Stress and regret - Page 3

peiying99 · #31 20-10-2008, 11:39 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by OIOIO

Hi Afa, thanks for the compliment! Just came back from the gynae who took a look at my lesions. He said it will dry up in 3 to 4 days. After that it's ok to continue our usual mating since we are trying for a baby. Just treat is as a skin disease, one that is incurable but manageable. It's only a let down when you can't have sex during an outbreak. Be responsible, inform your partner. Overtime, you can learn to control the outbreaks. By being honest, you not only gain the trust from your partner and also self-confidence in managing it.
Hope by sharing my experience, it will be helpful to those who are infected by overcoming the fear.

I really pray I can tell your wife about this. She will sure be devastated. Why are you still living on this earth?

OIOIO · #32 20-10-2008, 11:47 AM

er.. I think you never read my 1st post.

AfA_hmor · #33 20-10-2008, 11:49 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by peiying99

I really pray I can tell your wife about this. She will sure be devastated. Why are you still living on this earth?

He already told his wife about it.

Peiying99, stop scaring people unnecessarily. And stop delighting in other people's misfortunes. What you are doing is not helpful at all.

OIOIO · #34 20-10-2008, 11:58 AM

Afa, hahaa correction, both my wife and myself found out together at the gynae. The best part is I am the one feeling bad while she is the one who is cheering me up! We have accepted it and moved on.

Hard78 · #35 20-10-2008, 10:23 PM

Hi all brother here. Thanks for all your encouragement.
If we are still alive, we can help to encourage those ppl who have the same problem as us. feeling stress and helpless.

Really appreciate those who keeps on encouraging us. Hi Brother OIOIO, how u get the herpes, u always do raw last time? Bcos i had BBBJ but protected sex and now i am very regretful.

This is the first time i try commercial sex. really regretful and stress after that. : (

OIOIO · #36 20-10-2008, 11:02 PM

Hello, what's past is the past. There is no point finding how, where and when you got it. That will not help you. Just live with it, treat it like having chicken pox at the genital area. You won't die from it. In time, you will find it easier to manage it and the outbreaks will be less often. Talk to your wife and family, there is nothing to be ashamed of. It's incurable but manageable and it's way better off than getting AIDS.

Papaya · #37 20-10-2008, 11:29 PM

guys.. dont talk as if Hard78 got herpes already..

thats the problem.. all go assume he hv if after one encounter.. thats not a wise thing to do, esp if he is so worried sick over it.

Hard78, from all your posting i do not think STD is your worries.. its more of a secondary or its something your guilt is making u feel that way.. this is quite a normal thing men get after visiting commercial sex for 1st time.. DSC counseller is able to talk to u on this matter too.

I am not typing again telling u that ur STD risk is indeed on the lower side (some say mid but i still say low) .. what I think u need help is to get over the guilt.

One way is to open up and tell ur wife.. this sure will lift up the weight u feeling now. HOWEVER, woman being woman.. she might leave you. So think hard before u do that.. and u know her best so u decide. Try telling it to someone u close also helps.. mom? sist? ..

Another way is to seek help. We are not a certified counselor here so dont rely too much on our words.

as u feel shitty over ur guilt, well ... at least u hv no feeling involve.. i believe u just got horny and did it out of that.. if i am in the lady's shoes.. i rather my husband went for a 1 off with a pros then having a mistress where he will pay and love her while screwing her too..

what i trying to say is... love ur wife more from now onwards.. make up for what u did.. rather then u feeling so down and probably ignoring her now.

what u did was a mistake and it happens to many men.. some feel sad like u while some continue visiting commercial sex.. up to individual.

Do that 1st and 3rd mth chk if u feel uneasy over ur STD phobia.. and if all turns out ok.. then move on and start to cherish ur family...

Hard78 · #38 21-10-2008, 09:42 PM

Hi All,

I receive a sms from DSC today. saying my other test are normal. i tried to call them but is closed.

Bcos i went to check only 5 days after the incident. they took 3 blood bottle and 1 urine and 1 slip for HIV test on the spot.

But i donno what check they are doing for me. 1 for Hepatitis B, and the other 2 blood and 1 urine for what. i actually requested for the Herpes test that day.

understand that Syphillis, Herpes and HIV have windows period. will check in the 1mths period.

Hard78 · #39 23-10-2008, 10:08 PM

Hi all,

I went to DSC today morning. Talk to the health adviser.
The test done are
1.Hapetities B
2. Sphylis
3. Herpe Type 1 and 2
4. Chrymalis and Gonerrea.

Althought all negative but bcos i went for test after 5 days exposure. they advise me to go 3 weeks later for another test.

now i got someting painful at my ass hole. donno what is it. cham : (

toowong · #40 24-10-2008, 02:32 PM

Hi Hard78,

I can empathize with you. Recently, i just started to book Thai FLs.
After the 4th time on tuesday(21/10), I suddenly felt very worried that I might kanna HIV or other STDs, as I receive BBBJ and condom-on sex. I went to google the info on STDs, realised that BBBJ is also a way to transmit HIV if the FL has ulcers. Not sure if those that i visit has ulcers or not. Now I'm as freak-out as you. not sure what to do, as I understand there's a window period after exposure, so think no point going for check up now. feel damn low, and guilty to my gf.
Can anyone advise me on the checkup ? when can i go for checkup for HIVs and other STDs?

sammyboyfor · #41 24-10-2008, 04:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by toowong

google the info on STDs, realised that BBBJ is also a way to transmit HIV if the FL has ulcers.

You should google for information regarding STDs BEFORE you fuck whores... not after.

toowong · #42 24-10-2008, 05:37 PM

yeah, I know and deeply regretted my actions liao. if i have done more readup,I guessed I would be too freak-out to try.

I just pray very hard that I'm safe. Now feel like waiting for verdict. Need to wait at least 1 month before checking up. now small little problems such as tummy pain, flu, abit sore throat start to put me very worried.

Anyway, I hope hard78 is cleared soon.

toowong · #43 24-10-2008, 06:25 PM

yeah, I know and deeply regretted my actions liao. if i have done more readup,I guessed I would be too freak-out to try.

I just pray very hard that I'm safe. Now feel like waiting for verdict. Need to wait at least 1 month before checking up. now small little problems such as tummy pain, flu, abit sore throat start to put me very worried.

Anyway, I hope hard78 is cleared soon.

gnohiew · #44 25-10-2008, 05:54 AM

same thing happened to me and i was quite worried about getting infection as well, ended going for regular double tests as i'm worried that the first test not accurate(blew alot of money sia, went to private clinics). looking forward i dunno how to tell my future partner about my past deeds and i'm still having commercial sex occasionally now

cheers
chase

AfA_hmor · #45 25-10-2008, 11:26 AM

then u really gotta make sure u always wear condom 100% of the time.
and go for regular health check up.