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Hope all bros wise up, or can just pay some school fees to learn the lesson |
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I guess everyone of us is different. Some can really keep things as purely sexual but some require a certain level of emotional investment in order to make love to/have sex with the other party. For me if I just want sex I would go commercial. If I go non-commercial means I like the lady and emotions would be involved. And usually my style is I would cultivate a relationship to make the lady has feelings for me too. Yeah I know this is not very healthy but I can't seem to enjoy a relationship with a non-commercial lady if it's just purely sexual.
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I have two wives and for a time 2 other mistresses so 4 women in 3 cities. Nothing to be proud of honestly especially for those who've been through it. You need to manage jealousy, time and money. Both wives are accepted by the families but don't stay under one roof so less problems.
Ideally one partner is all we need. Sex takes a back seat after a while and it's the relationship that we cherish. Strangely, now that I'm not looking for sex and flirts once in a while, women seem to find it unbelievable and feel more comfortable that we're not trying to bed them. Personally, commercial sex is easiest on the pocket and heart but like most of you, I prefer something that connects both parties so the sexual awakening climaxes which is something a FL can never provide because there's no trust between us. A partner who's in love will give you anything more than you wish for and so are the consequences. Think hard before entering this situation.
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You're on the warming up period which is really sweet but pay attention to work and trails of messages, dates and emails from leaks. In short, remember to cover your back side!
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can see you have been in this game for a while I have a wife, (she found out but tolerates me) and a ex WL/FL turn FB(she quit her job) now Gf with the GF you have a peace of mind, you can 69, do without condom(once I got her pregnant so we do it with now) and not worry about getting anything not like commercial sex but commercial sex has it perks, like the girl is willing to please Once the other half becomes wife(god knows how long we have not done it) or gf, then the sex if any becomes very mild if any
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1st wife is relationship (all love becomes this after some years), she understands me more than my mother and we have kids so we're comfortable with one another. Of course the initial flings brought much heartache to her and after some time, she learnt to accept that it's better for me to stick to one woman than several others & that she being the Queen will get priorities (although you'll have to please your other women that they are the most precious ). #1 Golden rule is managing finance. Let them know who's the boss and they are dependencies. #2 Zip your mouth and never let the other woman know too much about the other. Delete sms/emails/apps history or only leave trails of simple words. This will prevent unnecessary jealousy & fights. Life is of course quite exhausting other than financial drain since both families have homes, cars, kids, education and holidays. So the expenses double and more if you have extras. You'll need to spend time with every kid and I love them all. Actually one of my mistress is the best. She was very difficult to court but a great lover. She knows her position, will stay out of limelight and frugal. Somehow our timing didn't work out well so had to let her go in case she gets pregnant. In fact, we had some wonderful sexual memories including public sex, quite an exhibitionist this girl. One must know when to cut loss and fast. My suggestion to the younger chiongster is to leave those emotional wreckers @ the earliest sign, they'll drain you and most WL/FL are; otherwise they wouldn't be in this trade. You can have relationships with them but control your love. I'm not telling you guys to cheat them but ask yourself honestly, do you want your children's mother to have a history? Marry them only when all channels are exhausted. Money can be earned but healing a broken heart is something else. Boss is right. The easiest way to heal a broken heart is to find a new love & this works for both sexes. Speaking of love. This is what I've learnt so please feel free to interpret. Love is the catalyst and antidote to a relationship, it is there to start and save two together but in-between there's a whole lot of boring things that you two have to face. There will always be another new and better lover. Find a keeper and settle on one or none is sometimes better.
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I know how you feel. Every relationship will stale especially when kids enter the scene. I'm very lucky to find a soulmate. She understands men's need and we engage each other's sexual senses every now and then. Her dark fantasies are kinky sex, multiple penetrations and be a pornstar for once. I'm prepared to share her & she'll reward me too but we'll do it as a couple. This is one good way to keep both excited even if fantasies. It spices up your relationship but you need to open her lock
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lol, I hate this as I dont like to cheat and it is so exhausting. That is one of the main reason I make it more simple for myself, just stick to one and only one
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you posted this was your status. so you stick to one? or you have 2 gfs and married Quote:
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tomorrow will celebrate 小三 birthday and 6th year together.
Also tonight have to do my duties to the family as the wife family has a member passed on juggling 2 families is not easy. but as we grow older, our understandings of whats the most important changes. Maybe that's life. we take what we can get. we move forward
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yes I stick to one. divorce is in interim judgement state now. no official breakup with 1st gf but we kind of let it fades off
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Im in a long term relationship with my current gf of nearly 4 years. However, she's raised to be conservative and will only have sex after marriage. We only went as far as kissing and never engaged in anything sexual (bj or hj) in our four years together. Although I find it difficult to control my sexual urges but i never visited MLs of FLs (fear of diseases)
Then i met an old malay friend who became my first fb about a year ago, and got to know her chinese friend in the process. At first, it felt like I'm cheating on my gf but i convinced myself that i wasn't as i had no feelings for them. We were only using each other's bodies to satisfy our sexual urges with no emotions and both my fbs understood the situation. Don't get me wrong, i loved my gf and still do with our relationship going strong, but since she can't satisfy my desires, this arrangement was necessary for me. I guess having a girlfriend and an fb at the same time is based on personal conscience. I also prefer having long term fbs as the risk of diseases are lower and we get to experiment more without feeling embarrassed. Plus get to enjoy fucking without condom as they are both on the pill |
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