" again, and will begin to have sexual relationships with women rather than one-sided friendships in which you are just being used by women due to being a "nice guy".

Always remember:

The only way to get out of the friend's zone is to avoid ever going there in the first place!

I personally have been bitten by this once and have thus wasted 4 years of my life, although i have dated and slept with other ladies during that 4 years of life (not important), it has since become a shadow in my memories and i have made a mental note with myself to never ever, NEVER - let such a situation pop up again, it just is..... you know how it is.

[abugga]

With the above said, i'm afraid i have to say i'll be going on a short break, workload in my life has been getting a little too hectic recently, a little more hectic than what i can easily handle, at least usually. But please, you readers out there, do not be afraid/hesitate to drop a comment or two, add a view of your own, this is a discussion thread created for all, it'd be weird if only me and bro pale_dick is posting. So yeah, all comments/your opinions/views and contributions are highly appreciated. Cheers all, i'll be coming in any once in a while to check, reply PMs or questions in this thread if i have the time.

Cheers, good hunting, this is your boy JR, signing off.

[tsw191]

interesting tips fellow bros. learnt quite a few stuffs from reading this thread. keep them coming~

[evantoh]

Bravo.
Nice read!

[abugga]

It's been quite awhile anyways in my absence, realised somebody left me a note saying that "who doesn't know of all these bullshit?"

Well buddy, relax your nipps, i ain't here to hurt anyone yo, ease it with the trigger. Well guess i can't please anyone but yeah who cares, i'm posting for the shake of sharing, you may know what i know but that doesn't mean all the other guys know what we know, get me? so chill man, nobody's forcing ya to read don't like it? exit button's right up there babe.

Stay tuned, need to come up with some ideas on what to post, or anyone would like to give me some?

[cutecuteboy]

Originally Posted by abugga

It's been quite awhile anyways in my absence, realised somebody left me a note saying that "who doesn't know of all these bullshit?"

Well buddy, relax your nipps, i ain't here to hurt anyone yo, ease it with the trigger. Well guess i can't please anyone but yeah who cares, i'm posting for the shake of sharing, you may know what i know but that doesn't mean all the other guys know what we know, get me? so chill man, nobody's forcing ya to read don't like it? exit button's right up there babe.

Stay tuned, need to come up with some ideas on what to post, or anyone would like to give me some?

Forget that someone who left u that note.
I, for one, appreciates what you have shared with us so far.

Hopefully you wld continue sharing after settling ur busy schedule.