Choose who? A or B

[simple2kee]

Originally Posted by Jiajiabebe

Who should I choose in the end?

you need not be confused. choose none of them but me.

[BiRd13]

Like what others mentioned, choose 'C'.

A is good, but too bad you have no feel for him.
B is bad, yet you have feel for him.

It's like one of the member's thread 'To Love or to be Love'.

You have to think over it, and choose what you want.

[Triple70]

Originally Posted by Jiajiabebe

..... A is a guy we met for one year plus, and he's attentive, sweet and stable for me. His mentality is much more mature than B's and also looking for someone to stable down with. Down sides are that he don't really trust me and is overly possessive. He always showered me with gifts and care... He's been wooing me since we met. My feelings for him is neutral but I feel loved by him.

Firstly, I tink u shd not rush into a relationship. There are many others out there for u to consider. Take your time to meet others and walk the jiang hu.

Secondly, I just want to share my thots about A, because I have been in his shoes. He is chasing a lady who has feelings for another guy. He has a uphill battle, and thus will appear to be constantly trying harder and appear to be more possessive and insecure. But the moment u show yr appreciation towards his actions, show that he has won the fight, all these insecurities will disappear. U say he is more mature than B, perhaps his actions are also that of a stable person, who maturity that maybe even u can appreciate one day.

It really depends on what u want in life. Some ppl want a partying night life. Then even Lim Siong Guan won't appeal to you.

[Jiajiabebe]

Originally Posted by Triple70

Secondly, I just want to share my thots about A, because I have been in his shoes. He is chasing a lady who has feelings for another guy. He has a uphill battle, and thus will appear to be constantly trying harder and appear to be more possessive and insecure. But the moment u show yr appreciation towards his actions, show that he has won the fight, all these insecurities will disappear. U say he is more mature than B, perhaps his actions are also that of a stable person, who maturity that maybe even u can appreciate one day.
.

Thanks for yr advice... Indeed I can tell A love and cares about me a lot, and maybe he's insecure thats why he choose to appear stronger in front, but somehow.. The feeling is still lacking something. B cannot give me anything at all yet the feelings are still as strong as ever. The only thing B is good at is making me laugh all the time whenever I'm with him. Cause we got that special connection within us and always get the inside jokes others don't.



Being with B is laughters, as long as he's happy I'm happy.

Being with A is being doted, he tries his best to make me happy.

[Advanced]

Originally Posted by Yakuza

(A) possessive boyfriend will give u hell and ur whole life will be like in Jail .. its a no no no for me ..

(B) .. imagine u r in difficulties or in needs of .. and he just go about as if nothing happen and ignored u ..or he thinks there's nothing wrong .. he treats u as transparent .. its a big no no no ..

conclusion .. go get a better life ..not worth to waste ur life away just like tis .. u'll live to regret a miserable life down the drain..

not really leh.. i got a friend so possessive, i go drink with my sisters, he also want follow; then when we drink until so many he always make noise. Then my sister always give in, go home together with him.

But still their happily married now. Maybe thats 1 outta 100 kind

Originally Posted by Jiajiabebe

Thanks for yr advice... Indeed I can tell A love and cares about me a lot, and maybe he's insecure thats why he choose to appear stronger in front, but somehow.. The feeling is still lacking something. B cannot give me anything at all yet the feelings are still as strong as ever. The only thing B is good at is making me laugh all the time whenever I'm with him. Cause we got that special connection within us and always get the inside jokes others don't.



Being with B is laughters, as long as he's happy I'm happy.

Being with A is being doted, he tries his best to make me happy.

but you gotta think what if you marry B and he still go fling around; you can take it anot.
like what TV says, sometimes its better to be loved then to love

[chanster]

Choose C , a butch that shower you with all the love you want and understand you most

[Yakuza]

Originally Posted by Advanced

not really leh.. i got a friend so possessive, i go drink with my sisters, he also want follow; then when we drink until so many he always make noise. Then my sister always give in, go home together with him.

But still their happily married now. Maybe thats 1 outta 100 kind

Bro, I think u got mixed up .. tat's care & concern .. U wanna know wat possessive is all about ?? .. u'll either run far far or become a free live slave ..

TS, Choose and love youself first .. there's no rushing into getting eff ...if u know wat I mean.. just like so many samsters here hv said and advised .. go for C - Z and enjoy life ...cheersss

[seabass]

TS is likely a guy

And an attention seeker

And a clone

[Jiajiabebe]

Originally Posted by chanster

Choose C , a butch that shower you with all the love you want and understand you most

Are you that butch?

[fion.18]

Originally Posted by Yakuza

Bro, I think u got mixed up .. tat's care & concern .. U wanna know wat possessive is all about ?? .. u'll either run far far or become a free live slave ..

TS, Choose and love youself first .. there's no rushing into getting eff ...if u know wat I mean.. just like so many samsters here hv said and advised .. go for C - Z and enjoy life ...cheersss

I've seen scary possessive man. Is scaryyyyyy shit.

I like leh! C-Z! So many options. but yes, most impt is love yourself first. That's the greatest love of all.

[SoulRift]

Hi sis,

My elders always told me this simple line.
Rather you find someone who loves you then someone you love.
Theone who loves you who can give you the simple needs of love,care and trust.
Instead of being with the one you love that makes you have nothing but anger,zero tolerance and abuse.
I been in relationships with women who treated me like a king but i didnt love them but got married to the one i loved who abused me beyond my wildest dreams.
And my life is much in turmoil.
And my regrets are forever

[firejalan]

Pick C ....
Don't b so qian...
n Choose to b abused...

[porscheclub]

Miss, why are you asking strangers to help you choose your happiness?

First of all this is obviously not a marriage relationship but starting out so if none rocks your heart & rule your mind then walk away from both. But if you want the experience then go ahead with one who loves you more to get that princess treatment but living like a slave is another situation so manage him on the latter.

Everyone hopes for an earthshaking love story but reality is not such. Being a female, please don't ever ever get unwanted pregnancy or your future will be ruined. Good luck & have fun dating

[lorddrakez]

Anyhow choose can already. If you really love him, you won't have this dilemma

[a2014]

Originally Posted by Jiajiabebe

Should I patch back with B or accept A?

Who should I choose in the end?

Choose nobody. Since both of them is not exactly what you want.

In fact it is you that is not ready.

Take Care.