Originally Posted by warbird;15911472
Here is a brief newsletter I just received from a badass gentleman:
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These Secrets Will Help You Keep Your Girl Addicted to You![/SIZE]
Before I show you how to keep your girl addicted to you I want to tell you what qualifies me to give advice about women.
On May 11th 2007 I was near a big industrial alcohol container while it exploded. Half of my body was severely injured, and I thought I was going to die.
This near encounter with death made me change my perspective of life, and the way in which I related with people, especially with women.
My new view of the world had a huge impact on how women perceived me. Suddenly, they were chasing me and not the other way around, as it used to be.
Physically I am almost the same man I was before my accident. Yes, I’ve lost some weight, but other than that, the only difference in my appearance is now half of my body is filled with scars. Fortunately, this doesn’t seem to be a problem to females. This made me realize that looks are not as important to women as they are to guys.
So, now that you know me, I want to share some of the things I’ve learned that will help you make your girl addicted to you.
#1. – Don’t behave like a child
As a general rule, females like boys but love men. Women feel an addictive attraction to mature men, while the boys live trapped in the friend-zone. As long as you behave like a confident, powerful and adventurous man, women will be helplessly attracted to you.
Show them that you live on your own terms. You know what you want and you are going to take action to achieve your dreams. Men are creatures of action, while boys are passive individuals. Females want a guy who takes care of them, not a child they need to take care of.
#2. – Give them space
To make a girl addicted to you, make her enjoy the time she spends with you as much as possible, and in the climax leave. Give them time, and space, so she can miss you. Let her come to you, this will force her to work for your attention, and as a result she will want you more.
Only confident males are able to give space to their women, especially when they are drop-death gorgeous. Giving space to females will show them you have rock-solid confidence, and this will raise your social value.
#3. – Pay attention to her needs
Know her needs and you will make her addicted to you. The secret here is that you need to use your powers of observation. In other words, listen to her actions, not to her words. Watch her physical reactions. What makes her aroused? What makes her nervous? What makes her sad, happy, etc.?
Knowing how to affect her feelings in an effective way will give you the upper hand. Become a keen observer and you will become her drug of choice.
My accident made me realize that females are attracted to guys who live with passion and in their own terms. I will die some day, that’s a fact. So, I live every day as if it’s the last day of my life. Internalize this attitude and you will become the fearless man girls get addicted to.
Comments?
Have a great day!
Bro WB
Bro WB,
Very nice post above with full facts.
I agreed that women dun mind scars and in fact they love scars. Go watch movie "Scarface" whereby Al Pacino will get the hottest dame.
Never behave like a kid and women hated guys doing that. The reverse is ok.
Give women space and they need their time off. Many times the women can just dosed off within 2 mins after hitting the bed. They also need personal time to do girly things such as meeting friends, spa, massage, nails, etc.
Pay attention to women's needs very important here. Just not sex alone but everything the women love to do and talk. If you can figure out what the gal wanted to do and you did all for her then she loves you dearly.
It's crystal clear that girls/women are only attracted to a man who is perceived to hv more value n more power than them. If he ever becomes needy, jealous and clingy, he loses his value and power. He becomes repulsive...
Here is a brief article on NEEDINESS.
The real definition of neediness
To understand neediness in a romantic context, you must first understand self-confidence. Wikipedia defines it as:
Self-assuredness in one’s personal judgment, ability, and power.
Self-confidence means you trust in yourself and your own worth. You value your own opinion over what others think of you. You internally approve of who you are and what you do.
Therefore, someone who is not self-confident requires other sources to validate themselves. So…
Neediness means you don’t trust in yourself and your own worth. You value the opinions of others over your own. You seek external approval of who you are and what you do.
Simply put, being needy is caring more about how people perceive you rather than how you perceive yourself. Because of it, your behaviors and actions will revolve around pleasing others rather than satisfying yourself.
By this definition, it’s not about the actions you take but why you take them. The intention behind your actions is what makes you needy. Therefore, any action can be needy or self-confident depending on the mindset of where it comes from.
Why is being needy so unattractive?
Now that you know what neediness is, why is it such a turn off?
Think about it like this…
You and a woman just met. You barely know each other. She hasn’t had a chance to invest in you with her time and emotions.
You should want to get to know her, see if she’s willing to invest, and find out if she’s compatible with you. You shouldn’t need to win her over or need her approval.
Why would you? And what does that say about you?
It says that you’re desperate for attention from someone, anyone. It shows you’re obsessed with the idea of her rather than the actual person inside. Therefore, you must not have standards for yourself or many options in your life. You’re then seen as less desirable.
You’re also being dishonest. You’re always micromanaging or hiding your true opinions, wants, and desires for everyone else. You’re demonstrating that you don’t trust, value, or respect yourself. Would you trust a person like that?
Women are attracted to men who have the courage to lead and remain authentic.
Is external validation always wrong?
Gaining some validation from external sources isn’t all bad. Everyone wants to be liked or found attractive – that’s a normal human quality. If you never care about anyone else’s opinions, you may be a sociopath.
How often you seek external validation will change depending on who you’re dealing with.
