Is this a social problem here?

[cleanfreak]

I'm in my mid twenties with a gf and we're planning to get married in a few years time. I count myself lucky if we have sex more than twice a month. I try to satisfy her but she just doesn't know how to enjoy sex. I've made her achieve orgasm and always on the brink of orgasm when she starts to tense up like havin cramps then she push me away. I am a high sex drive person and its torturing for me. Cant imagine life after marriage. Only companion are my "5 buddies". Sad.

Just sharing.

[Oralcraz]

Originally Posted by VanGogh

that's a cool wife u have Bro. ..

Not really my friend, mouth say go n find but heart not feel this way. So, if I do, get caught, I will kena jiak lat jiak lat. You know what I mean?

[Oralcraz]

Originally Posted by Shoot To Target

My case is totally different from some bros here. I had been married for 10 years but my sex life with my wife still very active. Sometime i steal eat outside and happen my wife ask for it i tai-ji say today very tired after work.

Try this method mayb can flame up the passion again with ur wife.
Go tour to relax n sometime watch some porno to excite it. Hope this help

Doesn't help for me. The only way to spice up sex with my wife is to show her $$$.

[Oralcraz]

Originally Posted by Softcore

If you're not getting your needs satisfied, show her that you will fuck other women besides her. you don't and shouldn't raise your voice or get emotional - just tell her calmly that she is not giving you what you need, and that you will seek another woman to fulfill it. the key point is to let her know that you're completely serious and will carry out this action.
all these is assuming that you've already done your best in creating a romance fueled lifestyle and environment.

I don't think this will work my friend. It will only create more negative emotional problem. My way of handling is and just give in.....but secretly enjoy outside. Is better not for her to know. More peaceful.

[Decent Looking]

> just tell her calmly that she is not giving you what you need, and that you
> will seek another woman to fulfill it. the key point is to let her know that
> you're completely serious and will carry out this action.

Yes bro, I like your suggestion. Actually told her to go for counselling together, she siam so many times. SInce she don't make the effort, I try other alternatives...

[Softcore]

Originally Posted by Max77

nowaday gals r much stronger when it comes to voicing out, think twice, no body likes to be "threatened". ever heard of 你做初一，我做十五？
("If" U lay the altar for for the 1st day of full moon, I'll lay the altar for the 15th day)

If ur theory is ACCEPTED in ur family, then when she wants u to do housework, she most probably threaten to set fire to the house if u refused ( to show tat she is COMPLETELY SERIOUS AND WILL CARRY OUT THIS ACTION)

Jus my pt of view, may not be 100% right though, don't take it to heart aye

So you like demure women? Not my type. Does this mean that you'll surrender your balls and guts to them the moment they voice out their objections?

I will let her burn the damn house - insurance will cover it.

No problem mate.

[Softcore]

Originally Posted by Oralcraz

I don't think this will work my friend. It will only create more negative emotional problem. My way of handling is and just give in.....but secretly enjoy outside. Is better not for her to know. More peaceful.

This is rather pathetic. Instead of addressing the issue you'd rather run away and sleep with other women? I'm curious - does your wife respect you for giving in to her all or most of the time? The women I know don't have much respect for someone who's a doormat or who is always at their beck and call.

You're essentially trading short-term peace for potential long-term change and growth together as a couple. But it's your marriage - if this method helps you sleep better at night, more power to you.

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by Oralcraz

Not really my friend, mouth say go n find but heart not feel this way. So, if I do, get caught, I will kena jiak lat jiak lat. You know what I mean?

yeah bro their mouth don't match their heart....talk say go but when we caught with pants down then they start to kpkb...

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by Softcore

This is rather pathetic. Instead of addressing the issue you'd rather run away and sleep with other women? I'm curious - does your wife respect you for giving in to her all or most of the time? The women I know don't have much respect for someone who's a doormat or who is always at their beck and call.

You're essentially trading short-term peace for potential long-term change and growth together as a couple. But it's your marriage - if this method helps you sleep better at night, more power to you.

Eh are you a bro or sis? If you are a bro, don't mind me asking but are you married?

[Greyface]

Originally Posted by Oralcraz

Doesn't help for me. The only way to spice up sex with my wife is to show her $$$.

Pardon me for saying this, isn't it akin to paid sex?!

[Oralcraz]

Originally Posted by Softcore

This is rather pathetic. Instead of addressing the issue you'd rather run away and sleep with other women? I'm curious - does your wife respect you for giving in to her all or most of the time? The women I know don't have much respect for someone who's a doormat or who is always at their beck and call.
You're essentially trading short-term peace for potential long-term change and growth together as a couple. But it's your marriage - if this method helps you sleep better at night, more power to you.

Pathetic it is. I must say very disappointing too. However .....
1)Am not running away from the issue. Have tried to address via discussion, teasing, talking dirty/sexy etc. Just doesn't help. She's simply not interested. She said I'm a sex sicko Btw, I don't do sex outside or sleep with other women. I go HC/TN for HJ to relieve my urge only. I'm also not a doormat or am always at her beck and call. I do what's best and necessary for the peace, well being and harmony for the family.
2) I'm not trading short term peace for future growth ..... , you see when love is gone, family life become just a chore and routine. There is no more future development in terms of love as a couple. What I hope for is peace, harmony and good well being for the rest of our life. When you reached this stage, there is nothing much to talk about. Good luck to u.

[Oralcraz]

Originally Posted by Greyface

Pardon me for saying this, isn't it akin to paid sex?!

Ha...... indirectly yes. What I'm trying to mean is that, my wife is a little $face (with due respect to her). If I give her $$$ for shopping, she will smile and act luvy luvy. That's when you can get a quicky ... but ... I'm not so into that. Is fake sex bro. That's not what I want. I'll rather not fuck.

[fedomme]

Originally Posted by VanGogh

that's a cool wife u have Bro. ..

That is the one every man want hehe

Originally Posted by Quinsy

almost agree with you there. It's not a problem. It's just a phenomenon that has occurred for centuries.

Think of it, man can have lifetime long sex, but lady only can till around 45 - 50 year, so it is the order of nature

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by Greyface

Pardon me for saying this, isn't it akin to paid sex?!

Paid sex...in reality are we not paying some kind of price to have sex with our own wife?

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by Oralcraz

What I hope for is peace, harmony and good well being for the rest of our life. When you reached this stage, there is nothing much to talk about. Good luck to u.

Yah bro takes one to know one...guess those who have never been in our position will never know how it is like...