Intimacy issues with BF

[sane]

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[sane]

Originally Posted by Sensual8725

Thanks Xgenre brother. I too thinks that it is due to the gaming addiction and he has no interest in sex and he is distracted all the time. He kinds of tells me his reason for gaming addiction is due to me being away and he does this to keep himself occupied.

I read through all the comments, some are invalid, while others are empathetic and thoughtful. Thank u nevertheless to those who bother to reply. I can only say, I have my reasons for being upset. We USED TO have sex twice a week. He has confined sex to 2 days of the week and I may not see him for those 2 days because I fly around. Tat is the reason y I said we did not do it for few months for one period of time. Most of the time when I return from overseas, he did not initiate sex as well after not seeing me for days at a time. THIS YEAR, I can also count the number of times we have sex with both hands, and I am not happy. I don't feel good because I don't feel the closeness. Its not like I need sex, guys. FYI, girls don't really need it or rather can don't have it. The urge is not really strong till we have to find someone to substitute. But I want to do it for the passion, the closeness and the intimacy and I puts in effort like dolling myself up every single day even when I am shagged out from flights, I buy sexy french lingeries and hunt for pretty lingeries during overseas trips ALL THE TIME. I don't mind sex toys even and am open to try as long if he OPENS UP TO ME! Am still pretty sure there is no infidelity, I have my own reasons for saying this but lazy to explain in details. Needless to say, I end up disappointed and disgruntled at the fact that I dress up beautifully in and out and got craps from him being tired ALL THE TIME. He's a white collar working in an office environment, i don't think he should get that tired! Look who's more tired? NOOO! I will be a laughing stock if I tell my real life friends about this because no one can believe it. Sex is nothing special without the passion and hence I told him I am switching it off for him if it doesn't work for us.

To be fair, lastly I want to state this . . . I think guys or girls likewise, if u fail your duty as a husband/bf/wife/gf to fulfill the intimacy and the vows of love or marriage, please don't blame people for being unfaithful! Lousy excuse!

Its not ur fault n it's not that he dun luv u.

If the honeymoon period is over, n both of r already in a serious r/s, his true self prevails. He won't be changing even if after marriage. If u luv him, accept his everything include his flaws.

Lastly, dun take the risk of having unprotected sex, at the v least take contraception pills. The very last thing that u wan should be busy taking care of a kid while he's busy gaming.

[aerogun]

Gaming takes away the joy and concentration on sex. Sports doesn't. Been there, done that. :P

[5ag1_Boar]

1. Not all men are horny dogs like most SBF bros. (If you ask, I think most SBF bros would be happy to bed you at least once, if not twice a day on weekdays and 4 times a day on Sat and Sun. ) Your guy is simply not into sex.

2. Some people loved to be touched, even just holding hands. Some don't. Of those who don't, some get irritated by touch. It's not personal... it's just the way they are.

3. Gamers take their games seriously. They don't like to be distracted during their games possibly because:
a. They are in the middle of a quest or mission and if they stop, they have to restart the level or chapter.
b. They have been trying to complete the quest or mission for a long time, and they might make it this time. So do NOT disturb. If they fail again because you distracted them, they may blame you.
c. They may be on a quest or mission with other players. They can't fly aeroplane and abandon them halfway.

4. Gaming world is an escape from the real world problems. He may be depressed. He may be having problems at work. He may feel neglected when you fly around so much.

5. Sometimes if guys are upset with their girl, intimacy feels disgusting, empty, contradictory and/or a myriad of other negative and distancing emotions. I went through that before. It's ironic because most of us have no problems having emotionless sex with FLs, ONS, FBs, etc at the same time we are going through that. I guess guys can draw a distinct line between sex and making love.

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In my opinion:
A. Figure out what is going on with him. Is it truly a gaming addiction? Or is something wrong in the relationship for him that makes him withdraw into that world. Do two things: (1) Have a heart to heart talk with him and ask him if he wants the relationship to be better. (2) Go WITH him to see a therapist or counsellor to figure out if he has a gaming addiction and if there are problems in the relationship. The main thing is you need him to realise/admit that something is wrong with the relationship, and decide whether he wants this relationship to work and fix it, then convince him to go see someone to get help. If you tell him, "I'm fed up, go counselling with me or else..." he may react the opposite way.

B. If he still does not think anything is wrong with the relationship, then it's time for you to leave him. Because if he becomes like this and thinks its normal, he's not the kind of guy you want to be with for life. Relationships need constant work and he is obviously taking things for granted. He may not realise that until you do something drastic.

[asdfghjkl]

yeah, good suggestion.. using reverse psychology may just work in your case.

[ricrain29]

Originally Posted by jimz

hahahaha DIABLO 3 ROLEEE

I just got my hands on Diablo 3, waited 10 years for it..... at this moment definitely better than sex...... ha ha ha!!

[asdfghjkl]

omg.. there are D3 fans here.. must have frustrated your spouse these days..

[Apocalypse]

Sex is overrated but its still fun for the hour or so... Diablo on the other hand can last for hours, AND IT NEVER HAS A HEADACHE!!

Diablo won't go on a forum and grumble you only play with him only 3 times a week.

[janejane]

http://flygirlgamers.wordpress.com/2...ur-boyfriends/

Just like this huh~ lol

[wacs]

5ag1_Boar has a point. Seek therapy for gaming addiction, then a relationship counselor.

Gaming is an escape from the real world and he needs professional help as it is a sign of depression or worse yet bipolar disorder. As a disclaimer I am neither an expert nor authority on mental health, this is from my own personal experience and fight with very severe gaming addiction. I have been there it starts out small, then snowballs into a monster which takes over your life; until I was literally dragged by my very concerned girlfriend and fought the social stigma of going to a 'shrink'. My girlfriend shared the same frustrations as you. I have reformed, gaming reduced by 90%, and did not buy d3.

It may work for you too. PM me if you want the contact for a reliable and professional shrink in Singapore.

[hornie]

I would say that 99% the TS is a man, what are the chances that a Sensual C Cup sexy girl, with a hot porn star profile image, who is sexually frustrated with her boyfriend would end up on a sex forum meant for guys, and posting a request for advice?

On the other hand, what are the chances that a creepy guy created another account just for fun to frustrate us?

[asdfghjkl]

you mean the holidays are here, so fast ah?

[hornie]

holiday not here yet but exam finish already what

[asdfghjkl]

and they use the newly created Sammboy App to surf this in classroom?

[Sensual8725]

Originally Posted by hornie

I would say that 99% the TS is a man, what are the chances that a Sensual C Cup sexy girl, with a hot porn star profile image, who is sexually frustrated with her boyfriend would end up on a sex forum meant for guys, and posting a request for advice?

On the other hand, what are the chances that a creepy guy created another account just for fun to frustrate us?

hello hello! i am 100% a girl.. why can't girls surf sex forum and ask for advice when we are frustrated especially meeting with such problems, can only ask in sex forum which guys frequent right? then go where for advice, may i ask? all the other singapore forums are either spamming or girls forum with no guys to answer to this relevant topic. hope i clarified. and i think C cup sexy girl doesn't equal to porn star profile image.