It’s natural to seek some approval from people you have long-established connections with such as parents, close friends, or your significant other.
It’s not natural to seek constant approval from women you just met, have gone on a couple dates with, or haven’t even been intimate with. This includes your female friends you secretly desire.
And you especially shouldn’t seek approval from women who don’t invest in you.
I get weekly e-mails that say, “I really like this girl. But she barely responds to my texts, she’s cancelled on dates, and never commits to hanging out. How do I get her to like me without being needy?”
Every single time I want to reach through the screen and slap some sense into them. You are being the most needy motherfucker possible at that point.
This is how I’m going to start replying to those e-mails.
Again, what does that say about you when you chase someone who ignores you or doesn’t value your time?
99% of the time you’re not going to convince a girl who’s uninterested to suddenly be interested. Nor should you want to.
She’s not going to say, “I haven’t given this guy the time of day and it’s so attractive that he still keeps crawling back.”
The only way to be non-needy in those situations is to walk away. Find women who interest you and who are interested in you.
Yeah, just walk away. Behave as if 100 beautiful girls/women of your type are calling you everyday...
Cheers!
Bro WB
Bro WB,
Long and nice post above with full details on "neediness".
Love the way you put it, "just walk away" if the gal dun know how to appreciate you.
Self-confidence is not rocket science and develop thru essence of time. Think practice helps to build confidence. Go approach 200 gals means 200 practices.
Fully agreed that neediness is not attractive and many times gals will walk away.
Please continue to share more with us so that we can learn more.
Bros,
I'll reply to the posts asap.
In the meantime, I have a happy hour outing to Dynasty, 2nd fl Peace Centre, tomorrow Thursday.
Expense per pax around $45-50. Booking a girl is $150.
PM me if interested.
Cheers!
Bro WB
Here is a brief article on Dr Albert Ellis n how he overcame his fear n extreme shyness w/ women.
A Bronx Tale
by Kristen Tobias, M.A.
I’d like to re-tell a biographical story about Dr. Ellis. It starts in the Bronx Botanical Gardens…
During his early adolescence, Dr. Ellis spent much time reading books in this beautiful outdoor space. Sitting alone on park benches, he would notice females from afar and agonize about approaching them. To his great dismay, he never approached any of them! Turns out, Dr. Ellis experienced crippling social anxiety in the romantic realm. He feared rejection by females that he was interested in pursuing and had insight into the limitations this fear imposed on him. So…what’s a guy who fears rejection to do?
From a young age, Dr. Ellis read a great deal of philosophy and psychology. The ideas of rational self-talk and exposure to feared circumstances resonated with him. During the month of August before his senior year of college, Dr. Ellis set out to overcome his social anxiety. The task — visits to the Botanical Gardens where he would set out to approach females! Young, old, tall, short, all of them! No matter how anxious he was feeling, he would make himself talk to females in the garden.
This farcical task set him up to be looked at like he head 100 heads! The garden is a respite from city life and not the ideal pick-up scene. In other words, this is not typically the place where individuals come to when they want to socialize with romantic partners. But, that was the whole point! Face your fears head-on and deal with the consequences. And hopefully…get a date!
Dr. Ellis approached 130 women that summer! About 30 of them walked away at contact! He spoke in varied lengths to the remaining 100 about a number of diverse topics. Of the ones he spoke to, only one agreed to go out with him and she never showed up to their date! However, Dr. Ellis was freed from his crippling social anxiety. He experienced his feared consequence firsthand, which enabled him to realize that it wasn’t really awful. In fact, this experiment resulted in some very enjoyable conversations!
This story represents a technique that is now termed exposure therapy. It entailed the active confrontation of a feared consequence. His anxiety started very high (i.e., included palpitations, sweating, etc.) and he continued the exercise over that summer month until he was able to talk to a female without any anxiety. Is your life restricted by fear? What situation can you work on confronting to better your life? Create your own experiment to get rid of anxiety!
In Dr Ellis' own words:
Throughout my childhood and teens I had a real social phobia. I said nothing, literally nothing, about my feelings for the pretty young girls that I kept falling madly – in fact, obsessively-compulsively – in love with. As for approaching any of the young women I immoderately lusted after from the age of twelve onward, forget it! I heard and saw nothing but ‘evil and ‘horrible’ rejection – so I kept my big trap shut.
In spite of my deranged passion for everything in skirts, up to the age of twenty my dating amounted to zero. Yes, nothing, nil, none, zero. I knew I was scared witless and from reading and my observations of my more popular male friends, I even knew what to do about it—take risks. I didn’t. I decided to—and didn’t. I almost began to—and froze. Naturally, I beat myself for all this evasion. I knew what I wanted—and I knew that I was copping out.
During the summer of 1933, when I was on vacation from college about to go back for my final year, I gave myself a historic homework assignment that greatly changed my own life—and in some ways changed the history of psychotherapy.
My assignment to myself was simple. I would go to the Bronx Botanical Gardens every day when it wasn’t raining in the month of July; would look for women sitting alone on park benches; and, instead of sitting a bench away, as I always anxiously did, would sit on the same bench with them. Not in their lap—but on the same goddamned bench. I would then give myself one minute—one lousy minute!—to talk to each one of them. No debate, no caviling, no nonsense!! If they bit me, they bit me! One lousy minute!
That was a very wise homework assignment that I gave myself. For I was knowingly risking failure and rejection; and I was doing what was most uncomfortable for me to do. Moreover, I was giving myself no time to procrastinate about trying, no time to ruminate and thereby to build up my worrying.
Well, I forthrightly did it. I went to the park every day in July and found—count ‘em!—130 women sitting alone on the park bench: All manners, shapes and sizes.
Certainly enough to provide me with reasonable excuses—that they were too young, too old, too short, or too tall to talk to. But I allowed myself no excuse whatsoever—none! I sat next to all of them—the entire 130. I found that 30 of them immediately waltzed away. They rejected me before I even got going! But, I said to myself, strongly, ‘That’s okay. That leaves me a sample of an even hundred—good for research purposes! So I continued my research. I spoke to the entire hundred of these women, and within one lousy minute! About the birds, the bees, the flowers, the trees, their knitting, their reading—about anything and everything. Mind you, I had never done this a single time before. But I was determined! On to the fray!
But I found, empirically, that nothing terrible happened. No one took a butcher knife and cut my balls off. No one vomited and ran away. No one called a cop. In fact, I had a hundred pleasant conversations, and began to get quite good at talking to strange women in strange places. So good, in fact, that for my second hundred subjects I became more persuasive."
Albert Ellis
Go out there n approach 200 girls/women in the next 30 days. That would be a good start.
A man should be very comfortable in his own skin when interacting w/ girls/women and must remain nonreactive whatever happens...
Cheers!
Bro WB
Bro WB
I was very glad to read about Dr Ellis Post above.
When I was young I was very shy and introvert. I kept to myself and dare not to mix around much. When I grew older I only have a few handful boys friends. Never dare to ask or peek at girls.
Even when I read 18 yrs old, I was very shy and dun talk much. I think many guys went thru such growing up.
The cyber internet allow many of such guy to speak up and be a man. Slowly I learned to be brave and started to mix more with girls.
I love Dr Ellis words to approach 200 girls and I do agreed wholeheartedly.
Really hope to read more from the front pages and will contribute if possible.
Bros,
I'll reply to the posts asap.
In the meantime, I have a happy hour outing to Dynasty, 2nd fl Peace Centre, tomorrow Thursday.
Expense per pax around $45-50. Booking a girl is $150.
PM me if interested.
Cheers!
Bro WB
Bros,
I'll reply to the posts asap.
In the meantime, I have a happy hour outing to Dynasty, 2nd fl Peace Centre, tomorrow Thursday.
Expense per pax around $45-50. Booking a girl is $150.
PM me if interested.
Cheers!
Bro WB
Bros,
I'll reply to the posts asap.
In the meantime, I have a happy hour outing to Dynasty, 2nd fl Peace Centre, tomorrow Thursday.
Expense per pax around $45-50. Booking a girl is $150.
PM me if interested.
Cheers!
Bro WB
Just received this email related to approaching women:
Knock her off that pedestal!
Hey Bro WB,
I just got done straightening out yet another client who was totally blinded by some girls good looks.
I had to remind him, as gently as I could, to put his big boy pants on and stop putting this girl on a fucking pedestal just because God randomly endowed her with amazing genetics.
This is so, so hard for a lot of guys. We are visually stimulated and when girls got it, we lose our common sense and give away our power.
Look...
I used to have the exact same frustration.
...And there's only one way around it that I know:
Don't approach one woman and call it a day...
... Approach 10 so you get some practice.
Only with practice will you see improvement.
This is the reality that frustrates a lot of guys. If you want to approach women and have amazing interactions that lead to sex, expect it to take some repetition.
The first 3 don't count; it's just warm up.
(Kind of like when you're warming up to pitch nine innings. Your first several pitches probably suck. Perfectly natural.)
...So don't worry about the warm ups!
And be sure to approach hot girls, average girls, and in between- so you get more practice.
The problem that my client, Aidan, was having was that he was going out, finding the hottest girl, approaching, getting rejected, and giving up for the night.
That's not the way to do it.
You should still approach the hottest girl, but she should be approach #4 of 10, so you get warmed up first.
And here's a more advanced idea:
When you do this enough, you start to get immune to beauty.
You see beautiful girls so much that is just doesn't matter anymore.
It's the same way that you get used to anything after you've been exposed to it repeatedly.
And that's when you have all the power.
Talk soon,
Your Guru
Bro WB, fully agreed with guru about the "Knock her off that pedestal!"
Often guys are obsessed with gals good look. Often looks alone are not enough to determine how good a gal!
I have learned through out my life that once gal looks good she has many suitors who willingly part with gifts and cash for her. Beautiful gals often dun have to do much and lousy in bed. Often she has plenty of needy guys prowling for her.
I fully agreed that guys shuld approach 10 or 100 in order to determine who suitable to be gf. This show that guy have the power of selection.
I must say this is a learning thread and thank you so much.
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